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I and my sister don't know what to do...We are in trouble...Yesterday,our parents were not home so we told some friends(boys and we are girls) come at home...3 of them came and when the 2 of them with my sister went to tell an otherone to come...our parents arrived...The one was with his car the other with his bike and my sister was walking...i was in the house with the 3rd boy..My sister heard the car and ran into the house to tell us that they arrived EARLIER...Of course she opened the door took the key and told us....But my parents saw her a little bit..We were so surprised!I and the other boy went into the room....Our parents started knocking the door...They had seen the other 2 boys(the one is my sister's boyfriend and they don't know about him but they suspect something)They came in...The one who was in would leave when he was in the room and my parents with us(you know there are windows too, thanks god it is not a block of flats, he could leave)My parents didn't see him...They started screaming and saying that they left and came earlier and we invited other boys there without asking and that they cannot trust us...Unfortunately our life is not at all good today after the last news...And we think that they will not let us go out etc..You see they don't trust us..How can we go out etc?How can they trust us again?I think it is difficult...Do you believe that this is a good idea leaving without permission in the way our third friend left?You know, should we take the risk?If they understand it we will be death!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S Our parents are really strict...
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It is hard to follow rules, even for adults sometimes. There are rules in life that we make for ourselves, because we know that by following those rules we will have a better life. Then, there are rules in life that others have made for us. Parents, governments, business owners, school authorities etc... all have established rules based upon their power and values. Your parents do not trust you, because you and your sister proved that they cannot. So, you and your sister will have to prove to your parents that you can be trusted by having an attidude of maturity, patience and being...obedient. Yikes!
Getting to go out and have a life without parental restrictions is only going to be accomplished in the following ways: 1.Your parents cease to care about their children's safety. 2. You and your sister live long enough under your parents safety and protection to reach adulthood. 3. You both continue to sneak around and risk getting into trouble, never earning your parent's trust, and possibly getting yourselves into situations that could harm you physically and emotionally.
My own parents were stricter than any of my friends, so I feel your pain. However, I know that the lengths one is willing to go to for a little freedom is hardly ever worth it. Find ways to express yourself, do what you love and hang out with friends in a way that your parents will tolerate. The more you fight your parents to get your way or go behind their backs, the harder it will be on you and the less freedom you will have. You are going to be asking your parents to trust you, but you have to mean it and show it by your attitude. Then, it will be about negotiating and baby-steps. If they let you do a small thing, then do not complain. Be gratetful for the opportunity to prove yourself trustworthy, and next time you will get a little more freedom. You say who you are by your actions. They will be watching extra carefully, so watch yourself.
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Erm, confused. Lets get this straight. 3 boys. 2 girls. No parents. Parents come early. You and your sis with the 2 boys get busted. One is yor sis' bf. The other one that didnt get busted escaped. Now you guys lost your parents trust and you want to gain it back?
Well, sweety that was a very irresponsible thing to do. Your parents left you guys in charge to watch over the house. I mean both of you guys are girls and having 2 guys[from what they know] over could mean trouble. Not all parents see it in a way where nothing would've happened. Allparents see it to he extreme. They might've thought that you guys were gonna get sexual..maybe get pregnant..STDs. And if you guys weren't willing, the 2 boys might have well jsut raped you guys. Yep yep.
If you guys sneak out, they will catch you guys and that means no going out, no boys, etc till you're 18 basically. I mean losing their trust, wanting to gain it back, sneaking out with permission...not the best lookng plan there.
Instead of sneaknig out, causing petty troubles, not talk to them, or such things, why don't you start little conversations. Apologize. Hlep around the house. Make dinner for them, etc. Just suck up to them and the best thing: Tell them that you guys will not use the (pikc) phone, cpu, tv, whatver until you guys gain their trust back. I did that and well, it was fast results yo. And yes, my parents are MUCH more strict than yours so don't complain. Losing someones trust is much more easier than gaining trust. So this is gonna take a while so you're gonna have to hold back on the whole going out, boy talk things
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