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My boyfriend and I have been having terrible sex. When we first started it was amazing...now it sucks. Well do you have any advice to get things a little more interesting? What types of roleplay do you suggest? How is the best way to play out those roleplays? Any other kinky ideas? Please explain the roleplays and other things. Not like complete details, but what I will need and how to start it. Also is there something we can do before sex and roleplaying to know each others bodies better that might help when actually having sex?
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to be honest, i talked to my girl about it, and then i got her handcuffs and a blindfold for her birthday, along with we were going to experiment with different positions and such. hope it helped
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You need to communicate more in bed...maybe talk dirty to him but in a way that suggest he touch you more like you want him to. Or show him how you like to be touched...let him watch you pleasure yourself...that will turn him on and help you in the longrun. Don't ever fake an orgasm becuaes then when you try to tell him and explain to him how to touch you you are really going to piss him off becuase he'll realize you faked an orgasm. I made that mistake and had HORRIBLE sex for 2 years becuase I was afraid of hurting his feelings.
Sex toys are always good in the bedroom also...anysort really. And if you guys are nervous in front of each other you don't nessicarily jump into role play becuase that's a very on spot type of thing...you could always wear lingrini.
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well.depending on how you alls body's like to be touched...try for say..kissing around the areas you are most ticklish.it works for me.I get wet every time and aroused like all hell.It will defenitely bring pleasure.If u haven't been bitten before.try it.[ticklish area].it turns u on.have him slap you on your ass, thighs.sometimes, weak sex comes from the lack of how good or badly you actually like your partner.cause sometimes.you will never get aroused.
Roleplay.Might not always work out.But try listening to his fantasies.And act it out.Give it your all.Hope I helped.
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The first person to answer had some good points and ideas which i'm going to try to add to as well as give my own ideas. Telling each other your fantasies is a good idea. It's hard to be truthful about that stuff though. We all worry about being judged. The longer together the harder it can be to bring some of them out in the open. I'd say to tell each other your fantasies just so you both have this knowledge. If he says something too bizarre or creepy, realize it is only a fantasy. Some fantasies shouldn't be acted on.
You didn't completely explain why the sex is stale now. I'm assuming here that you both feel like you are running out of things to try. One thing to keep in mind is that sometimes it's not so bad to do things you have done previously. If something was good, it was good. It's not so bad to do it over. Maybe you would want to reinvent it though or add a twist. You have to realize that things that seem sexy to a girl are not always as sexy for the guy and vice versa. Most people are either inclined to be more passive or aggressive in bed. You two probably have found your natural roles. Let's say he is the aggressive dominant one. You can reverse things to be totally different or you can ask that you go further on your current path. If you want things to be harder or rougher, maybe cause a lil argument right before hand so he may take things out on you. You have to REALLY trust him to do that though. Nobody wants hurt. You could try doing things in strange places. You could make a list with or without his knowledge of places you are dying to do it. You could either spring it on him once there or you could head there together all giddy at the possibilities. I cannot speak for all guys. Like they say "different strokes for different folks" but it's just sexy when a girl is enthusiastic. He is yours and you are his. It is okay to be the bad girl. It's okay to be at a party with him and just either whisper somehting really bad in his ear or to pull him aside and let him know your intentions for the night. Having him wanting you and not able to do anything about it will have him dying for the things to come. I'd suggest either getting a mirror or being near a mirror sometime so you may get more visual stimulation while with him. Basically, attitude is the key with most of this. You want him wanting knockdown drag out sex. Costumes and role playing are fine and all but i think they lead to more of a laughing type silly bonding type of adventure. You asked about roleplay and getting to know each others bodies better. You could try to get some body paint and just paint one another. Perhaps only allow hands used to do the painting. Maybe just 2 fingers or something so it has to drag out. Maybe just have a session where you two can do anything to one another but it has to all be from the waist up. Maybe something like this, your bf shows up at your place. You're all alone. You call your friend or family member who is let's say 30 minutes away to come over. Tell them the door will be open and to just walk in. Then you jump your bf insisting you two do it right there and then. That way you two are racing against time. Insist the act take place just feet from the door. If it's a situation where you just have a bedroom in your parents house and nobody is home then do it so your door is open or something. The sky is the limit on all of this. Just think of what turns you on and what you have been missing. Then just go in that sorta direction. I hope i was of help for you.
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As far as roleplaying goes. It's not really roleplay, but men love appreciation. Build up his ego, make him feel good, emotionally. It has a lot more to do with sex than you would think.
Something I would suggest: Dress up for him, if you don't want to go out and buy sexy lingerie, then put on his favorite pair of your underwear, and match it with whatever you got. Get dressed up, makeup, hair, heels, whatever you're into. Then do a something like a strip tease, and take total control of the sex. Men don't always like to be in control.
Ask him what his fantasies are, if you guys have been together for a while. It's a touchy subject, so be open, no weird faces, and don't immediately reject anything. Tell him some of your fantasies too. Try to fulfill those fantasies. They could be as simple as having sex in a hammock or something. It doesn't have to be anything crazy, if that's not what you're into.
Do some reading. It sounds really really lame, but your boyfriend will appreciate it if you pick up on some tips and tricks from a legitimate source.
If you want to have better sex, then you can have better sex. It's not upto your boyfriend to figure out how, do it yourself. Experiment with it, find out what you guys like, and don't be shy. Play around, it can be very pleasing for both of you. Good luck. If you have any more questions feel free to leave one in my inbox.
~Love Angel
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