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i guess you can say i'm good at giving advice. I've been through a lot. I'm not really like some other columists when i give advice. I'm honest and kind at the same time. Just please don't ask b/s questions. thanks &hearts

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Ok, I love my friends very much don't get me wrong. I have so much fun with them. But tonight I just broke down and started crying because I was so pissed and upset. I feel like I'm always the one being laughed at. We all make fun of eachother, and we laugh together, but I feel like I'm hardly ever taken seriously. One of my friends kept saying stuff, saying I live in the ghetto when I don't. And he knows it, he just wants something to laugh at. I didn't care, and it was funny, but it kept building up. Does this happen with anyone else? What do you do? I'd really like to talk to anyone in the same situation. Thank you so much.

hey
i'm in the same situation too. What i usually do is get it all out in writing (by either diary/journal, poems, songs, letters) and the best part is you feel better afterword and you dont have to show anyone. L.O.L i hope that helps its how i get my anger out . L.O.L but after that try saying what you feel to them but if that doesnt work then forget them ! its summer and try to make some new friends n forget about the old ones if you really can't stand them. I honestly think starting out on a clean slate is always the best! hope i can help! if you need any advice ley me know!

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Hey, first off, let me start off by saying I'm fifteen years old and I'm a freshman in high school. I am involved in local theatre productions. For the longest time, since as long as I can remember, I've wanted to be famous. I wanted to be a model or an actress. I mean, when you really ask "what do you DREAM of doing?" I dream of singing before a crowd or being in magazines modeling or being in a film. It just seems to me that this is so out of reach and that I will never be able to be this. I kind of let it escape my mind and thought of other career options, but I think about this every once and awhile and it's hard to forget this "dream". I wonder if maybe it keeps popping in my mind for a reason? So, I was wondering if anyone could give me any insight as to how they feel about this, and whether or not you think I should pursue this and how to start. ANY sort of comment would be very helpful!

heyy,
you should deffinately persue your dream. Don't let anyone tell you no. And you are only 15 so you still have a lot of time to be an actress/singer/model. Become as involved as you possibly can without letting it effect your school/social life. In a few years if you still LOVE it then start to look at colleges that you'd be interested in.
good luck!!!

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here's my problem..i've had this HUGE crush (i dont even like calling it a crush, i think i love him..but no one thinks it's possible so whatever..)anyway, ive had this huge crush on a guy fro about 8 years (i've known him all my life) but we're not really tight friends. (thats not my problem) The thing is, i've never tried to hit on the guy or anything cuz i wanted to respect his GF and all..They've been together 7 years (since 4th grade)and during all this time i've liked him..and i know he really loves her, but they just broke up 3 weeks ago, im gonna let him get over her cuz i know he needs time (c'mon it wa 7 years!!) but then after that? will i ever be able to replave his first love, his gf of 7 years? its gonna be terrible he's gonna be comparing me with her..and i cant compete with her and what they had. What am i going to do? When he first gottogether with her i decided to get over him..and i've been trying ever since..but it didnt work =( seven years later, here i am, still in love with him..so please dont tell me to get ver him! it wont work..please help me, please!!

hey,
1st I dont think you should compare yourself to her(his ex) because i'm sure you guys are totally different and you sound like you are as good a person as she is!! :)

anyway- DON"T try to get over him! don't give up girl! Everyone knows that dreams come true!

I do believe that if something is meant to happen it will! I personally think that you should wait 2 more weeks then go for it! by that i mean you should go talk to him a lot. Make him notice you! Ask if he wants to hang out with a bunch of people over the weekend (your friends and his)

play it cool and most important- Be yourself. but at the same time- keep your options open to other guys too. Just incase nothing happens or you don't like him as much now that you know him more (sometimes this happens)

xoxo hope i can help!
best of luck!!

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Ok, this one girl keeps saying stuff about me that isn't true. I don't know what I should do!!!!!! I don't want to hit her I just want her to leave me alone!!! Any advice would be great!!

hey
i think that you should just go up to her one day and ask straight out "Why are you doing this?" just dont yell at her when you ask. Try to be calm and understanding when you do this. Just incase she's going to start something, bring a few of you girls (friends lol) with you when you go to talk to her. Friends help out A LOT with situations like this! lol i know because of expieriance ;)
Xx best of luckxx
~`*HoPe I cAn HelP!!*`~

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Hey ya'll!

I am going up to New york to see the Broadway play Wicked in March. I became totally obsessed with the play and I bought the sound track, made a collage of pictures of the cast and the cast in the play. But like a week ago I found out, I am not going to see the original cast. I still want to go see it, But why did they change the cast? Its a brand new broadway play...why?
Just wanted to know & thanks... and I rate!
xo0x

hey
my teacher said the other day (she LOVES the play) that one of the cast members got seriously hurt.
i hope i can help( sooo sorry if i can't)
-hazeleyez

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Hi,
My baby rabbit just died from a heart problem :'( We knew she was gonna die because she was very ill, but we got her anyway because we wanted to give her the best life we could because we knew it would be short!! So, we got another rabbit with her. Now our baby rabbit has died, the other is soo lonley!! My mum wants another rabbit to keep her company but I'm not sure, I don't think I'm ready to have another one in her place just like that. Am I being selfish by not wanting another rabbit even though the other one is lonley? What should I do?

hey,
i'm sorry about your loss. You are DEFINATELY NOT being selfinsh. When something dies(animal, person,) you have to go through a grieving process before being rushed into getting another pet. My bunny died a year ago and i was rushed into getting another pet after only 10 days. I'm still in shock of it because i didn't have enough time to take in that she died. Even though i still had other pets at the time of loss, it was difffernt after she died. I think (personally) that you should calmly just explain to your mom that you are not ready. Maybe in a month or so you will be ready for another pet (if you feel this way) right now you Might not want a pet (i don't know) but after a little bit of time things will clear up and get better
hope i helped
best of wishes xo
~Just give it time~
-HazelEyez

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how does a girl in high school become popular?

hi
well to answer your question:
talking to a lot of people
getting evolved in school activities
being kind and generous
some1 who is at a lot of school fundraisers


hope i can help!

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OK so my boyfriend got me a lot for Valentine's day and all I got him was a teddy bear. I cant think of anything else to get him. If anyone has any ideas at all please help me!! Thanx so so so much , I rate high.

heyy
i was thinking that you could give him a picture frame with a pic of the two of you in it! mayb if you could find the ones that say stuff like "sweet hearts" something like that.
Hope i can help
best of luck
Happy pre v-day!!

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My best friend gave me a baby rabbit for Christmas (she breeds them, not in the greatest conditions but still)...but she died last night :'( I looked after her really well, I brushed her fur (she was a long hair) and fed her and gave her enough bedding and kept her hutch clean and gave her a run and everything...we think maybe she had a weak heart. But how the hell do I tell my friend? She's going to think I neglected the rabbit - I only had it two months!! I'm so upset and I can't deal with her hating me or anything...so how do I tell her?

hey,
i'm sorry about your bunny. I think that you should sit her down one day soon when she is in a good mood and tell her what you told advicenators. You say she is your best friend and i think she should understand.
i hope i can help
Best of luck*

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ok the valentines day dance is the 18th or 19th and i really want a guy to go with..even just as a friend would be fine with me. There is a guy i have had in mind about but he is a grade younger than me? is that wrong? also one of my close friends like him too and she know that i have a *crush* on him but she doesnt know that i actually like him..what should i do? i will rate high!! *lost*

hey
i think that you should sit your friend down and ask her if it would be okay if u and the guy end up going together. I think that friends are more "precious" than guys lol about the fact that hes a grade younger- that is definately NOT a problem!
hope i can help xox
goodluck
and have a GREAT dance/ v-day

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well with valentines day coming up i was soo confused on what to get muh boyfriend of 2 months. and i was thinking about doing this for him but i don't know if its stupid soo im asking you ppl for input! ok well here... at the beginning of the day im gonna go to his locker and hang out with him and act really bored! and then when i see him at the end of the day im gonna tell him that i really need to talk to him and its important and just to call me when he gets home. and im gonna hand him a note and that he has to read it when he gets home! and the note is going to be about how much i really do love him and care about him... does that sound like an ok thing to do for valentines day? and for the guys tell me what you would do if ur gf did this for you! thanks bunches

heyy
i think that ur idea is soooo cute!
i just wanted to say that u shuld decorate the note, also!!
i hope that i helped!
good luck on V-Day

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Ok well I'm in junior high but i still have no friends and the 1st semester is almost over!! Well, I have one friend, my best friend,a.k.a. my soul sista. I couldnt survive with out her!!! So the years half over and nobody wants to be my friend. I'm on the track team, I go to the basketball games and dances, and i'm in the school choir. So you would think I'd be miss. likable, righttt? WRONG!!!!!But nobody wants to be my friend. I'm not a dork and nothing is wrong with me....they just dont like me. I want to swich classes, but now that i think of it, no one in the other classes like me either. I want to swich schools, but i think it would be a hard transition leaving my best friend. What should I do plz plz plz help me i'm in desperate need of guidance right now plz!!!!!!!!!

heyy
well i really only have 1 bff and that is all anyone needs reelie!! just hang out w/ ur friend and u won't need any one!!
hope i can help!
sorry :( if i can't!

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im a 13/f.....no one likes ne at school everyone speards rumors and talks about me, my friends r backsabing bitches!!!!! no one knows how i feel im really depresserd, if one person doesnt talk about me its the other!!!!!

Please help!!!


I RATE 5'S 4 every answer that doesnt piss me off!!!!!


Thanks aton

hey
maybe you can start talking to one person that you don't know very well to let them know the real you and maybe they will stop.
i hope that helps!
Xo BeSt Of LuCk

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i love my boyfriend so much and we get along so well and i dont know how to express my feelings..he just takes my breath away..how can i let him know how i feel?like i can share anythign with him but im so scared to tell him how i truely feel about him

heyy
I'm sorry if this isn't the advice u r looking for, but i know that I can express my feelings throgh writing. Mabe you want to write him a letter? or tell him over instant message. After getting off your chest, you should feel better.
sorry if i can't help

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I love to go out with my friends all the time, we go to dances, out to the mall, and stuff like that but latley my mom has been asking me to take my sister with me. ITs kind of anoying because when i go out with my friends im with a whole group of guys and girls, and i dont always want my sister near me. I mean i love her to death but im sick of my mom asking me if she can come. What do i do?

(14/f)

heyy
I know that it could be hard sometimes with siblings, but what i think you should do is give up going out w/ friends mayb 3 times a month to do something with your sister instead of taking her with you when you just want to be with your friends. It will give you your space and still please your mom & sister. (oo yea but 1st see what your mom thinks!)
hope i can help!

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i am in two classes that has people that make fun of me so should i just ask my mom to talk to the principal so they can put me in a new classes? or should i stay there?

you should definately chang classes if they bother a lot. Also try to avoid them.
hope i can help
good luck

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do we hang out with jackie and raffaella?

Sara
yea as long as they dont piss us off
but lets stay nuetral

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ok I have/had a best friend for over 5 years all of a sudden when 8th grade cam she started to ignore me! well not exactly ignore but like she found a different best friend adn that person follows her around like a little dog! ok well this past week my "best friend" and the other person started to sit at another table and there was no room for the other girl to sit there so she sat with us. I asked her [in a calm voice] how come you guys didnt sit with us this week? and then she started SCREAMING at me and was like OK it was only a week get over it!!! Idk why you guys are soo pissed about it! and I said that we werent and then I said "when I sat with other people you guys got mad at me" and she said..SO THIS IS DIFFERENT! and stormed off and went to where my best friend was sitting. I asked someone later in the day who they were sitting with if they are mad at us(the table) and she said that my best friend said that we are all "joined at the hip, and she hated all of us in general"?!?!? and ya..I have been crying for the past 2 hours and I dont know what to say to my best friend becase I dont want her to hate me...

srry this was long and kind of complicated...

I will rate high if you help me!

*Andie*

Sorry about your friend and i think that you should just leave her to be alone w/ her other friends for a while, I mean that you should hang w/ your other friends for a while and just give her time to chill and get over it. Try to avoid her for a week and then try again to be friends w/ her. If there are anymore rumors floating around about her saying bad stuff about you, then ask if they are true. If this continues, then sry but i think that u should just end the friendship because I don't want you to put yourself in this situation over and over again and i'm sure u don't want it either. (I don't want you to put yourself in the situation because no one wants that to happen and I have learned from my own mistake which was similar to yours )
Good luck and best of wishes

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Hi, umm... The other day i went to my fgriends house because it was O.K. with my mom. My mother is bipolar an sometimes she says things one minute then later another. Well that night i went to my friends houise after my mom said it was O.K. and then my friends and my sistersaid something about their being a parent at my friends house. I didnt know what was going on at the time so i just went with the flow an went to my friends house. A few hours later we went home it was 11:00 at night which was no big deal because we usually some home late. Well when i got home my mom said we werent aloud to go to my friends after a few hours earlier she said we could. So my mom got pissed and said to make new friends because we werent aloud around our friends anymore. She after that sent me an my sister to our rooms and i told my mom my story about it but she didnt believe me and she pulled out a belt and started wailing me on my back and it hurt like hell. So now im pissed that i cant hang out with my friends and my fucking back is killing me. What should i do. Please no messed up advice im really not in the mood thank you.


Peace out...

You should call the cops or something because that's abuse! No one should be hit with a belt. I think you should either call call the cops or talk to a relative.
sorry
i hope i can help

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There's this boy that i've liked since about 5th grade his name is Brian. I'm in 9th now btw. He's liked me since 2nd. We've been sorta close, but me & my boyfriend of like 2 months broke up. It wasn't serious AT ALL. But, I really like Brian. If I dated him, would it look bad? I mean me n my bf just broke up like a week ago. please help

hey
i think that you should spend at least a week and a half getting closer to Brian and then go out with him (just to be safe w/ ur rep.)
hope i can help
best of wishes!

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