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why am i so scared of having sex?
okay. my school has alot of guys that think of sex ALL DAY LONG. every school does. well i was wondering why arent they scared? why am i so scared? i want to have sex but way to scared of anything to happen. does it hurt? need help with this!
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if you've never done it before, being scared is totally normal. i promise.
it's something different than what you're used to.
just make sure you can really trust the person and they really have the same feelings for you.
sex does hurt girls for the first time.
but not so much after that.
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for girls sex hurts really bad the first time, atleast it did for my girl. and the guys dont usually think about any of the consequences, if the girl gets pregnant they can always just up and leave her they dont have to sit there any stay with the baby. The girl however has to go through the whole birth process or abortion process. either way the girl has much more to lose which is why you think that way and guys think completly different. they think about the feeling, not the consequences, and girls think the other way around. mostly.
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Sex is a big deal when it comes to girls, not only because girls normally attach to whatever they make love to first, men don't. That might be one of the reasons...you want it to be special just like every girl does but are afraid of losing whoever makes it special. You might be scared because girls go through more when it comes to pregnancy...you don't just get pregnant...you give birth and have a child the rest of your life..that's a lot of pressure for a girl.
Sex isn't something to be afraid of it hurts the first time...but after that your body gets use to it, and it becomes very pleasurable...but only if you let the guy know what feels good for you. Don't be afraid to be open with the person your making love with or else it may not be all you want it to be.
You shouldn't do it unless your ready becuase of all the consequences that could happen. Make sure it is truely with someone you love because then you don't have to worry about losing them, or getting pregnant being a problem.
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i thibk u r scared because u might get pregnant but nothing will happen to the guys.
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To be honest, I think that most guys are scared too and they talk and think about it all day long because they don't know how to deal with the fact that their 'at that age' and it can happen any time and they don't know what to do.
They don't want their girl to think their stupid and don't know what happens so they act like they know all about it like they've done it a hundred times.
Or some guys just don't care... there are a lot of those and I hate them.
I wont lie, sex does hurt for the first time. But it all depends. It hurt me but it wasn't extremely painful like other girls have experienced.
Some girls are completely different to others. If you have lots of foreplay first to make sure you are 'wet' it wont hurt as bad because your body will be naturally lubricated.
You need to make sure that you trust the person you are having sex with and always remember to be safe... use protection! Remember that condoms don't just protect you from pregnancy but also for Sexually Transmitted Diseases. I work in a Dr's Clinic and it's definitely not a nice thing to have! It can get pretty nasty.
So just take your time in having sex, don't make any bad choices because it's something you'll remember forever.
Good luck and be safe :) Have fun!
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I'm assuming that you're female, from the wording of your question. But even if you're a guy, the answer is: Because you're not ready yet.
I urge you to hold off for a while. When the time is right, you will know.
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It would help to know if you are a boy or girl, and what age, so next time write something like m/15 at the end of your question to help out the advicenators.
Our society is biased when it comes to sex. Boys are encouraged to get with a lot of girls, that is "pimpin", but when a girl gets with a lot of guys it makes her a "slut". It's unfortunate and sexist, but that's how society is. Guys are trained to think that sex is "no big deal".
If you are a girl:
Yes, sex may hurt the first time, but hopefully you'll be with someone who cares about you and tries to make it as painless as possible.
If you are a guy:
It is important that for your first time, you are in a private place, so you won't be worried about people coming in and you'll have an easier time "getting it up".
For both:
It is VERY important to make sure that your first time is with someone you love and trust. Many people will say that sex is "no big deal" or "nothing special", but they just haven't experienced sex with love. It is a million times better. When you give yourself fully to someone, it should be a loving and caring experience, so you aren't treated as an object or toy.
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