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Hey, Im Nikki-
Im 15 years old and i live in NYC. I have been told that I give good advice, so I decided to put it somewhere it could be used constructivley.

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whats the best way to get my boyfreind back i kno he likes me still and i still like him hes just goin out with my other friend(she dosnt think hes hott she just likes him because he funny not sweet or nice but because he funny which he is but hes alot of other thing to)he left the school i still see him so how do i talk to him-when i see him his girlfriend isnt there most of the time-
plz help

Your friend is going out with him.
Let it go.
You should spend more time paying attention in english anyway.
Your grammar really sucks.
♥Nikki

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this boy named jerry is unbeleiveable.. i mean he's claming he has feelings for me but im unsure.. he's in 10th grade and im in 8th next year we will both go to high school its exciting.. well anyways.. his friends complain and write me advice notes asking how they can get their buddy jerry back because he talks n spends his time thinkin all around me (cute huh) well he doesn't want to start a relationship now because we did before but we can never find the time to work it out.. so i don't know if even though i really like jerry i should play the waiting game.. or if i should just go on and find other men.. untill the 9th grade...? thanks for your help

It's not a good idea. When you are in your twenties, two or three years will not be such a big differance, but right now, it's a huge differance. A 16 year old guy is going to expect you to do stuff with him that girls his age would do with him. He just wants to use you. Sophmores who go out with kids in middleschool are users. Like he can't have a girl on his maturity level.....so he'll go look at little 8th graders instead. He isn't going to treat you right, he isn't going to show off his 13-14 year old girlfriend to his buddies, it's embarrasing. He may really like you, or he may be using you. I just don't think it's a great idea.
_Boogie

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I feel a bit awkward using this site.. I've never asked anyone for advice like this before.. I'm a 15 year old male, and I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months. She works at a pizza shop and is surrounded by other people. A few weeks ago a worker from a different location was transferred to her shop.. She got along very well with him. I saw her that weekend and she seemed a little subdued, I tried to talk to her about it, but she said she was fine.. I tried to call her the following evening, but she didn't pick up her phone, nor her mobile.. I was pretty worried.. and I'm known to be a very worrying and fragile type person..

Anyway, the day after, I called her and found out that she had been at the movies with this guy.. She told me it was as a friend.. but later that night when she went to work, he kissed her.. this really upset me.. And she said she was very sorry and would stop seeing him..

However, one day, the following week, I tried to call her, and she wasn't there.. I stayed up until about 1 or 2 in the morning, calling her, untill she finally picked up.. Having been out with him again.. She is very truthful to me, and said that she was just seeing him as a friend, and didn't tell me because she knew I'd get upset.

She said to me that she loves me, and likes him, but she doesn't know what she wants.. I really can't take being strung along like this.. I'm naturally a very sensitive person, and my music is no longer enough to keep me alive.. I'm not at school, I don't have a job, I have very little to hold me together.. I don't know if I can deal with this.. Can anyone help me?

She Doesn't know what she wants. She is a young woman.....give her time to figure out what she wants.....and support her decision. And you can't say she is your only reason for living..go back to school, your only 15, we can make this work, im 15 too....there is sooo much more to life than other people. find something you like to do, and take time out of your day to do it. She doesn't respect you enough to break it off, she is being a coward.
_boogie

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Let me start out by saying that my sister is a nightmare. A big fat nightmare who makes your life turn into serious Hell. She is a thirteen year old snob who gets in everyones business, demands things from my parents who take it even though they don't like it. She has been damaging my life the most by trying to beat the crap out of me in front of her friends when I was severly sick, she didn't beat me up, but she kept trying to, and it made me upset, and I cried because it my body was aching. She has tried to smart mouth me in front of her friends, when my mom tells her not to do something, when shes not around, she will do it anyways, and when I try to stop her, she get up in my face, and says, "What are you gonna do about it?" Now, when things like this happens, I call my mom, and she'll just say, "stop it" even though thats probably about the hundreth time shes done it. She also lies, very bad. My parents know, but not as much, she tries spying on my phone conversations with my boyfriend, she is also known to read my other sisters diary to her friends on the phone, and laugh about it with them. She also told all of her friends something SO personal, I am not going to say, but it was so personal about my older sister. My parents do nothing about this. No matter how many times I try to ask them nicely, or I just slam it in their faces, they go talk to her, and she plays the innocent one. I told my mom tonight that she has made my life a living Hell, and all she said was, "well, she said the same thing about you" That made me so angry, because she looked at me like she believed her over me or she didn't know who to believe, HELLO! I am the innocent one here, everyone always says mean things about her, so they know shes the one whose rude! She is also known to hurt me in front of people, she'll grab underwear with blood in it, and will announce to everyone that its mine! When its really hers! I have dealt with this for a long time, and today, I just couldn't take it, I screamed in my room so loud, and tore all of the posters off of my wall, and scratched my face. I have gone crazy! When I heard somebody pick up the phone while me and my boyfriend were talking, I ran to my mom and yelled, "GET HER OFF THE PHONE NOW I HATE HER SO MUCH SOMEBODY JUST KILL HER!" And then, I went rambling on to my boyfriend how much I just want to kill her, and now I keep day dreaming about ways that I can kill her. I also kept saying, "shes a slut, a whore, a b*tch, a little sh*t, and an a*shole." I know shes a slut, but I will not get into detail about that. But I am asking somebody to please not tell me I need anger management, I know that this behavior is not abnormal, what person would not go crazy after dealing with a lying sister and parents who won't do anything about it? My behavior is scaring me, I've never hated somebody this much, I usually just like everybody, but everytime I think about wanting to kill her and it makes me feel good I get scared! I can't really talk to my parents, I've screamed it in their ears, and I've told them nicely, they don't listen to me.


Also, do not even think about having me talk to my sister, she is greedy, and selfish, all she cares about is herself, seriously, if its not her way, theres no way, shes a spoiled brat. So I guess what I'm asking is does anybody think I might be taking this too far? I know that I'm not, but does anyone think different? I know that this shouldn't get to me, but I have to live with her! I need ways to take my anger and sadness out, because all of my posters are ripped off of my wall. Also, my dad is getting me a therapist, so I can at least have somebody to talk to, but the whole time I'm probably going to ramble on about how much I hate her and wish she was dead, I have truly never felt this deeply of hate. My silly boyfriend wants me to fight her, but I'm not going to. But I hate her enough to. So, could anyone say something about this, like advice because I am in a huge puddle of misery. I just wish somebody would just think, "Maybe Sarah [me] has feelings too" when she makes fun of me, I wish she'd think, "Maybe since Sarah has depression, I shouldn't call her names because she feel pain too" And it makes me cry at night wondering how I'll ever get out of this Hell hole, somebody please give me comfort or anything that could help me. I've told my parents about my misery, so don't think that I havn't told anyone about this. I will rate.

YOU ARE UNDER ALOT OF STRESS. BEING IN A HOUSE LIKE THAT CAN RESULT IN MENTAL ILLNESS. YOU NEED TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH STRESS, YOU DON'T SEEM TO KNOW HOW. THE NEXT TIME SHE DOES SOMETHING TO ANNOY YOU, SMACK THE SHIT OUT OF HER. BE RUTHLESS. THAT WILL TEACH THE LITTLE BITCH TO FUCK WITH YOU. Or you could always stab her, but you might go to jail.
_boogie

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So there's this guy I like who likes me back.. the only reason we're not going out is because he lives in another city really far away. But its sort of understood that we have this thing going on. Anyway.. he's always talking about how hard it is for him to communicate openly with girls considering he doesnt have many female friend... ha yeah right. I just so happened to have guessed his email password (wrong I know.. but I have it and now I cant just not have it anymore!) and he has a ton of emails from all sorts of girls. There are "xoxo"'s and "love so and so"'s everywhere!!! I know Im not technically supposed to be mad considering Im not supposed to have been in there anyway.. but I cant help it. Is there anyway I can confront him about the girls.. ask him if there's someone else.. without him knowing I went in his email? Or should I shake it off and leave him and his email alone?

Can i have his e-mail address and password?
i wanna read it.

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ok so my boryfreind came into work today to introduce me to his best freind...i was excited about meeting her, till i saw her. She was gorgous, exactly how my boyfreind used to explain how i looked wen he first met me...tall long black hair, tan, skinny...spet shes prettier then i am...least i think she is. I know he would never cheat on me, cuz he loves me, and i love him..blah blahl blah,...but now that i met her i feel completly uncomforatable with my boyfreind bieng around her...ahh i hate bieng jealous..what should i do?

He is with you. She may be gorgeous, tall, skinny, beautiful....blah, blah, blah, but remember, he is with you. If he was interested in her, I don't even think that he would of introduced you to her. Boys with girls as bestfriends can make you nervous....and jealous, i know. But if this question keeps nagging at you, ask him, if he ever wentmout with her, how long has he known her, you know? Like wheremdid you and so and so meet? She seems like a really rad girl. Use the first level of communication- Which is information iving...bring up any topic, and slowly work your way to his best friend....you will soon learn he loves you. She is just a friend. And then everything will be okay. Good Luck.

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ok im 14 1/2 ok and theres this awesome guy at my school and i mean i like him and i think he likes me i mean he goes to church and everything job but the thing is he's 17 and ive heard rumors saying that guys make bets and crap on the freshmen to see how fast they can get into there pants i mean im not going to do anything like that but i don't want to be apart of a cruel joke so should i take the chance and go out with him or no..................

It's not a good idea. When you are in your twenties, two and a half years will not be such a big differance, but right now, it's a huge differance. A 17 year old guy is going to expect you to do stuff with him that a 17 year old girl would do with him. You are not on his maturity level, your a Freshmen, he is a Junior. I know that freshmen boys are so not as hot, or cute, or smart, or charming as a Junior boys could ever be, but right now, they are safest. It would be very unfortunate to do something that you did not want to do with a boy because you felt pressured. Freshmens and Sophmores are the best for right now. The safest. I hope you take my advice and don't get involved with this boy. I hope I don't sound like your mother, because Im not trying to, Im a freshmen also.

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Hey Ya'll,
First off Im male and 15. I've kinda got a problem... There is this girl that is pretty much one of my best friends I guess you'd say. But we hang out alot or atleast when we can. And for the last few(2) months I started liking her as more than a friend. But the problem is that I don't know if she likes me as more than a BFF. I mean some days she really seems to like me as more than a friend in my opinion and some days it just seems like were just like best friends. I really don't know what to do cause i dont want to hurt our friendship if she doesnt feel that way... Because I love hangn with this girl shes so awsome!

I was thinking of asking her to prom (my schools screwed up and small so I can go to prom if I pay) because I know she'll make it a fun time even if she doesnt like me that way because she just makes me have a great time hangn with her... Should I ask her?

Im 15 too, and I have a bunch of male friends. Sometimes we may be a little flirtatious, but it's all in fun. Going out with any of them would just be WEIRD. Im not so sure if you should ask her as in romantically, just as friends, and let the pieces fall where they may. Maybe prom night she will realize that she has feelings for you, and she will make the first move, just don't come on too strong.

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Hi! I have a hugeeee family. The number of people that live in my house is 12

The girl is clueless, and if she believes that she is better than you because she has money, she is very shallow and superficial. You are probably so much cooler than her.

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Where can i get a weight table for a 13 year old???

I also know this question is asked a lot, but how can I work on my thighs, abs, and arms??

Thanks, I rate 5's! (if your answer is reasonable)

http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/bmicalc.htm
there really isn't an average weight, you are healthy based on your height and weight, not your age.
So check this out that website.

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What kind of dog would you reccomend that is small and you don't have to worry much about its hair?

A Beagle, definatley.

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