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How to bring it up/ask him
Yeah, so my guy and I have been together for almost 20 months, and he proposed awhile back.
The thing is, about a month ago we had a big fight over something INCREDIBLY stupid and almost broke up before realizing that it was completely fixable, and that we'd both be miserable without each other. So really, we never broke up...but I want to know if we're still engaged. It's getting close to a year since he proposed. Should I just randomly do something like "You remember what you asked me a year ago today?"
I mean, he still talks about our relationship as if it'll never end, so I think he still feels the same way. I know he still loves me (if anything, he seems to love me more, and I love him)
So...how do I go about bringing this up?
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Being engaged to someone should mean that both are willing to get married. For that to be a good relationship .. there needs to be honesty and communication and to love eachother. and if your not sure wheather your engaged, or if you feel not right asking your fiance' if you are engaged or what.. then this isnt the best decision ever.
now dont take this the wrong way. im not saying that you wont end up together in eachothers arms married but maybe you should give it more time to see if u become more comfortable opening up to eachother. the best thing i can say is to talk to him, it sounds like you both really care deeply for eachother, and im sure you will be fine. i wish you the best of the luck! <3
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Just tell him that you were online today looking at pretty wedding dresses and show him which one you think is cute. then ask him would he rather have it in the summer winter or fall just drop little hints to him .Hope i helped.. good luck rate me
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Being engaged to someone should mean that both parties are willing to enter into a marriage. For that to be a realistic situation, there needs to be honesty and open communication.
If you're not sure whether you are engaged, or if you feel uncomfortable asking your partner if you are, then this isn't the best engagement ever.
I don't mean you might not end up together, but that maybe individually or as a couple you just aren't ready to be engaged. Particularly as it sounds like no wedding plans have actually been made.
The best I can offer is a suggestion to talk to your partner and see what's going on. It sounds like you both care very deeply for each other, and I'm sure things will be fine - if you're both honest and avoid misunderstandings!
Best of luck.
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this may sound korney, but its the best advice i can give-what i would do is take him to a very nice resturaunt on the day that he asked you out, and when you are eating dinner and he ever asks "so whats the special occasion" or anything asking why you are at such a nice place, just tell him "well, remember what you asked me a year ago today?" or if he doesnt ask you then tell him "((name)) do you remember what happened a year ago today?" < yeah i know its the exact same, but both ways will work (commin from a guy) then you can get on talking about it, tell him what you are/were affraid of and you wanted to know if he still wanted to get married to you. you can change some of the stuff around to your liking, but thats about what id do
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If you are in a relationship that you don't feel comfortable talking about things as important as your engagemnent then you should not be getting married! :-)
If you do want to bring it up then don't be too direct or confrontational about it. Bring the conversation around to the future and mention what it would be like to get married and lead on from there.
You are technically still engaged seeing as you never broke up, just in case you are wondering but it might notr be the best thing for you. You can be in a loving and committed relationship without marriage which is just a bit of paper when you think about it. You could try suggesting that you put the pair of you on a sound financial and legal footing- unromantic but sensible and a sign of commoittment.
I'm sorry if this seems a bit negative and I hope the two of you will be very happy.
*Girlwithamansname
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In my opinion, you should just stay put. Be patient, as long as you love him and he loves you, that's all that matters. If he wants to get married, he'll remind -you-. So if you're patient the time -will come. You two love eachother and you both know that. ;)
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Ok. Make sure you guys are alone and nobody would interrupt you.
You can start talking about the day when he proposed and tell him how good you feel about that. Nicely, gently, ask him how does he feel about it. Then, right then, you will know what is in his head. Remember you are not to bring up anything negative to this conversation. All nice and gentle...Do not scare this man off!
Caution: Please do not pressure him nor nag him. Just make it look innocent.
Please come back and tell me what happened...
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I think it would be okay for you to ask. Just a simple are we engaged or were you just kidding about that would probably work! You can ask any way you like but, you should ask. Maybe you could start talking about what the future has in store for you both...it should naturally come up in that conversation don't you think?
Everyone has bad spots in their relationship at times. I think the fact that you overcame a possible break up says a lot for the strength of your relationship. I wish you both well for the future. :)
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