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:.Hey x3
My name is Emily and blah blah blah.


:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.


:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.


:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.


:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.


:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.

If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM

If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.

:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).

advice


Say if you divide and you come up with a fraction. How do you get a fraction? I don't really get how you get the numbers for it.

And how to do this? I forgot. I keep getting it wrong.

5 x 3 x 3 x 6 x 6

say you dived 2 by 3...it will be 2/3 or .666 repeating. i think lol.

um dived 1 by 2 which is also 1/2 which is 1/2 (half or .5)

draw it out if it helps.

5X3..that's 15 times 3 is 45 times 6 is whatever number and that number times 6 is the answer...just go in order

and in math, remember Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally (order of opperation) Paranthesis, exponenets, multiply, divide, add, and subtrat

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i'm doing a science project
and i cant think of any good ideas?
anybody have any?
-Alex and kendra

Erm...get 3brands or more brands of trashbagand put in weights in there and see which brand is the strongest

Or see which paper towel can hold the most penny when wet (different brands that is)

Get different gummies and see which one stretches the farthest...that isn't the funnest though

See what temp. water celeries suck up the fastest (this takes A LOT of time)

Do an experiment on the guys: ask if they're attracted to physical appearances or personalities in girls. (Funny..not well my friend did and 65% said appearances =X)


See which type of toilet paper absorbs the most water

bleh. science projects are always a drag =X

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ok so basically im thirteen new town new school i live in a apartment complex so i met a few kids already but now my best friend that i met here is moving [she was the only one on my team that i know]so basically im screwed but during the summer ive been all preppy i guess but the thing is i love emo gothic, & scene kids i love there style but its a new school and i dont want to seem all wierd is there anyway to incoporate preppy with emo gothic or scene? and i dont want a lecture about not listening to peoples comments and thoughts

I don't care if you give me a 1. Emo, goth, those are labels. And that's another way to single people out. They are not a fashion statement. And you'll probably be label poser from the beginning.

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my friend is in the shittiest situation. her mom is abitch, she fucks random guys, sometimes hits her, calls her fat and ugly, makes her cry, locks her in her room, and has mood swings. i honestly think her mom has some mental disorder or something. she doesnt deserve to have kids because she is a horrible evil bitch and makes my friend feel like shit. now i am the one she calls after she fights with her mom and is sobbing, and i feel so b ad beacause i dont even know what to say half the time. seh cant live with her dad, grandpa/grandma or anyone else. her mom hates me and my mom for no apparent reason and constantly says shit about us. now i do NOT know what to do and im on the verge of crying because i feel so stressed bcause i feel like it is my responsibility to help her, but i dont know what to do . i told her any time she wants she can stay with us for whatever amount of time, but since her mom hates us we're both afraid her mom would drive over here, steal her, and then yell or hit her or something. im trying to think whats best for my friend, but she doesnt want to have any people that are from like foster homes or anything get involved , and she doesnt want to switch schools or move because it is a big step for her. she is very afraid and i need to know how to help, and i know youre going to say get the police or something involved but i just dont know what to do because what if her mom gets pissed and like beats me up or something or if my friend moves away and becomes depressed and hates me for ratting her out or whatever i know its for her own good but that is the last thing on her mind.
please help me

I'm really sorry you're going through this but seriously, you need to go tell the police or call the hotline for child abuse for your friend. I mean she could end up deadbecause of her mom and it's much better to lose a friendship then a friend, right?

Her mom seems to not know the word responsiblity. If she was gonna give birth to a life, she should take care of that living being instead of abusing her.

Go to www.safeyouth.org and click the button (top center of the page) that directs you to a assistant on there. Talk to him or her (you'll remain anonymous) and see what the best situation is because I don't want to worsen the situation.

But keeping your friend over at your house as much as possible is the best idea I can give you right now. And again, I'm really really sorry about this. And remember if you think that you're the only one that can help, help and not think about ruining the friendship or what your friend wants. What your friend is wanting is impossible if she wants to get out of that house

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OKAY I AM HAVING Really bad stomach aches like by my kidneys/pancrease do you think i am getting diabetes because it does run in the family.. or wht is happening dont say im gettin a stomach flue becuze i know im not thanks ANSER ASAP!!!! love u

Um...really sorry but I really don't know anything about diabetes other than that tere are two types and one type has to consume a lot of sugar.

I'd say you really need to go tell your parents and to get yourself checked out by a doctor asap.

Try taking Pepto Bismo or if you're near your period Midol and if that doesn't help, put a heating pad on your stomach until you can get to a doctor. Go see one even if your stomach aches die out.

Sorry I can't tell you yes or no..=/ **emm[y]

Will hope you don't have diabetes though =]

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Tomorrow is my orientation for collge, and I am SOO nervous. Does anybody have any advice for helping me to relieve my nervousness?

I have the same problem. I audition for a lot of violin stuff every year (At least four every year: YPP, CRO, All County, School, Plays..ok 5. )

There's something called a Beta Blocker (I believe it's called) but that's not the best choice since it actually slwos down your heart.

Stay away from caffeine or sugar filled food like candy, choco, etc because they will make your adreneline [sp?] pump up.

Before you go, eat a lot of protein (like chicken) and bananas (they're naturally stop your heart from beating faster making you nervous). So eat chicken and bananas. And and hour or 30min before you go on stage eat a banana. Just eat a lot of protein and banana =D

Haha and just RELAX. Tkae your mind off the orientation. Rehearse your speech in front of your family at least 5 times. Then read a book before you go on and get your mind off of it. And when you look up, focus only on your mom or dad and think to yourself that you're only reading to them.

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Hey Ductape n Roses,
I am the girl who asked for advice about that guy Jake. Remember? Well, school started today and I have yet another question for you. So far, I have two classes with him. I acted calm & cool and pretended it wasn't a big deal to me. I felt so proud of myself for being able to do that! Last year, I would act so weird and squirmish whenever he was around. Anyways, during the second class I had with him today he said "Hey Lauren. I saw your sister this summer" with a half-grin on his face. I looked over at him and said "Yeah, I heard" and then went back to my other conversation. So my questions are: Do you think that was a good move on my part? I didn't want to act completley into him like I did last year because I heard that guys like a challenge. Second question: What do you think he meant by saying that to me? Was he trying to just start a conversation or do you think he was kind of teasing me? Thanks so much!

BTW--Just a reminder. My sister gave him my number and told him to call me. That is what he meant by "I saw your sister this summer"

Yep yep. I remember. And I'm happy like woah since you didn't freak when you saw him =D!

1. Yes, good move (I would've done that) And not all guys like challenges. I don't know about this Jake guy unless I talk to him =P. So don't be too challenging and figure out if he does or doesn't like it. =]

2. Don't over think it. If he said that randomly, he might've just wanted to start a conversation =/ or maybe he was confused about you being so cool and normal around him, he might've just wanted to see what you would do if he brought up that embaressing summer =P

Overall, don't ignore him all the time. Give him some attention if he wants from time to time and act like you don't care about him...well not completely not care...=D

**emm[y]

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Alright my situation is kind of long.
and I'm going to start from the beginning.

Me and my boyfriend tyler were dating for about 6 mnths, and me being 15 and him being my first boyfriend I got scared of being tied down and broke things off with him. he took it pretty bad and was crying, and asking why. But after a few weeks he acted like he had a better grasp on it, but I knew it was still killing him inside. Well about 3 weeks ago he told me he had a girlfriend, and that triggered something inside of me. I basically told him I wanted him back, and he just said he didn't know what to do, but he wanted me. Well, he, at this point in time, is my boyfriend.
But I think I saw something I shouldnt've. Cut marks. I guess throughout this whole situation he's been cutting, I got him to kind of talk to me about it but he wouldn't go that far into detail. Now I used to cut, and I know what he's going through,
but my question is how do I approach him about it, what do I say, and how do I tell him to stop?

You need to show him that you're always there for him and that he has someone to talk to about his feeling (even if it's about you) instead of keeping in bottled inside and self harming.

He'll probably not want to listen to this and wouldn't want to but jsut bug him about it. Simple cuts can lead to deeper ones. I mean a simple cut may relieve him at first but as he goes deeper into the self harming thing, a deeper cut may be needed to relieve hiis emotions and pain inside. And if he cuts an artery or vein, he could easily die.

Tell him strongly that you want him to stop and you don't want to be shut out from his problems and that you want to help him. You want to try and solve his problems and you want him to turn to you instead of the blade or whatever he's using to cut with. Give him a rubberband (a thick, loose one) and tell him to wear it on his wrist. And whenever he feels like he has the urge to cut, tell him to just pull the rubber band (I know, not a fun way to solve it but better than cutting) and/or give him something like a small necklace or a bracelete (you made from strings (like for cross stitching)) so he can always have it around him and remind him that you're there to help him.

Just let him know that you're there to help him , listen and solve his problems, and that none of thses stuff will leak out. And if he doesn't stop, (If it escelates to a worse cutting level) tell him that you are gonna have to tell someone. That you'd rather lose the friendship instead of the friend

**Emm[y].
p.s. don't think that I'm saying all this because I don't know what "cutters" go through (yuck, i hate labeling.) because i was one myself and luckily my friends got me to stop before i killed myself

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hey im a cheerleader. 16/f
i saw your answer to someones question and thought you might help me.
im pretty athletic. i have tons of muscles from cheerleading and gymnastics. im about 5'6.

anyways, i really want to get my stomach flat. thats the only place i really need to work on for my body. and i need some really good excercises to do. i want it flat before this year is over. before november/december time.

thanks!

To work the sides of your stomach:
1-Lay on the floor like you're doing a pushup, roll to one side of your body. (Top leg in front of the bottom leg.)Bend at your elbow and rest your head on the palms of you hand and the other hand on your ears (the top arm) try and reach the ground with the top elbow by going foward. This is really hard though. Do 5 on each side at a time.
2-Lay in a sit up position with your knees bent. Lower your knees to one side (twist your hips just a little so you legs are sideways but your upper body is still laying flat on the floor) Put your hands behind your head and come up just a little. Do 10 of these everday on each side.

Abdomen
1-Lay in sit up position and you can come all the way up or just half way up. Either way it will burn the lower abdomen fat.

2-THIS IS TO DO IN A ROW WITHOUT REST. Lay in sit up position with knees bent. Lift you shoulders, neck and head off the floor and bring your knees to your chest. Place your indder hand on the knee and outter hand on the ankle and pull it in while bringing the other leg out straight (still off the gorund) away from you. Switch right away and do that at least 15times. Then while doing the same leg movements, twist your abdomen so you left elbow touchs your right knee and vice versa. Do that at least 10 times.

3-Lay in sit up position with knees bend. Place your hands on the side of your body and lift your legs (either straight up or bent at the knee) and tush off the floor. Do that 10 times in a row.

4-Like the first abdomen workout, lift you head, neck, and shoulders off the floor. Look at your stomach and have your legs up in the ari (straight). Bring one leg towar you and touch it with your hands (wrap your hands around the ankle for just a second) and switch. Do that several times.

All of these are really hard and don't over work yourself. Gradually increase the amount..you donthave to do the exercise howmany ever times i said to do or how long. Just go at your own pace.

Sit up help too but instead of doing sit ups for 5min a day, suck inyour tummy, stand straight (don't slouch) and go on for the day like that. No cheating. Tummy in, back straight. That will work your abs all day long!

haha, yes. I just copied and pasted from the other question someone sent me =D

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What are the abdomen exercises ?

To work the sides of your stomach:
1-Lay on the floor like you're doing a pushup, roll to one side of your body. (Top leg in front of the bottom leg.)Bend at your elbow and rest your head on the palms of you hand and the other hand on your ears (the top arm) try and reach the ground with the top elbow by going foward. This is really hard though. Do 5 on each side at a time.
2-Lay in a sit up position with your knees bent. Lower your knees to one side (twist your hips just a little so you legs are sideways but your upper body is still laying flat on the floor) Put your hands behind your head and come up just a little. Do 10 of these everday on each side.

Abdomen
1-Lay in sit up position and you can come all the way up or just half way up. Either way it will burn the lower abdomen fat.

2-THIS IS TO DO IN A ROW WITHOUT REST. Lay in sit up position with knees bent. Lift you shoulders, neck and head off the floor and bring your knees to your chest. Place your indder hand on the knee and outter hand on the ankle and pull it in while bringing the other leg out straight (still off the gorund) away from you. Switch right away and do that at least 15times. Then while doing the same leg movements, twist your abdomen so you left elbow touchs your right knee and vice versa. Do that at least 10 times.

3-Lay in sit up position with knees bend. Place your hands on the side of your body and lift your legs (either straight up or bent at the knee) and tush off the floor. Do that 10 times in a row.

4-Like the first abdomen workout, lift you head, neck, and shoulders off the floor. Look at your stomach and have your legs up in the ari (straight). Bring one leg towar you and touch it with your hands (wrap your hands around the ankle for just a second) and switch. Do that several times.

All of these are really hard and don't over work yourself. Gradually increase the amount..you donthave to do the exercise howmany ever times i said to do or how long. Just go at your own pace.

Sit up help too but instead of doing sit ups for 5min a day, suck inyour tummy, stand straight (don't slouch) and go on for the day like that. No cheating. Tummy in, back straight. That will work your abs all day long!

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im trying to loose about 30 pounnds
in 6 weeeks
which means i have to loose 5 pounds a week
but i dont know how to start it
i know you have to excerise and eat right
help?!

Unless you starve yourself and throw up after chewing gum, that's not gonna happen. It's really hard to lose a pound in a week..better yet 5.

Just start out slowly and don't overwork yourself. If you make the exercising too hard for your body, you'll be burning muscles instead of fat..yikes 0.o

Wow I answer too many of these questions. Anywhos about that eating. Don't ever skip a meal. It will slow your metabolism down and makes you body STORE fat.

Eat healthy breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Eat small snacks like fruits or veggies in between meals so you won't be as hungry at the mealtime which will cause you to over eat or reach for the evil second plate. When you do eat, fill a SALAD plate instead of a dinner plate so you'll get the vision that the plate is full. Eat slowly for at least 20min (that's how long it takes for your brain to say that you're full)

Stay away from white bread and pastas (they have a lot of carbs and fat) Mayo, butter, peanut butter, etc are NO NOs.
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Exercising part. Start out by walking everyday for at least 30 minutes. Then jog and gradually increase your speed. GRADUALLY, Do stretches before and after too. That's a biggy.

Um, pilates are also very very great for working out and so are weight lifting. There is a show by Denis Austin that is very very good at burning fat and toning. You should check out to see when it comes on in your area...it should be on around 7AM...that's when it's on where I live

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Well, I want to loose 20 pounds by November 11 2006. My plan is ;

Breakfast- special K cerial.

Lunch- school lunch. witch is GROSS. so I will just drink water.

When i get home from school. - special K cerial.

Dinner- whatever my mom cooks =[. [usally healthy tho.]


walk a mile everyday
150 crunches.
only drink water. & diett drinks.

Thanks. I have been trying to loose weight for a while now.

2 healthy snacks during the day.

I can't brinng my own lunch.
Thanks =]

1)Never skip meals. It's gonna slow down your metabolism and gonna make your body STORE the fat instead of burning it. Plus you'll lose concentration at school. No matter how gross it is, just eat it. And the Cereal, just eat a little and not too much.

2)Diet drinks BAD. Any food containing the word diet, surgar free-->they have this toxic ingredient in there that causes CANCER. People barely know about this because people never sue the companies.

2)150...that's a little overboard, huh? If you overwork yourself (do restraining exercises that hurts) than you're doing anarobic( i believe it's called) where you burn muscles instead of fat 0.o

I know some very good abdomen exercises so if you want to know, just hit me up and I'll answer you with them =D

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I want to lose just a few pounds. I'm trying to eat healthier, & excersicing more but I'll admit I cheat. I need help with what foods to eat and how often, and when & how long to excercise and stuff.

just thought you should know thoughh..I really don't like running it fees weird being out in my neighborhood i feel like people are watching me. i also cant go to the gym, im 13. oh yeah and i cant buy a video i dont have enough money

thanks

Well, to tell you the truth, running is the best exercise since it burns fat in all parts of your body and makes you more flexible (somewhat) but no need to worry, there are a lot more exercises you can do.

Eating part:
Never skip a meal, it will only cause wieght gain.When you eat, eat slowly since it takes the brain at least 20min to think that you're full. When you are full, don't eat anymore. Even if there is food left on the plate. Instead of filling up dinner dishes, fill up a salad dish (smaller plate) so you'll still get the thought you ate a lot since the plate looked full. Drink a lot of water (8 cups a day)

Eat small healthy snacks in between to stop you from over eating from being hungry and reaching for the evil second plate. Baby carrots, apples, fruitsm veggies...all good.

Instead of milk, drink 1& low fat milk, no butter peanut butter, mayo or butter. They are all FAT. Eat whole wheat instead of white bread and lay off some of the pastas cuz they are all carbs.

Lettuce has low calories and it fills you up really nciely too. So keep that in mind. When you eat your meals, eat only small proportions and dont over eat please.

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Now the exercising part:
I'm sorry but you my dear are going to have to walk everyday and if you dont want people to look at you, go out at night around 8PM. It's good for your skin too since the sun won't damage it. I usually start out with a slow jog and increase my speed to a slow run and do that for 30min everyday.

Um there are a lot of exercises for every part of the body. There should be a program on your TV called Dennis Austin's workout thing. There are two of them (the first one's easier than the 2nd one) But it's really effective. See when it will be on in your area...it's probably early in the morning. I live in Virginia and it's on at 7AM.
If you want to know more about what excersises are good for what parts of the body, just email me at xchoke_on_dead_hopex@yahoo.com or just ask me a private question and I'll answer you as best as I can and don't feel like you're bothering me or something. =D

**emm[y]

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I have this friend, where shes really nice to me one minute and mean to me the next. When she's with her other friends she acts like she doesn't know me or says mean things to me and treats me like I'm her enemy and stuff. When she's alone shes nice and we jhang out and stuff and shes fine. She gets pissed off easily and if you do 1 thing that could make her a tad bit mad, she starts a fight. We had plans to go to movies and then my mom said at the last second I couldn't go, and she got really mad because she said she was so exited and stuff and I said I'm really sorry theres nothing I can do about it and I explained to her why I can't go and shes like fine I'm not going to be your friend anymore. Then a day later she forgets about it and acts like I'm her best friend. But if her other friend comes over, she has to rub it in my face and be like "I'm with Olivia" or whatever friend she has over. And I'll say ohkay thats nice and she'll be like ew your ugly don't talk to me and I don't like to fight so I just ignore all her mean IMs. But as soon as her friend is gone, she treats me normal again. Maybe shes insecure or only likes being with 1 friend at a time but shes got like split personalities. I try to talk to her about it and she says "I don't know what you're talking about you gotta be kidding me." She won't admit she can be a bitch sometimes. Don't get me wrong she's a really nice friend and she will stick up for you no matter what even if its to her other friends. She doesnt ditch me or stuff its just she can be a big bitch sometimes and its only to me and she gets REALLY mad when I'm with my other friends. So maybe she only wants to spend time with me and thats why when shes not with me shes a bitch? I need to know why she acts like this? Help me please. What can I do so are friendship can stay strong?

She isn't a real friend if she treats you like crap around other people. School is all about pressure and if you hang out with wrong people or the crowd, you're labeled like a can of soup.

It seems like she wants to be your friend but when she is w/ other people, she's afraid to be labeled goth, or dork, or something like that if she's seen hangning out with you (not saying that you are, just some label that people don't really want)

Overall let's leave it at this: She wants to be your friend but she doesn't know what she'll be labeled or what her other friends will say aobut her. She doesn't want to lose them but she can't treat them like doormat so instead when shes with other friends, she treats you like crap then makes up to you by being nice when they aren't around. She's insecure about being your friend.

And she's just being immature and not understanding when she says I'm not your friend, etc, etc. I say just dump her. You don't need a person that says she's your friend saying rude remarks, lowering your self esteem. Shes not worht your time to stress over and you definately shouldn't take all those insults from your "friend"

Go out there and make mature, nice, kind friends.

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ok so im a 15/f and i go to this YMCA pool and over there is a lifeguard... he's super cute... well the first time i went their he was making fun of me cuz my eyes were red... and the second time i went their he was staying stuff abt me i think and he kept smiling at me.. so i kinda got mad and the next time i went there he was like in my way and he goes am i in yur way and i go ya u r soo move and yeah i dunno if he likes me and im not sure if i should talk him...

Well, first of all how oold is this dude?

Talk to him...I mean there is no rule about people not being able to make new friends at the pool. Guys are just immature and rude like him at times...not to mention perverted and disgusting.

Anywhos, just talk to him. And before you start flirting with him, find out if he has a gf or not, because if he's taken..its'a nono

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should i be to worried about the pain of my first time having sex?

If you're having doubts about having sex, the results of it, consequences of it or with just you partner, don't do it.

If you're worried about getting pregnant, STDs, cramps, pains or don't know very well about pregnancy and STDs, don't do it.

Overall, sex should be done when two ppl are married..but no one cares about that. But the first time will always hurt..but by your 3rd time or so, it shouldn't

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PLEASE HELP IS NEEDED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.


14/f- lives with mom, aunt, grandma, grandpa, dog.

today i went over to celebrate my 2 month anni with my boyfriend. we were going to go swimming and then out to dinner at the mexican resturant guatalajara. my mom dropped me off about 11am. about 2pm we get a phone call at his house saying that my grandpa was mad and wanted me home at 5:30. i asked if i could stay later so we could eat dinner. he said flat out no and that he was going to pick me up right away. i was lke then can you wait til 5:30. he said no. my mom came to pick me up from his house in tears. he had pushed her out the door to pick me up. once we got home, we yelled an cussed at he which led up to him hitting me, my mom, and my aunt, who had to separate me from my grandpa. he hurt my aunt and broke 2 of my mom's fingers. the reason he is so mad is cuz i was out with a boy. just that. nothing else. he yelled at me and told me to move out. like he wants me out on the street without a home.

does he have the right to hit me like that? why would he be so mad that i was out with a boy? what should i do? should i tell someone that he hit me, enough to possibly cause a bruise? what should i do?

That's child abuse. That's harrassment. That is one of the worst situations some of us have to go through. No matter how much you love your grampa (or don't) you're gonna have to report him before this escelates to a worst situation.

Before you do, you might wanna go over this with the rest of the family first and no, he cannot kick you out until you're 18, when you're legally an adult.

If he forces you out, stay at a friends, call the police and get some help sweetie.

Go to safeyouth.org and talk with someone on there (there should be a button on the top center of the page)

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thanks so much for your advice.

like i said, i never really talk about this with anyone. sometimes i wonder if what you said is right, if im just her door mat? but i hate to think that, because above all we are friends like you wouldnt believe.

we didnt talk for 2 years, and i lived my life and i did the things you said i should do. but in the end , i just fell more and more in love with her. even without wanting to, all i did eas to think of her (and still do). il probaly will end up going crazy.

since the i realize that i was fallin for her, my mind told me "no, it can not be" but my heart tells me something else. i swear , i had never experience such pain and love at the same time.i never knew that u could actually feel heartbroken , or a warm feeling in your heart whenever you think of someone. i dont even know what to do anymore, im not thinking of her on purpose, its just that she is in my heart and in my mind all the time.

but what you say its true, and life is too short. hopefully finally talkin about this, will help me let go.
thank you

Talking about it does help somewhat...I felt the pain and love at the same time for one person. Even if he was a dork with the worst hair cut and braces I still luved his perssonality and the fact that he could make me laugh. But now that he's in a band and skates a lot, girls are drooling over him for what he does and not who he is...I mean most of these girls never heard or touched a CD called KISS & such bands. And then over time I realized that my friendship is something that these girls can never have because once they go out with him, that's about it. The end of relationship, the end of chance to be friends. These girls can have as many boyfriends as they want and this guy can go out with as many girls but that won't effect the friendship that we have..that people really want in their lives.

Think of your friendship with this girl that way too. If you move onto being her boyfriend, the friendship that is so valuable will be broken. Gone. And then what will happen if you guys break up? You have something with this girl that NO guy can EVER have. Treasure that instead of feeling pain =|

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I start school tomorrow, and I have two zits and I've tried EVERYTHING anyone has told me that will work. Does anybody know what might help, and fast?



They're almost gone, but they're still visible and its REALLY bothering me.

Sweetie. CHILL. Stressing out will cause more break outs.

Go to bed early tonight. Change your pillow sheet thingy. Use a fresh towel to dry your face after you wash it. Pat green tea on there for 10-15min. Yes green tea. Greentea powder/bag and water ONLY. Cool it to room temp, pat it on your zits, leave the cotton pads/face cloth soaked in green tea on your face for 10-15min and don't touch it with your dirty hands or pop'em

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I and my sister don't know what to do...We are in trouble...Yesterday,our parents were not home so we told some friends(boys and we are girls) come at home...3 of them came and when the 2 of them with my sister went to tell an otherone to come...our parents arrived...The one was with his car the other with his bike and my sister was walking...i was in the house with the 3rd boy..My sister heard the car and ran into the house to tell us that they arrived EARLIER...Of course she opened the door took the key and told us....But my parents saw her a little bit..We were so surprised!I and the other boy went into the room....Our parents started knocking the door...They had seen the other 2 boys(the one is my sister's boyfriend and they don't know about him but they suspect something)They came in...The one who was in would leave when he was in the room and my parents with us(you know there are windows too, thanks god it is not a block of flats, he could leave)My parents didn't see him...They started screaming and saying that they left and came earlier and we invited other boys there without asking and that they cannot trust us...Unfortunately our life is not at all good today after the last news...And we think that they will not let us go out etc..You see they don't trust us..How can we go out etc?How can they trust us again?I think it is difficult...Do you believe that this is a good idea leaving without permission in the way our third friend left?You know, should we take the risk?If they understand it we will be death!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S Our parents are really strict...

Erm, confused. Lets get this straight. 3 boys. 2 girls. No parents. Parents come early. You and your sis with the 2 boys get busted. One is yor sis' bf. The other one that didnt get busted escaped. Now you guys lost your parents trust and you want to gain it back?

Well, sweety that was a very irresponsible thing to do. Your parents left you guys in charge to watch over the house. I mean both of you guys are girls and having 2 guys[from what they know] over could mean trouble. Not all parents see it in a way where nothing would've happened. Allparents see it to he extreme. They might've thought that you guys were gonna get sexual..maybe get pregnant..STDs. And if you guys weren't willing, the 2 boys might have well jsut raped you guys. Yep yep.

If you guys sneak out, they will catch you guys and that means no going out, no boys, etc till you're 18 basically. I mean losing their trust, wanting to gain it back, sneaking out with permission...not the best lookng plan there.

Instead of sneaknig out, causing petty troubles, not talk to them, or such things, why don't you start little conversations. Apologize. Hlep around the house. Make dinner for them, etc. Just suck up to them and the best thing: Tell them that you guys will not use the (pikc) phone, cpu, tv, whatver until you guys gain their trust back. I did that and well, it was fast results yo. And yes, my parents are MUCH more strict than yours so don't complain. Losing someones trust is much more easier than gaining trust. So this is gonna take a while so you're gonna have to hold back on the whole going out, boy talk things

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