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I feel a bit awkward using this site.. I've never asked anyone for advice like this before.. I'm a 15 year old male, and I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months. She works at a pizza shop and is surrounded by other people. A few weeks ago a worker from a different location was transferred to her shop.. She got along very well with him. I saw her that weekend and she seemed a little subdued, I tried to talk to her about it, but she said she was fine.. I tried to call her the following evening, but she didn't pick up her phone, nor her mobile.. I was pretty worried.. and I'm known to be a very worrying and fragile type person..
Anyway, the day after, I called her and found out that she had been at the movies with this guy.. She told me it was as a friend.. but later that night when she went to work, he kissed her.. this really upset me.. And she said she was very sorry and would stop seeing him..
However, one day, the following week, I tried to call her, and she wasn't there.. I stayed up until about 1 or 2 in the morning, calling her, untill she finally picked up.. Having been out with him again.. She is very truthful to me, and said that she was just seeing him as a friend, and didn't tell me because she knew I'd get upset.
She said to me that she loves me, and likes him, but she doesn't know what she wants.. I really can't take being strung along like this.. I'm naturally a very sensitive person, and my music is no longer enough to keep me alive.. I'm not at school, I don't have a job, I have very little to hold me together.. I don't know if I can deal with this.. Can anyone help me?
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Sounds like you have a lot to offer the girl. Maybe you should work on that and worry about your love life later.
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I think you should tell her how you feel, and from there give her some time and see what she does. If she wants to be with this guy, ask her. Don't get totally upset with her. I mean, you're still her friend, right? Maybe you guys will break up, and maybe you won't. If you guys turn ouit just being friends, maybe she'll realize that she needs you back..
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She Doesn't know what she wants. She is a young woman.....give her time to figure out what she wants.....and support her decision. And you can't say she is your only reason for living..go back to school, your only 15, we can make this work, im 15 too....there is sooo much more to life than other people. find something you like to do, and take time out of your day to do it. She doesn't respect you enough to break it off, she is being a coward.
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i dont know exactly what you are going through, but i can picture it, and what i would do. you have to remember- your mind is the strongest part of your body. When your body screams for you to stop, then you can still push yourself to finishing. You know what i would do, act like you need to prove yourself again. you need to get her to notice you again, almost like your cooking up the nearve to ask her out again, but you want to make sure she likes you first, so you act extra good, do stuff with her and for her, and just really act like you want her to notice you. You already have a head start on this guy, like she said, she loves you and likes him. So you need to take that (im a football player so ill put it into that perspective) 10 yards you already have on him, and pick up the speed, so there is no way he can tackle you! If you 2 end up doing about the same thing, and getting her attention the same, then she will lean to you, you just have to remember, this is a battle, you dont want to lose. Good luck man, and any other question leave it in the inbox
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She's right--she doesn't know what she wants. Back off and give her time to figure it out, and support her decision. You're still young, this is nothing to die over. You will have good and bad relationships in the future, but no matter how bad something is it isn't worth your life.
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