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okay, so because i go to a private school, it ends at 4;00 pm
so i get home around 5:00. Everyday of the week i have something afetr school-so by the time i have dinner and start doing homework it is about 8:00, i am so overwelmed but my mom insists on me having these afetr school activities. the only day i have to myself is friday-but my mom usually makes me clean my room or something, so i don't even have that. What should i do, i don't wanna cancel any of them cuz i like them. But i also don't wanna be so tired and nervous all the time. I even have to do my homework in school cuz i don't wanna fail or i wake up at like 5:00 am so that i finish my hw. What should i do?
-dorinflower55
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Just go on wit your usual week....if you dont get something done...ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD! Or if you really want to do things like with your friends or something...then give the one thing up that you dislike the most!! Hope this helps! asHleyx3
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Hey Hun,
Wow, well first of all I wanna give you props for even doing that and not already having a nervous breakdown. I wouldn't be able to do it.
Anyway, you should talk to your mum about it. Sit her down and tell her what you think and what you think should be done.
There's nothing wrong with not being perfect, no one is perfect. Tell your mum that you can't do it all and you're getting really overwhelemed and nervous, which isn't even healthy for you to be nervous all the time and stressed.
Ask her if you can drop some of the after school activities (if you want to) you don't even have to drop them all but one or two would be good (depending on how many you go to)
Anyway, good luck&hope I helped.
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There's nothing wrong with not being perfect. Nobody can do everything, and it sounds as if you are feeling pressured to do just that. If you do everything well, you'll never have a chance to do a few things fantastically.
Why not sit down and look at your schedule? You're obviously not happy with things the way they are, and if you figure out a rational plan before approaching your mother, you'll have a better chance of winning her over.
Figure out how much time you are spending on each activity. Figure out what your priorities are - after school, which one activity do you truly enjoy and would hate to give up? When making your choice, focus on an activity which makes you feel happy, excited, and connected - not what you feel you should like because it is expected.
When talking with your mom, you'll want to sound as calm and expressive as you have been in this question. Honestly explain your stress levels, focus on how you want to succeed at school, discuss how you want to spend your free time doing something you love. While it's okay to like all of the activities you are in now, they obviouly are not making you happy.
So go on. Be happy, being perfectly imperfect.
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I know it might be hard, but you really need to cancel some of the after school classes! I know you like them, but if you really wanna do well in school then you've gotta concentrate more on school. Well just think how your doing now, and think how much better you'll be doing after you quit a few of those after school classes! Right now you sound overwhelmed, so make it easier by just working a little more on your school work.
Hope I helped :):):):):):):)
The amazing ***PINKYMEOWCAT***
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I always did my homework during class; sometimes not even the class it's for. I'm sure that not all of your classes are hard - just do a little extra work in the easier ones.
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You need to sit with BOTH parents (if possible) and just tell them. Tell them you need to knock off some of those after school activities because you feel your grades are going to suffer and sooner or later your health is going to suffer. I'm sure they think all this is going to keep you busy and out of trouble. That is okay to some extent but you have to study sometime!
If you enjoy the activities maybe you can cut out some but not all of them. Maybe you should consider a diffrent school that doesn't get you up so early. Just talk with them and see what can be worked out. Be honest about your feelings.:}
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I have noticed something about private school workloads: You are being prepped for the "real" world. I wish I was kidding. My advice for what it is worth is to approach your mother and tell her that something has to give, because you are at the end of your proverbial rope.
If you think she would pick something that would be the thing you would be most ok with, let her make suggestions on what you might remove from your schedule. If you think she will pick the thing that you most want to keep, then let her know the things you can't live without.
Maybe your mom doesn't realize what she has in you... Read some of the questions on this board. Better yet, turn your mother loose on this site to read what the other people your age are worried about: "I'm fat, I'm skinny, I like this boy/girl/lizard/etc but she/he/it doesn't like me, I am 13 and all my friends had sex at like, you know, 11! I don't want to get too old!"
Do you realize that you are one of the few people here to post a question in this particular forum that even deserves an answer.
To me it sounds like your mom lucked out with you. She should be proud! If she isn't, then she hasn't taken a very good look around. :-(
Ok, so would you like to know why your mom doesn't realize how serious this is for you?
It is actually quite simple:
For adults, the schedule you are describing never seems to stop. They have been living it so long, that they don't even realize they don't have a life anymore. If they do realize it, they don't know how to fix it.
Like it or lump it, you are still growing up, and need to have a little time. You do NOT need to be burnt out at 18. It happens.
Thanks for posting a good, intelligent question. :-)
DangerNerd
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I think that you should cut something even though you refuse. Hear me out. In order for you to have to get on track with your school work, you have to make sacrifies, and one of those sacrificies will probably have to be the after school activity. It may be hard, but this situation has become very unhealthy. You are getting a limited amount of sleeping time just because you are trying to keep up with school. Drop it, you can pick it up after you have adjusted to your new plans and have prioritized your time. Even if your mom doesn't approve of you dropping it. you are wise enough to make your own decisions, and she needs to undestand that school and the value of your education come before any after school activity that probably won't help you in life any way. The thig is that you are being distracted, and in order for you to get back on track, you have to avoid that distraction. Who knows, with your new schedule, you might even be able to find social time for you and your friends to hang out and still manage your school works and getting what needs to be done at both home and school done. I hope I helped!
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