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im 15 years old.. and my best friend is a guy named mike.. and me and him have always had something for eachother and been together hooking up off and on for about 2 years.. and he has been the BIGGEST part of my life and my heart for longer than that.. and just recently he started dating this girl that i absolutly do not get along with and never have.. and the first day they staretd going out i got into a fight with him over something i said to her. and he chose to defend her and be on her side over me. and that hurt me more than imaginable. but hes hurt me in similar ways to this and made me hysterical to many times to count.. and every time he does we fight and i try so hard to walk away from him but i never can.. and i always end up going bak to him as soon as he tells me he loves me and hes sorry. and i just dont know how to be without him anymore and that i need him and am not whole without him.. can you please tell me what to do because ireally cant take this pain anymore my hearts in so many pieces it just hurts to even breathe..
If you need to leave him again then try and acctually leave. I mean tamporarily. Like instead of him saying sorry and i love you....you should say sorry and i love you.....see how it works out...i mean...who knows what will happen...asHleyx3
Ok at first glance this may seem like one of those "I wanna lose weight, but im way to lazy to do it, any ideas?" questions, well its not. I do want to lose weight, i run and im trying out for volleyball and i also skateboard. What im wondering is if anyone has any idea of websites besides teentone.com that you can get printouts from to keep track of what you eat and whatnot.
Thanx in advance, remember i rate.
You can go on ediets.com to get a print out! asHleyx3
my soon to be boyfriend goes too far sometimes. he comes over to hang out a lot and we cuddle and everything but sometimes his hands wander and i want him to stop. it's really uncomfortable for me and i want him to stop but i don't wanna seem like a prude. i've tried moving around to get him to move his hands but i don't know, there's just something weird about it. my past two boyfriends have been really verbally abusive and my last boyfriend hit me a lot right before we broke up and after we broke up and i still don't trust guys and i don't know if i should continue hanging out with this new guy. i know he really cares about me and has for a while. he took a lot of crap from me before we started hanging out. i lead him on and broke his heart when i hooked up with a different guy. HELP. i'm a girl btw.
YOU WOUNT SEEM LIKE A PRUDE! And so what if you do? You said he liked you right? So he wount care and he will probably listen to you and stop "wandering". And if he keeps doing it....give him a very firm warning that if he does that again you'll break up with him...i mean...he wouldnt like that cuz u said that you broke his heart once before. asHleyx3
im 14 and i go to a highschool in plano texas ,
my case is a little bit different i suppose
my shrink diagnosed me with a mild-severe social paranoia meening i afriad everyone is always judgeing me and watching me , like im some zoo animal, even if sum1 isnt around.
iv also got mild social axiety bah like i know what that means for sure
i have "hyper-hydrosis" wich is a condition i was born with where my hands are always moist wich makes it wierd to hold hands with girls
iv liked this girl since she moved to the school, shes always been reay nice to me and iv always been nice to her, just recently iv been realy wanting to be in a relationship with this girl but i cant bring myself to ask her out in fear that she would say no in fear that i might make an attempt on my life (this is i guess social anxiety?) , i dont think she even knos i like her and she doesnt seem to even realy i know i exist sometimes
she tells me about all the guys that she likes and that realy hurts my feelings becuas im not the tallest (at 5'1" im far from it) im not the fit-est or the most handsome , i have acne and a steryotypical "Jewish Nose" wich many predjudists remind me often about.
i just cant help but feel that she wont accept my offer to start a relationship
this girl is truely beutiful in every sense of the word ,in class since i sit behind her i just stare at the back of her head and go off into "lala land"
on several times iv tried inviting her to movies or something but she always seems to have something else to do
any and all help wud be most appreciated
if u want to talk to me just chilling and stuff y AIM is forty5calpsyco
Thanks So Much
I think you should just ask her! I mean the worst she could do is say no and even if she does...don't let a girl get you down because you need to move on with your life. Like...when i see the guy that i like hug another girl...(even if the girl is hugging him)...my friends are like..."its ok ashley...he doesnt like her"...but im just like..."o its ok i dont really care." You cant let some one get you down just because they turn down an offer. You get turned down a lot in life so you gtta get used to it while your young. Everyone faces rejection sometimes. asHleyx3
Does anyone know a good shampoo or soemthing for your hair that would dry it out because my hair is always reallyyy oily. thanks ♥
You never want to fry your hair out because then your scalp will get dry and then you will get dandruff. Get a shampoo that has nautral ingredients...like...kelp or something.
Trust me on this one. asHleyx3
hi there people really bother me in school, i dont have much friends and they all tease me. boys call me a mutt and a dog and disguting pig, im not fat though and im not reallly ugly. girls bark and moo at me and push me and im sick of it, i have 2 bestfriends but they dont stick up for me. if these people knew what i been through like, my dad died when i was 6 and my bothers friggen a crack head, ligit and my sisters a big whore who doesnt talk to the whole fam.. i dont have anyone and im sick of it, what should i do?
Just stand up for youself girl! Reason with them. Dont be shy! Let them know how you feel. Liek you said...if they knew what i've gone through...well let 'em know! Sock it to 'em! asHleyx3
ok i think im kind of bi but im not really sure and to afraid to say anything to anyone, my boyfriend of 2 years told me that gay people are gross and if i was ever gay that he wouldnt like it because he wouldnt want me to leave him for a girl but i told him i wouldnt if i was gay but he said it would still be gross....and on top of that almost all people i hang around with are gay,but i cant even tell them or anything because they consider me there "straight" friend...and they would all think its probably weird also if i said anything...what should i do???
OMG! fooolooow your heart grrrl! Hay..if your bf cant stand gay ppl....then he is gay ((i mean that like hes mean!))...Just like look for things that would see if your gay....like give youirself little secret life tests. asHleyx3
Hey guys, I want to see if anyone else is having the same problem.
I've answered a good amount of questions recently, in the past week, and I've only been rated maybe twice. Is there something maybe wrong with my column or are people just not rating? Is this happening to anyone else?
I'll rate high ♥ Thanks!
Well...mayb people just don want to rate because they are in a hurry to ask! asHleyx3
I've been thinking alot about my career that i want to pursue, and I happen to love the french language. I was thinking about some jobs i could have by speaking different languages, but i'm just not sure. Does anybody know of any jobs i could possibly have by doing what i love? Thanks!
Janine
Well you could always get a job in France. Or you could Get a job as a translater or a job that asks for a few different languages! asHleyx3
Okay so theres this guy that I really, really like, and I know he likes me too.. The only problem is, I know he's going to ask me out soon, but every time I get a boyfriend, I freak out and think that they don't like me and I get convinced that they're only staying with me to be nice, and I really don't want that to happen with this one.. Any ideas on how to stop freaking out and just let things happen?? thanks so much!
Ok...boys wouldnt ask you out just to be nice! They ask you out because they like you. And they would dump you if they didnt want to stay with you! Guys ask you out because they think you are imaculate! Be yourself because thats what they like! asHleyx3
When we do our work in class, he eavesdrops and tells me and my friend to shut up because he can't concentrate...then sometimes, he looks at me and smiles and says "oh my god you guys" and then after class he WALKS with us...and he lets me push him down the stairs...kinda cruel yes...but i do it because I like him...=D does that mean he likes ME? or not...is he just being nice? And in class, we were in groups, and it was a trivia game for lots of extra credit, and I needed it..and at my table, i was facing him, vica versa...and when he saw I wanted to win...he told his team the wrong answer and then he looked at me and smiled...as my table dissed their table, I sat there smiling like an idiot at him...haha...funneh times...but like, he smiled BACK...HELP!!!
-Clueless-
Ok...no one would let you puch him down the stairs if he didnt like you! I mean he could be being nice but...idk. And he probably needed the extra credit 2 nd he still threw the game! How sweet it that?! asHleyx3
okay well like 2 weeks ago i was in school and my friend asked the kid i liked to sit with me at this assembly because i gave him a dollar.. and he acctually said that to him, so he said he thought i was different but im just a bitch who bribed people with money.. but then the next day my friend pushed me to go talk to him, so i told him what happened and he said he already knew because the kid who asked him had told him everything, and he said they only reason he said that was because he was scared and he wanted to work up some self esteem because he couldnt find the courage to ask me to sit with him.. and then he asked if we could walk to lunch together so we did, and we sat together during class. So then the day after that he accidently told me he was moving, and i didnt talk to him for a while, and then he told me the only reason he didnt tell me was because he didnt know how to, so we talked again. Then he wrote me a letter and it said how he doesnt think he can be with me for the remaining 2 weeks he's here because he cant give me the attention he should give his girlfriend and he thinks he can give me the right amount of attention for what we will be. Then he told me to go out with my best friend. And when i told my 2 best friends, ((ones a boy, ones a girl)) they both agreed. So i went to the dance with him, and i brought him on vacation with me my brother, my grandparents, my brothers friend, and a bunch of family friends. But i don't really feel right. I mean, i love him, but i feel like a player because i didnt even wait 2 days after i broke up with my boyfriend. Is this normal or should i not feel this way?
Well...you aren't the playa grrllllll! What are you supposed ta do? Wait 4 sum1... who TOLD you 2 go out wit your friend...and who is neva gunna like see u again....! You did the right thing....GET ON WIT YOUR LIFE GRRRL! asHleyx3
I'm a bit overweight and so I've always been a little bit embarassed to exercise in front of people. It seems to just make things worse for me, because then I don't feel like I get enough exercise in the day, but I hate running because I'm slower and always afraid somebody will see me, and I don't even like doing stuff at home because my mom and dad might see me. Any good tips for conquering my fear or ways to exercise alone?
If you see people exercsing...they were probably "overweight" once 2! Go to a gym...or buy weights! But know how to ecercise so you dont hurt yourself! Buy a book or a tape. But if exercising isnt your thing...try to eat good and do yoga or palaties...you can even do aerobics or step aerobics! Its fun! But if you want all of that to work...EAT HEALTHY! x3asHleyx3
Let me start out by saying that my sister is a nightmare. A big fat nightmare who makes your life turn into serious Hell. She is a thirteen year old snob who gets in everyones business, demands things from my parents who take it even though they don't like it. She has been damaging my life the most by trying to beat the crap out of me in front of her friends when I was severly sick, she didn't beat me up, but she kept trying to, and it made me upset, and I cried because it my body was aching. She has tried to smart mouth me in front of her friends, when my mom tells her not to do something, when shes not around, she will do it anyways, and when I try to stop her, she get up in my face, and says, "What are you gonna do about it?" Now, when things like this happens, I call my mom, and she'll just say, "stop it" even though thats probably about the hundreth time shes done it. She also lies, very bad. My parents know, but not as much, she tries spying on my phone conversations with my boyfriend, she is also known to read my other sisters diary to her friends on the phone, and laugh about it with them. She also told all of her friends something SO personal, I am not going to say, but it was so personal about my older sister. My parents do nothing about this. No matter how many times I try to ask them nicely, or I just slam it in their faces, they go talk to her, and she plays the innocent one. I told my mom tonight that she has made my life a living Hell, and all she said was, "well, she said the same thing about you" That made me so angry, because she looked at me like she believed her over me or she didn't know who to believe, HELLO! I am the innocent one here, everyone always says mean things about her, so they know shes the one whose rude! She is also known to hurt me in front of people, she'll grab underwear with blood in it, and will announce to everyone that its mine! When its really hers! I have dealt with this for a long time, and today, I just couldn't take it, I screamed in my room so loud, and tore all of the posters off of my wall, and scratched my face. I have gone crazy! When I heard somebody pick up the phone while me and my boyfriend were talking, I ran to my mom and yelled, "GET HER OFF THE PHONE NOW I HATE HER SO MUCH SOMEBODY JUST KILL HER!" And then, I went rambling on to my boyfriend how much I just want to kill her, and now I keep day dreaming about ways that I can kill her. I also kept saying, "shes a slut, a whore, a b*tch, a little sh*t, and an a*shole." I know shes a slut, but I will not get into detail about that. But I am asking somebody to please not tell me I need anger management, I know that this behavior is not abnormal, what person would not go crazy after dealing with a lying sister and parents who won't do anything about it? My behavior is scaring me, I've never hated somebody this much, I usually just like everybody, but everytime I think about wanting to kill her and it makes me feel good I get scared! I can't really talk to my parents, I've screamed it in their ears, and I've told them nicely, they don't listen to me.
Also, do not even think about having me talk to my sister, she is greedy, and selfish, all she cares about is herself, seriously, if its not her way, theres no way, shes a spoiled brat. So I guess what I'm asking is does anybody think I might be taking this too far? I know that I'm not, but does anyone think different? I know that this shouldn't get to me, but I have to live with her! I need ways to take my anger and sadness out, because all of my posters are ripped off of my wall. Also, my dad is getting me a therapist, so I can at least have somebody to talk to, but the whole time I'm probably going to ramble on about how much I hate her and wish she was dead, I have truly never felt this deeply of hate. My silly boyfriend wants me to fight her, but I'm not going to. But I hate her enough to. So, could anyone say something about this, like advice because I am in a huge puddle of misery. I just wish somebody would just think, "Maybe Sarah [me] has feelings too" when she makes fun of me, I wish she'd think, "Maybe since Sarah has depression, I shouldn't call her names because she feel pain too" And it makes me cry at night wondering how I'll ever get out of this Hell hole, somebody please give me comfort or anything that could help me. I've told my parents about my misery, so don't think that I havn't told anyone about this. I will rate.
Yeah, i know what you are going threw.. its like the same thing for me.. but not as bad and with my older sister. She pushes me around and bosses me and makes fun of me all the time and it puts me down all the time. She is always online and her away message is talking about blah about her life and blah about me and some of my friends practicly talk to my sister more than me and it gets me so mad. I cant tell my friends anything because they already know from my sister. She was like "Remember at ___'s house you guys were..." and she like tells them the strange things i did when i was little to all my friends.. and i really cannot take it sometimes. I just think about how i can get back at her... revenge is like my middle name. I say that you should read her diary ((if she has one)) to your boyfriend and friends and i think that you should just make her life such a living hell untill she finally cracks! About that taking your anger out on something ask your parents if you can take up boxing or karate or something like that and take your anget out on the mats or wood or whatever. ((but not your sister)) dont stoop to her level of hitting you... my sister like "pretends" to beat me up too like she will throw shoes at me and hit me and ill get like bruses all over the place, its just what sisters do be a pain in the butt to eachother..
if you ever need anymore advice ask me!
I am 13 years of age and I had my period two times last year. Only two times because it started at the end of the year. I've only had it two times because I haven't had it this year yet. Is that normal? Is that supposed to happen? Is it healthy when you period does that?
In the beginning...ur period never stays on track. Sometimes you may have a lot. Or sometimes you may have a little or skip. asHleyx3
I was wondering if you could help me I have not been feeling well since jan-05 it all started with a cold that turned into a sinus infection, I went to the doctor and he gave me a antibiotic which seemed to clear it up but I now seem to have a internal shaking in my body that will not go away, I have been for all kinds of tests bloodwork, mri on my head halter monitor chest x-ray and all are normal, I stopped drinking caffiene products thinking that this may be the problem it seemed to work a little but the shaking came back, then I got another sinus infection and the shaking got worse, I was given avelox and that seemed to help but after 2 and half weeks of taking that the shaking came back, all the doctors have said that it may be anxiety but I have never felt this way before. the shaking is not visible but I can feel it all the time, I seem to sleep ok but after a hour or so after waking up it all starts again, I hope that you could help me with this it is driving me crazy, I generally feel good except for the constant feeling. of shaking... PLEASE HELP
Well it could all b in your head. I mean you could b making it worse then it really is. Or you could b just getting anxiety right now. It could happen. Im not a doctor but i think you should just wait it out nd stop thinkin bout it. asHleyx3
I want to dump my boyfriend...and yes I have my reasons. He asked me if I would go to the movies with him this Friday. And I said I would, but since then I have decided I want to dump him. I don't know what to do now though. Because I went with him to the movies last week and he thought I got mad at him there. But I didn't. His friend told me that my boyfriend was shy last week and he wanted to give me a kiss and everything but he was to shy. And he was going to this Friday. I need advice on what to do, because there is another guy that I want to go out with, when me and my boyfriend break up. I'm not sure if I want to dump my boyfriend before or after the movies. What do you think?
DUMP HIM BEFORE THE MOVIES!!!!! If you think hes gonna b hurt when you dump him before the movie. What will happen when he kisses you nd then you dump him?? DONT LEAD HIM ON!!! asHleyx3
One of my best friends just told me that she liked me today. She asked me if i had any feelings about it and i said not yet. The problem is that i don't really know if i like her as more than a friend. I used to like her like about a month ago, but i stopped. This may not make any sense but i want to like her as more than a friend because she is one of the nicest people i know, but i just don't think i see her that way. Is that possible? I don't want to hurt her and tell her that i'm not interested but i don't want to go out with her either. What should i do?
Well just keep on bein her friends nd then see where fait leads you... asHleyx3
Hey, I'm 13/F and I just got my period in January. I had it for 6 days. I haven't gotten it since!! It's the end of March now which means I skipped two months?? I know I'm not pregnant (I have no idea how to spell it)
Is something wrong with me???
Thats normal. When you first get it you dont go on track. Sometimes you go a lot and sometimes you accidentally skip...like you. asHleyx3
okay..i sweat alot in my armpits! i use secret platinum gel and it hasnt been working. i dont smell (atleast i dont think) but i get really really soaked in my pits rite when i get to school! its awful! please help! what is the strongest womens deodarant/antipersperant you know of? help me out please!
Well i think gel would b the way to go but i dont sweat that much unless it SUPER hot out or im in a basketball game or a really intense volleyball game. Try diferent things out...ONE IS BOUND 2 WRK FOR YOU! asHleyx3