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hola chicaritas
no im not spanish, haha.

I'm 14/f and i live in cali
thats right... LOS ANGELES.

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Im 17, I started having sex 2 years ago. I now have a different boyfriend and we've been together for a year now. I started taking birth control over the summer and recently we stopped using condoms but I've still been taking my pills. Recently it started to hurt during sex, like a hard pushing or stabbing feeling. Then I started bleeding while having sex and that has only happened 3 times and not every time we do it. Then the pain just kept getting worse and now we haven't had sex in a while because I don't want it to hurt. I've been really worried about it. And now my period is 5 days late. What is wrong with me?

Yes, I would definitely say that you need to go to a gynochologist. Just somehow bring up to your mom that girls are supposed to go starting at age 16 and you feel like you should see one... that way you get the help you need and your mom doesn't have to know about anything if she doesn't already.

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i flippin hate my best friend (we are both 15)

but we've been friends forever pretty much--- our friendship pretty much consists of us subtly puttin each other down in like jokes and shit, but I only do it when she starts doing it, so like you no it only continues the vicious cycle haha

no but seriously i cant freaking just not be friends with her

cause like im pretty shy until you get to know me---and no1 really sticks around that long cause they just get bored with me.
and she's got a really "strong" personality, if you know what i mean, and she makes friends really easily cause she's funny( her funiness pretty much comes from insults)

so i have no idea how i should act accordingly
any suggestions??

Wow, Im going through the same thing rite now!
If you need someone to talk to... im here.

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15/f

i have this friend that i admire. she always makes me laugh and shes just amazing and shes always been there for me. ever since this school year started she made so many new friends, and i kinda got jealous so i didnt really pay attention to her because i wanted to see if she would do anything. she still acts really nice to me when the few times i actually do see her. im just kinda sad cause i dont see her as much as i used to and im afraid of being replaced by someone else. am i doing the right thing by not paying attention to her? if not what should i do?

wow, its amazing at how similar your situation is to mine. like EXACTLY. ive been best friends with this girl since kindergarden and ever since starting high school shes made so many new friends and i totally got jealous. I guess I wasnt sure if she wanted to be friend still or not even though she still acted really nice to me. I did the same thing and didnt pay much attention to her, hoping that she would be the one to invite me over. She was so kind and i could tell her everything.lm not sure if we'll ever be best friends again, so talk to her about it before its too late. if you wanna talk or anything im here, just say so in the feedback =]

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okay, well. i started a new school back in like, September. and I still dont' have many friends. I have a group of people i talk too and stuff, but i kind of want to make friends with other people too. I'm normally really shy and hate to start conversations. and i'm always afraid of messing up or embarrasing myself.
any tips on how not be shy?

hey, i know exactly how you feel. its half way through the year and i sill dont have many friends. I wish I had more and I've tried so hard but i just have no idea what to do. I know this isnt really advice or anything, but if you wanna talk or anything im here =]

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So, a couple times a day, maybe like 5 or 6, I get this thing where it feels like to get a good breath I have to breath really deeply in and out for like 5-10 minutes. It also always feel slike my airway is a little constricted but more so during these "breathing episodes". I went to the doctor yesterday but he said everything was fine but yesterday I didn't have to breath deeply for 5-10 minutes to get a good breath, it was just to feeling of constant constriction. Anyways, the doctor sent me to radiology of the hospital to get x-rays which turned out fine. It's especially hard to sleep at night as well. During these "breathing episodes" I also get really light headed and dizzy. Does anybody have any ideas of what i might have or how to help it or what to do next? Btw, Im 14/f.

your probably dehydrated becuase the same thing happens to my cousin

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Ok I have had this feeling that I should smoke but I know I shouldnt. My mom smokes and my dad chews what do i do. I cant talk to my parents they "hate" me. Please help!!!

this question is the stupidest one i have heard. ever.
smoking is soo bad 4 u it kills you.
parents sometimes just cant help but smoke becuase they aaare addicted. dont follow their bad example, but realize that smokings not the way to go, and help your parents.

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Sometimes my parents and I just dont get along..Sometimes i dont feel like listening to them so then i get in trouble..Its like im always grounded and I dont get to do anything fun anymore! I just dont want to do what they tell me to do..Please try to help...thankss

TALK TO THEM. take a second to listen to what they have to say. its better than getting your whole weekend aken away becuase you couldnt give a ffew minutes of your time to listen to them. it may be frustrating but just hear them out. youll work it out dont worry :]

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My best friend has been kind of mad at me for a while now. Not like angry pissed off and doesn't talk to me; just kind of like hurt, upset, can't talk to me. I asked him to tell me what I did and he wouldn't. He's been kind of mean to me (well I think he's being mean but I know it's just because of whatever I did) and I really couldn't stand it. I've known him almost all my life and I can't have him act this way towards me and not tell me why.


So today I went to his house and told him that I'm sure he has a good reason and whenever he wants to talk to me about it I'll be there but until then, I don't think I can be friends with him. He told me that he just couldn't talk to me about it just yet and that he understood that I don't want to be around him and that he could talk a break from me too. So after that, I left.


I don't know if I should have done that now because I feel really bad about it. Should I have done that? What should I do now? 17/f

yeha be there for him. I think he just needs some time to himself. hes shutting others out becuase hes depressed. give him some time and hell come to you when he wants to talk. he just needs some alone time. :]

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why is my poop bloody sometimes?
i havent started my period yet if this helps

my friend had the same problem. it happened because the poop had ripped through some of her tissue and it started bleeding. i think its because you are straining too hard. if you are, you might be constipated..

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EEk I have alot of blackheads and the facewash im currently using isnt working! DO u know anything that works beter? Like gets rid of the blackheads? Please! THanks

TRy washing your face, and maybe using Clearasil Ultra which works really well for me.. hope i helped!

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Can you be in love with someone, and not be physically attracted to them?

OF COURSE!!! Remember, it's what matters on the inside not the out. NEVER judge a book by it's cover. :)

Luv ya
Hope I helped
The Fab
~Pinkymeowcat~

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I have these dark purplish circles under my eyes. And my eyelids are almost always red...Majority of the time I get 8 hours of sleep and I am 13 years old. Is there anything I can do to get rid of these hideous circles?

OOOOMMGGGG I had the same exact problem!!
Here are some things that can help:
1) Apply Cucumber juice to your dark circles
2) You can also put on cucumber and tomato slices.
3) There are also creams you can put on your eyes to make them stop swelling and have less dark circles.
4) Apply cold used tea bag to eyes
5) If your allergic to something that could also be the reason.
6) Just applying Vitamin E to your undereyes can also help.
7)EAting cod liver oil helps but it tastes um.. weird. haha
8) ARe you drinking enough water? YOu should at LEAST drink 10 glasses of water a day. THats the problem for most people.
9) Being in the sun alot without sunscreen can also be the problem
10) Use concealer to cover them up

HOPE I HELPED!! Good Luck
The fab *Pinkymeowcat*

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OMG, I am so frustrated right now, because I just went shopping and must have tried on over 20 pairs of jeans, and every single one of them was big in the butt. I went shopping last week, too, and still nothing. I have the smallest butt in history. I feel like I'm gonna have to walk around naked the rest of my life! What am I gonna do? Does anyone know of any stores or brands that sell their pants with smaller butt sizes? Please don't suggest Hollister, but I'm totally poor! We tried that today and they were like, $80! I've tried Vanilla Star, L.E.I., Mudd, Arizona, Paris Blues, Union Bay, and other regular brands, and I've also tried Aeropostale. Does anyone else have this problem? Where do you shop at? Thank you so much.
x3 Erin

i would say to try wet seal they have the best jeans like ever, and sounds like the solution your looking for!! most only cost like 20$!!

Hope i helped
the fab, Pinymeowcat

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Last night I did this really hard aerobics class at my gym and i am sooo sore that it hurts everywhere everytime i move...is there anything i can do to make the soreness go down?...thanks

A few things you can do are:
1) Put ice where it is sore
2) Take a hot bath
3) RELAX! Take a nap or just sit back and watch TV or something

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we have baby ducklings in our pool and the mother seemed to have left them and hasnt come back for acouple of days, weve given them bread but we were wondering what else we could feed them?

OK first you shouldnt be feeding the ducks. Even if their mom is gone still.. If their wild dducks then that no times 100! Put them somewhere thats best for them like a lake or a animal shelter or whatever. But if you really want to feed them, some stores have cheap duck food you can buy. Hope I helped :)
The fab ***PINKYMEOWCAT***

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This might sound strange, but I need tips on how to fight. I know how to hold my fists and how to swing, but I'm scared to break my knuckles or fingers when I swing at someone. I shouldn't be fighting, but I need to learn how to defend myself when someone starts with me, which has happened before and I didn't know how to fight. Also, where is a good spot to hit the person so they back off?

I don't fight or anything but i would say in the nose, because it hurts SO FRICKIN BAD!!! But make sure you don't break it lol

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hey all this may sound stupid but does anybody know of an easy way to learn how to jump rope by yourself. i will rate high for reasonable answers.
just by myself.

Go by a cheap jump rope and just practice every day for a while until your good at it.
Practice makes perfect :)

The amazing ***PINKYMEOWCAT***

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well, my friend, who happens to be the same sex as me, keeps getting uncomforatblely close to me... well actually 2 same sex friends do this... and when i ask them to stop they constantly do this and one i think doesn't do it on purpose and she's always doing this and it bugs the heck out of me... how do i make it stop?!?!?

It sounds to me like their gay and they just dont know it! good luck!

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...I was just sitting here on my computer, and I get this dark feeling inside of me really randomly, and then I turn my head and I blink and while I blink the feeling gets even worse and I see something torn up when I close my eyes. (i dont know what it was but it made my brain feel like it was rattling) omfg its creeping me out..it makes me feel suicidal. It makes me want to rip my skin apart. I sound completely psycho but I dont fucking know whats wrong with me and why the fuck this is happening!
I have no clue why this just happened..and I dont know why Im thinking this but now I just want to cut the back of my neck and down the middle of my back...I didnt even think this on my own I just got the feeling..and its not going away and I still want tocut the back of my neck. I dont wanna kill myself..I just have an urge to hurt myself and I have no fucking clue why...ive done it before but nowhere besides my arms and legs..

Im really scared of myself its not like I WANTED TO HAVE THESE THOUGHTS!!!!!!!!!!

My only suggestion is that you talk to a therapist. I have no idea what this means, and you definitely dont want to commit suicide!

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The guy I'm currently with is a GREAT kisser hes one of the best kissers in town! but i have a problem.... the guy i went out with b4 him was the first guy i made out with and he was BAD!!!! and now im afraid wen i work up the nerve to actually make out with my boyfriend now that I'm gonna b REALLY bad! Im scared as hell and dont no wot to do! see my ex said i was a good kisser but i was the first one he has made out with too and he was bad anyways... and see i have a few friends that said they wod make out with me and tell me if im bad or good or wot not but i cant do that anymore now that i have a boyfriend! Help plz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you b/f really cares about you, he wont care about how you make out! Plus if your old boyfriend told you how good of a kisser you were then why won't he? SEriously, you just need to relax! HOpe I helped

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