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my grandpa physically hurt me and my mom. what should i do?
PLEASE HELP IS NEEDED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
14/f- lives with mom, aunt, grandma, grandpa, dog.
today i went over to celebrate my 2 month anni with my boyfriend. we were going to go swimming and then out to dinner at the mexican resturant guatalajara. my mom dropped me off about 11am. about 2pm we get a phone call at his house saying that my grandpa was mad and wanted me home at 5:30. i asked if i could stay later so we could eat dinner. he said flat out no and that he was going to pick me up right away. i was lke then can you wait til 5:30. he said no. my mom came to pick me up from his house in tears. he had pushed her out the door to pick me up. once we got home, we yelled an cussed at he which led up to him hitting me, my mom, and my aunt, who had to separate me from my grandpa. he hurt my aunt and broke 2 of my mom's fingers. the reason he is so mad is cuz i was out with a boy. just that. nothing else. he yelled at me and told me to move out. like he wants me out on the street without a home.
does he have the right to hit me like that? why would he be so mad that i was out with a boy? what should i do? should i tell someone that he hit me, enough to possibly cause a bruise? what should i do?
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If he doesn't want you dating, he should of just said so, not having to hit you. Its smart for you and them to move out. Best of luck!
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Who cares if you are out on the street at least you are away from the maniac. Being on the streets is better then having him in the same house as you. Maybe you could rent a place. Think about it God did this for the right reasons. God will help you all the way through thick and thin times.
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no it is not right to hit you and it is aginst the law in amreica to hit under age childern and it is also agints the law to hit or hurt some one its called batery and assult iknow alot about that and u can call the police on him if he dose that agin and tell your boyfreind so he knows wots going on and wot ever you do dont just stand there and take it well if u ever need any thing just um msn me k my thing is knightwarior@yahoo.com
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Thats not right at all. Why would he hit your mom and aunt if he was mad at YOU for going out with a boy? It makes no sense because he would just hit you right? Well, anyway abusing people is wrong and the fact that he broke 2 of your moms fingers must mean he did it pretty severely. I would call the police and have them check this out. You,your mom and your aunt will have to be witnesses and say that he hit all 3 of you. The police might send him somewhere else to live. I wish all of you best luck.You shouldn't have to live like that. You deserve better.
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Wow.. That's completely wrong. He had no right to hurt you, and two other family members. Maybe he needs help. You shouldn't be hit by your own grandpa just because you're going out with a boy. You should maybe tell a guidance counselor and ask what you should do. Maybe your grandpa has a problem and he can't help how he reacted. Sorryyy that I wasn't really a help//I just don't know how someone could react like that to just dating. Hope I helped & sorry you had to deal with this .. :
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okay i think that he seriously is having some problems and needs to get checked out by a doctor... no person in the right mind would ever get that mad about someone going out with a boy that they had to hurt 3 family members. i think he needs profesional help. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 months also and i am actually also 14.. if my grandfather were to ever lay a hand on me like that or especially my mom or aunt i would call the police
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That's child abuse. That's harrassment. That is one of the worst situations some of us have to go through. No matter how much you love your grampa (or don't) you're gonna have to report him before this escelates to a worst situation.
Before you do, you might wanna go over this with the rest of the family first and no, he cannot kick you out until you're 18, when you're legally an adult.
If he forces you out, stay at a friends, call the police and get some help sweetie.
Go to safeyouth.org and talk with someone on there (there should be a button on the top center of the page)
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Well its normal for guys in the family(father,grandpa) to get mad that the daughter is dating because they get worried about her heart getting broken or her being played with but what your grandfather did was a little overboard.I think you should tell your mom to keep him from hitting you but dont go telling the police or a teacher.Afterall he is your grandpa and hes an old guy and cant take his anger out in any other way.Just make sure he doesnt find out anything about your personal life or that you go out with your guy.
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He is bang out of order!! He should not have done this at all!! I mean he obviously didnt do it when your mum was young, so why should it be different for you???? I think that you shoud wait to see how he reacts the next time you mention your bfs name or that you are going to his house or something.. if he reacts violently then you should tell someone definatly.. even if youir family wishes against it! Becasue he should not be harming you, just because of the fact you have a bf! And your mum and aunt too! It is wrong! I think you should tell someone if he reacts this way again, otherwise Something bad could happen! OR get him to go to anger management or something! Love Emma XXXXXXx
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you need to tell somebody cuz this is abuse and your grandpa needs anger management help. he has no right to hurt anyone. you need to talk to him, especially if this isnt the first time, and if it was the first time, who no's? it could happen again.
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