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the first time i almost had sex was two weeks ago. my boyfriend and i decided i was ready, so he tried to put his penis in, but it didn't go. it hurt when he tried to push it in too. so we just gave up on that. i've had my period since i was 11, so i don't know why it didn't go in. he's really tall and skinny, so his penis is quite thin too. helpp?!?!

were you thinking about how bad it would hurt when he tried? and were you actually ready? those are two questions you need to ask yourself, cause they need to be no for the first and yes for the second. the time girls need is a lot longer than the time guys do, guys could get up with turning around an seein you half naked, where girls it takes a lot longer. Make sure to tell your boy that and tell him that he needs to do some other things before, such as outercourse, "eat you out", finger you etc. just to make sure that your vagina is fully erected (yes believe it or not its the correct term) and that your wet enough to be able to have his penis slide in

My boyfriend and I have been having terrible sex. When we first started it was amazing...now it sucks. Well do you have any advice to get things a little more interesting? What types of roleplay do you suggest? How is the best way to play out those roleplays? Any other kinky ideas? Please explain the roleplays and other things. Not like complete details, but what I will need and how to start it. Also is there something we can do before sex and roleplaying to know each others bodies better that might help when actually having sex?

to be honest, i talked to my girl about it, and then i got her handcuffs and a blindfold for her birthday, along with we were going to experiment with different positions and such. hope it helped

How long should you wait to have sex after a period is over?
if u have a sex .say a week after.and the condomm popped.and he says he didnt cum inside you.and there was no sign of ejaculation in the condom and its still on the outside.could u be pregnant?

there is a 1/1,000,000 chance that you could be, because even though he didnt cum, there are sometimes a little bit that comes out that he doesnt even feel, however it would have all had to have been at the same time, and all these different variables that you really shouldnt worry about becuase you really probably arent.

okay. my school has alot of guys that think of sex ALL DAY LONG. every school does. well i was wondering why arent they scared? why am i so scared? i want to have sex but way to scared of anything to happen. does it hurt? need help with this!

for girls sex hurts really bad the first time, atleast it did for my girl. and the guys dont usually think about any of the consequences, if the girl gets pregnant they can always just up and leave her they dont have to sit there any stay with the baby. The girl however has to go through the whole birth process or abortion process. either way the girl has much more to lose which is why you think that way and guys think completly different. they think about the feeling, not the consequences, and girls think the other way around. mostly.

What is it called when:

-the guy is completely naked.
-the girls only has her underwear on.
-the guy is on top of the girl.
-the guy's penis is on the girl's vagina.
-the guy really treats it like it were real sex. (he fingers, lick, etc.)

is this really sex? if, so is there a specific name? thanks in advance.

if you want the honest answer it is something called "outercourse" it is pretty much when the penis doesnt actually penetrate the vagina, but about everything else is done

so i play football and every time i twist my knee wrong it feels like somthing pulls or tears. its like a sharp pain for a few minutes and my knees also pop whenever i bend my leg. thanks in advance

well dude, im comin from a highschool team with a trainer an a doctor on campus, so i would say go see them, if that is not the case, you need to schedule an appointment, because it could be a wide array of things. First you could have something that is pinching the nerve down there, 2nd you could have your patella tendons being pulled, 3rdly you could be gradually tearing your miniscus/acl/pcl/mcl, i dont know where exactly it hurts, but if all three of those are the case, you go to the doc now and be out for a few weeks, or you go when you cant walk and you need surgery, 18 week recovery, and football is outa the question. Also i hope when your squating your not squating 340 all the time, but doing percentages off that weight. And finally i would not do any leg extensions until you find out what's up

i been crushing on my best friend nearly 8 years. i told her how i felt but doesnt feel the same way.
i still have feelings for her!
how long did you have feelings for someone or/and friend? are over them yet? and how can you get over a best friend?

dont say look for new friends because thats BS! she is my friend i dont want to break the friendship over this.

haha, man, you better check from about 4 or 5 years ago and make sure i didnt ask this exact same question. My point is that I was in this same position litterally a few years ago. I would go into telling my life story on what happened, however it didnt turn out great. What i did was i tried hard and stuff and pretty much made her fall in love with me, and then we went out for about a year, but toward the end of it i started seeing things that she did that was really, really bitchy, so we had a mutual break up. and to be honest, now i think she is extremely annoying. My advice to you is do not let your love blind your sight. make sure you have a wide array of things you can judge on, to get the real idea. another idea for you is have another friend tag along on some things with this girl, and ask him later if he saw anything, to be honest in my situation if i woulda listened to my friend earlier i would have been a pimp then instead of tied down to her. so just keep that in mind. GOOD LUCK!!!

I was wondering is there any exercise or way that I can loose weight in my back? Because I dont know if I just have a lot of meat on my back or if it's fat. Please and thank you!

there are a lot of exercises i know for backs, but i dont have the slightest clue if they will help you lose weight... one of them is called supermen- it is when you lay face down on the floor and you pull your chest and quads (thighs) up off the ground, to the point you are like your flying... another one is called upside down banana- it is when you lay on the ground just like supermen, and this time you put your legs further back, (or up) and hold it for a 60 count (which means you count down from 60) any more questions about these, just ask me!

can you get a disease by kissing aand making out like only makeing out witht he tounge and nothing else?

it really depends on if THEY have a sickness of anykind (ex. flu, sore thout/strept) or anything that can be contageous, but you cannot however get any kind of STDs...

people make fun of me because i enjoy signing my cup. why do they make fun of me && what can i do to make them stop cuz i dont wanna stop. it turns me on...has this ever happened to you??

-Sir Jockstrap Junkie

ana, just stop....lol, o, i have to talk to you...

There's this one guy & him & I are pretty good friends. I like him as more than a friend & he feels the same way about me... i think. He told me he was considering asking me out. It didn't sound like a for-sure thing though. Basically, he didn't jus come out & admit his feelings, he said he doesn't know. I want him to ask me out but I'm not sure what to do. Also, he doesn't know I like him. Should I just come straight out and admit it?

Thanx,
Nathalie

if you have never told him that you like him then yes, you should come out and say. the only reason it wasnt a for sure thing is because guys dont want to be rejected...take it from me

ok so, i am only 13 years old. and i think i might be in love! my boyfriend is only 13 too. and i heard that he is like...an intch close to loving me! so now im scared bc i have never been in love before and i really dont want to get hurt. so do i break up with him before i get hurt or do i go with it and get hurt! i really need some help and ill rate high to anyone that gives some good advice.

you stay with him! if you love him then it will be stronger for the both of you if you do! dont be affraid to be heart broken or you will find yourself one of those single 40 year olds in a few years...so, if you get heart broken then it will make YOU personally stronger. and im assumming that wont happen for a while if you both love each other-good luck!

i kissed my boyfriend on the cheek for the very first time and im thinking now its his turn, should he kiss me? my friend told him "kiss her!!" but he never did. i was thinking he was suposed to be the one to kiss me first but i realized he was too shy so i kissed him, should i be looking for signs of kissing? haha i guess....alright help.

well, i cant give you the BEST information on this topic because i havnt kissed or gotten my kiss yet... BUT i am a guy, and the reason i believe he did not kiss you is because he was scared out of his mind. not in a bad way, but if he is the shy type, it may take a little while. Now what i did (i was in that exact situation, but from a guy's point of view) i kissed my girlfriend on the neck and cheek and forehead and stuff...and you can do that if you want, maybe you being a girl you dont feel comfertable in that kind of situation, kissing a guy and all, so you can take this information, or reject it, but just keep in mind, dont go too fast, i did and i regreted it

Any questions leave it in my inbox

Hello fellow advice giver! I am fairly new in the business and I have answered some questions and everything. The problem is, a boy of 15 was going through my answers and found out personal information that I did not want him to know like my bra size. Since you seem like a gentleman, what would you suggest I do to get this boy off my case? Any answer is greatly appreciated!

im not entirely sure what all you have on your column, but there is a way that you can hide answers that youve just answered, and maybe any personal question that there would be any way this perve would know anything else, just hide the question, and to tell you the honest truth, i just looked into it a little bit, im not entirely sure HOW to go about that, you could probably post a question, i would do it for you, except i wont be home for the next few days to check the answer...i hope i helped. Oh, and just for the record, if you know this kid, tell him that a younger guy thinks hes the biggest perve in the world...

PS. 99% of gues arent like that

Yeah, so my guy and I have been together for almost 20 months, and he proposed awhile back.
The thing is, about a month ago we had a big fight over something INCREDIBLY stupid and almost broke up before realizing that it was completely fixable, and that we'd both be miserable without each other. So really, we never broke up...but I want to know if we're still engaged. It's getting close to a year since he proposed. Should I just randomly do something like "You remember what you asked me a year ago today?"
I mean, he still talks about our relationship as if it'll never end, so I think he still feels the same way. I know he still loves me (if anything, he seems to love me more, and I love him)
So...how do I go about bringing this up?

this may sound korney, but its the best advice i can give-what i would do is take him to a very nice resturaunt on the day that he asked you out, and when you are eating dinner and he ever asks "so whats the special occasion" or anything asking why you are at such a nice place, just tell him "well, remember what you asked me a year ago today?" or if he doesnt ask you then tell him "((name)) do you remember what happened a year ago today?" < yeah i know its the exact same, but both ways will work (commin from a guy) then you can get on talking about it, tell him what you are/were affraid of and you wanted to know if he still wanted to get married to you. you can change some of the stuff around to your liking, but thats about what id do

I am in a situation where i know i am eventually going to end up fighting one or maybe 2 people, one is smaller than me and one is bigger, i dont need any paficists telling me not to fight, its unavoidable, can somebody give me some advice on how not to get my ass kicked and preferably to kick theres, im m/15 5 foot 9, and quite strong, just havent been in a real fight before.

agility, agility, agility, you have to be quicker than them, if your agility is high, and your awarness of what is going on is good, you just need to get the shots in that makes a big impact, if they are guys, well, lets just say you know that spot, you also have the stomach, nose, and eyes...keep those in mind, good luck!

i've recently become a vegitarian. my mother is worried that i wont get enough protein, what are some foods that i can eat that contain protein (besides meat, obviously)?

yes, there are, i can not think of any off the bat right now, but another route is protien drinks...i drink them to help me gain weight for football (dont worry, you have to drink them a certain way for that to happen, i have to drink them before and after i got lifting then before i go to bed at night) and all it is, is a powder that they tell you to put water (i put milk) with and you mix it up, and it doesnt taste all that bad...so if you are that worried about it, go out and get one of those, they sell them pretty much anywhere...

what do you do if you broke up with ur bf because of family problems and u still really like him a lot and you want to go back out with him but hes afriad you'll break up with him again? ill rate high!

you go to him and convince him that you did not break up with him because of how he is, or the way he is or anything, it was because of somthing that was going on with you. tell him that you still feel an emotion for him and that you really really want him back. if that doesnt work, drop it in my inbox and ill find another way for you

background: i'm 15. i used to be anorexic. sometimes i lie to get people to like me. i used to cut. no one has ever abused me. i was just stupid enough to start all that up

question: is it okay to start liking myself again? even though i did all of those horrible things and made everyone all worried, and wouldn't stop, and got so angry, and still do things sometimes? is it ok?

that is really a question you should ask yourself...will you forgive yourself for what you have done, there is a saying-forgive and forget, it depends on what YOU think. if you want my honest opinion- yeah, its fine, you should forgive yourself-what happens in the past, it is already done, and you cant change that. There is a saying right above my computer- "I cannot change yesturday. I can only make the most of today, and look with home toward tommorrow." That is what you need to do, there is a song "live like you were dyin'" that is how you need to live, you need to make the best of every day and make your talents known, that way, im not sure if you do feel this way, but it is a possability- you can feel that you are welcome and you have a perpose. Good luck!

My skin gets bitten a LOT during the summer...are there any home remedies or good sprays that you guys can suggest
thanks (ill rate)

OFF really works well, just get the unscented-i think thats it-yeah, im pretty sure that is the one that you cant smell

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