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i know alot of girls probably do this.. but i always compare myself to models and girls who i believe are prettier than me.. im always putting myself down and looking in the mirror finding everything thats wrong with me and wishing i was perfect like other girls I know... does anyone else do the same.. how do you get over it
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You are not alone. Its normal, look at linsey loan for example, shes realy, she isnt the tinest person and she hasnt had 1000 surgerys and shes beautiful. All you need is self confidence. You can also drink more water and less sodas. That will help you. Also snack less. Its not really dieting just being a little healthier. Also dont look at the scale or size lable for numbers it only matters how you feel. Even if eating a little healthier doesnt help you loose pounds it will most likely help you feel better.
You can also try finding some new clothes may also help with you appearence. You can find shirts that are tighter around the bust and loser towards the tummy. This will help you feel more scomfprtable in the clothes you are wearing.Also wearing cute pants instead of a tiny little shirt will keep you comfortable if you are unhappy with your legs.
Most important Be yourself. You are you for a reason.
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God made you just the way you are and wouldn't change you for anything. People like you for you and it doesn't matter if you look like a model. Besides they don't get to have a real life like you and i don't know what I would do without eating McDonald's everyonce in a while! :-P
if you still feel bad about yourself then get a membership at the gym and go on a diet (not a crash diet of course) and you can even try out new make up at the mall! thats always fun!
good luck
♥ ashleyanne
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I used to do the same. I cope by reminding myself that no one should be able to define a perfect girl's body and image.
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I think that you shouldn't compare yourself to models if it just puts you down every time. Feeling like you have got to have the perfect body leads to many serious problems, one of which is anoerexia. When you become obsessed with your looks then you aren't able to concentrate on the more important things. The next time you compare yourself to a model, think about the fact that most models probably got suregery to look like they did and that no one's perfect. I don't think you want to go thorugh all of that pain just to get and unnatural look that god didn't give you. You want to be a real girl, not an artificial one. I hope I helped.
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Models are airbrushed. Watch the special celebrities without makeup lol. Besides, you don't have to be a model to look and feel beautiful.
♥ Twixi
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the models, first of all, that are in magazines are all photoshopped to death.. none of them really look that way. and two, most of them have to have surgery to look good anyway. Someone envies you all the time.. even when you don't realize it someone might envy you the tiniest bit for something that you don't even see in yourself. Know you are beautiful in your own way, and that you are more beautiful on the inside than any of those models or other girls will ever be. :) hope I helped, if you need anymore advice I'm always around.
!Sarah
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Most women (and some men!) do that. It's really really hard to avoid. You have to remember that it's a models *occupation* to look good. They have people waiting on them 24/7, telling them what to eat, when to sleep, what to do, and all of that. And they seem to look flawless, but trust me, they aren't, and they're insecure too. So are your "perfect" friends.
If you're worried about being perfect for the opposite sex, you should know that boys aren't NEARLY as picky as girls think them to be. I mean, do you only look at the top 5% of the male population? I bet not. It really really IS personality. If you're confident and fun and interesting, that's all you need. Pretty but boring girls aren't any fun.
Moving on, find something (preferable several somethings) that you really like about yourself, body or mind. Whenever you start to worry about how you look, think about those things. Wear clothes that look nice on you and flatter you. Take a bit of time to look nice once in a while. Look into the mirror and think "I'm really not so bad. Pretty, in fact."
Self-acceptance and love is a loooong journey.
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I think we all do. We all have flaws, and it's nothing we can change. No matter how great those girls look, it's all fake. They touch those pictures up with the computer, heck, its probably not even what those girls look like! You are beautiful in your own way, even if it's not the same way others are. Just don't think about what could make you look better, think about the things you have that others don't. This will make you feel a little better. You are one of a kind, a unique beautiful girl so quit putting yourself down! It's not worth it! Best of luck!
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I think every girl does the same thing, weather they admit it or not. I know I do and the best thing to do is just try to think positive. Find your best feature and play that up. Also try to remember that those models you see in magazines are airbrushed beyond belief so it would be really hard for a normal person to look like them, because thats not even how they look! Keep your head up and surround yourself with people who also dont compare themselves to models & such. It will get easier!
<3
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Dont compaire your self lots of models have loads of stylists and make up and plastic surgery your a natural girl. Im unhappy with the way i look not everyone is perfect just be who you are and people will love you for you and not how you look. Think to your self that there is alot of people who arnt as nice as me there all different shapes and sizes and different hair colours just love you for you!
luv roxie
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ok, im a guy and i say all girls are perfect and models think they are, and you should not think about the bad things about you and look for the good things good luck laters.
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I totally do that all the time and as i read this I realized that its kinda dumb...you shouldnt compare yourself to anyone just look in the mirror and find all the good things not the bad!..and tell yourself how beautiful you are!!
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i do that sometimes but i think and i say i love the way i am im glad im like this i have al ot of friends and alot of guys i no give good comments on me so i dont care
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Yea I do that sometimes..the best way to get over it is to find your best qualities like your hair or your teeth or smile or something and perfect it. then you have something to be confident in. but you should also look within because you probably have something thoes models dont, you may be creative, sensitive, a good friend, caring, awesome personality etc. and maybe you have to work to be " beautiful " but what does that mean? not everybody can be a size zero and have perfect hair and perfect smile etc. they have flaws too..but it would be better to be yourself, cuz you shouldnt change you because everyone thinks that thoes models are " beautiful " whos to judge? nobodys perfect, everybody has flaws even if they are hard to see, they might be really pertty and flawless on the outside but on the inside have insecurities and have doubts and be self centered etc, and somebody may weigh 350 pounds and not look so " pretty " but on the inside they are a wonderful person and they know just how to make you smile when your having a bad day, so dont change yourself to be like them, just be youself, that doesnt mean you dont have to or have to change your hair color or the makeup you use or your hairstyle etc, just dont change the way you are to be the way they are, cuz thats not cool...so just consentrate on your good qualitites, hair, makeup, face, smile, teeth, acessories, clothes, shoes etc, pick your best one and perfect it. Dont look in the mirror as much, and when you do dont look in the mirror for long periods of time just trying to pick out all your flaws..your beautiful inside and out, dont let anybody tell you different....hope i helped...mauh!
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hey babe. yeah ur not the only one. my (girl) friends do the same and i hate it. they're Always like oh my god i'm so fat and they're really not. but try to remember wveryone is different. sometimes, no matter how pretty you are, things are bad. a pretty face isn't everything, most pretty girls are bitches. (no offense to anyone) i'm just saying take it from me, im a guy, if u got the personality then its all good. hope this helped yoou. view my site and rate my advice please.
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Hey, don't feel stupid!!! I do that too!! My friend gave me this advice, and I'll give it to you. Think about the qualities that you have that other people admire: hair, eyes, etc... Then just remember, the pictures in the magazines are computer generated. Have fun trying to imagine how terrible the s really look!!!
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I personally think most girls do. There's not point in it because it just puts yourself down. Just think about how God created and everyone of his children are beautiful and unique.
x0x-Sarah
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I DO THAT ALL THE TIME! You just need to realize that those models aren't naturally pretty. They've had SO much work done. You also need to realize that you can't change yourself without being fake about it, so appreciate what you have.
hope i helped!
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WEll i look at others too but i try to see the bad stuff about them and the good stuff on me, but i guess you just have to be happy with your body at some point.
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Every person has unique qualities. Many perople see their qualities as weaknesses or ugliness. Most of the time, they aren't. if every girl looked just like a model, we would all go insane. Just because you may not be as skinny, tan, tall, short, or 'perfect' as all the models on TV and in magazines doesn't mean you aren't beautiful. The only thing that makes you beautiful is who you are and if you accept yourself inside and out. The only way to stop is realize you are beautiful and even though you may not be as beautiful as model (which by the way wear so much makeup that it isn't funny....friend is a model) you are still beautiful.
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I'm self concious about my weight, i'm 5 ft and 99 or 100 pounds, and sometimes I just disapoint myself when I see how fat my stomach n thighs look. I try to cheer myself up by just reminding myself that there are far worse people out there. and there are probably a lot of people that look worse than you, and you should be glad that you're not like a total train wreck.
and everyone has problems with the way they look, even supermodels. no one is perfect, and there is always something that makes someone feel bad about themselves. you dont have to wish to be perfect because everyone is perfect in their own way. while you look up to supermodels and pretty girls, someone is probably looking up to you and they'll think that you're perfect
dont feel so bad about yourself because it is impossible to be perfect. no one is truly, truly, happy with the way they are
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I'm like that, in a way. I keep thinking my stomach is fat, and now I'm all screwed up. It sucks. You know how unrealistic models are?! I mean they're so skinny, if you asked me it's kinda gross =. And some things are computerized, it's not even a real body! My mom keeps telling me to stop comparing myself to others. Everyone is different, everyone has different body figures. NOBODY is perfect.
Try picking out the positive things about your body. Just try to feel comfortable with yourself. Accepting your body as it is is hard, but once you do it's one of the greatest feelings.
Hope I helped!
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1) no one is perfect
2)look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Say it enough you will believe it's true
3)look at others as less than you
4)hang out with geeks and freaks- people you know that you look better than
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Believe it or not, EVERYONE does this. They may not realize it, but everyone, whether it be hardly ever or all the time, wishes they could look a certain way or whatever. And you know what? There's always going to be someone who you think is prettier, smarter, cooler, or nicer than you. Know what else? That's not a bad thing. You are beautiful in your own way, and you don't need a mirror to tell you that. There's no reason you need to look like the girls on TV, because no one does, right? Be happy you're the way you are. Appreciate the fact that there are other girls who would give their right arms to be half as pretty as you! Most of all, don't let others tell you how you should look. Just because a celebrity is as thin as a toothpick and blonder than who knows what doesn't mean you have to be! Well, I hope my "novel" (lol) didn't bore you too much! (:
Good luck,
gubblebum
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I always used to look at myself and think that I don't look pretty enough. But I kind of grew out of it by just accepting my body. I would look in the mirror with just a bra and underwear and just look at myself and eventually I said that it was good enough and it didn't matter what other people thought. You just need to learn to love your body! It might take some time though!
♥ Always,
Maria
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no one's perfect honey
**you said thet most grls do that but does that mean yournot a "GRL" ?
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Well i cant recall staring at myself in the mirror, looking for my flaws. But everyone has them, not just girls either. Best thing I can say is just to quit thinking about "what if" you looked liked one of those models or a girl at your school. Sure plastic surgery or whatever could make you similar to those type of people, but just accept who you are, and get over it. Your made to look the way you look for a reason, and by the way no one is perfect, so just dont put yourself down so much. Go out and enjoy yourself, do something besides look at the mirror and see flaws. Draw a picture or something. Dont take this in a rude way.
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I'm the exact same way. Believe me, you're not the only one. Even celebrities and the prettiest girls do it. You just have to always remember that nobody's perfect. I usually get over it by remembering a time when someone said that I was pretty or remembering a nice compliment that made me feel good.
Hope I could help!
-Mallory
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