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is he like all the other guys?
my soon to be boyfriend goes too far sometimes. he comes over to hang out a lot and we cuddle and everything but sometimes his hands wander and i want him to stop. it's really uncomfortable for me and i want him to stop but i don't wanna seem like a prude. i've tried moving around to get him to move his hands but i don't know, there's just something weird about it. my past two boyfriends have been really verbally abusive and my last boyfriend hit me a lot right before we broke up and after we broke up and i still don't trust guys and i don't know if i should continue hanging out with this new guy. i know he really cares about me and has for a while. he took a lot of crap from me before we started hanging out. i lead him on and broke his heart when i hooked up with a different guy. HELP. i'm a girl btw.
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Aw, I'm really sorry about your past relationships. You really shouldn't put up with that shit!
Anyways. I would try talking to him. I know a lot of people say that, but that's probably the only thing that would work with out losing him. Just tell him you would want to take things slow, and that your not a prude. If he cares about you, he shouldn't make you do anything you wouldn't want too. It sounds like he is trying to take advantage of you a little bit. But I would just sit him down and talk to him. I'm sure he'll understand! Good luck!!
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Well I would just sit him down and clearly explain to him how you don't want to be touched like that. I've been in bad relationships in the past, and I really want this one to work. It's just.. I have a hard time trusting guys, so it'll take some time." And hopefully he'll stop touching you like that. But if he doesn't, I'd dump him, because he didn't respect your wishes, and if he truly cared for you, he'd stop. Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
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Well, I think you should talk to your boyfriend and tell him your not ready for what hes doing. If he doesn't listen then you shouldn't be with him. You should learn to trust the right kind of guys. Some where out there is a guy for you. I hope i helped!
claire
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If you are attracting physically and verbally abusive guys then the chances are this one is no different. What do you have going in your energy that is attracting you to these types of men? If it were me, I would probably break it off with everyone until I figured out what was going on with me then wait for the right one to come. I don't know how old you are - but it's better to start early than late. The bad news is that the first two were just verbally abusive then it escalated into violence with your last boyfriend. What will happen next? This is pretty serious stuff and I will be the first to tell you that you don't want to go down that road. If you really want some help, I am a life coach and I will talk to you via email for free. Don't take me up on that if you don't sincerely want the help.
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just tell him you dont want him all over you and that your not comfortible wit it!! you wont seem prude at all!! and of corse any gurl would feel weird around a boy after gettin hit by another!! but u should tell him that u dont want him touchin u!! hope i help!!
SAMANTHA
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YOU WOUNT SEEM LIKE A PRUDE! And so what if you do? You said he liked you right? So he wount care and he will probably listen to you and stop "wandering". And if he keeps doing it....give him a very firm warning that if he does that again you'll break up with him...i mean...he wouldnt like that cuz u said that you broke his heart once before. asHleyx3
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Most teenage guys will try and get more - sometimes more than you're willing to do. It's up to you to set the boundaries. A genuine guy will respect your boundaries. Have a polite talk with him and tell him you're not ready for that kind of thing just yet, but when you are, you'll let him know. All guys try it, it's just in their nature. It doesn't mean that he's a pervert or anything, or that you shouldn't trust him. But if he gets mad, then you should ditch him.
Remember, you don't "owe" him anything despite bad things in the past. You should never do more than you're willing to do, if you think you're going to regret it later. It's your choice, and hopefully he respects it.
All the best.
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If you don't like what he does then tell him to stop. The next time your cuddling and watching TV or something and he goes to touch you in an area you don't feel comfortable with,1st take your hand and move his away from you and if he tries again just say look [add his name here] do you think you could not touch that, it makes me feel weird. If he likes you for you then he will stop but if not I think you need to find a new boy to hang out with.
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... whether or not you hurt him in the past. you have to let him know how you feel. doing something with him cas he wants you to is wrong. ive been there and done that. and i felt guilty about it fo such a long time. it was horrible.
tell him how you feel. no matter how embarassing
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