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Hey Hey! Does anyone know any songs which talk about controlling others and puppetry of a person. I'm doing a play called Eclipse by Simon Armitage and we need music that reflect our play! (link)
numb by linkin park?


Can garageband work on something other than a Mac? Like I have an HP laptop. And if it can work with windows, will it cost anything? (link)
No, sorry. Garageband is only for mac. There are other programs that do similar functions, but none for free that are as versatile, user-friendly, or just plain cool.


hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help?? (link)
Peeps gave a very good and thorough answer and you shouldn't rate it down just because it isn't what you wanted to hear.

You aren't coming on here to hear what you want, you're coming here for the advice of people who are wiser, smarter, and have more life experience than you.

Now to my answer... I do understand you situation, and it's a shame about the money, but it doesn't change the fact that it's wrong and illegal. However, it's not so bad what you were doing, rather the fact that you were hiding it from your boyfriend. You claim to care about him more than anything, that he is "the only thing keeping you from suicide", yet if you cared about him you wouldn't keep potentially harmful secrets from him. He clearly knows about your financial status, and I'm sure if you HAD told him, he would have understood.

Here's what I advise you to do NOW:

Tell him that you care about him more than anything, that you're so upset that you hurt him, and that you were ashamed of the situation so you didn't want to tell him. Now tell him that whatever the situation in the future, no matter how bad, you'll tell him because you know he'll be standing by your side.

Then you hope he trusts you again.


im on my iPod touch and I was on meebo and I was wondering if you could view a webcam on meebo from my iPod. And if so how can you do it?
Thanks (link)
No you can't... sorry


Okay so here it goes. I had sex with a guy two days after my period ended. We used a condom at first, then for some reason he took it off, but he pulled out. Not too long after that, I got sick (fever, becomming really tired, cough, stuffy nose.) I began running/exercising with my friend and my diet went through different changes. I was also stressed out over a guy problem I was having. I was supposed to get my period around 26-28 days after my previous one but now its been 32 days since I've had it. I know there's a possibility I could be pregnant but with all those other factors I'm trying to stay positive that my period could just be messed up. I got all my usual period signs - breakouts on my face, breasts getting bigger, mood swings. My boobs don't usually get extremly tender but for some reason now they are, which I think could mean im going to get my period soon or otherwise :/ Is it too early to take a pregnancy test and would it be worth me buying one? (they are kind of expensive) Or does it sound like all the other factors are the reason I'm not getting my period? Thanks, 16/f. (link)
There's really no way to tell besides a pregnancy test. If you went to a free clinic, they could do it for free (if money was a concern). But it's best not to worry because worrying can make you miss a period and trick your body into displaying signs that it's pregnant.


iam 13 and circumsised.i have like dark skin all the way around the middle of my penis.its a thin line and its darker then the rest of my penis and it goes around my hole penis.just the middle of my penis though.so it looks kind of like the shape of a ring.is that supposed to be ther?and if it is will it ever go away?if it does how old will i be when it goes away? (link)
Yeah I have that too you're fine

EDIT:

well im not gonna go into too much details but its like a brown ring about 1/3 from the top and the skin above it is lighter than the skin below it. I don't think it'll go away but it's completely normal.


okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him. (link)
Even though it obviously makes you feel good to make him feel jealous, you're gonna have to stop because you're giving girls everywhere a bad reputation.

There is no reason that you should get pleasure out of hurting someone you "love" or even "care about". It's just mean and immature.

If you're gonna have a grown up relationship, you're gonna have to grow up.



If you are ready to grow up, and have a mature relationship, you need to apologize to him, and say you're never gonna intentionally hurt him again.

And you need to mean it.


I've been on BCP for a while now, but a little over a month ago I missed a pill by mistake. At that time, I also had sex a couple times (no ejaculation inside, but no condom either). About a week later I had light pinkish bleeding which I thought could be implantation bleeding. I got a negative pregnency result and had, what looked like, a period a little later. It didn't exactly smell the same though. Today I got brown discharge, and my period isn't due for another 2 weeks. Lately I have also had gas more than usual. Could I be pregnant? What is the brown discharge? (link)
Brown discharge means your period is close. You're not pregnant. You can miss up to two pills in a row and still not get pregnant, even if he ejaculates inside you. Read the website for your pill for more info. Also, if your pregnancy test says negative, or if you get your period, you're not pregnant.


"On your first date with him, give him a lovebite on the top of his shoulder from behind! This turns him on completely! This is the perfect thing to do when you're in the cinema. (this works with most guys) "



whats a lovebit? please be specific (link)
Like a hickey, suck on the skin.


When are your supposed to first start seeing a gyno? I'm 15 and have had my period since I was 12. I've only been briefly looked in my vaginal area by my pediatrician years ago. I'm somewhat sexually active (I've done oral, mutual masturbation)

I'm wondering when/how I should ask my mom to visit a gynecologist. I'm a worry wart and just want to make sure everything is okay in my life. (link)
Some people say as soon as you start your period, others say when you first have sex. It's really up to you. But until you have sex, the checkups from pediatricians should suffice.


for about a month i've been doing lunges to increase my butt size and push ups to increase my upper body strength. i'm only 110lbs (16/f, 5'7") and all of my strength is in my legs, i have NO upper body strength, and i have no butt what-so-ever. i was doing about 15 push ups a day and 20lunges a day and i've been doing this for a month and i haven't seen any increase.

how long is this going to take to see a difference?
~i've also been drinking these milk drink things that have extra protein in them to help me gain weight.

i guess this is a two part question so the other part is:

i've been about 110lbs for a year and a half now. i have a rediculously high metabolism and if i don't eat constantly i can loose a lot of weight which i dont want to do. for example, i'll wake up and be 102lbs, eat breakfast(cereal and toast), lunch(sandwich, soda, chips, maybe ice cream) and dinner(large plate of whatever is for dinner that night) and then i'm constantly snacking all night. before i go to bed i weigh myself and i'll be anywhere from 108-110lbs. go to bed, wake up and weigh myself and i'll be 102-104lbs again. its very frustrating and hard to gain weight when i lose it while sleeping! my new years resolution is the oposite of most americans these days. i want to gain 10lbs by the end of the year but i dont know how. i'd be willing to gain muscle as long as i didn't turn like super buff.

any help for my questions? (link)
You always weigh less in the morning, so weigh yourself one time a day every day.

If you want to increase your strength/muscle size, you have to increase the number of reps (times you do the exercise). You can't do 15 push ups a day for a month and expect to get stronger. You have to keep doing more and more.

Hope I helped.


Why do some people think that saying Jesus's name in vain is okay while saying God's name in vain isn't? Yeah, God is our Lord but Jesus is still a higher being.


Not that my religious view matter in this question but I am not Christian which might explain my perplexity to the situation.


In class today we were reading a play and my teacher announced that if we come by a profound word we do not have to say it. A student in my class came across "God!" as she was reading out loud and replaced the word with "Jesus!" because she claimed saying God's name in vain is wrong. I know this girl is Christian.


I completely agree that we should not use God's name in vain but why should Jesus's name be any different? I of course snapped at the girl and asked about the situation. She could not give me a straight answer so I'm wondering if someone else can. Or was she just an idiotic high school student (link)
Jesus represents the more human part of G-d, accessible to people. That is why it is more acceptable to use Jesus. However, neither one is okay according to my beliefs, but some people have different beliefs, and the one stated above is a common one.


When my boyfriend gets me aroused, I get terrible nausea and sharp pains. Does anyone have this problem? Or know what causes it? He feels terribly about it, and I just want it to go away. HELP! (link)
That's weird my girlfriend gets stomachaches after we have rough sex but that's because I have a large penis and hit the top... I don't know why you would have one when you get aroused. Maybe see a doctor, or take some antacid before doing sexual things.


Hello,
I Have Recently Become Very Close With A Boy - We Kissed Last Weekend And I Think That The Relationship May Go Further,
I Have Told Him I Want To Go Slow - Coz I Have Some Things I Want To Sort Out In My Life First.
I Can See Us Together And Can See He Will Respect Me For Who I Am...The Main Thing I Want To Sort Out Before We Go Into Anything Seriuos Is To Lose Weight - I Am 16 Years Old, 5.ft.7, Weigh About 10.7/11 Stone...Someone Please Help And Tell Me A Safe Quick Way To Lose Weight That Won't Be Gained Back Strght Away, I Alredy Go To The Gym For Two Hours On A Tuesday After School. Its The Only Time I Have Really. School All Day During The Week - Tues Gym - Wed And Thurs work - Fri Sometimes Work Or With Friends, I Don't Really Want To Give Up My Weekends Though.
Has Anyone Got Any Useful Advice For Me!! I Would Really Appreciate It!!
Many Thanks x (link)
You can run every day before school it's a great way to wake up in the morning.

You don't have to capitalize every word just the first word in a sentence.


Over the last few years i have stared to have feelings for an old friend, which is now my boss. But due to the work relationship and the strong friendship I have with her I try do everything to make her life easier and more enjoyable in every way with out letting on. If she found out my feeling it would make things more difficult for her and myself to work in the same area. I'm also scared that if she found out and not interested it would be even worse for us. Could any one help with some advise. (link)
DON'T EVER GO OUT WITH YOUR BOSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I cannot stress this enough.

Imagine if things didn't work out!! She could fire you!

Also, people could say you're getting special treatment.

There are plenty of fish in the sea who you're not working for...


i was looking at some Illinois drinking articles and i was wondering if its true that it is ok for an adult to give there children alcoholic beverages as long as they are on private property and accompany them (link)
I'm not sure about Illinois specifically, but that is true in the majority of states.


what kind of flowers are these? http://wholesale.thompson-morgan.com/pix/m/wholesale/5/5136.jpg (link)
Pansies


im relly unconfident kids on the bus make fun of me and say shuut up you boobless bitch and some times i come home crying and every one in my family have boobs except for me and my mom she got implants i dont know what to do im crying right now please help me. i dont even fit in an a cup :( (link)
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=527645


So, I have the hardest time swallowing pills. It's weird, I use to be able to. But for some reason now I just can't do it. I know it's all in my head and I think I'll choke or something. Any advice? (link)
My girlfriend had this problem.

1. Put the pill in the indentation in the middle of your tongue.

2. Drink water fast so your throat doesn't tense up when you think about it.

3. Try practicing with skittles or other small candy first.


I am 19, and i'm working with this guy who a few days ago said, 'i'mma **** u up." and yesterday he puts his arm around me saying, "this gone be my girlfriend when she get older." to a group of co-workers. He's 26 or 27, and he does these little things that shows he might like me, like I catch him looking and he waves from time to time, and give weird looks at me. We joke around and pick with each other a lot but I was confused by what he meant that day. (link)
Either he wants to beat you up of have sex with you. Probably the second judging by the rest of the post.




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