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Anger And Love
Let me start out by saying that my sister is a nightmare. A big fat nightmare who makes your life turn into serious Hell. She is a thirteen year old snob who gets in everyones business, demands things from my parents who take it even though they don't like it. She has been damaging my life the most by trying to beat the crap out of me in front of her friends when I was severly sick, she didn't beat me up, but she kept trying to, and it made me upset, and I cried because it my body was aching. She has tried to smart mouth me in front of her friends, when my mom tells her not to do something, when shes not around, she will do it anyways, and when I try to stop her, she get up in my face, and says, "What are you gonna do about it?" Now, when things like this happens, I call my mom, and she'll just say, "stop it" even though thats probably about the hundreth time shes done it. She also lies, very bad. My parents know, but not as much, she tries spying on my phone conversations with my boyfriend, she is also known to read my other sisters diary to her friends on the phone, and laugh about it with them. She also told all of her friends something SO personal, I am not going to say, but it was so personal about my older sister. My parents do nothing about this. No matter how many times I try to ask them nicely, or I just slam it in their faces, they go talk to her, and she plays the innocent one. I told my mom tonight that she has made my life a living Hell, and all she said was, "well, she said the same thing about you" That made me so angry, because she looked at me like she believed her over me or she didn't know who to believe, HELLO! I am the innocent one here, everyone always says mean things about her, so they know shes the one whose rude! She is also known to hurt me in front of people, she'll grab underwear with blood in it, and will announce to everyone that its mine! When its really hers! I have dealt with this for a long time, and today, I just couldn't take it, I screamed in my room so loud, and tore all of the posters off of my wall, and scratched my face. I have gone crazy! When I heard somebody pick up the phone while me and my boyfriend were talking, I ran to my mom and yelled, "GET HER OFF THE PHONE NOW I HATE HER SO MUCH SOMEBODY JUST KILL HER!" And then, I went rambling on to my boyfriend how much I just want to kill her, and now I keep day dreaming about ways that I can kill her. I also kept saying, "shes a slut, a whore, a b*tch, a little sh*t, and an a*shole." I know shes a slut, but I will not get into detail about that. But I am asking somebody to please not tell me I need anger management, I know that this behavior is not abnormal, what person would not go crazy after dealing with a lying sister and parents who won't do anything about it? My behavior is scaring me, I've never hated somebody this much, I usually just like everybody, but everytime I think about wanting to kill her and it makes me feel good I get scared! I can't really talk to my parents, I've screamed it in their ears, and I've told them nicely, they don't listen to me.
Also, do not even think about having me talk to my sister, she is greedy, and selfish, all she cares about is herself, seriously, if its not her way, theres no way, shes a spoiled brat. So I guess what I'm asking is does anybody think I might be taking this too far? I know that I'm not, but does anyone think different? I know that this shouldn't get to me, but I have to live with her! I need ways to take my anger and sadness out, because all of my posters are ripped off of my wall. Also, my dad is getting me a therapist, so I can at least have somebody to talk to, but the whole time I'm probably going to ramble on about how much I hate her and wish she was dead, I have truly never felt this deeply of hate. My silly boyfriend wants me to fight her, but I'm not going to. But I hate her enough to. So, could anyone say something about this, like advice because I am in a huge puddle of misery. I just wish somebody would just think, "Maybe Sarah [me] has feelings too" when she makes fun of me, I wish she'd think, "Maybe since Sarah has depression, I shouldn't call her names because she feel pain too" And it makes me cry at night wondering how I'll ever get out of this Hell hole, somebody please give me comfort or anything that could help me. I've told my parents about my misery, so don't think that I havn't told anyone about this. I will rate.
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this sounds stupid but wen shes sleeping go into her room and smother her with a pillow... where gloves so no evidence is left or try drugging her food or drink with laxatives
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Dear Sister frustration,
Sometimes we don't like out siblings because of the things they do. But remember that she loves you and will take up for you when the time is right. Try talking and telling her how you feel. If that doesn't work get a parent involved. Soemtimes a line of communication must be set to get something started. take the iniative.
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i know how you feel but i never felt that much anger and hate towards my brother, it must be horrible for you to live with someone who you hate so much. the best thing to do is just let your anger out as much as you can, not by killing her though. you could buy a cell so she won't be listening to you on the phone but about the other stuff she does all i can tell you is to fight her, if she is as bad as you say she is. and you say that she has tried to hurt you while you where sick. Just catch her while her back is turned and grab her from behind, don't hurt her but convince her you will do something bad to her if she continues to act that way , do something so scaring to your sister that she will regret ever messing with you.
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root of the problem: bad parenting.
this girl has gotten everything she's ever wanted and has never been properly disciplined.
unfortunately, the only thing that can solve the problem is a serious beating. I AM NOT KIDDING OR JOKING WITH THIS. the next time she does something that is unacceptable, pull out the restraints and thrash her, as you are dealing out the punishment, tell her why you are doing it, and that there are now going to be consequences for her actions. the beating should be extremely harsh and brutal, no matter how much she screams and cries, just keep beating her until she stops sobbing like a little priss. once the little shit stops babbling and whatnot, the session should be over. use innovative ways so as to leave no bruises or marks and promise her that you will do much worse if she fucks around ever again, emphasize that you are doing what your slovenly parents should have done years ago, and that you will torture and kill her if she tells anybody. if she's bagging on your other sister, make sure she's present to witness the disciplinary action to instill a message of justice.
-hitler
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I think you should tell a person at school.like a teacher or some one. to get her help.
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You should definitely go to a Guidance Counsler in school if your parents cant do anything about it. Thats the most recommended thing from me. If she goes to your school you can also report it in peer mediation if you have it. You Have to do something about this! Otherwise itll just get worse and youll be a bullied piece of crap the rest of your life. You might want to stand up to her, sometimes that works. I just definitely reccomend going to the guidance counseler. If your too embarassed to go by yourself then go with your other sister if she goes to the same school. I really hope I helped. Please tell me how it goes! If you need more info just ask or IM me at SwedishFish1984
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That's total shit.
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Dear Sarah ,
try to calm yourself down .things will get better soon. and if you need someone to talk to about this here is my e-mail address : Maytuff1@wal-martconnect.com . ( because i understand how you feel ) or you can instant message me at : Maytuff1
- Sassygurl74-
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Yeah, i know what you are going threw.. its like the same thing for me.. but not as bad and with my older sister. She pushes me around and bosses me and makes fun of me all the time and it puts me down all the time. She is always online and her away message is talking about blah about her life and blah about me and some of my friends practicly talk to my sister more than me and it gets me so mad. I cant tell my friends anything because they already know from my sister. She was like "Remember at ___'s house you guys were..." and she like tells them the strange things i did when i was little to all my friends.. and i really cannot take it sometimes. I just think about how i can get back at her... revenge is like my middle name. I say that you should read her diary ((if she has one)) to your boyfriend and friends and i think that you should just make her life such a living hell untill she finally cracks! About that taking your anger out on something ask your parents if you can take up boxing or karate or something like that and take your anget out on the mats or wood or whatever. ((but not your sister)) dont stoop to her level of hitting you... my sister like "pretends" to beat me up too like she will throw shoes at me and hit me and ill get like bruses all over the place, its just what sisters do be a pain in the butt to eachother..
if you ever need anymore advice ask me! <3AmBeR<3
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Considering I don't have any siblings, I can't grasp how you can hate your own sister. All I can say is, if you truly hate her that much, she must be doing something terrible.
I think that you need to talk to your parents, but I mean really talk to them, if the problem is they don't beleive you, get evidence. Carry around a voice recorder, like on an mp3 player and record what she says, try and record her on the phone, and most importantly, don't give up.
I think that a therapist would help, but remember to be reasonable, don't just say you hate her, tell the therapist everything.
Also try to get through to Childline, NSPCC, etc. On a payphone or a mobile if you can't trust your sister not to listen in.
I guess the thing that you should definitely do is get away from her for a while, find a friend who can help you, and remember you can to talk to their parents if yours aren't helping. If you can tell them, you can try and stay there some nights, just to get away.
Hope I helped.
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OH MY GOD i have the same problem i know this sounds bad but first I just argued back and told my sister she has no life if all she wants to do is snoop, then i made her feel REALLY bad by being nice but like crying in my room at night and having a "fake" journal about HER that she can read, then pretend to get REALLY depressed WORKS EVERY TIME
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I'm sorry she does this to you.You don't deserve it at all.It seems like she's extremly insecure and has to impress her friends to feel liked.I know it's difficult, but try your best to keep your patience with her and see if she wants to play a board game..watch a movie...try an activity to calm her down.When she does something act like it doesn't bother you, but when you get to somewhere private you can scream if you have to.Trust me, it will drive her insane if she thinks you don't care when she makes fun of you.
xO LiSa*
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If your dad is getting you a therapist go and talk. It will do you good. She/he will help you deal with your anger and your sister if you let him/her.:)
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okay i feel for you. although my brother is NO WHERE near as bad i sort of get the idea. but i think it is good that you see a therapist cause you can yell and scream and say stuff and get it out. i dont really know what to give you advice on because your parents seem pretty oblivious and well your sister...... yeah....
i dont think you should KILL you sister. because i dont believe in killing people but i hope she gets in some serious trouble for what she does to you and your sisters.
hope everything gets better
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She sounds like a total and complete bitch!! Its GREAT that you're going to go see a therapist, but don't threaten to kill her or they might think you're kinda psycho. I don't personally think the therapist will do much, but it's still a GREAT way to get your feelings out. I'm giving you this great piece of advice: If your sister lays a finger on you, don't let her get away with it. Your boyfriend is right when he says to fight back, don't just let her hit you and let it go, it'll only make her seem more powerful than you and she'll want to do it more. Stick up for yourself girl! Remember who the OLDER sibling is. As for your parents, tell them enough is enough and that you UNDERSTAND how THEY feel too. They're going through basically the same thing you are by dealing with your sister as well.
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o0 wow! You have a right to be angry and I see why. Im sorry you got to live with her. When you get a therapist you can talk to them about it and if they see a problem they will try to help. I think your sister is the one who needs therapy. Shes crazy for doing all that. When she hits you hit her back or else she will just keep doing it. Dont let her get to you like that. Your parents need to let her know that she cant get everything she wants and her way. They are the ones who spoiled her and who let her keep doing that. They should ground her or lock her in a roon until she learns her f*cking lesson! x0
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YOU ARE UNDER ALOT OF STRESS. BEING IN A HOUSE LIKE THAT CAN RESULT IN MENTAL ILLNESS. YOU NEED TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH STRESS, YOU DON'T SEEM TO KNOW HOW. THE NEXT TIME SHE DOES SOMETHING TO ANNOY YOU, SMACK THE SHIT OUT OF HER. BE RUTHLESS. THAT WILL TEACH THE LITTLE BITCH TO FUCK WITH YOU. Or you could always stab her, but you might go to jail.
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you have a right to be angry. anyone could understand that. if you cant talk to your parents or sister maybe you could talk to your other sisters about it. if they would help. second. if your sister is about to hurt you.....dont hesitate to call the police. you have every right to. the therapist would be helpful too. if he/she sees a problem with your family then he/she could do soemthing about it. im fresh out of ideas. i hope everything works out!
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