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I really like this one girl called Nicole but from what i hear she hates my guts i want to ask why but shes a bad girl always skipping school and stuff (nadda really bad no durgs that i know of) it could just be because shes Goth i dunno. anyways my query is how do i make on friendly terms not a relationship without doing something corny, cheap or expensive(sp?)
thanks a ton
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Solemnstar
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You just have to talk to her and be friendly.You won't know if she "hates your guts" unless you ask her.It doesn't take any special skills or any money at all to do.
If she doesn't hate your guts,Then you can worry about how to entertain her.If she stays at school long enough:}
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Does anyone think that sex makes a relationship, or that it makes a relationship better? Why or why not? (link)
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No.
Sex is certainly part of a good long term relationship but it is not the thing that makes the relationship.Many people have a good sexual relationship but the rest of it sucks.
People need emotional support and communication with each other on a lot of things during an average day.If those needs aren't met then the sex will not mean a whole lot over the long haul.Might be good for short term but not over time.
I'm sure that I didn't do a real good job of getting my point across but no.Doesn't make it better.It's an excellent bonus to a great relationship but a relationship cannot get by on sex alone!:}
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Me and my brother are very close hes always there for me and I am always here for him..I am 15 and he is 20 and he just got this new girlfriend and we got along for a while but We ended up fighting and I beat her ass and my brother chose her over me...I told her i didnt want to fight her cause she is my girl but she pushed me and I poured my heart out to my brother asking him how can he choose her over me..Well he lives here and his gf is here everyday me nad her are cool now but I dont feel close to my brother like i did before I dont htink I ever can again. He always told me I was his world. and now this girl is comming between us. What should I do? I dont think i should just forgive him..he rreally hurt me I was in tears for hours the rest of the night and now he is acting like nothing even happend..Should I just say fuck him or forgive him? How can she come between me and my brother?! (link)
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Because you are allowing her to.By fighting with her and "beating her ass", you force him to choose.You showed him no respect.Sorry, ya asked.
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I'm writing my boyfriend of 7 months a note, I really want it to have an impact on him. He's amazing and honest and wonderful and I don't know what I'd be without him, and I've expressed that alot through the letter. Last week, I screwed up majorly and that's why i'm writing this note to him.
-- Last week I went snowboarding and I met this guy, before an hour had passed he had asked me to make out with him, since I have a loving and caring boyfriend I didn't make out with him because it's wrong, right? Like always, NO never works on a guy, so naturally he kept on harassing me. Insted of making out, we agreed on hugging. I told my boyfriend this, and to some people this might seem "over protective" or "obsessed", but he got really upset with me.
Everything is wrong now, so I told him I didn't hug him, i just dont' want to lose him. I know i should have confessed and stayed that way, but you've got to see it from my point of veiw. What I'm trying to say is, is there anything more to put in the letter to make an impact on him... I also need to have advice on what to say to my boyfriend about the other guy.
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Just don't say anything about the other guy.Don't keep him thinking about it.
Do write the letter. I'm better at expressing thoughts in writing than talking. I write my hubby almost every night and leave him email!So go for it.
Just one more time tell him nothing happened and you want to drop it about that other guy. Next time just leave and don't talk to a guy like that.unless your avaiable.
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My mom doesn't want me to get braces because she thinks my teeth are fine. But I think I do need them because there are like 3 teeth that aren't straight. Well we had a huge argument over this and now she's mad at me. But anyhow, I got my seperators today and they are really annoying. Do they hurt the day after? And when I get my braces will they hurt? Also, what should I do about my mom-situation?? She's not talking to me and she's very pissed that I am getting braces. (link)
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My daughter and I had same argument.
She found out yes they do hurt often.
After spending all that money she had them removed because she couldn't stand it.This made them worse.Not saying yours will but don't blame mom cause she could be right!:}
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okay, for all you iditos who anwser questions with rude anwsers..go away now..because you arent wanted..
this one i would probaly like a girl to anwser..but hey, i dont care
okay, im 6th grade(girl of course)..corny but hey, and i like this guy..everyone says that we would look really good together, and i know him well. this is my 3rd year of being in the same class as him, we hang out together sometimes, and we basically sit next to eachother. well, his gf just broke up with him, althogh it wasnt a real relashonship..they never really liked eachother..well, i don't know if he likes me or not..we get along great and all..and well, i really want him to ask me out! he is so nice and funny, caring also..i always said that i would never have a bf until like 7th or 8th grade..cuz the relashonships are never real..but how can i clue him to like ask me out? or how can i get clues as to if he likes me or not? i really need help on this one..sorry for the length
signed..
need help!
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If he doesn't run the other way when he sees you coming he probably likes you! Don't wait around for him to get a new girlfriend.Ask him out.:}
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Hi, im 14/ m and I just want to know what to do about me and my girlfriend, we have been going out for a year now and were across states. We always talk on the phone and we have gotten really close. But I am just wondering if when me and my girlfriend meet, Im worried that she will push me away. And Im afarid of that, does anyone halft to say anything about this...? (link)
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Why would she push you away? You talk all the time so she knows what your like doesn't she? I don't think it will be a major thing, you're just nervous.It will be okay!:}
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okay this question is for my friend who can't ask it so i am doing it for her. well her best friend just recently died at age 12. and she wants to go to her funeral and wants me to go with her but her mom won't let her go because its during school and she thinks she will get all emotional but she really wants to go so she can say bye and she wants me to go with her so she has a shoulder to cry on if she needs one. does anyone know how she can get her mom to change her mind and let her go to her best friends funeral? please help. (link)
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Thats to bad.Around here they close school for classmates funerals. It would certainly have helped your friend out.
She definatley needs to talk to mom and get to go to the funeral.Maybe mom feels she's to young for all that.It can be kind of traumatic for 12 yo.Missing school 1 day doesn't seem all that unreasonable. Go with her to talk to her mom and see what you can work out.Have her explain whats going to go on and all that and see if your friend really wants to go after that. If mom still says no maybe you could help her have a private little thing at home and let her talk about the good times thay had and stuff. Make her feel better.
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Hi, I like the group ICP and my girlfriend doesn't, she doesn't like it because it has killing in it, she hates it. Should I stop liking it or just keep listening to it, I just wanna make her happy, what should I do?? (link)
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I don't think you should quit listening because she doesn't like it. Just listen to it when she is not around.:}
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My boyfriend and I have been together for two and half years, and we are both eighteen. We are both very different from one another. I'm asian, I grew up with strict parents, I don't party much, or go out much. I like to do things around the house to keep me busy, like reading and writing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not boring and I know how to have fun, and I'm allowed to do anything that I want. Whenever I do go out, I'm pretty much the life of the party. Him, on the other hand, he is black, his parents were never really strict on him growing up.. he parties a lot and likes to go out all the time. He gets mad, or annoyed at me because I'm not the type to party and go all out. I get mad and annoyed at him when he parties too much. We both love each other, but it seems like that is what we mostly argue about nowadays. I'm not going to change my ways to satisfy him, and he isn't going to either. We talk about it, but even still, nothings going to change. How can I go about if an argument starts again? It just annoys me when he says to me that I don't know how to have fun, or that I'm boring. We both just have different definitions on the word fun. Any advice will be nice. Thanks.
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I have advise but I doubt you will like it.Sorry ahead of time okay.
I know that you feel you love each other.But, the fact is that your diffrences are so vast that I don't see a future here.I mean if you two got married he would never be home!
I would seriously consider finding diffrent partners.I know that's not what you want to hear but you guys are definitely going in two completelty diffrent directions. Good luck.
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Im sorry to say that most of the time , when I sleep I dream about killing people or I die in my dreams, me and my grilfriend are really worried about this, does anyone have and advice for me? (link)
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Since you have no control over what you dream there isn't much to advise you on.
I know that people on antidepressants can have dreams like these. Are you on some med that could be giving you them as a side effect?
If not I wouldn't worry about it. If you are on a medication check with your doctor and get it adjusted.:}
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Hey! I'm a girl and 16, and I really like this guy, David. I used to be 95% possitive that he liked me too, but I think somethings changed. I'm thinking that he MIGHT like this other girl, but she has a boyfriend already. Lately, he's been acting like he doesnt care about me, at all! Like, he doesnt talk to me, unless I talk to him. I left him a voice mail message twice (two days in a row) saying what the plans were for the night, and he didnt even BOTHER to call back and say he couldnt come, or give me the time of day. It's really starting to aggrivate me. I want to ask him what is up, and why he's pretty much ignoring me, but its hard! The last time we were alone. things were really nice, and now hes just being a JERK! In school, I go out of my way, and go to his locker and walk with him in the hallways, but hes NEVER at my locker. EVER! He doesnt show any intrest, at all. And I want to know what is up! What should I do? (link)
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The only way to know is to ask.Hard as that may be!
He could be distracted by the fact that he likes that girl with the boyfriend.He could be upset about it and it might make him act the way he's acting.
If you want a chance you'll just have to jump in with both feet and catch him before another does.
Good luck!:}
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I was just worried because I try and try to do my work but I still fail, and now I might fail the hole year, what should I do? Can anyone help me? (link)
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Study, study and study some more! You probably do already, I know. Some people just have a hard time in school. Do you have a friend who can study with you? That is always good.
The main thing is to do the very best you can.If you fail a year it will be tough but you just get right back in there and do it again.Really think about getting someone to study with you.
Maybe you can talk to your teacher and have her help you find someone who is good at the work and wouldn't mind helping you out.Don't give up no matter what okay?:}
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My question is, why does it seem like an overwhelming amount of the advisors on this web site are teenage girls? I'm serious about this. Is it because they have more time on their hands, have a stronger feeling of needing to give advice, need more advice.etc.etc? What do you think the reason is? (link)
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Well, not being a teenager I suppose I should just leave this question alone.But,I'll give you my opinion anyway.
Girls are always giving each other advise.
Girfriends don't always take each others advise but that doesn't stop anybody! So,this is where they can come and give advise and feel good about helping someone else with all the wisdom they can come up with.
There are some guys giving advise too.Might be nice to see a few more.
I think it is good for them too. Not only are they giving advice but they are hopefully learning and thinking about problems that they will encounter themselves at some point in their lives.
And last but not least....It's doing something that they can be proud of.And MOST of the people asking the questions are the same age as them.
Me, i'm older and just hope to throw something in now and then that they all can learn from.Maybe something they should ask mom but just can't.I try to keep honest even if I sometimes wonder if I should really be telling a kid this!!!
I think regarless of our ages we are having fun and hopefully helping someone with their problems.Hope the old lady here helped you with the answers you were seeking!
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ok well i have a boyfriend and i like him a lot we talk on line and sometimes on the phone (i always call him he never calls me) and at school we don't talk at all. i am his first girl friend he has ever had but i can't stand not talking to him. i want to talk to him at school but i'm shy and hes shy not good not good at all. i was just wondering what i should do? i rate high (link)
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Someone had to make the first move or you wouldn't be bf/gf. Which one was it?
Whoever needs to get over the shyness and start hanging out with the other.If not then you have no relationship except in your heads!
Just get brave and go hang with him.If he doesn't like it then find a new guy! Tell him to call you!
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sorry if this is long, but there is this guy that i like and we used to go out. he now has a girlfriend but i dont care, i still like him. This one girl likes him, so someone asked if he would ever go out with her and he said no. but then this girl asked if he would ever go back out with me and he smiled nad said "umm .. i gotta get to class" so the next day the girl asked again and so he was like "umm .. i gotta girlfriend" so he didnt say yes or no. Do you htink i still have a chance? (link)
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I think that one girl needs to stop bugging him before he gets mad.It won't help your cause any.
I think he was saying he has a girlfriend.When he doesn't have one get in there and ask him out before he gets another.You might have a chance sometime but I don't think you do as long as he has a girlfriend.Sorry.
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I'm 15 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Pathetic, I know. The main problem people keep telling me is that when i like a guy i tend to be shy around him. I like this one guy right now and he knows i like him thanks to one of my big mouth friends. We've talked only maybe twice before he found out i liked him but thats the only time we've ever talked. When i see him in the halls he looks at me...what does that mean? How can i get him to like me without coming on to him as a stalker? (link)
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i would get online and talk some more if possible.Maybe you can get a hint about what he feels.
If he's looking at you could mean he's checking you out. So long as he isn't giving you dirty looks or something i'd say that he doesn't find the fact that you like him horrible or anything!
Talking to him at school would be perfect. If you're to shy though, go back to talking to him online.Once you feel he is friendly enough towards you ask him how he feels about going out or something.
Tell your friends to mind their own business.I'm sure she was trying to help but still, embarrassing huh?:}
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Sporkster here, and I've got a question for you lovely people here on Advicenators:
I've got this "friend" of mine who's been rather...hard to get along with lately. You know who you are, "friend." Anyway, in Study Hall one day she just errupted like Mt. Vesuvius. I mean, over something so petty she just blew it. My boyfriend had moved to another table to take a quiz and she came over to sit with me. There's this stupid rule my SH teacher came up with stating that only two people can sit at one table until ten minutes prior to the bell rings. My boyfriend finished and came back over, and right before I was going to tell him to wait a minute so I could finish talking to her she just..."*slams book together, packs up bookbag, moves* Fine, I see who's more important, I'll just move! *mutters incoherently*" I just was...shocked. She didn't even give me a chance to tell him that I needed to finish talking to her. Anyway, she's been really sore over this for the past week or two. I mean, she doesn't sit with my boyfriend, me, and our friend anymore. She never talks directly to me, however, she has this obsession with talking ABOUT me. She's lied about my boyfriend and me, giving people the impression that I'm some sort of slut. This is really starting to annoy me. Not the fact that she's talking about me, but that she's lying about me. I really do wish she wouldn't be so sensitive and...paranoid. Our friendship has been an ongoing battle ever since my boyfriend and I have been going out. I don't really want our best-friend friendship back, I just want to come to terms with her and "agree to disagree", if you will. But she won't even compromise with that! I've tried everything you could possibly think of and then some, but she doesn't want to listen to a word I say to her. Can anyone offer some sort of ideas for getting her to just listen to me for five minutes to sort things out? Any input would be appreciated, though I am looking for good, well thought-out, helpful answers. Thank you in advance for every good answer. (link)
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She's really jealous of the boyfriend isn't she? I don't know what you can do if she won't listen to you.She is feeling a little left out...that's understandable but, she's getting a little out of control with it now!
If she will listen to you, tell her like you told us. Your friendship has changed because you have a boyfriend but, it doesn't have to end. It will just be diffrent. You won't be spending every waking moment with her anymore.If she can't live with that then don't worry about her anymore.
As far as lying about you goes...Tell her you have had enough of it. Your real friends know that what she is saying is not true so, she's just making herself look like a fool.
Hope it works out for you.Sporkster...interesting name!
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i have a really odd habit of looking at peoples mouths when they talk. i am fairly short (often eye level with the chins of my peers), and tend to read lips in a noisy environment or other instances where i have trouble understanding people. Friends have commented on this before and i would really like to stop. Do you have any tips as to how to break this habit? thanks! (link)
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Have you had your hearing checked? Just a thought.Try looking at their eyes.
To be honest I don't think your looking at their mouths is all that uncommon.....in case you were wondering.
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okay, so because i go to a private school, it ends at 4;00 pm
so i get home around 5:00. Everyday of the week i have something afetr school-so by the time i have dinner and start doing homework it is about 8:00, i am so overwelmed but my mom insists on me having these afetr school activities. the only day i have to myself is friday-but my mom usually makes me clean my room or something, so i don't even have that. What should i do, i don't wanna cancel any of them cuz i like them. But i also don't wanna be so tired and nervous all the time. I even have to do my homework in school cuz i don't wanna fail or i wake up at like 5:00 am so that i finish my hw. What should i do?
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You need to sit with BOTH parents (if possible) and just tell them. Tell them you need to knock off some of those after school activities because you feel your grades are going to suffer and sooner or later your health is going to suffer. I'm sure they think all this is going to keep you busy and out of trouble. That is okay to some extent but you have to study sometime!
If you enjoy the activities maybe you can cut out some but not all of them. Maybe you should consider a diffrent school that doesn't get you up so early. Just talk with them and see what can be worked out. Be honest about your feelings.:}
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