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Love Triangle
Im sorry this will be long, but please bear with me. I started talking to this guy a few months back, and we really hit it off. Problem was, he was hiding the fact that he has a girlfriend. Me and his girlfriend talked, and we were friendly with each other, but one day she said "I dont want you two to talk, I think youre getting too close" and she was right..we said we loved each other every time we talked, and we hung out a lot. We never kissed, but we held hands, and just did all the cutesy stuff. Things happened, and me and this guy stopped talking for a few days because we were fighting. Neither of us could stand it, we missed each other, so we started hanging out again. We eventually hooked up, and through a bit of trickery by his girlfriend, she found out. We fought but then things were okay but things keep getting mixed up and we keep fighting. I know I shouldnt talk to him anymore even thought I love him and I know he loves me. I need a way to get over him because I cant hurt his girlfriend like this anymore even though she has made me feel lower than dirt. I somewhat deserve it but I couldnt help kissing him back when he made a move. How can I forget about him when I still love him?
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Even though you love him, I know it's hard but you jsut have to forget about him for awhile. I really liked this one guy and he dumped me for another girl and I got really mad and I found out later he was dating another girl was he was dating the one he dumped ME for! So it made me wonder who else he might've been dating behind my back, which is exactly what this guy'd probably do if you dated him. If he can leave his girlfriend for you, he could just as easily leave you for another girl. He's just a PLAYER. I would suggest you and both the girlfriend forget about him, because he'll probably just keep hurting her. But to forget about him, I just got rid of all my memories of him, I stopped talking to him on the internet [ I blocked him ], I deleted his number, and if he called me, I didn't pick up, I threw out pictures, crossed out doodles I made of his name and everything and after awhile, I slowly just got over it even though I really liked him alot. And now I'm completely fine. Just keep thinking to yourself," He's a jerk. He cheated on his girlfriend, so he'd cheat on me too probably. I don't want to talk to him or have anything to do with him." Also, just start reading books or find a hobby to start doing and learn something new. Something I did was I hung out with my friends as much as I could and got my mind off of him and I even started meeting some new guys and flirt with them a bit. I hope I helped. <3
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There is no way to just forget about him if you love him. You just need to keep away and in time you will find that you don't feel for him anymore! maybe you will still care for him, but you will not want the same relationship because you will have moved on! Dont move on too quickly to someone else though, you dont want to be on the rebound as that will hurt the person you are seeing- you may care for that person but you will still be pineing for the guy you love. Just take your time and you will forget! I think that you should stay away from his girlfriend for a while because she is hurt and what you did wasnt fair on her, although i understand you couldnt help your feelings, you both dhould have been honest with her. Im sure in time if you explain things to her she will come to understand.
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Sometimes love can be so complicated,you can't see this guy anymore,have no contact with him whatsoever,if you have a photograph of him get rid of it or jst don't look at it for a very long time,don't hear those depressing songs because then you'll end up thinking about him,anyone that you know tell them not to mention his name if you talked to them about him,do things that will keep you going, try meeting other guys who are single,not taken,and so you don't have to feel guilty anymore.Deep inside of you there is a good heart because you feel bad for what you did so that's nice because other girls don't,and you will see that they are cold like a rock if you know what I mean.
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Well i would usually say if this girl hurt you before,nows the time to STRIKE BACK and get the guy BUT.....If he has a girlfreind and hes kissing you and stuff,theres only one word to call him....PLAYER.If he leaves HER for YOU,then theres no doubt he will leave YOU for another girl.Hes not ready for a relationship,he just leaves one pretty girl to go to a prettier and it never ends.Forget about him before you get your heart broken.His girlfreinds going to get heartbroken one day because hell see another girl.
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Talk to the guy. Make him decide. Obviously it would not work or be right for him to do the things he does with you and still have another girlfriend. Tell him he needs to choose either you or her and he has to stick to it.
Try to forget about him and the way you feel about him for a bit, because he needs to make up his mind before it goes further and more damage is done. You said "even though I love him and I know he loves me". Does his girlfriend know that? Did he say so? It sounds like a pretty strong statement to make off a weak base. What I mean is that how do you know that is true if he still has a girlfriend and tried to hide it in the first place.
Talk to him about all this and ask his girlfriend to help you set him straight. Make him decide and make up his mind because it can't go on like this. Hope that helped and good luck.
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You need to get over this guy. It sounds like he is just using you. I know you love him and he says he loves you, but if he really did, he would break up with his girl friend and be with you, right? You are worth so much more. You need to be with a guy who doesn't put you in this position. I was in your exact position one time. I dated this guy and we broke up. Then we started talking again and got really close. He never told me that he had a girlfriend, and once I found out, I was too involved with him and still continued to hang out with him. He stayed with his girlfriend for several months until FINALLY I got him to break up with her and be with me. Once he did this, he still continued to see her behind my back and this lasted for over a year. I broke up with him once I found out because all he ever did was lie and cheat. Our entire relationship was a lie. He continued to do the same thing to her with other girls for several years after that, until she finally had enough and broke up with him. Whenever you think about hanging out with him, just remember how he's hurting you. He's only going to break your heart and you need to move on before it gets worse. Hang out with your friends more and get to know other guys. They aren't all like that. I'm really sorry he's doing this to you. I hope this helped. Good luck! <3 Dana
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