Heya Guys! My name is Emma! I am 17 years old, from South Yokshire! I am currently studying A Levels in; English Language and Literature, History Tudor period, Classic Civilisations and Psychology!! I really would like to be a social worker, or something of that kind as i would like to help people with problems!! I love rock music and reading!! I also love movies.. but what teenager doesn't!!!!!!! I really want to help you out when you have a problem, and you can talk to me about anything.. and everything is confidential!! talk to you soon XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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I'm a junior in high school, and it's now 2nd quarter. The past few weeks I haven't cared about my grades, and I don't know why. And, so they slipped. Now, I'm caring a lot more. I just need some good study habits to help me. What can get me motivated to study and do realy well on tests and homework? Anything good will help me. Thanks! (link)
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Sometimes i find it really hard to motivate myself too.. it can be really hard to do so especially after a hard day! I find that the only thing that motivates me is the great feeling of passing a subject! if i did bad on a paper i would feel really awful.. whereas if i did well i would feel great- like i could do any career i wanted to really. That should be all the motivation you need.
Try to get your homework done as soon as you get it. That way it is done and out of the way- you have the time to do the things you want to then without it playing on your mind. Also, your homwork doesnt build up untill you have a mountian of it you cant face!!
To do really well on tests i suggest that you start revising early for them , after all, you cant learn a years worth of work in a week, never mind a night. Try different techniques until one works for you- it might be copying the same information over and over again, or it might be writing all the relevant information in colours with pictures and highlighting. Sticking the information on your wall is a good way as you make youself read it whenever you look at it. Also.. focus on aspects of the subject that you dont know about and understand- after all you cant learn what you already know!
I hope i helped you! i know its pretty basic information but its all i do to keep on top of everything- and i am a A student!!
Good luck with everything!
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for a little over two months and he hasn't kissed me yet. We hold hands, hug, and he always has his arm around me, but it hasn't gone any further.
I've tried kissing him, but he just sorta stood their and didn't kiss me back. So I felt super dumb, I tried asking him, but he sorta changed the subject. What should I do? (link)
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have you tried talking to him? there is a reason why he isnt kissing you back! If he didnt want to do things like that he wouldnt be going out with you!
You just need to talk to him about it! Or you could just kiss him again.. i know u felt dumb the first time, but it might have just taken him by suprise! Just kiss him again and see how he reacts! If he reacts in the same way, talk to him.
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ok so there's this guy i like and his name is jon... and i really like him so what are ways i can get him to like me? and how do i flirt w/ him? (link)
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Just be yourself!! Dont TRY to flirt, or it will go wrong!! Flirting comes naturally to everyone.. so you are probably flirting with him and dont know it!!
Just chat to him like you would anyone else and let him see what he is missing! Chances are he likes you too and is shy!
Another thing you could do is to tell him how you feel! I know it may seem like a terrifying thing to do, but believe me it feels great to get it off your chest! And, it will make him think about been with you, what it would be like ect... it may give him the insentive to take things further!
Hope i helped a little! XXXXXXXXX
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ok so theres this guy in some of my classes and hes nice and funny and has a great personality and stuff .. anyways but hes kind of a geek i mean he has a lot of friends and stuff but ya i dont know and i just got through a bad relationship and i was all down and stuff so to boost my self esteem i wanted someone to like me (dont ask im weird like that) and then i started to like him and now i know for a fact that i do, and i really want to tell someone but then i think i would get made fun of even if they were my friends because im kind of embarassed about it in a way. and ok my question is what should i do? like i think i really like him and im not sure what to do. sorry its a really vague question but thanks for reading it all!
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Right, if you like this guy, it shouldnt matter what everyone else think! You shouldnt be embarrassed! And if he is a "geek" then so what? Chances are he wont treat you bad, and he has all the geat traits you need in a guy!
BUT you said you have just come out of a bad relationship, and need someone to boost your self esteem. This does not mean you are wierd by the way, it happens to a lot of people- its called the rebound. If you are on the rebound, then it isnt fair to go out with this guy!
Overall, if you really like him like you say you do, i think you should go for it and tell him! You shouldnt be embarrassed at all! And if your friends do make fun, then its not fair as they are your friends and they shouldnt be doing so! Just shrug it off cos it will soon pass! But if you are on the rebound, i would suggest for you to just leave dating anyone for a while and have fun with your friends!
Hope i helped XXXXXX
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A few days ago my boyfriend of a year and a half and I broke up. We got back together the next day. The break up was sort of mutual but I initiated getting back together and wanted it more I think. Things are going a lot better now I think, it seems like a fight we needed to have. When I’m with him now I’m quite relaxed and comfortable but the problem is when he isn’t around I’m completely terrified.
I’m terrified he is going to dump me again, that he doesn’t love me, and that I bullied him into taking me back and the problems I thought we had, the ones we are working to solve, weren’t the core problems and he’ll still be unhappy and leave me.
I can’t sleep, I feel sick to my stomach nearly all the time, and I’m just plain scared. I’ve never been this way before over someone, and I’ve never gotten back together after a break-up either. I don’t want to beg him to love me, or make him tell me things just to comfort me, but I just can’t seem to deal with my fear. He hasn’t said he loves me since it happened and its dumb things like that that are just eating away at me. How can I talk to him about this without pressuring him into things? Or how can I deal with this fear? (link)
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I think what you need to do is calm down a little, after all, if he didnt want to be with you he wouldnt have got back with you!!
I understand you been scared about him leaving you, but i suppose its the same in every relationship really.. there is always the possibility of something going wrong no matter how tiny it might be!! Uf you are worried about how he is feeling why dont you talk to him about it? I mean after all, he os your bf! So you should be able to talk openly about things..
If he does break up with you, i know it will be hard fopr you because of the love you feel for him, but just think to yourself; would you rather him be with you and not feel the same as what you feel? And be unhappy?
As for not telling you he loves you yet, hes a guy!! Also he might not want to say it yet because he may be feeling scared just like you are!! He may want to wait a while, and not rush into things! Thats why the best thing to do is to talk to him about how you are feeling! I Hope i helped! XXX
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PLEASE HELP IS NEEDED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
14/f- lives with mom, aunt, grandma, grandpa, dog.
today i went over to celebrate my 2 month anni with my boyfriend. we were going to go swimming and then out to dinner at the mexican resturant guatalajara. my mom dropped me off about 11am. about 2pm we get a phone call at his house saying that my grandpa was mad and wanted me home at 5:30. i asked if i could stay later so we could eat dinner. he said flat out no and that he was going to pick me up right away. i was lke then can you wait til 5:30. he said no. my mom came to pick me up from his house in tears. he had pushed her out the door to pick me up. once we got home, we yelled an cussed at he which led up to him hitting me, my mom, and my aunt, who had to separate me from my grandpa. he hurt my aunt and broke 2 of my mom's fingers. the reason he is so mad is cuz i was out with a boy. just that. nothing else. he yelled at me and told me to move out. like he wants me out on the street without a home.
does he have the right to hit me like that? why would he be so mad that i was out with a boy? what should i do? should i tell someone that he hit me, enough to possibly cause a bruise? what should i do? (link)
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He is bang out of order!! He should not have done this at all!! I mean he obviously didnt do it when your mum was young, so why should it be different for you???? I think that you shoud wait to see how he reacts the next time you mention your bfs name or that you are going to his house or something.. if he reacts violently then you should tell someone definatly.. even if youir family wishes against it! Becasue he should not be harming you, just because of the fact you have a bf! And your mum and aunt too! It is wrong! I think you should tell someone if he reacts this way again, otherwise Something bad could happen! OR get him to go to anger management or something! Love Emma XXXXXXx
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Ok, this might be long so I'm sorry hehe. Im 15 and female and have been with my boyfriend for a year. When we first got toegther he was really romantic and sweet (imporant thing for me) and it was great and we were getting on really well. Now it seems as if he couldn't care less about us. We only see each other twice a week...if that. Everytime he leave to go home I end up in tears because i feel like things are beyond repair. He often makes little comments which make me feel like crap, he also brags a lot which make me feel worse because he has a lot of money and gets a lot of things. He spends a lot of time with his mates and has said in the past that they come before me, which is fair enough. He doesnt very often make the effort to see me so I'm always changing what I'm doing for him. All the romantic stuff is gone, and I guess I just feel like he would rather be with someone else. I havent told him any of this because in the past if I have had a problem with him he acts like he is perfect and thats its my fault and then makes me feel like im some kind of paranoid-weird girlfriend. I want this to all work out because I love him so much and I know deep down he loves me too. But if he doesnt start showing that he cares then I'm going to have to let go..... if i can that is because its failed int he past.... any advice is very much appriciated! thank you! :) (link)
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If you want my honest opinion, i dont really think you should be with this guy even though you love him! He doesnt treat you with the respect you want and deserve! Making you feel bad about yourself is not a good thing for him to do! I have no doubt that you love him and want to be with him but you could find someone a lot better than him that will treat you right! I think that he has crushed your confidence a little, you should not be cryin when he leaves your house, you should be full of happiness! Also, for him to openly say that his friends mean more to him when you have been with him for so long is awful!!
If you do still want to be with him, talk to him about it! tell him how you feel! if he really cares about you he should understand, if he tries to twist things round as though its you that is in the wrong, and make you feel like a nagging gf when you clearly arent, then he isnt worth your time and effort!! Love Emma XXXXXXX
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Okay, well, I'm usually an optimist. I love and appreciate all that I have. I just have one little problem.
Since school started, it seems like all of my friends have had guys who have liked them, or have gotten boyfriends. It all seems so perfect for them, but look at me. I've liked this one guy for a while and he likes me as a friend. I guess I'm still hoping he'll come around and realize that he could like me.
It hurts when all of your friends talk about getting kissed and going on dates and you can't.
What should I do? (link)
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You should stop worrying about what your friends have and what you dont, as you said, you have many things that you are happy with! So what of you dont have a bf??? It doesnt matter! I assure you that as soon as you stop thinking about getting one, and stop looking, the right one will come along!! Love Emma XXXXX
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17/m alright this is about a friend of mine...who is a bit wierd i guess. you see, she moved into my town a while ago and automatically people wouldnt accept her (and now i am beginning to see why) buti accepted her. NOW all she talks about is what she would do if she had a penis. she was over my house one time and out of no where she said "if i had a penis i would stick a needle and uncooked pasta into the hole of it" SHE WAS NOT JOKING. she even asked me if she could see mine to stick sometihing in mine and I FREAKED. is she like a transvestite wanna-be???? i am so wierded out..i want to end our friendship...ugh...what do i do? Please Help!! (link)
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I think this is really weird, and i dont really know why she is talking like this to you! i think the best thing to do is to just avoid her if you no longer wish to be friends with her. Dont make it obvious, but if she gives you a call, dont chat for long ect Just be distant and im sure she will get bored of trying! Because you dont want to hurt her feelings by telling her you no longer want to be her friend! The only other thing i can suggest is to start hanging around with your other friends more! I hope this advice was some help!!
Love Emma XXXXX
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hi emma
i have known this guy for over a month now and we both love eachother, the only problem is, he has a girlfriend. i know he loves me and he said he is goin to finish thing's with his girlfriend, but he said that nearly a week ago. how long should i give him, or am i even doing the right thing? also ive just come out of a long term relationship and i know he isnt my rebound guy, but im scared of getting hurt. (link)
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I think that you should wait a couple of weeks, after all, it is hard to break up with someone, even if you dont care for them in the same way anymore!! But i wouldnt give him much longer.. after all, he can'tlove you that much otherwise he would have done it as soon as he could, even if it is a hard thing to do!
I cant tell you whether you are doing the right thing or not, that is up to you! you have to think about the problems it will cause, after all, he still has a gf!! but also, you have to think about yourself, if you love this guy and he loves you, you should be together!
As for been scared of getting hurt, everyone feels the same when they enter a relationship, its natural to feel scared! Not all guys are the same, just because the last one hurt you doesnt mean this one will!! be confident!! Loves you lots Emma XXXXXXXXXXOOO
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Hi,
I’m going to try to make this brief since I know you don’t have time to
be going through pages of my problems. You see, I am love with this guy
DJ, I have been since I was in 6th grade, when we started off as being
friends. That eventually grew into being best friends, and before I
knew it, he liked me. But I didn’t see it because at that point I didn’t
know what it was like to be liked by a boy. When he liked me, I was
going through stages of struggling with makeup, getting my first period,
desperately trying to learn how to shape my eyebrows (which always ended
up being pencil thin), and trying to figure out where I belonged in my
social circle (at the time I was more in the “gangster” kind of
clique).
He was my first love, and no matter how hard I’ve tried, I could never
get him out of my head, nor my heart. I’ve liked other boys, but he had
always been in my heart, and there was not a time in my life that I was
definite that if he asked me out I would say no. He was (and still is)
a very handsome boy that all the girls swoon over. When I was in 6th
grade we were very close, until something happened at the end of the year
which caused us to part. In 7th grade, things were very wishy-washy,
meaning that we weren’t very good friends, although we didn’t exactly
hate each other. We talked every now and then if something bad happened
between one of our friends but nothing other than that. I felt things for
him on and off, and he remained in my heart, but I knew that the way
things were going, that it would be pointless to try to get us together.
I told him during the year that I liked him sometimes, but of course,
since we weren’t very good friends, he didn’t care very much. And there
were also times that I told him that I didn’t like him anymore which
was always a lie since he was always in my heart. A few days ago he
instant messaged me saying that he felt stupid for walking out on me, and
that he regretted it because he realized that I was a good friend. So we
are now best friends again, and I’d have to say that I’m pretty happy.
I want to tell him how much he means to me, that I dream about him at
night, and that I am overally just completely in love with him. The only
thing is that as I am in love with him, he is in love with this other
girl Casey, the one that he was going out with in 6th grade, when he
liked me, but he cared for her more so wouldn’t leave her for me. He had
told me that at the beginning of the school year that he would ask her
out again, which is coming on September 6th. I feel that my time is
running out, but since we have only just became being best friends again, I
don’t want to rush things, because I don’t want to mess things up and I
want us to have a relationship.
I need some serious help on what to do from here.
He means everything to me and I only wish that I meant the same to him
in his eyes.
Please help. I’d appreciate it so much you have no idea.
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You need to tell this guy how you feel before it is too late otherwise you will regret it!!! If he liked you in 6th grade the chances are that he will still hold a torch for you!! You dont have anything to lose, as just tellin him you like him shouldnt change your friendship! you will still be the same girl.. he will just know you like him! And, if it does go wrong.. you will be able to put your mind, and heart, to rest and move on! You cant say that you didnt try, and if he does turn you away.. he might not be someone who you want to be with anyway!! Love Emma XX
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For the past 2 years I have gotten really close with this guy who is A LOT older than me. He's 36 and Im 14/f But latley we've gotten really close. Like were dating? I don't know. its not like he's a pervert or anything. But I've i guess fallen in love with me. We're both musicians and we share an amazing passion together. I can stop it whenever I want to , but i can't. I guess you can't help who you fall in love with. The thing is that no one knows about it and hes married! So im really confused. but if i tell my mom or anyone there goes my lessons with him and band and everything ive worked for. and i love him. what should i do and is this okay that were together? (link)
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This is harsh.. but have you heard of the film hard candy? about the phedophile? (sp i know lol)In that the guy is 30+ and the girls is 14 years old.... You are 14 years old and it is wrong that he is talkin to you in this way, especially if he is married!! I know you love him, and it will be hard for you, but dont you see that it is wrong for a MAN that age to be talking to a 14 year old girl like yourself?
Imagine if it was your friend that was talking to this guy, and not you, how would you react? I believe that you should stop talking to this guy and move on because you are to young to be with him- you have only just turned a teenager and are not even legally able to have sex yet!! Think about it... XXXX
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I have two best friends that I've been hanging out with all summer A LOT. One takes me with her family everywhere and for the last year I've spent my life at her house.
My other friend takes me to theme parks, pays for my food, and takes me lots of other places.
Another friend takes me to pro baseball games a lot.
I never have my friends over (cuz i live in the middle of the woods and there's nothing to do at my house) and I never take them places.
I feel like its my turn to do something really fun, but I don't know what to do.
I have a ginormous basement... and my room has nothing to do in it.. so i usually use the basement.
I was thinking a scary movie sleepover with the ring movies and the grudge (b/c I'm most likely taking them to the grudge 2 for my bday).
Is there anything else that would be fun to take them to? And what are some fun ideas to do when my friends are over?
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Im sure that you dont have to think of fun things to do! They are your friends and therefore they already think you are fun otherwise why would you hang around with you!?!
A movie night is a brill idea! I often have them with my friends! And you dont need lots of fun activities.. how about girly chats? makeovers? get some face masks and makeup and make each other over hehe! Take crazy pictures! There are lots of dun things that you can do!! Love Emma XX
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Me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex soon. Neither of us have ever done it before, so we have no idea what you are supposed to do without getting hurt. I am 13 and he is 14, do you think that it to early, even with protection?? Any advice would help. (link)
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I believe that you are way to young to be having sex! You have barely just turned a teeneger! take you time you have no need to rush into anything! There are other ways you can express your love for him than having sex! I think it is good that you are using your head and using proection though! remember that it is illegal to have sex under the age of 16! It is up to you what you do, but my advice would certianly be to wait untill you were older XXXX
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Ok so, my bset friend of my whole life went out with this guy, who is also one of my good friends. They fought all the time when they were going out and he finally dumped her, because apparently he liked me the whole time. Now that he's single he keeps wanting to hang out with me and talk to me all the time and I think my best friend is starting to get jealous. Me and this guy have always been really close, we're like twins and i know if we were a couple it would be really fun and go well. But the problem is, I think i like this guy too. So what should I do? Go out with him and talk to my best friend about it? Or just wave him off and hurt his feelings? (link)
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I have been in this postion before and it isnt very nice at all!! It is up to you what you do! If you decide to talk to your friend, just explain that you really like him and tell her that you cannot help your feelings! Tell her that you didnt split them up and you didnt have feeling for him when they were going out. If she doesnt like it, i think that you should respect her wishes.. after all, she is your best friend and you dont want anything to ruin that especially a guy!
If you decide to say no to this guy, then remember to let him down gently and it may be better if you dont spend quite so much tme together- that way you can both move on! By all means stay friends though! Just remember that if you do decide to go out with him, your friendship will change compltely! But as people say... the best of friends make the best lovers! Love Emma XX
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Im sorry this will be long, but please bear with me. I started talking to this guy a few months back, and we really hit it off. Problem was, he was hiding the fact that he has a girlfriend. Me and his girlfriend talked, and we were friendly with each other, but one day she said "I dont want you two to talk, I think youre getting too close" and she was right..we said we loved each other every time we talked, and we hung out a lot. We never kissed, but we held hands, and just did all the cutesy stuff. Things happened, and me and this guy stopped talking for a few days because we were fighting. Neither of us could stand it, we missed each other, so we started hanging out again. We eventually hooked up, and through a bit of trickery by his girlfriend, she found out. We fought but then things were okay but things keep getting mixed up and we keep fighting. I know I shouldnt talk to him anymore even thought I love him and I know he loves me. I need a way to get over him because I cant hurt his girlfriend like this anymore even though she has made me feel lower than dirt. I somewhat deserve it but I couldnt help kissing him back when he made a move. How can I forget about him when I still love him? (link)
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There is no way to just forget about him if you love him. You just need to keep away and in time you will find that you don't feel for him anymore! maybe you will still care for him, but you will not want the same relationship because you will have moved on! Dont move on too quickly to someone else though, you dont want to be on the rebound as that will hurt the person you are seeing- you may care for that person but you will still be pineing for the guy you love. Just take your time and you will forget! I think that you should stay away from his girlfriend for a while because she is hurt and what you did wasnt fair on her, although i understand you couldnt help your feelings, you both dhould have been honest with her. Im sure in time if you explain things to her she will come to understand.
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my boyfriend of a year has just recently taken up karate. he has a real job until 2 and his classes are from 7-8:30 sometimes 9. it takes up so much time that we barely see each other anymore. i think the karate is pointless because he is 19 years old and he's only doing it because he envy's his best friend who has a black belt. my boyfriend has been doing it for 2 months now and he's not even a white belt. how can i tell him enough is enough and quit without him getting angry? (link)
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I think that you are going about this the worng way. I don't think that you should control how he lives his life. It is a good thing that he has a hobby!
I understand that you want to spend more time with him, and maybe you should talk to him about only doing 2 or 3 classes a week? That way you get to spend time with him and he gets to continue with something that he enjoys too. It is good that he is learning to defend himself, and if he started because he was jealous of his friend so what?! If he didnt like it he wouldnt be doing it.. besides.. its making him fit for you!!!!
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I;m 14 an I Have had a few boyfriends but the thing is i cant stay that long with them when ever i see them or they want to even just talk to me i get weird and break up with them but heres the weird thing when we are not togther i can do anything hold hands kiss hangout talk without getting weird but once i know where togther i get weird. Whats worng? (link)
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There is absolutly nothing wrong with you at all!! You are still young and just haven't found the right person.. as soon as you do you will want to spend time with them as boyfriend and girlfriend!
Don't worry about finding a boyfriend.. because as soon as you stop looking you will most likely bump into the one you have been looking for!!!
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