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men...
There's no way in explaining what happened without using a lot of words, so I apologize. I'm 16 and female by the way. I just don't want the people that read this and give me advice to get the wrong idea about things. I've been with this guy for almost 6 months, and recently he told me he doesn't feel the love anymore and that he wants to break up. Me, being stupid, begged him to stay with me. He said that he wanted to take a break to see if he missed me and such. Throughout our whole relationship he was so loving to me and we've both cried over eachother a lot. He's being completely contradictive right now like after he said he wasn't in love with me anymore, a day later he said he still loves me just not as much as he used to. The other day he said in the really pleading voice..."lay with me before you leave baby..please?"..and he cried when he told me he didn't wanna be with me so what the hell is he thinking? I have no idea whether he's just lying to me or if he really wants to work it out in the future. I talked to one of our mutual friends and she said he's afraid to break up with me cause he doesn't wanna hurt me but a few people say that we've just spent too much time together and he needs a break to really feel the love again. We were with eachother almost every day for the past 6 months...I don't know. Someone help me. I know he's good at heart..he really is and I didn't want anyone thinking he was an asshole for what he said.
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He's young, you are too.Let him go his own way for now and hope for the best.Don't sit around and pine for him either.Go out with other people.
I think he does love you.It may be as just a friend now.Better to let him find out what he's missing now than wait until you are even MORE involved.It will be hard and I feel for you but,I think it will be for the best to just let him go.You know that already.
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Well, I think yall should spend at least a week away from each other. If yall were seeing each other EVERY day for 6 months, I can see where yall need to breath a little. It's not splitting up, it's just spending some time away from each other. Good-luck!
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Aww, that pretty much happened to me. Ya'll really need to 'take a break', but that break may become permanent. He's probably just really confused or feels hes wanting something different. If he really, truly loves you, then ya'll will end up together. For now, just let him try out the break thing and you be strong. Remember, there are other guys out there that are as sweet and handsome as can be and this isnt the end of the world. i know youre hurting and you dont understand everything thats going on, but time will make it better. just please dont drag it out and painfully hold on like i did when i shouldve just let go in the first place. but, for you it may be different and like you said, if its meant to be, it'll work out. just follow your heart and hope he'll follow his. itll all work out...if not now then later under much different circumstances.
luv, SARAH
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im sorry babe thats not a good situation. But i know how you feel.He is just a 16 year old boy and hell if us teens know what we want at that age anyways.so either he thoght he was in love with you, but he was really just lusting you, and now he doesnt wanna hurt you so he's kinda screwing with your heaD, or he may really not love you as much as he thought he did.That happend to me...my philosphy is you can never fall out of love with someone, you just learn to live without them. Mybe he, for one reason or another, is learning to live without you. Just give him space, and if its meant to be he'll def come back to you. But for the mean time dont let him hurt you. Just live your own life, and let him live his..and if your lives collide again, then let it happen. i hope i helped!!goodluck!!
P.s.-have fun with your open time now. get your mind off him, do things taht you wouldnt be able to do if you were spending all your time with him!Go have fun with the gurls!!!
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I feel your pain hon, and I am so sorry that you are going through a really emotional time right now with someone you love. I think, for now, that it is better that the two of you do take a break from each other. It seems like there is a lot of emotional strain in this relationship, and it would do wonders for both of you if you all just cooled down for a bit. And as hard as this next bit of advice might be, you should consider doing it. I think that you should also cut out the amount of time that you and him spend together, either in person or on the phone. He sounds really confused about how he feels for you, hence his frequent need to contradict himself. Give him space to figure out what he wants and how he feels, and in the mean time, you do the same.
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Don't be hurt. He's probably not knowing what he really wants in life right now, and like you said, maybe you two spend too much time together and deserve a much needed break. Just respect his decision and live your life. If he'd cry over something like this, he'd realize that down the line he made a mistake. :)
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