Hey everyone. My name is Rachael, and I started this advice column simply because I figure that I have learned enough from my own mistakes, and that you should not have to do the same. I am the kind of person who tells things straight up. I don't candy-coat bad news, and I don't exagerate on good news. If you want to be told simply what you want to hear, then I am not the columnist for you, but otherwise I will give you good advice that you can rely upon.
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Last Update: March 29, 2005
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Okay so I have been dating this guy Max for 7 months. Well his ex girlfriend Chanet still likes him. Max isn't the smartest guy so after school he goes to this thing where he studies for the proficincy. Well so does Chantel. Apparently yesterday Chantel and Max didn't go to the proficiency and they went ot this girl Heathers house. Well Chantel is bi and Heather and her use to date. Well Heathers little sister Stephanie is a friend of mine and she had some other people I know over at her house. She told me today in 3rd that she went up stairs to where Chantel and Max were hanging out and that they were freak dancing and the music was really loud and that Chantel said Max and her made out. Of course Stephanie told me but this was 3rd period. So I naturally started freaking out. Then my next class is lunch. And the WHOLE junior class knows what happened! So I see Max at lunch and he tried to touch me and I moved away because I am soo disgusted with him and the situation. So then I go with my friend to go get a water and when we come back he is gone. Like 12 people came up to me and told me again what Max and Chantel did. I was so overwhelmed that I think I made myself sick. I haven't talked to Max for the rest of the day. What do you think really happened? Max told Stephanie that nothing happened but everyone says he did. Please help me. I am so confused. Please
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Before I answer this question, I would like ask if you and Chantel are friends. If you are, then she is a horrible friend, and she is probably telling the truth. If you are enemies she may just be saying these things to hurt you. But if you are not really either, then you really should talk to Max about it. The thing about dating is that if you are dating someone then you have to trust them. Until you have proof that all of that happened, give him the benefit of the doubt. However, always be on your guard for that girl. Girls brag just like guys do, so she could just be bragging. For your sake I hope she is.
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15f- I like this guy (still). We went out for like two weeks in January then he broke up with methe day after V day! he and I were hanging out the Thursday. We did some stuff. I did it because I don’t want to loose him though. well he said he still likes me. And "he wants to be with me" I don’t know what that means. I don’t know what to do! I like him! he told me he hasn’t been with any other girl since he met me. I don’t know to believe that! he hasn’t talked to me most of this week and every time I do talk to him he’s like I’m busy or I’m grounded! he always tells me he loves me on the phone... and the other day he looked me in the eyes and said it! He told me last night and when I said I love you too he’s like no you don’t...? I don’t know what to think. He told me last night that he had to go to church at 6 this morning. And he said he’s getting grounded from his truck and phone. I don’t know what to think there either! But I had a panic attack the other night. It was because of him. because of texts he’s been sending to a girl He called her baby and asked if she was single. He told me later that she had a boy friend and she’s only a friend. Okay, well he called when I was flipping out (panic attack) I was crying. So I left my house in therain to think about him and what I should do. And he was like baby I don’t want to get off the phone with you until your okay! He sent me like 100 text messages and said I’m so worried about you baby and I love you so much! I’m not sure what to believe. I like him so much. I think I’m getting to the point were I like him so much I hate him. If u know what I mean! I wrote something in his column telling him I like him a lot (said a lot about 150 times. at the end I was like 'but I don’t have a chance anymore'. he responded "yea u do” I don’t know if that was to the fact that I like him (like him being sarcastic about), Or if it was him saying I have another chance. I’m not sure what to do! I like him so much! What should I do about him?! Please answer this with your most honest answer PLEASE! I need help with this guy... thanks... (link)
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In your plea for advice you said that he was supposedly "giving you another chance", but honey, sounds to me like he is the one who needs another chance. You have done nothing but care for this guy, and he comes back and does nothing but play with your heart and toy with your emotions. He did say he loves you, but who doesn't now a days? Don't trust this boy as far as you can throw him. Watch out for your heart honey, and if you do then getting over him now will be a lot better than when you find him doing more than text messaging another girl.
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Ok I have fallen hard for one of my guy friends and i've liked him as more than a friend since January or something. Ok, now he has a girlfriend, but on the day he asked her out he told me that he really only liked her as a friend, and this girl's friend kind of made him feel like this girl would be crushed if he didn't ask her out, so he did. And tht was a few weeks ago. And last week, he kept looking at me and paying attention to me a whole lot more than his girlfriend and flirting and such, and this week he's hanging around with her again, and he still glances at me, but it's like we're just friends again... I'm so confused and I don't know what to do... any help will be greatly appreciated, THANKS! (link)
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Look sweetie, I know that it really sucks to like a guy and be unsure about his feelings back. I also know that it is hard liking a guy with a girlfriend, and sometimes liking someone will cloud your judgment. What you need to do, is play a little hard-to-get. He knows you like him, he also hasn't dumped his girlfriend because he knows you will still be around reguardless. If you want him to like you, and if you want him to be with you and not her, show him what he is missing when you don't talk to him as much. Then wait. I know it's hard, but if you do amazing things will start to happen.
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