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this is a stupid question but i'll ask it anyway. What should you tell a guy if he ask you if you're a virgin? Evereyone is telling me different. some of my male friends tell me that you should defenetly tell them that your a virgin because all guys like the girls to be like pure and clean and stuff (i dont know, thats what they tell me) and that if your a virgin they will like you more because it will be like a big deal for them..you know, to get a virgin to lose her virginity is big, it will make them proud of them selves or something. And some of my friends tell me that they always go for girls that lost their virginity already because that would make them more experienced and stuff.And it will make the sex better.. And that it wont be as gross as having sex with a virgin..I dont know im soo confused! I dont want the guy to think that im a slut! but should i tell him that ive already done it so he likes me more? please don tell me to tell him the truth! tell me the truth, what do most guys like? Thank you! (K) (link)
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You always tell the truth.You might just want to add that you don't sleep around just for the fun of it but only when you are in a commited relationship.
Tells him no, your not a virgin.But, you aren't going to jump right in and have sex with him just because your not.
Don't lie to make someone like you. You will eventually get caught in that lie and make things worse. Better to start out on the right foot.
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I like this boy who likes someone else I used to talk to him all the time but i dont anymore hes never online and i dont see him in school anymore. Should i still talk to him and see if maybe i could get himto like me, i was thinking that maybe he might think im weird or somethign for randomly iming him when he comes online or talking to him...also he used to like me but i hurt him so it might not be that easy. (link)
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You can try talking. Certainly can't hurt anything.I don't know why he would think you are weird.If you hurt him before I guess you better think of a reason why. Discuss it with him and see where it goes.
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I have many friends that live in Belleville, Illinois. They all miss me when I am in St. Louis, Missouri. I go to Belleville with my best friends father and all of us are really close. I go there maybe 1 to 2 days every week. Maybe every other week. Should I leave my friendships behind over in Belleville? I hate missing them so much and I have went out with a couple of them. And of course I still have major feelings for a few of them. I want to forget the past and go on with the future. Hard part is that I dont know if I want all of them in my future.Can you help? (link)
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Why would you not stay friends? You don't have to see friends every single day to remain friends. Keep things as they are.
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ok me and my bf just broke up last night ok and it was all becuz i told him the truth about something i told him that i was starting to have feelings for someone else and i mean i hadn't cheated on him or anything me and the other guy just talk alot and i think im starting to have feelings for him and my ex was asking me what was wrong and i told him and i told him becuz i felt like i was lying to him and i didn't want to feel that way ne more and now he thinks im imature and sex hungry for some reason which im not i not stupid and i don't plan on doing any of that kind of crap any time soon just cuz the fact my parents would kill me and cuz im to young......so really who's being the imature one here me or him??? and should i have told him?? i mean was it a stupid mistake telling him or did i do the right thing??? (link)
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you did the right thing.No sense lying about your feelings.He will get over it.
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okey, i didn't know what category to put this in so i just chose love life. Anyway I was wondering about all the sweet nicknames.. I mean everytime a guy calls me babe or darling i die inside..seriously just a name can make me fall. But what can we call guys? Is there anything we can say to make them shiver? can we call them babe? Is there any laid back names? (like you know if we're just talking on msn and he says : hey, babe - what's up? Can we say something like that, even if we're not dating? cuz guys can use babe howvever..do we have anything like that? Something that will make them all nervous and stuff or just happy. And nothing that will make them embarresed, like darling is probably too feminin for them..Thanx!//marlena (link)
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1. I don't really know what might give guys the shivers.They kinda like to think they are above all that (at least the ones I know)!
2.Sure you can call them babe if you want.Honey, sweetie, sugar whatever.Mine is stud muffin.He seems to be okay with it LOL.
3.You can. Might sound kinda phoney if it doesn't come naturally though.Some people just talk that way.
4.Thats why I call mine stud muffin.Stud for the manly part.Muffin cause its cute.:}
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here's my problem..i've had this HUGE crush (i dont even like calling it a crush, i think i love him..but no one thinks it's possible so whatever..)anyway, ive had this huge crush on a guy fro about 8 years (i've known him all my life) but we're not really tight friends. (thats not my problem) The thing is, i've never tried to hit on the guy or anything cuz i wanted to respect his GF and all..They've been together 7 years (since 4th grade)and during all this time i've liked him..and i know he really loves her, but they just broke up 3 weeks ago, im gonna let him get over her cuz i know he needs time (c'mon it wa 7 years!!) but then after that? will i ever be able to replave his first love, his gf of 7 years? its gonna be terrible he's gonna be comparing me with her..and i cant compete with her and what they had. What am i going to do? When he first gottogether with her i decided to get over him..and i've been trying ever since..but it didnt work =( seven years later, here i am, still in love with him..so please dont tell me to get ver him! it wont work..please help me, please!! (link)
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No one can take the place of a first love.So, don't get jealous about that.It will fade over time but most likely never forgotten.
You seem to be pretty level headed about it.Will he compare you to her. At first probably.
Should you persue him.Yes.I don't see why not.
Just realise that it might be rough at first.If you guys get along well enough you will soon make her a distant memory.
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Alright heres the story ... I had to break up with the man I love becuase he cheated on me ... I still really want to be with him though but i'm staying away form that for now. We talk online all the time and on the phone, he says hes really sorry he had to loose me to a girl he doesnt even like. Well I recently asked my mom if he could come and visit me over the summer for two weeks and she said maybe, yes its an internet relationship but dont think about that cuase I know hes not a creep trust me I'm so paranoid about that stuff well anyways what I wanna know is should I have him come up here? We both really want to see each other and I know we will be making out the whole time and i know he still loves me he didnt even ask the girl out she asked him.
I'm almost 16 and he will be 16 in a few days. (link)
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You can only be dating someone that you can physically go out with. So, if you've never even seen this guy how could he cheat on you? He didn't. He cheated on a computer screen.
If you want to meet him. Sure, if mom approves.I think you are wasting your youth talking to a computer screen only. You need to date someone in the area where you live before life passes you by though.
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hello! i have a crush on this really hott skater. he used to lik me but this all drama thing happened (long story)but then i saw him again and i acted lik a total geek and lik this stalker girl and im not i was just tryin to get him to lik talk to me and try to get him to lik em again. but i saw him to day and i want to talk to him and i dont want him to think im this stalker person. so wat should i do? thanks (link)
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If you can talk to him then talk to him.So long as you don't follow him home and peek in his windows I think you'll avoid stalking laws!
If he doesn't want to talk to you and tells you to leave him alone then do so.Have a little self respect.
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ok, so this is the deal..i met this wonderful guy this summer, but he has a GF. Anyway, we spent 6 weeks together and we made out, held hand and all that (IT WAS WONDERFUL!) please dont tell me what i did was wrong, i know it was but i dont care cuz i love him, i really do. And he's told me that he loves me too. We made a deal yesterday (he's been with his GF for about 2 years, and he says he loves her too) he said, he doesnt want to cheat on her anymore cuz he loves her but if the feeling is right-something could happen between us this summer. And i was like: what do you mean? and he asnwered: well, im gonna have my place all to my self this summer soo..who knows what could happen between us!? ;) anyway, i live in japan and he lives in america so we only see eachother during the summer. Hmm, id ont really know what my question is..im just so cofused..i love him so much, and i miss him..i really dont give a damn about his GF (i know i sound like an evil person, but i really really really love him, i cant help i.)Is there anything i can do to get over him? should i even try to get over him? should i sleep with him? (he's 18 and im 14) what's gonna happen between us? ( sorry, i know you cant answer that question) he's just so amazing i dont know what to do. Alot of guys like me here in japan, but i dont like anyone of them im just soo stuck on joshua.
Help! please?- mariana (link)
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NO WAY! He is out to use you.He has a relationship of 2 yrs. He has told you he loves her. I know he told you the same, that alone should tell you something.
He has no intention of breaking up with girlfriend to date you...is going to have the place to himself this summer just means she'll be gone and he'll be horny.And you are 14 and he is 18 and he knows how to play you.I don't know where this great affair is supposed to take place, but in the U.S. what he is doing is statutory rape and will land his butt in jail.
I know you like the idea of being in love with this guy but he doesn't love you.If you see him you will get hurt like you can't believe.Will make what you feel now seem like nothing.Use your head please!
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i have the worst time getting up in the morning. I fall asleep around ten and TRY to wake up at 6:30. my alarm will go off, ill wake up, but then i go back to sleep till 7:15 and miss the bus. Can anybody help me wake up better in the morning? (link)
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I've been told I smack that alarm before it even gets going good! Know how you feel.
The only thing that gets me up is moving the clock to where I have to get out of bed to shut it off. Hope that helps some.
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I am going on a date tomorrow night...and I just broke out on my forehead and nose! The ones on my forehead aren't that bad, but I would still like to get rid of them. The one on my nose is pretty obvious, however. I have been using the clearasil ultra (that's supposed to get rid of acne in 3 days) about 5 times a day, but it isn't working! Help please I want to look good for my boyfriend (b/c I want to get my first kiss maybe tomorrow)!
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oh no! This happens all the time, happens to him too. There is nothing to be done about it so just go and have fun.Letting it drive you nuts will only make it worse anyway.Have fun and Hope ya get that kiss!
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Ok, I've been thinking about dumping my boyfriend for one of my guy friends. I know they both really really like me, and I still want to be friends with my boyfriend that I have now. Anyone have any advice on a easy break up? (link)
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Break ups are never easy.You just tell him you want freedom to date others.
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Tonight I'm going with a few friends to see a scary movie. My boyfriend is going to try to come behind his parents back to go with me. This one guy that I know who really really likes me is also going, and I kinda like him. What should I do because I'd rather cuddle with my guy friend than my boyfriend. Help!! (link)
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you tell the boyfiend you just want to be friends and then date them both.
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my friend is depressed. she always tells me her problems and itold her to get therapy bcuz it helps and ive been through it. but after i tell her this she always says "see thats why i cant count on you. you never help me with my problems" she always makes me feel so guilty. How can i help her? (link)
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go to my column and read the symptoms of depression.If she has a lot of them then go tell an adult to get her help.:}
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There's no way in explaining what happened without using a lot of words, so I apologize. I'm 16 and female by the way. I just don't want the people that read this and give me advice to get the wrong idea about things. I've been with this guy for almost 6 months, and recently he told me he doesn't feel the love anymore and that he wants to break up. Me, being stupid, begged him to stay with me. He said that he wanted to take a break to see if he missed me and such. Throughout our whole relationship he was so loving to me and we've both cried over eachother a lot. He's being completely contradictive right now like after he said he wasn't in love with me anymore, a day later he said he still loves me just not as much as he used to. The other day he said in the really pleading voice..."lay with me before you leave baby..please?"..and he cried when he told me he didn't wanna be with me so what the hell is he thinking? I have no idea whether he's just lying to me or if he really wants to work it out in the future. I talked to one of our mutual friends and she said he's afraid to break up with me cause he doesn't wanna hurt me but a few people say that we've just spent too much time together and he needs a break to really feel the love again. We were with eachother almost every day for the past 6 months...I don't know. Someone help me. I know he's good at heart..he really is and I didn't want anyone thinking he was an asshole for what he said. (link)
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He's young, you are too.Let him go his own way for now and hope for the best.Don't sit around and pine for him either.Go out with other people.
I think he does love you.It may be as just a friend now.Better to let him find out what he's missing now than wait until you are even MORE involved.It will be hard and I feel for you but,I think it will be for the best to just let him go.You know that already.
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I am finding i am getting more and more friends, but i have some very close friends in two different groups, and once group hates the other and the other dosent like some of the people in the other, but not all. one of the groups is "popular" and the other has a pretty low status, but that dosent really matter to me.Both of the groups only wants me to hang out with them, and refuse to get along... i feel like i fit in with the "popular" group more, but i still love everyone in the other group! one of my friends has had this happen to her and she likes the "popular" group better,(her name is haley) and wants me to join her... i wont leave my best friends tho (twins) and the group only mite accept one of them, according to haley...
PLEASE HELP!
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Start your own group right in the middle.Call it the group that refuses to be catagorized by labels.Whoever form either group can come and hang out, the rest can do their own stuck up thing.
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okae yeah i'm one of the people who give advice but this time i need the advice. lately i just haven't been thinking straight and i don't kno why. okae well i have been going out with this guy for a while and well i don't kno maybe i'm jealous or something but he spends more time talking to his best friend who is a girl and is his ex girlfriend than he does talking to meh. i kno their best friends and i have to respect that and i really am trying but i mean is it wierd that she so happens to be his ex girlfriend too and like they flirt alot. and the girl is always in my face saying meh and him blah blah and she even hooked us up. my boyfriend even said if meh and her were ever in a fight he's take her side. i don't know what to do. he says he loves meh sooo much but i'm not sure if i should trust him. sorry if its longgg. (link)
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first thing i'd be asking him...If you love me sooo much then why would you take her side in a fight? I think the answer to that one would do it for me.He'd have to do some real smooth talking!
He'll probably remain friends with his ex.She really should back off a little though and respect your time spent with him.
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Hey. My best friend has been ignoring me lately and I don't know what I should do. On her website she shows who shes talking to and shes talking to alot of people and being all happy. But when we talk its just not the same and she barely says anything, if anything at all. Please help! (link)
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you ask her why she's ignoring you.Maybe her website is more important to her right now.If that is so she may be sorry one day when she has no friends left in the "real" world.
Go ask her and see if you can work this out.If not make new friend and be happy yourself!
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Alright, this is a stupid question, but today I purchased a D.A.R.E. shirt at Hot Topic. Under it, it reads "To Keep Kids Off Drugs." Does this have deeper meaning? Because on the standard D.A.R.E. shirts (like the official ones) they read "To Resist Drugs And Violence." I was wondering if "To Keep Kids Off Drugs" has any deeper meaning? I don't want to go to school with people laughing or something. Thanks. (link)
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I'm not 100% sure but I believe the shirt you have is the original. I think they added the violence part after all the school violence etc.
So wear it in good health!
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15/f-I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. Previously he was going out with my ex-best friend, whom i am at poor terms with as a direct result of my dating him. While i know i made a mistake by doing this, I don't regret ending the friendship for many personal reasons. Still, i can't escape her wrath. she tells our mutual friends and others, that i'm a whore or a slut or other related labels, when in reality i'm very near prude. What should i do to protect my reputation? I don't want one mistake to haunt me forever. thanks (link)
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Any real friend of your will know that she is lying about you.Since your boyfriend is no longer going out with your ex girlfriend I want you to stop considering it a mistake.She's the one with the problem not you, okay? She's jealous,you got the guy and she couldn't keep him. Other than that ther isn't a lot to be done about rumors.Those who know you know better.Those who don't know you probably don't care.:}
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