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yo wuts up. im back! sorry but summas here and i've been pretty busy. but im gonna try to be on more and take pics. ask me for advice. lata. peace!

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My mom has not been letting me do anything. I have not done anything wrong and i have done everything she has told me to do. She treats me like crap and im sick of it. Im not even allowed to go outside in the back yard anymore. I am begning to hate her. Any advice on how to deal with this shit?

hey babe. well first off, how old are u? ok i think u should talk to her. maybe she's having bad days at work out with the family. my folks are like that too sometimes. but ignore it for a while and if it keeps up try sitting her down caand talking to her. i know it sound cheesy but it can help!

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ok heres the thing, im a little nervous about having sex with my boyfriend. its not my first time having sex, but its my first with him. i have had sex before and i was perfectly fine with it. my thing now is its his first time all together. im his first. and he wants to do this and im not pressuring him but he brought it up and said he wanted to. im fine with that but like, should i be worried about him with it being his first time? should i do something (that i would usually do) to him or with it being his first time just like idk keep it simple for him? would ya mind givin your opinion here? thank you in advance. (17/f if that helps)

honestly, i'd say do what you want. im kinda on the fencer here, ya know? i mean, yeah, you're his first so you should make it special, but then again, if you make just, you kow,ok-ay, then I'm sure he'll be fine with that, too. The good thing is that its not like he's going to compare u to anybody else, so whatever you do, I'm sure he;ll be happy to be even getting any. Have fun and be safe, lol.

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Hey, I like this guy hes perfect. Hes really good looking but hes 5 years older then me and lives like a long ways from me. Do you believe in long distance relationships??

Best advice I can give anybody, LISTEN TO YOUR HEART. I know it sounds cheesy but its tru. if you really want it to work out, then it WILL. u just have to ut a lot of effort into it. and so does ur 'partner'.

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It seems like you get this a lot, but you are hot. You should seriousl model for abercrombie...or call seventeen or cosmogirl and be the hottie of the month...haha thanks for making my day! love ya (and will im you soon)

hey babe. lol thanks. np. your really sweet.love you too, im waiting. =)

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Im 17 and i know ill be losing my virginity this summer. But apart of me still thinks HE is too good for me. And that im not that beautiful and skinny enough to have sex. Since you're a guy, do you think you could give me your input?

Hey babe. I'm sure you're beautil and skinny. Don't put yourself down like that babe. If you dont feel ready, then dont do it. Wait till you get the right feeling. Losing your virginity is something big, you might regret stuff if you dont think about it too much.

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I didn't know how else to reach you...'cause I'm still very new to this site...but I LOVE the answer you gave to that immature 13 year old who's all worried about her ugly friend having boyfriends...it totally made me LOL =)

Lol, thanks babe. Yeah, she needs to grow up. I have aim - xxxsp9.

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im so sick of not having a bf. im 13, 5'1" 128 lbs. blonde perfect teeth, no braces. anything a guy would want! the thing is i have NEVER had a bf. my frend has and she is really really unattractive. she has hideous crooked yellow teeth and puffy frizzy hair. i dont mean to be mean but i really hate the fact that an ugly grl has had 7 bfs and i had none. please please help!

(1) FUCK YOU! im not a fucking bitch! your a bitch how about you go fuck your mother! i dont act like this im just sad about being lonley! i am not dissing my best friend shes actually not that ugly, i just exaggerate! so....why dont you go kill yourself and havea nice day!



That's the feedback you left my friend, Renata. (xglam0urx) See, and this is why you dont have a boyfriend, girl. You're so immature. WHo the hell tells some to go kill themselves, and 'go fxck ur mother?" thats so old girl. I for one, am a guy. I know some guys go for looks, but nowadays personality is more important. And by the way, you're 13, youre still going thru puberty. dont talk shit about your own friends, what goes around comes aroun karma. and other girls are probably NICE and SMART thats why they have boyfriends, you, on the other hand, have a lot to learn. stay in school kiddo.

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ok, so this is the deal..i met this wonderful guy this summer, but he has a GF. Anyway, we spent 6 weeks together and we made out, held hand and all that (IT WAS WONDERFUL!) please dont tell me what i did was wrong, i know it was but i dont care cuz i love him, i really do. And he's told me that he loves me too. We made a deal yesterday (he's been with his GF for about 2 years, and he says he loves her too) he said, he doesnt want to cheat on her anymore cuz he loves her but if the feeling is right-something could happen between us this summer. And i was like: what do you mean? and he asnwered: well, im gonna have my place all to my self this summer soo..who knows what could happen between us!? ;) anyway, i live in japan and he lives in america so we only see eachother during the summer. Hmm, id ont really know what my question is..im just so cofused..i love him so much, and i miss him..i really dont give a damn about his GF (i know i sound like an evil person, but i really really really love him, i cant help i.)Is there anything i can do to get over him? should i even try to get over him? should i sleep with him? (he's 18 and im 14) what's gonna happen between us? ( sorry, i know you cant answer that question) he's just so amazing i dont know what to do. Alot of guys like me here in japan, but i dont like anyone of them im just soo stuck on joshua.
Help! please?- mariana

Oh man, oh man. Girl, you can do so much better than him, trust me. He is not worth any of your time. Pretend your the girlfriend, how would you feel? Trust me, you don't love him. You THINK you love him, but you don't. My advice, stay as far away as possible. Don't sleep with him. Sorry to sound like an harsh asshole but you have to understand, I'm a guy and I know how guys are. He's 18, you're 14, it seems as if he's trying to get some. You're better than that, I mean what if you get pregnant? Summer love comes and goes, it happens to everyone, but I'm sure you WILL get over him and there's plenty more out there for you. If you want to talk more about this drop one in my inbox. Or IM me on AIM, my sn is one my column. I'd love to talk more about this. Hope this helped you Mariana. Good luck babe! Please rate! =]

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As a guy maybe you will be able to help me. Me and my fiance have been together for going on 3 and half years, that was until Wednesday. We have now split, because I ask him to show me that he loves me more often, because I ask this he blames me for "cussing" at him to much. I know that it is hard for him sometimes to show me this but it is something that I feel that I need, even though I am pretty sure that he does love me. i have never cheated on him or anything to hurt him, he means more than life to me, and will give it all that I have to make sure that he is happy. This is not the first time that we have seperated, and after a few days and does eventually return but this time, my heart is not so sure. Can you tell me from a guys ppoint of view what you think will happen to my bf and I. Will you also give me advice on what to do to make sure that this never happens again??

Oh LORD. I don't know if I can help you much but I'll try. Honestly, if I were him, I'd probably come back. I seriously think he's gonna come back. Just give it time, he needs time to think everything over. Three and a half years? That's great babe. Its hard for us guys to show a girl we love them, you have to understand, guys are completely different then girls. And you, you cuss at him? Lol, I don't think its serious, is it? I mean, I doubt you do it everyday, or do you? Lol. How many times have you been seperated? Because I think if this is happening on and off, honetly, I don't want to say this, but maybe, just maybe, he isn't the one for you. Maybe GOD wants you to find someone new and maybe you SHOULDN'T get back togther. That's just a theory. Or maybe its a test of love, if you guys can really handle all the obstacles in life and hard times. If honestly someonee can't handle get bitched by their fiancee then thats trouble. Marriages have LOADS of fights, you have to be prepared for ANYTHING and EVERUYTHINHG. My advice is, overall, if and when he comes back, sit him down and explain everything. Tell him how you feel. Let him know how much you love him, and you can't handle being without him. Hopefully he'll respond back telling you the same, and hopefully everything will go back to normal. Just try to maybe not cuss at him and don't expect much out of us guys. I mean, I'm not saying he shouldn't do simple things to show you he loves you, but don't don't tell him. He should figure it out himself. =) Lol, its hard trust me. But if this keeps happening on and off, then tell him how you feel. Maybe you guys can see a counselar or therapist? Sorry for everything you have to go through, this is NOTHING compared to what's in stock for you when you get martried. But I hope this helped ya. Rate my advice and check out the column! =)

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your a guy right? lol. when u eat out a girl you want them to be all shaved completely down there right?

Well all guys are different. Some guys do, some guys don't. I think it's better when a girl DOES shave, but it doesn't matter much. =) I hope this helped ya. Rate my advice and check out the column! =)

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okey, i didn't know what category to put this in so i just chose love life. Anyway I was wondering about all the sweet nicknames.. I mean everytime a guy calls me babe or darling i die inside..seriously just a name can make me fall. But what can we call guys? Is there anything we can say to make them shiver? can we call them babe? Is there any laid back names? (like you know if we're just talking on msn and he says : hey, babe - what's up? Can we say something like that, even if we're not dating? cuz guys can use babe howvever..do we have anything like that? Something that will make them all nervous and stuff or just happy. And nothing that will make them embarresed, like darling is probably too feminin for them..Thanx!//marlena

Hey! Lol, this is a good question. I get called by friends: babe, hun, hottie, sexy, & sweetie. Of course its ok to call guys babe. You're right darling is kinda too feminine for them, but babe is just right. Even if your not dating. My (girl)friends always IM me saying hey sweetie whats up or hey babe how are you, or just a plain hey sexy how you doing? are all good. I'm not too familiar with any other good nick-names for guys. But I hope this helped ya. Rate my advice and check out the column! =)

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this is a stupid question but i'll ask it anyway. What should you tell a guy if he ask you if you're a virgin? Evereyone is telling me different. some of my male friends tell me that you should defenetly tell them that your a virgin because all guys like the girls to be like pure and clean and stuff (i dont know, thats what they tell me) and that if your a virgin they will like you more because it will be like a big deal for them..you know, to get a virgin to lose her virginity is big, it will make them proud of them selves or something. And some of my friends tell me that they always go for girls that lost their virginity already because that would make them more experienced and stuff.And it will make the sex better.. And that it wont be as gross as having sex with a virgin..I dont know im soo confused! I dont want the guy to think that im a slut! but should i tell him that ive already done it so he likes me more? please don tell me to tell him the truth! tell me the truth, what do most guys like? Thank you! (K)

hey I'm a guy, lol. i'd say to tell the truth. both your friends are right. the guys and girls. it all depends on the guy. me, for example, i like virgins. some guys, don't. be honest, thats the most importantt thing i can tell you babe. he should like you for you, not what or who you do. =) hope this helps ya out. rate my advice and rate my column/site. :)

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hey i want to address these questions to the guys:

-what is it that causes you to break up with us (excluding obvious reasons such as cheating, clingyness, and vice versa).

-when you get around to getting bored of us, what are your motives? and what do you do to "fix" the problem?

-if applicable, why do men cheat?

-describe your version of a "perfect girlfriend" (personality trait-wise mainly).

i was watching the simpsons last night where marge went to get lipo but got boob implants instead cuz she thought homer was getting bored of her and it just made me ponder about this to understand you guys better.

i myself am a current girlfriend, and our relationship is doing great, but i'd like to know what else i can do to make my man happy (other than the typical things). :)

thanks!

Hey --- please don't get offended by ANY of this. Just speaking MY opinions and thoughts about all of this.


1. Usually we get bored. Guys are comletely different from girls. We mostly like to get some, if you know what I mean. And if a girl is not putting out, we move on. But that doesn't apply to all guys. For me, some reasons would have to be: girl is too shy, boring, and in some cases, the stuff I mentioned at the beginning of my answer.

2. Try to do more things. Not always sexual, but new things. Say instead of going ot the movies all the times, go to an arcade or park. Spice things up someway.

3. As I mentioned before, men usually want some. And they think if a girl isn't putting OUT, that, then, she's not interested. So they move on to someone else. Or SOMETIMES they're not getting ENOUGH fFROM ONE GIRLK SO THEY TRY TO GET MORE TILL THEIR SATISFIED. Or they meet an even hotter girl.

4. For me, it's mostly about personality anyway. She has to be somewhat decent looking, and I'd like her to be nice, pretty, funny, you gotta love a girl with a sense of humor, and someone you can trust and have fun with. Someone you can be comfortable with.

DO ANYTHING. Something new! Surprise him... like say he likes hockey, take him out to a hockey game or something. Ya know? Well hope everything goes well! Please rate me and view my site.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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ok so im goin out with this guy..but we never see eachother at school...and it totally sucks!! i mean we talk alot online and on the phone but im always afraid hes gonna break up with me! should i talk to him about it??!

no girl should ever have to worry about their boyfriend, same goes for guys. the girl should always be able to talk to her man, and vice-versa about how's she's feeling. i know people wo'd go out for like 1 month and not even say hi. thats not worth it. talk to him more online and tell him how you feel. if he doesn't understand or try to do anything to change, he's not even worth ur time babe. hope this helped. view my site and rate my advice please.

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i know alot of girls probably do this.. but i always compare myself to models and girls who i believe are prettier than me.. im always putting myself down and looking in the mirror finding everything thats wrong with me and wishing i was perfect like other girls I know... does anyone else do the same.. how do you get over it

hey babe. yeah ur not the only one. my (girl) friends do the same and i hate it. they're Always like oh my god i'm so fat and they're really not. but try to remember wveryone is different. sometimes, no matter how pretty you are, things are bad. a pretty face isn't everything, most pretty girls are bitches. (no offense to anyone) i'm just saying take it from me, im a guy, if u got the personality then its all good. hope this helped yoou. view my site and rate my advice please.

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my boyrfiend and i have been together for two years we are both 17 and he is in the army well in oct. of this year he was suppose to be deployed to baghdad for a year and a half, which ruined our plans of going to college together so i planned on staying home and going to a school near by till he got back well turns out he actaully wont be going, but now he has this mindset of not going to college at all, which i think is pretty stupid. He said that when he turns 18 this fire department has some kind of job waiting for him. he said he would be making 40k a year and insists that he doesnt HAVE to go to college at all. He hasnt really made up his mind which I think is unfair to me b/c what he does effects me and i am again finding myself putting my life on hold for him...we grad. in May and im not committed to anything school wise which really scares me Im so lost and dont know what to do getting someone else point of view would be awesome thanks....

Hey, sorry I know it's kinda late and all, but if you still need help, IM me on AIm @ xxxsp9. :)

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ok there is this guy name josh and we went out over the summer then broke up a day before school started. I still like him. we havent tlaked in a while but the other day we did a little bit. Last week my friend asked him would he ever go back out with me, and he just smiled. but he has a girlfriend. Also, alst week someone asked him would he ever go out wth this girl name brooke nad he said nnooo .. but he didnt say yes or no when someone asked about me. Then wed. at church, he sat near me but not right next to me .. it went me, his friend murphy(murphy likes me) and then josh and we talked in a group for a little bit. Do you think he still likes me? what should i do? im 14 and female and i need the truth .. please dont just tell me what i want to hear .. i need to hear the truth!

hey babe! i seriously think he likes u. trust me. but if he has a gf, wait. i mean put urself in her shoes, let whatever between them happen cause i have a feeling you'll get your chance. it seems as if he likes u, ;). maybe just have a couple more people ask to make sure or ask urself. if u need more help, u know where to reach me. peace.!

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I hate to go to work and it interuupts with my school. Is there any way for me to make money form the internet? Is there a way that i can work at home from my computer? It does not have to be a lot of money.

try looking up at home jobs on yahoo or msn or something. view my column and please rate

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i have swimming every-other day first hour at my school. basically, we have to swim for 50 minutes, and then we get 10 minutes to shower - change- and get ready, and then itsoff to our next class. i`m very much a girly-girl, hardly ever seen without my makeup on and spend over an hour getting ready for things. I NEED HELP how am i suposed to get ready in 10 minutes?! and how can i do my hair really cute when it`s wet?? i don`t really care about not having time to put on my make up, because i don't really want to be known as the barbie. BUT i dont want to have gross nasty hair either! HELPPPP

hey. i had the same problem, thanks god swim is over. but i wouldn't even comb/brush it, just leave it the way it was and add mousse to it. lots of people liked it and copied the hairstyle, it was like a messed up but yet pretty hair do. just put in a lot of mooose, haha. lol =] hope i helped and please view my column & rate!

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ok friday night there was a basketball game and i went and i hung out with one of my bestfriends k but at the game i thought she was being mean right ok well after the game was a dance and i didnt go but i called my friend k and she was there and she hung up in face which made me really mad k and yesterday sunday i was talking to her on aim and shes all are u mad at me and i was like yea and shes all y and im like well you hung up on me when i called and lately you just start yelling at me for no reason... so she like got mad and blocked me... she came to me at school last week and just starts yelling at me telling me that i could have gotten her phone taken away and im just like ok well you gotta tell me that instead of yelling at me and yea shes done it more then once and like i was trying to explain to her that I hate when she yells at me cuz were supposed to be friends but she wont let me... and this pisses me off cause sometimes it feels like she doesnt treat me like a friend but something else... today i went up to her and tried to work things out cause shes my best friend so i went up to her and smiled and then shes like thats such a stupid reason for you to be mad and im like no you arent supposed to hang up in my face and this other girl standing next to me is like yea you should have just been like i cant talk right now gotta go bye but she didnt and then she starts yelling infront of some of friends that i shouldn't call her cell phone after nine and a bunch of crap so i just turn around and leave cause i serioulsy dont need her yelling at me... but still im so mad cause its like i cant tell her how i feel and if i do she will get mad isnt that dumb arent we supposed to be bestfriends and tell each other when were mad and stuff i even told her that it hurts my feelings in stuff but she wouldnt listen to me...
What should i do PLEASE HELP!!!
~!~Live Strong~!~

i agree with those answers. if she's best friend she wouldn't be doing this kinda shi* - joey

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