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My guy friend & my best friend..
Ok so, my bset friend of my whole life went out with this guy, who is also one of my good friends. They fought all the time when they were going out and he finally dumped her, because apparently he liked me the whole time. Now that he's single he keeps wanting to hang out with me and talk to me all the time and I think my best friend is starting to get jealous. Me and this guy have always been really close, we're like twins and i know if we were a couple it would be really fun and go well. But the problem is, I think i like this guy too. So what should I do? Go out with him and talk to my best friend about it? Or just wave him off and hurt his feelings?
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well first of you shoul talk to your best friend about it and make sure that IF you go out with him then tell your friend. It would be even worse if you didnt tell your friend. Should you date him? I don't really think so. It might hurt your relationshiop with your best friend. As for 'waving him off' I think you should tell him you don't want to damage your friendship with either one of them (your best friend or the dude who likes you)and you two can still be really good friends.
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wow this sounds ALOT like my situation. i say you go out with the guy. your friend already had her turn with him so now its yours. your friend shouldnt get mad at you, she should be happy for you. if she gets mad, maybe she isnt the greatest friend. good luck to you :)
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I have been in this postion before and it isnt very nice at all!! It is up to you what you do! If you decide to talk to your friend, just explain that you really like him and tell her that you cannot help your feelings! Tell her that you didnt split them up and you didnt have feeling for him when they were going out. If she doesnt like it, i think that you should respect her wishes.. after all, she is your best friend and you dont want anything to ruin that especially a guy!
If you decide to say no to this guy, then remember to let him down gently and it may be better if you dont spend quite so much tme together- that way you can both move on! By all means stay friends though! Just remember that if you do decide to go out with him, your friendship will change compltely! But as people say... the best of friends make the best lovers! Love Emma XX
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Talk to your friend, the girl that is. See how she honestly feels about this whole thing.
You should try to avoid losing a friendship over a relationship, simply because most relationships will end and along with that the friendship that came with it. If you keep the friendship over the relationship, chances are that "relationship" will stay a friendship, and so will the other friendship. In other words, you risk losing both the girl and the guy as your friends if you go out with the guy.
Tell your friend how you feel about him and what she thinks about him and you and the whole dating thing. If she isn't ok with it, then you should respect that. If you like the guy and he likes you too, then thats great. Wait on it though. Feelings could change for either one of you sooner than you think. Give it some time and see how things develop and then question whether or not it would be worth it to go out with him. Sort out your feelings and talk to your friend about it and see what she thinks. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Before you say the "yes, I wan't to go out with you" sentence, ask your bff if she's okay with you and her ex going out. Tell her that you want her true feelings and that you don't want her to hold anything back because you don't want any grudge b/w you two.
If she says or shows slight discomfort in this idea, don't go out with this guy. He's not worth ruining your friendship. But if you really, really, really want to go out with this guy, you should wait for about a month and see if you guys still have the same feelings for each other. If you guys do, you ask your bff again if it's okay and explain to her that you like her ex and you really don't want to ruin the friendship.
I mean...he is her ex for a reason and if she's jealous and wants him back with all that fighting and not share him with you, she needs to know that he is her ex for a reason. Well, don't tell her this paragraph =P
good luck **emm[y]
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