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here's my problem..i've had this HUGE crush (i dont even like calling it a crush, i think i love him..but no one thinks it's possible so whatever..)anyway, ive had this huge crush on a guy fro about 8 years (i've known him all my life) but we're not really tight friends. (thats not my problem) The thing is, i've never tried to hit on the guy or anything cuz i wanted to respect his GF and all..They've been together 7 years (since 4th grade)and during all this time i've liked him..and i know he really loves her, but they just broke up 3 weeks ago, im gonna let him get over her cuz i know he needs time (c'mon it wa 7 years!!) but then after that? will i ever be able to replave his first love, his gf of 7 years? its gonna be terrible he's gonna be comparing me with her..and i cant compete with her and what they had. What am i going to do? When he first gottogether with her i decided to get over him..and i've been trying ever since..but it didnt work =( seven years later, here i am, still in love with him..so please dont tell me to get ver him! it wont work..please help me, please!!
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Well if there are broken up, then he is fair game. There is no reason not to consider getting to know him better. The possibilites are greater now then they were when he was going with her. As far as being compared to her, or him dating you on the rebound, or just using you to make her jealous. Well, all of those are possibilities, and you are aware of it, because you mentioned them. While you may lead with your heart, you need to pay real close attention, to his actions, if your gut tells you that is all it is, then break it off. Try being friends first. Find out what kind of girl makes him happy. I won't agree that you can't compare to his girlfriend, but if you think so, let me say this. It is not for looks alone that men fall in love, they want attention, they want to be told they are special, they want to feel special. If he rocks your world and you let him know that, that can be more appealing that a beautiful girl who thinks only of herself.
But go slow at first, to be sure that he is interested in getting to know you better, and not just getting back at his old girlfriend.
Hope it works out for you
Michele
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hey,
1st I dont think you should compare yourself to her(his ex) because i'm sure you guys are totally different and you sound like you are as good a person as she is!! :)
anyway- DON"T try to get over him! don't give up girl! Everyone knows that dreams come true!
I do believe that if something is meant to happen it will! I personally think that you should wait 2 more weeks then go for it! by that i mean you should go talk to him a lot. Make him notice you! Ask if he wants to hang out with a bunch of people over the weekend (your friends and his)
play it cool and most important- Be yourself. but at the same time- keep your options open to other guys too. Just incase nothing happens or you don't like him as much now that you know him more (sometimes this happens)
xoxo hope i can help!
best of luck!!
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No one can take the place of a first love.So, don't get jealous about that.It will fade over time but most likely never forgotten.
You seem to be pretty level headed about it.Will he compare you to her. At first probably.
Should you persue him.Yes.I don't see why not.
Just realise that it might be rough at first.If you guys get along well enough you will soon make her a distant memory.
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If you love him and all, and you're willing to show him love back and give him the best you can, and he accepts that even though you can't compete, great! If he doesn't, well then he's too shallow and it probably would never work out. Give it a shot, let him get over her then make a move and see what he does.... A quote from MFS once: "Love is a two-way street." You can't just go on without giving and loving someone else just because you want love back, it never works. And it does just the opposite - if you love him, and he doesn't love you, well then too bad for you, you can't just keep trying to get it back. So go on, give it a shot; if it works, Alright! Have fun with your boyfriend and the best of luck to the new couple. If it doesn't, well, good luck next time. But always just move on when someone doesn't work out for you.
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Naa. He wasnt going out with her in 4th grade. They were just friends. They probably accepted going out in 6th or 7th. Dont worry. Its not of 7 years.
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I think you should move on and find someone else. You were waiting for almost a decade for him to notice you, and he never did. I know you said not to tell you this, but you should really try to get over him. Be there for him as a friend, but find somebody else.
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hey
i know you dont want me to tell you to get over him.but did you ever think that mabey you could of had alot of fun and guys in those eight years.you sound like a very nice person and if he cant see that then mabey you werent meant to be. but if tou do want to try a relationship with him dont try to change your self to act like his ex girlfriend because your right he will try to compare you guys.if you are going to have a relationship with him first be there for him through this rough time and spend alot of time with him if you can tell he likes you, you should ask him out.
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okay yes i know its hard to get over boys... so rite now all you can do is get really close to your friend because he just broke up with his girlfriend. comfort him and be there for him and he'll see that you're an awesome person. Then maybe he'll be interested and if he starts to show interest show it back. I hope i helped! good luck!
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