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What Do I Do?
Me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex soon. Neither of us have ever done it before, so we have no idea what you are supposed to do without getting hurt. I am 13 and he is 14, do you think that it to early, even with protection?? Any advice would help.
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well when you're pregnant a few weeks down the road you tell me... was having sex at 13 a smart choice? im 13 and i have never had sex and i think you should probably wait. i mean having sex that young would 1. make your parents very mad 2.possibly get you pregnant 3.get you an STD and plus... if you do it once and nothing happens, you will most likely do it again and again.
My advice: wait a longgg time.
for another reason chek out this Tyler Perry Stage Play: I can do bad all by myself it is very inspirational.
hope i helped.
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Wow. I'm older than you, I've never had a boyfriend, and I haven't had my first kiss, or been on my first date. I don't regret it at all.
Next week, when you two break up, not only will rumors be spread around, but you will wish you had waited.
I can't wait to tell my first boyfriend (or my husband, who knows?) that he is the only guy that I have ever kissed or have had sex with or anything in between.
Abstinence is power. There will be no doubt in your mind that the time is right when the time really is right.
Please, please don't make this huuuuge mistake.
Many teenage boys want to get in your life, get in your pants, and get out.
Don't let this happen to you.
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well it seems that everyone is telling you that you are too young. pretend like i have reitirated that. the truth is, only you can know if you are trully ready. the average age for the first time, last i checked, was 16. now some people are ready before that, and some arent ready till several years after. 13 is way passed pushing it though, i have yet to meet anyone who was anywhere near ready at 13. there is another thing to consider. while girls sometimes mature very quickly, guys often do not. and even if you are ready, your boyfriend most likely is not. he definitely thinks he is. at 14 all a guy can think about is sex. actualy, thats true of pretty much any age. whats a good litmus test? ill give you a few.
1. can you talk about it without using euphamisms?
2. you are going to need birthcontrol, you should most likely go on the pill, which in some states you cant do without parental persmision, can you talk to your mom (or dad) about it?
3. is he going to be able to be mature enough to go to a drug store and buy the condoms?
without knowing you, id have to play the percentages and say that you most likely shouldnt, but again only you and your boyfriend can know for sure. but one thing i must press, is the importance of protection, you will want to use both a condom, and the pill. and remember, the pill doesnt become effective until (i think) a week after you start taking it.
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way toooooo early. im 14 and i don't plan on it till im like married.
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yes i hounestly think it is to earlie for you guy's to have sex you want it to be sumthing you want to remeber not just a fling cuz you dont know if your gonna be with him for a long time or not
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What is wrong with you, of course its too young. Why do you want to have sex at that age. If you get pregnant your life is gonna be a hellhole. Trust me, that happened to one of my neighbors and she was 14. She kept the baby because she couldn't throw away her very own flesh and blood. But don't do it. I know you think there is no problem and all that but you can have so many infections and STD's that can stop you from having a baby with your own husband when you are ready. So don't do it. And you mentioned you have no idea what to do. Another reason you shouldn't have sex.
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NO! TOO YOUNG! You could get pregnant and your whole reputation could be ruined...loook,unless you plan on marrying this guy, which, to be honest,problaby wont happen,dont do it just yet.Wait atleast until your 15 or 16
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omg. you're too young. last year you were 12. you're a little kid! you sure don't seem married to me...
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I think you should wait. Honestly I don't think that at your age you are emotionaly mature enough to have sex. Sex is a serious issue. Would you be okay with your decision if he broke up with you? What type of protection would you use? What if it failed and you became pregnant? You need to talk to him about all of this. If you feel too embarassed about anything then you aren't ready to have sex. You will never regret waiting. No one ever says "I should have done it sooner"...I'm 16 and I'm in the same position you are. I told my boyfriend that I want to wait until the time is right, until I know that I am completely 100% ready, and he is okay with that. And your boyfriend should be too. True Love Always Waits.
Love,
Kate
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I believe that you are way to young to be having sex! You have barely just turned a teeneger! take you time you have no need to rush into anything! There are other ways you can express your love for him than having sex! I think it is good that you are using your head and using proection though! remember that it is illegal to have sex under the age of 16! It is up to you what you do, but my advice would certianly be to wait untill you were older XXXX
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I think that it's awfully early. I mean, you don't NEED sex to show that you guys love eachother. Some of the best relationships come from not having sex and that also shows that the guy really cares and obviously isn't using you. And I think the first time should be shared with someone very special and you know it'll last with them. I mean, sometimes sex can actually ruin things because it might turn out after you guys have sex, that's all he'll want, and that's no good. And there's really no way to avoid getting hurt, whenever you do it for the first time, it's going to hurt, and then each time you have sex again, it'll hurt less and less. Unless you have like, a mircale and it's painless, but I doubt that. And also, what about the chance of pregnancy? Even though you're using a condom, they can break, things can happen, and then teenage mothers happen. But if you still want to have sex together, then I suggest going on the pill and use a condom so it's double the protection. But, please, reconsider. Anyways, I hope I helped.
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hey,
ok so I think you really really need to think this over. Personally I think you are way way way too young. Is this guy really the guy you want to be your first? You are losing your virginity to this guy, something you cant get back or reverse. Its good that you are thinking about protection, but you are still way to young. Wait acouple years, if you are still together with this guy then maybe the time will be right. But being a teenager myself I know that relationships at this age never last long. I mean you guys aren't even in highschool yet!(im assuming) I hope I helped you make the right decision.
-marsbars
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You guys are way too young. You still have your whole life ahead of you. And you may end up regreting it later one in life. And even with protection, you can still get pregnant, and no one wants to be pregnant at 13, or even at a young age. Wait several more years, you can't have your first time over again.
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Like i told another couple you are WAYYYY to young to be starting this, you could still love each other without sex y'know. i really think you will regret this if you do it, pl think about this
hope i helped
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You're too young.
Sex isn't everything.
Sometimes it ruins the relationship. Do you want your relationship gone? He may always want sex, you know.. even when you don't want to give it.
You use a condom. Birth control is another good protection for you.
It's too early for you to do that. Because your first time usually hurts a lot. There's nothing you can do to stop it from hurting unless he is a "sex god".
His penis is trying to break through the hymen, OUCH?
He's 14 and he will probably think he knows what he's doing. He might get lost in it. [from whatever pleasure he may get] and get a little rough with you.
You don't want that. You want a guy that you can trust and you know, that you 'love' him and he would wait for you.. and listen to you. I don't know your boyfriend but teenage guys just want sex. That's one of the things most of them want.
There horomones are going crazy.
Just wait it out.
Sex isn't the best thing right now.
I've seen this happen to my friends.
They get dumped and get too attached... they get depressed.
Or they get pregnant and they can't get an abortion.
It hurts.. it makes you worry a lot.
Am I pregnant? When's my period? Has my period come late? Will it hurt this time?
It's too much.
And the thing is.. nowadays..
it's just wrong.
If you don't stay together, he can go out and tell his friends what he has done. You'll be known as a slut or whore. It will get annoying.
Even if he has stayed with you after that, he probably already told his friends about that. You don't want a guy that does that.
Rumors can be spread around.
But when you're older and you have all the protection, there's not much to worry about. You can handle it a little better.
But if you can pregnant there's chances of you getting disowned.
Too much drama, if you ask me...
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If you're unsure enough to be asking this question on the internet to a bunch of people you don't know, then you're not ready. You may think you're "in love" or mature enough, but 13 year olds are dumb and immature. And yes, I am admitting that I was dumb and immature at 13, too. It's up to you, but you will most likely get 100 times more emotionally attatched to this boy, being your first, and it will be a hard slap in the face when he dumps you.
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hunny u are far to young i kno my words wont stop you from hurting urself but i lost my virginity at ur age and kno i am a mom and there almost my agew im 24 now and there 11 so just take my word and use them! GOOD LUCK
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Well I dun think thats too young even thow your parents might disagree with me. Im not an expert on sex but i do take classes.
1 thing your boyfriend should know is how to use a CONDOM I feel whatever boy that doesn't should be prepared to face life in 9 months... n e way if he uses a condom then you should have nothing to worry about SWEET!3 just make sure he puts it on correctly....
PLZ RATE
URE ADVISOR
-GRAPE
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No one can tell you what to do. It`s up to you. Sure alot of people think you are too young, but it`s totally up to you. If you are ready then go for it,.. but remeber alot of bad things can come out of having sex just once. Think about everything before you do it. You said so yourself "we have no idea what you are supposed to do without getting hurt". Maybe you both should wait untill you are 100% sure on what to do. That might be a few years, but im sure you`ll be more comfortable with it. Make sure you both understand what you two are about to do. Sex is a serious thing.. but if you know you are ready for it, then no one can stop you..
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If you do plan on having sex.. remember always ALWAYS ALWAYS use protection..
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Don't do it. You're not ready. Yes thats right, I said it. It is too early for the both of you. Consider the consequences and complications. If you really feel "ready", then by all means go ahead and use your protection of all sorts. Just remember that its not something you can undo. You could save yourself the risk of STDs and pregnancy by waiting, but it's not up to me, it's up to you. Hope I helped - just think things through.
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i think it might be kinda early.. but if you really want to.. then make sure to use protection.. hope i helped.. =]
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well the main thing is to listen to yourself and to me it seems if you have asked this question you are haveing doubts. so maybe you should wait a bit untill you are ready make sure your boyfreind isnt pushing you because this is all your decision.maybe he is feeling the same way talk to him 13 is young i know sometimes age doesnt matter but you want to make sure of that you dont want to regret do you?just becareful
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I'm not telling you what to do, but I think that you two are too young for sex. But if you do have sex, your boyfriend should use a condom. Try to get one with spermicidal lubricant. Also, if you have sex, it will probably mess up your relationship.
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I'm not going to tell you what to do. Just don't do anything you'll regret later on. It's hard to figure that out when you're young, because, well, you can't look back five years already. But think about your reasons why you want to have sex- is it only because you want to be able to say "I'm not a virgin!!" or do you really care about this person? There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. Also, make sure he won't tell all his friends about it afterwards, because the rumors will be AWFUL. And if teachers find out, it's just not pretty. Just something to keep in mind =]
Definitely use protection. And consider going on birth control- it may cause you to gain some weight, but it'll be another way to protect yourself, and also regulates your period and lessens cramps. I don't know what state you live in, so you may need a parent to get it.
Whatever you decide, make sure it's YOUR decision and not someone else's.
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I know you say any advice will help, but you are not going to like mine. I say that it is best for you to wait for a few years, say untill you are Jrs. in High school and if you still think you love eachother then have sex. If you MUST have sex now, use protection.
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i think if you don't love each other, aren't serious about each other, think it won't work, or feel you aren't ready, you shouldn't go through with it. i don't think it really goes by age, but how ready you are. protection is extremely important in this case. there's STDS, pregnancy, etc. if you really want to have sex [none of us can stop you] make sure you know exactly what you're doing & get protection that is needed. i think you guys don't seem ready. usually if there's any doubts [obviously in this case there is] then you aren't ready.
-hope that helped!♥
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I personally think you should wait till you can ATLEAST drive. But it's up to you. different people have different morals and what may be right to one person is wrong to another. If you question whether or not you're ready, you aren't. If you don't think you're ready then wait a while, if your boyfriend doesn't respect that find a new one.
=] Evy
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