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this is a stupid question but i'll ask it anyway. What should you tell a guy if he ask you if you're a virgin? Evereyone is telling me different. some of my male friends tell me that you should defenetly tell them that your a virgin because all guys like the girls to be like pure and clean and stuff (i dont know, thats what they tell me) and that if your a virgin they will like you more because it will be like a big deal for them..you know, to get a virgin to lose her virginity is big, it will make them proud of them selves or something. And some of my friends tell me that they always go for girls that lost their virginity already because that would make them more experienced and stuff.And it will make the sex better.. And that it wont be as gross as having sex with a virgin..I dont know im soo confused! I dont want the guy to think that im a slut! but should i tell him that ive already done it so he likes me more? please don tell me to tell him the truth! tell me the truth, what do most guys like? Thank you! (K)
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ok, well, the only thing to do is to tell the truth. i know you might wanna impress a guy. but, if you're a virgin and you tell him and he's not into that, then let him get over it. you don't wanna be with someone like that anyways. and, since no one ever truly does the right thing or tells the truth or w/e, and you're not sure what to do, just say, "it's personal". and then let him think what he wants to, but i wouldn't lie about that kind of stuff, it could come back to haunt you later or something. i hope i've helped!
~mandy
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What ever you are thats what you should tell him!! most guys like an honest girl!! and you should be honest with them becuz some guys just ask that to see if u r honest.
Kris
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You always tell the truth.You might just want to add that you don't sleep around just for the fun of it but only when you are in a commited relationship.
Tells him no, your not a virgin.But, you aren't going to jump right in and have sex with him just because your not.
Don't lie to make someone like you. You will eventually get caught in that lie and make things worse. Better to start out on the right foot.
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hi, you asked for the truth...i'll tell you the truth...for most of the guys now a days its not like a big deal if you're not a vergin...but- but...there are some guys that will like more a vergin girl, because they'll be the first ones in her life, and they'll feel special and proud of what they got in the side, because no other guy will look and b like "yah i fucked her"...you know what i mean? its like they wont get left overs..you know? but there's some guys that they dont really care...because now a dayz its so hard to find a vergin girl..it will be a miracle you know...so most of them dont really care that much...but they also dont want a girl who has done it with everybody you know...at least wit one guy or 2...with the ones that she loved...they'll understand...so in my opinion its better if you tell him that you have done it...you know...because guys look on the qualitys of the girl 2,her personality, honesty,etc. because if he finds out that you've done it he wont see you the same way. but if you tell him he'll trust you! plus its true that some guys likes the girl to b experienced so they wont have to deal wit virgin shit. but like i said, they dont really like the girl if she's been round you know what i mean...so be careful! i say you should tell him that you're not a vergin...and that you've done it with this one person you loved because you thought you would be with him for a long long time...things didnt work out...but the verginity got lost. i dont think telling him that ur a vergin and lieing to him will make him like u more...if you want a good relationship then you should start from being honest...and the guys should like you for who you are not for someone you're not...hope i helped...xoxo effy
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The only stupid questions are the ones left unasked ^_^.
I know you don't want to hear "tell him the truth," but honestly, that is, in fact, what I would do.
My deal is that I want a guy to like me, or wanna have sex with me because of who I am, not because of who he thinks I am. If he knows you're inexperienced, he'll probably be gentler. There's also nothing gross about having sex with a virgin.
If you are a virgin, chances are you may bleed, the first time. My first time, it hurt like hell...and there's always the possibility that he'd find out you lied to him, due to all that.
If you AREN'T a virgin, however, he may know that virgins sometimes bleed, and if you don't he may figure out that you lied to him anyway.
I always expect the worst, and I always end up thinking "if I don't tell the truth, this'll happen, and then THIS'll happen, and ohgod, they'll figure out I lied!"
I learned after awhile to tell the truth.
Though since your question was really about what guys in particular like, I would guess that they like to hear "I'm a virgin". As you said, getting a virgin to lose her virginity is big, and would probably make them proud.
Unless you're going after a really sleazy guy, I wouldn't pretend to be more experienced than you are. Or less.
If you're going for a pretty clean-cut kinda guy who's just curious, tell him you're a virgin, if you are.
More experience doesn't necessarily make sex better. For instance, my guy and I have been having sex for awhile, and I still don't orgasm every time. More experience just means you know what to expect (and possibly what you like).
Just to clear this up, I do not advocate lying in ANY way, shape, or form, and I stand by the saying "honesty is the best policy" because so far, for me, it really has been. I completely disapprove of lying.
Really, the truth can't get you hurt any more than lying can. If the guy doesn't want you because you're a virgin, you don't want him. Sex should not be all that a relationship is about. The same goes with not being a virgin. If the guy doesn't want you because you've had sex before, you don't want him. Just felt like I should say that...
I hope this helps! If you have more questions, comments, whatever, don't hesitate to talk to me!
-Siren =)
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well im not really sure what guys like more. i personally think that they like virgins more because that way they arent as pressured to be "good in bed" or pressured to try to have sex with you if they are virgins. i hope you'll have the courage to be truthful even though you might not want to at first. in the end it will be better.
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honesty is the best policy in this case. <3
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Well, K, I would say, if a guy asks, tell him, "yes, I'm a virgin." Because, it's better for them to know.. you see, I wouldn't really know, 'cause no one's ever asked me that question.. you could consider me "prude", but if that's what I am.. I'm glad to be that way. I guess all the guys that I socialize with know that I'm a Christian and I'm not gonna have sex until I'm married. I don't know.. ok? 'Cause this question was many, many questions all in one.. but, realize that once you've lost your virginity you can never get it back. You can only lose it once... lose it to the right man, please! I'm begging you, save sex for marriage. If and when you get married, your sex life will be different if you've had sex many times than how it could be if you're only with one man. You might rate this answer badly, but this is all I know to tell you. This guy should know you're a virgin.. and you should stay that way.
-FunnyCide
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Well, I'm not a guy, so I'm not sure what they like. But my current boyfriend is thrilled that I'm a virgin. (not sure for what reason though). Really, I don't think it matters. Just tell him you're not a virgin. Every guy is different, and if he doesn't like you because you're not a virgin, then he's not worth your time. Sorry if I couldn't help much, but again, I'm not a guy, so I don't know what they like most. Just remember that they're all different. Seriously, just tell him you're not a virgin, and I bet it won't matter one bit. Good luck!
Hope i helped!
♥ Erin
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I think that if you don't want to be fake about anything, tell him the honest truth! I mean, why would you lie about something that big?
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hey I'm a guy, lol. i'd say to tell the truth. both your friends are right. the guys and girls. it all depends on the guy. me, for example, i like virgins. some guys, don't. be honest, thats the most importantt thing i can tell you babe. he should like you for you, not what or who you do. =) hope this helps ya out. rate my advice and rate my column/site. :)
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If you are a virgin tell him that. Your morals should be better than to say you have had sex. I think you should put off sex until later in life but thats your call. I say do not lie to this guy if you don't want to ruin things with him. I also suggest that if you are going o have sex with him, do it while you're dating. You will just get hurt otherwise.
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well you should tell them the truth.............
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you should tell them the truth??
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i think thast you should just tell them what you are. no sence on lying to them cause they could find out and be mad that you lied to them.
im still one so when guys ask me i tell them i am. so when they ask u if u are or are not tell them. dont lie that would be a mistake!
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try being honest with the guy, you are who you are,and you cant take back stuff you've already done, so tell the guy the truth and see where that leads you...if he doesnt like you for things that you've done, well hes not worth your time...good luck
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