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my friends are upsetting !?!!!
I am finding i am getting more and more friends, but i have some very close friends in two different groups, and once group hates the other and the other dosent like some of the people in the other, but not all. one of the groups is "popular" and the other has a pretty low status, but that dosent really matter to me.Both of the groups only wants me to hang out with them, and refuse to get along... i feel like i fit in with the "popular" group more, but i still love everyone in the other group! one of my friends has had this happen to her and she likes the "popular" group better,(her name is haley) and wants me to join her... i wont leave my best friends tho (twins) and the group only mite accept one of them, according to haley...
PLEASE HELP!
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Start your own group right in the middle.Call it the group that refuses to be catagorized by labels.Whoever form either group can come and hang out, the rest can do their own stuck up thing.
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Ahh, the infamous cliques. What highschool would be complete without them? (Sorry, that is dry humor and meant to be funny.)
It is good that you are able to relate to different people in different groups, but you shouldn't be made to feel like you have to choose one over the other. Obviously you like all of your friends equally, you just feel more comfortable in one group over the other. You need to tell all parties in both groups that you will not choose to hang out solely with one group over the other. That if your frienship with the other is not causing conflict in their life, then you don't see why it is doing more harm then good. Just because they refuse to get along, doesn't mean that you can't refuse to not choose sides.
If you feel like you <b>MUST</b> choose a group, then you should go with the one that you think you will be more comfortable in. Just know that your actions have consequences and you could loose a potential life long frienship in the process.
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Maybe you could use this to your advantage and bring this to their attention... Nobody deserves to be in an "Unpopular" group and nobody deserves to live in a "Popular" group (er, a popular group that looks down on everybody else. That's sad.). Maybe you could bring the two together, personally I'd go for the "Unpopular" group since I don't want to be "Popular" (though I can be if I want to) myself. Just do what feels right, if you really like your best friends best, you'd take their side. As for "Haley," if she's too low to accept that you want to be with your best friends, too bad for her, she'll have to do without you until she realizes her fault. Of course, maybe she isn't that way, I dunno; but do what feels right.
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ur friends are uppsetting??? how sad
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