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15/f-I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. Previously he was going out with my ex-best friend, whom i am at poor terms with as a direct result of my dating him. While i know i made a mistake by doing this, I don't regret ending the friendship for many personal reasons. Still, i can't escape her wrath. she tells our mutual friends and others, that i'm a whore or a slut or other related labels, when in reality i'm very near prude. What should i do to protect my reputation? I don't want one mistake to haunt me forever. thanks <3
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i think that if the people who she is telling really know you they wont think that and besides shes probly just jealous. so i think you should try not to make things obviouse that she is hurting your feelings if she is and maybe she will get bored and quit.
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Any real friend of your will know that she is lying about you.Since your boyfriend is no longer going out with your ex girlfriend I want you to stop considering it a mistake.She's the one with the problem not you, okay? She's jealous,you got the guy and she couldn't keep him. Other than that ther isn't a lot to be done about rumors.Those who know you know better.Those who don't know you probably don't care.:}
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<i>The only way to stop the fire is to put out the flame.</i> You heart your ex-bestfriend a lot by dating her ex, so therefor she is trying to make you feel like she feels. The only thing to do in this situation is to go to the source of the problem, you ex-BF, and talk to her. Ask her why she feels the need to spread nasty and untrue rumors about you. Explain to her that her efforts of breaking you and him up are not working, and that if she wants to go around making herself look childish and jealous, then that is fine with you. You can't stop someone from spreading rumors about you, but you can get back your dignity by letting them know that their words don't hurt you. If the people you are talking to are you and her's mutual friends, then they already know that these rumors are untrue and that she is just being spiteful. Your reputation is fine, and there is nothing here that will haunt you. You know how you are, your boyfriend knows how you aer, and your <b>true</b> friends know how you are, and that should be all that matters.
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Even though you dont regret ending your friendship with her you should heve never gone out with her ex. What you did is verry disrespectful. And she is being a jackass for calling you all those names. But think about it...if you and you bf breakup and you are crushed, and your current closest friend start going out with him...how would you react? Probably the same way your ex best friend did. And you should also think about if your bf is really worth all this trouble. I mean what kind of guy goes out with his ex's best friend....? Obviously not a good guy. There is not much you can do to save your reputation. I would tell you to avoid her and to not pay attention to her. And to act like you dont care and to not stoop down to her level...But then that would make me a hippocrite (I think i spelled that wrong, LOL). Cause I know if I were in your position I'd talk mad shit about her too. But then again if I were in her position I would probably call you a whore and a slut too (even if you arent ont). But even if this does make me sound hippocritical...you really shouldnt give a flying fuck about what she says. she's just mad jealous that you have him now and she doesnt. And to start a fight and to badmouth someone over a boy is stupid. And she's acting like a fucking loser. And remember ...she could bad mouth you all she wants but in the end....you are still gonna have your man. And she's not. Hope I helped a bit cause I know I didn't exactly answered your question how you would have probably liked, but anyways...Good Luck ;>
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what a b!tch! well if your friends are hearing that, tell them whats going on. dont be too loud or mean about it, just tell them u arent a whore if your with the same guy for 6 months and havent done anything. they should side with you. just dont confront her yet, that could end up making things worse. <3
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Maybe you should of left your bestfriend's ex-boyfriend alone, since that is why she is angry. Your just feeding the fire being with him, there are other fish in the sea. That is probably the worst thing you could do to a girl, especially if you knew her once, and was friendly with her, now i guess you'll just have to suffer the consequences.
Good Luck with that,
xoxo
_Granny
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