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it won't go in? 14/f
the first time i almost had sex was two weeks ago. my boyfriend and i decided i was ready, so he tried to put his penis in, but it didn't go. it hurt when he tried to push it in too. so we just gave up on that. i've had my period since i was 11, so i don't know why it didn't go in. he's really tall and skinny, so his penis is quite thin too. helpp?!?!
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i have had sex around 9 times and to be honest with you it still hurts when my boyfriend first goes in. i dont know if it has to do with his penis size or what but i do know that once you get it in and kinda get used to the feeling of it then its worth it.
trust me. :)
youll do fine.
just work with it.
youll get the hang of it.
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were you thinking about how bad it would hurt when he tried? and were you actually ready? those are two questions you need to ask yourself, cause they need to be no for the first and yes for the second. the time girls need is a lot longer than the time guys do, guys could get up with turning around an seein you half naked, where girls it takes a lot longer. Make sure to tell your boy that and tell him that he needs to do some other things before, such as outercourse, "eat you out", finger you etc. just to make sure that your vagina is fully erected (yes believe it or not its the correct term) and that your wet enough to be able to have his penis slide in
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Losing your virginity can be painful. But dont be nervous, its not so painful! If it was then why would so many people have sex :) Just relax. Dont get nervous about the pain. Just give eachother time to do some foreplay. It is absolutely key when having sex for the first time. This will help relax you and get you both more in the mood. So don't rush right into sex. Have him take his time and when you feel that you are lubricated enough for sex, give it a try. If it is still not going in then have some lube handy. Make sure the position is right too. That can make a huge difference too! Don't try any crazy positions yet. Go for the simple, classic missionary style. It's a great first timers position. So the key ingredients are: Foreplay, Lube, & Position! Best of luck!
~Sherah
PS: Don't stress about things not being perfect. There will be plenty of time to keep trying. It only gets better :) So just let the moment happen.
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I'm 15 and know what your talking about me and my boyfriend had sex 1st time a few weeks ago and we tried and it wouldnt go in then we tried again with lots of lube and it helped alot and foreplay makes it easier if it still doesnt work try having him finger you and make it looser
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Girl dont sweat it.you was just too tight. and on top of that ince it hurt...you was not wet.so he was basically trying to do u while you was dry...try again.maybe foreplay will help...hope i helped
grape™
to add additional info...a girl after me had typed some advice.not to burst her bubble.but when it comes down to it...lube can brake the condom.its chemical can do something to it[learned in health class]and it some how pops.also lube is wet.it helps get u wet.but once that condom pop and the sperm hits u.the sperm moves faster into the uterus.believe me i know this.any kind of wet liquid in tha vagina helps sperm travel faster.so think twice on that one.
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Its fact that on first times, everythings a little dodgy. The first time may not be great but after that Its not too shabby :)! What you must remember is that fi yuo worry too much then, it will hurt more and be harder 'to fit in' it's ahrd to eb relaxed in sucha s ituation, but lots fo couples have to try a couple of times! Just know if you're close, it will happen, just trust him and let him navigate a little! First times are bound to hurt for around 30 seconds/a minute.
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Well thats what happens the first time, it happens to everyone, the pain is woth it in the end, you'll feel so much better after your first time, I promise
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Losing your virginity is definitely painful. If you can't seem to work things out the first time, next time you might want to get some lubrication or something. Another thing that might work, let him finger you, first with one finger, then two. That way your muscles aren't so tense when you're ready to have sex. Make sure to use protection, good luck! -Angel
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