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hey..sry if this shows up 2 times lol
ok..ive been dating a guy for 2 years and i luv him so much!! all weve done is kiss and make out. but i want things to move a little faster, like i want 2 give him a handjob or blowjob or something. but i dont know how to aproach asking him, or if he'll let me do it. hes kind of prude, but sometimes hes wild so i dont know if i should put it off or ask him or just do it or what, and i want 2 still date him..but if he says no then itll be so awkward around him. please help! (link)
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Just hang in there and wait. I know it's hard to do but he may not be ready for all that. And if he is and isn't pushing you....what a catch! He must have a great deal of respect for you, and love you very much. :)
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Trent and I went on one date last year. To the movies. But there was some confusion in our relationship, so we never actually dated, but there was no awkwardness between us because we still felt like there was something there I guess, at least a friendship. This year I've been going out with Rob for 6 months, but recently I've come to the realization that I'm not attracted to him anymore. We never do anything with each other, and last week it was really awkward every time I saw him, and he's just not..interesting to me anymore. And meanwhile....Trent's back. He's in one of my classes this semester and we hang out a lot and have a ton of fun together every time. All of my friends say he never stopped liking me, and secretly I really think I never stopped liking him either. I had feelings for Rob, but they just weren't as strong as I thought they were. Anyway, they're gone now, and I know I'm being a jerk to one of them either way. (Because I KNOW I flirt with Trent all the time) So I think I want to break up with Rob, but I really want to still be friends, and I really love his family. His mom and dad have been every sort of nice to me, and his brother and I have been friends for awhile too. I just don't want to ruin other relationships by the natural deterioration of this one. I also don't want to jump right to Trent, because that would look really shallow, but I have a feeling I would end up telling him how I feel pretty soon after my breakup. I don't know, I guess this sums up to, how do I tell Rob it's over without ruining other relationships? And how do I stop myself from rushing to tell Trent my feelings? (link)
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Just tell Trent like it is. I really like you as a friend but just don't feel deeper feelings. Have a long talk. I don't think it will mess up you're other relationships so long as you aren't nasty about it.
Rob probably won't approach you for a date until you are no longer seeing Trent. I think I would wait for him to approach you. He's probably got a pretty good idea about your feelings anyway.
Think of how it might look to Trent and family if you rushed right out with Rob. If he asks you it will look better. So hold off at least a week!
Good luck :)
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This might take awhile...but my ex boyfriend and I are talking again about going back out. Our past relationships...were good but then it wasn't. We broke up a couple of times. The thing is, he's a smoker...weed! Awhile ago...he use to do it constantly, then every other day. Then once a week, thne now once a month. I know he's trying, but not hard enough. The other day, I asked him..."What's more important? Your weed..or me?" He replied "Your more important then anything" So I was happy. But still I'm in confusion. We want to go out, but then again, rumors will start up and bets will be place on how long we would last. He's Qb of our Varsity football team(which is huge), and I'm well known for who i hang with, and the sports i played. In other ppls eyes, We look like high school sweethearts. Its just how do i tell him i wnat to be with him, and i like him so much, not the hundred other guys who ask for my number or gives me theres! They don't mean anything to me...just friends. But like what can we do to have a better relationship? how do i know if he's sincere about his feelings for me? How do i know it'll be different? Sorry it's so long, but thanx so much if your able to help me! (link)
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You can't be for certain that anything will be diffrent. If you want a good relationship you have to have good communication between you. No lies. No nagging. Trust.
You won't know how sincere he is until you try it. What does your intuition tell you?
Giving ultimatums usually do not work in the long run. So, should he decide to continue smoking weed and you don't approve...move on. He probably will not change that. Good luck with your desicion. :)
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ok so my boyfriend and me have been going out for about a month and a half or so.. he goes to a different school and hes 16, im 13.. i loved him sooo much! last night i was talking to him online and i asked if he was gonna come and meet me at the ice skating rink (where i always meet him) and he said "maybe, i might go to the mall with some friends instead but if we dont go then ill come see you." i felt kind of offended by this that he wanted to go see his friends instead of me. i can only see him on friday nights so if he didnt come i wouldnt see him till next friday (if he decided to come) and so i was like oh, alright i guess. then later that night i was talking to one of his friends... (not a very good friend tho) i only met him last weekend when my boyfriend wasnt at the ice skating rink... we talked for like 5 minutes... then when we were talking online last night he asked if i was goin ice skating.. i said probably not, he asked why and i told him about me being kinda mad about john not going. so then i ask what jake has said about me to him. chris, (the guy im talkin to online) says he wont tell me what john said about me because he doesnt want to hurt me. i finally get him to tell me what jake does on the nights when he doesnt go to the rink with me. he tells me that john has been seeing another girl and goes to hook up with her and only comes and sees me if shes not availiable. im so upset when i hear this... but i think his friend likes me so i dont know if hes telling the truth... but john never tells me where he goes when he doesnt come.. it all makes sence... both stories do... i dont know what to do... (link)
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I'm afraid at 13 John is just kind of outgrowing you. No offense intended but 16 year old guys are just that way.
Since John has basically been using you, it would be wise to find yourself someone else to hang out with. I don't know how old Chris is but, I think you would be least likely to get hurt finding someone closer to your age. :)
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Ok so there is this *amazing* guy and i like him alot, and everytime i see/hang out with him i like him even more.. We went out before but it didnt last long, but people have been tellin me he likes me again And last night we hung out a lil and talked and all at this bandfest thing.. Then me n my friend and this other guy walked to the bleachers, then when we came back after a long while he didnt even talk to me or come near me.. o wait he came up to me once and hugged me, but then wen the night was up me and my bff were walkin behind him and he was with this girl and other guy.. he didnt even hug me bye or n e thing, i think i must have done somethin to ruin it but i cant think of anything, i really hope he didnt meet someone and now has a girlfriend or else ill be crushed.. can anyone tell me a way to get him to notice that i like him alot without me havin to tell him, or can anyone give me any advice towards this??
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I do think you should talk to him. Even if you don't want to. Not to ask him if he likes you though. Just go tell him how much fun you had etc.. See if he say's anything. Could be he got involved in a conversation and you were gone before he could get back to you...or maybe you were with other friends, could have been anything. Don't write him off yet. :)
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Last year I was on the track team on the four by 100 meter relay. It was awesome and I loved it. This year was not the same. I was absent for a few days and missed my chance to be on the relay team. Another girl, who I happen to not really like, got on the team. This is her first year to be in sports and she honestly thinks she's better than everyone. She's one of those girl's whose egos are bigger than their wardrobe. I was upset, yes, because I wanted to be on the team not her. I was mad and her and I got in a little fight. I got over it quickly because I realized that it was stupid of me to be upset, but she got her "BFF" involved. A few days after the last track meet her BFF posted this in her xanga hope you did great at the track meet w/ YOUR relay team..and showed kristin whos relay team that really is..! (because we ALL know its not hers)... I'm upset, but I don't know what to do? Am i right to be upset? (link)
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Well, it's okay to be upset just don't get in fights abouot it! Keep doing your best and you can show her up in other areas of track. THAT can be your revenge. Put all that anger into your events. :}
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ok so i like this guy ALOT we hold hands at school and are togteher all the time. he likes me alot too. hes so sweet. but we BOTH jsut got out of long relationships and don't want a relationship right now. but its practically like we are going out. and EVERYONE is asking BOTH of us.. "do you like her??" "do you like him??" "i heard u like him..are you going out!?" like seriously soo much people...people i barely even KNOW..its getting soo annoying. i usualy just say yea i do...but its getting super annoying. how can this stop..i dont want to be rude or make it seem like i dont like him but people need to mind their own freaking business! (link)
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I agree. If you are holding hands can they not get it? I don't know how you can get them to stop asking. Maybe when the next person asks you tell them yes you like each other. Then, tell them to pass the word because you're really tired of the question. Don't know if it will work but give it a try. :)
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okay so.. I was talking to this guy over easter break.. and this guy never usually talked to me. He always seemed to have hated me or something. But he was with his fmaily in another state for the break.. and on easter night we just started to talk. And we kind of got "dirty" online if oyu should say... for the next couple of nights until it was time for him to ocme home. And like 2 nights after that we would talk dirty still and he would joke around about having me come over. And now this GUY knows that I have a major crush on him! And h knows that I would have sex with him at any point in time if he asked me 2! But now that school has started up again.. he hasnt talked to me like that again. But his mood towards me has totally changed and now hes always laughing and stuff with me. I like it and yet.. I wish that he would talk to me like when we were on spring break. I miss it. It was fun. It was kind of like a trust thing between us. oh ya P.S. this dude is kind of older than me..by a few years.Im 16 and he's over 18... but it was our secret. How can I get him to talk to me like that again or to actually get him to invite me to his house? PLEASE HELP ME!
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If he invites you to his house and gets caught...he goes to jail. He is over 18 and you are only 16. Doesn't matter if you like it or not he is commiting a crime. So, if you care for the guy...don't persue this. Young girls get killed every day for talking to men online and then meeting them someplace. Stick to talking to people you actually know. And NEVER go meet someone alone. VERY DANGEROUS!!
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When me and my guy do it i never orgasm in fact i have had 3 partners and never orgamsed but once..i love the guy im with now..how can i get calm and do this and do u know of any good positions..or anything that helped u ? (link)
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ok try this.
www.bbc.co.uk/health/sex
when you get there punch orgasm into search.
Should answer all youor questions. Looked through the whole thing and it is not a porn site! Should give youo all the info you want. :)
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my father abuses me what should i do (link)
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Tell whatever adult you can find that will get you out of the situation. Someone who will not go to your dad. Maybe a teacher at school that you like. If all else fails call social services in your area. If you tell a teacher they will do it for you. Good luck.
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Ok well im 16/f and i cut my self . On my wrist and dont tell me to use a rubber band cause it dosent work ive tryed or write in a jurnal cause ive done that to.. IT DOSENT WORK. my friend always asks why i have cuts on my wrists and i say oh my cat cut it. and if he finds out he will think im doing it for attention but im really not my mom passed away 3 weeks ago. and my dad abuses me. I have no relatives. so i have no one to talk to . so i turned to cuting . It really helps me but i need to stop . Because of what i tryed to do. Commit suicide but i stoped because my one and only friend caught me and grabbed me and took me home. I have had a really screwed up past . i was raped at the age of 13 and took drugs at 14 so now all of that made me really depressed . I really am loseing faith so someone please tell me what i could do to help i dont have enough money to go to a theropist so dont tell me that. im really scared of my dad so please help..
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If it is truley that bad tell a trusted teacher your story. They have to by law contact social services, who in turn will see that you get the help you need. Or you can call them yourself. You need professional help so get it for yourself by whatever means necessary. Good luck :)
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I have extreme anxiety that comes every single day. I'm only 15 years old but its so intense. Does anyone know of anything that could help me? (link)
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What kind of anxiety? Do you have like an anxiety attack where your palms get sweaty and your heart beats real hard? Do you hyperventilate? If so the best thing to do is to take deep breaths and calm down. If you hyperventilate Breath into a paper bag until breathing slows down to normal. Bring it up to your doctor if it gets really bad.
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Im feeling sorda guilty....
There are 14 girls trying out for cheerleading and 12 make it, i know i am going to make it because some of the girls who are doing it cant to crap, anyways i feel like its more handed to me then me working for it... Should i feel guilty? I mean i feel realy bad....
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Are you giving your all at tryouts? If so you are working for it, so don't feel guilty. :)
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i really like my friend and i poured my heart out to him (after we told him i liked him 3 months earlier!) and he goes oh you still like me???? and so it was awkward for a while but hes been liek more normal anyway like this week is spring break and he hasnt been on so i went on an old sn and he WAS on so i found out HE BLOCKED ME!!!! i am so upset right now and i keep trying to get over him..please help me what to dO?!?! i am 14 female--hes 14 male (link)
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Ask him what is going on and why he blocked you. If you're that good of friends you should be able to talk about it. It may be he doesn't feel the same and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If that is the case then you need to tell him you are ok with just being friends (if you are). :)
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well im 15 and i dated this guy about a year ago and we broke up cuz he cheated on me. well not physically but he talked to sum girl over the phone told her he loved her and mad panns to hook up with her..while we were going out.(which never actually happened)..well its been about a year...we stayed friends but not very close..and he wants to go bac out...should i try again or let him go?..he broke my heart once do u think he wll do it again? is he telling th truth that he really care...or does he just want sex? why did he wit so long?...theres so much that i dont understand..help plez
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If you really want to find out..go out with him but forget the sex part for awhile. If he sticks around he means it, if he doesn't then you know he just wanted sex. Good luck :)
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My mom wants me to be a total conformist: make-up, trendy clothes, dumb girl for a regular guy: you know. I really don't want to because it is so not me but she doesn't care. What do I do?
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You need to be yourself. Doesn't really matter what you wear it's the attitude you wear it with!
:)
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hey im a 14 year old guy..ok theres this girl who lives in a different city who i met thru some friends who i LOVE! she is so aweosme! and she loves me too, which is great. but theres a girl at my school who really likes me and i kinda like her..and i might want to ask her out in the summer, but i wouldnt be able to flirt with the girl i love and she'd never forgive me or trust me again. but its hard cuz the long distance, even tho i visit her a few times a year. should i ask the girl at my school out or stick with the girl i love? i rate high for good advice (link)
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You will be able to see the girl at your school more. Maybe you should just stay good friends with the girl in the other city for now. When you get a DL and a car...then you can persue the other girl if you still want to. Nothing wrong with being friends with her. By the time you can drive your friendship with her will be solid, unless you find another before that. :)
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Well, I am sort of stuck in between two friends...you see, their mom's both won't let them do anything with each other, and both of my friends asked me to do something with them tonight. I told the 1st one that asked me that i could do something with her, then my other friend asked me later (she is sort of intimidating sometimes) and she got mad at me earlier that day because i couldn't play with her, so i was afraid that she would do the same thing with this, so i told her "maybe...i don't know"....then today, she was like "lets get in your hot tub" and i was like "well, i don't think i can really do anything today" and she got really mad. Later me and my other friend got called to the counseling office because of her. We thought we figured it out there, but when i was walking home from school today, her mom (the friend who was mad at me) said "come here...we'll give you a ride." Then her mom started asking me things that i never said like "why were you saying your mom didn't want you to play with my daughter" and "why did you tell her that you could do something tonight?" and "i really wish you wouldn't lie to her" now i know that i was not lying. I also know that i did not say anything about my mom hating her. I guess her mom is mad at me now though and i don't know what to do. Please tell me as soon as you can....thanx so much
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You go out with whoever you told yes to first. If the other gets mad...oh well.
why is the one friend getting you called into the counseling office? Friends don't really go around getting each other in trouble.
I wouldn't worry to much about the intimidating friend. Better teach her now that you'll not be intimidated or she will just get worse about it. I don't think you want that! Don't let her boss you around. Or make you feel guilty.
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ok well you see.. it all started about a month ago and i told me friend that i liked this kid.. and she told me that she liked my friend JJ that im kinda colse to.. anyway welll the kid i liked decided to shave his head and get his tounge pierced.. so i don't like him anymore.. but when i talk to my friend JJ i get the feeling that i like him and i don't know how to tell her.. and what if he would ask me out or somthin would i say yes or be a good friend and say no b/c my friend likes you and i don't want her to be mad at me... please help
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I think if you like him that way, and he asks you out then you go out. I would talk to your friend and tell her you kind of like him too. Then, you need to make sure that there will be no hard feelings if he asks her out. She need's to agree to the same. I'm sure the one left out will feel bad but so long as she isn't dating him...he's up for grabs!
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Well i really like this guy (mason) but of course he has a girlfriend. He flirts with me ALOT and is always hangn around with me, but then this girl seyd "She wants you to break up with yur g/f so yuu can go out with her" AND I NEVR SEYD THAT .. im so mad, he wont talk to me anymore! =[ **-- I rate 5s --** (link)
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You need to find a way to let him know you didn't say that. Since he does flirt with I think you can say that he does like you, so go talk to him about the rumor.
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