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Too nervous to ask this girl out that iv liked for 3 years H
im 14 and i go to a highschool in plano texas ,
my case is a little bit different i suppose
my shrink diagnosed me with a mild-severe social paranoia meening i afriad everyone is always judgeing me and watching me , like im some zoo animal, even if sum1 isnt around.
iv also got mild social axiety bah like i know what that means for sure
i have "hyper-hydrosis" wich is a condition i was born with where my hands are always moist wich makes it wierd to hold hands with girls
iv liked this girl since she moved to the school, shes always been reay nice to me and iv always been nice to her, just recently iv been realy wanting to be in a relationship with this girl but i cant bring myself to ask her out in fear that she would say no in fear that i might make an attempt on my life (this is i guess social anxiety?) , i dont think she even knos i like her and she doesnt seem to even realy i know i exist sometimes
she tells me about all the guys that she likes and that realy hurts my feelings becuas im not the tallest (at 5'1" im far from it) im not the fit-est or the most handsome , i have acne and a steryotypical "Jewish Nose" wich many predjudists remind me often about.
i just cant help but feel that she wont accept my offer to start a relationship
this girl is truely beutiful in every sense of the word ,in class since i sit behind her i just stare at the back of her head and go off into "lala land"
on several times iv tried inviting her to movies or something but she always seems to have something else to do
any and all help wud be most appreciated
if u want to talk to me just chilling and stuff y AIM is forty5calpsyco
Thanks So Much
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hey well first of all forget about your fears if you like her much go ahead and ask her nothing bad can come out of it. if she says no just try to move on that is the only way. and dont feel bad about it.
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Its just a fact that some of the girls you ask out in your lifetime are going to say no. Some will say yes though. If you want to ask her out you just have to take that chance. Since you seem to be pretty good friends why don't you just ask? If she says no then at least you still have a good friend. Tell her how you feel about her too instead of just simply asking her to a movie.
Have you asked your shrink how to approach the situation? Since you are seeing one I think it would be a good question to ask him/her about. Good luck! :)
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That's so cute (sorry, just had to say that). I think you should go for it. I mean, would you really want to live the rest of your life not knowing? You've already waited 3 years. Even if she says no, at least you will know and can move on. And if she says yes then that's great for you. Just ask her out (I asked this guy out once that I liked for a while and we had been friends, and he said no, but I felt better afterward. It's not as hard as it seams.) Best of luck!
~IceAngel13
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I think you should just ask her! I mean the worst she could do is say no and even if she does...don't let a girl get you down because you need to move on with your life. Like...when i see the guy that i like hug another girl...(even if the girl is hugging him)...my friends are like..."its ok ashley...he doesnt like her"...but im just like..."o its ok i dont really care." You cant let some one get you down just because they turn down an offer. You get turned down a lot in life so you gtta get used to it while your young. Everyone faces rejection sometimes. asHleyx3
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well if you guys already talk and are nice to each other its a good beginning. all you need is some confidence...big noses give charecter, im not racist against them and your not short, your fun-sized. tell her shes beautiful and she'll go out with you or ask her over aim if you are moe comfotable that way. <3
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Babe.. first of all you need to stop talking like that and how bad you look. There is just one thing you need to belive in and have. You just need confidence in yourself and you will be fine! Being confident is really important and you could defenetlly ask this girl. Dont jump into a relationship right away tho. First just let her know that you like her. She seems to be really friendly to you tho so thats good. You'll be fine tho..just keep saying to yourself that you can ask her and you can tell her that you like her. I think you should because one day it just might be too late and she might have a boyfriend. So just go for it! Good luck! ♥ // ex_oh
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hey i think you just need more confidence. then she may see that in you. dont feel like everyone is judging you because really, were all thinking about how WE look. its good that youve tried asking her to the movies. im surprised she hasnt gotten the hint from that that you like her. just take it slow. and if the time feels right, THEN you should tell her how you feel. if shes doesnt like you back, then what the hey? at least you tried! right? but if she does like you then im sure you'll be thrilled! wait for signs that she may like you back. and in the meantime, try not to get jealous over the guys she talks about.
hope this helps & good luck- :)
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