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Whos important?!?
This might take awhile...but my ex boyfriend and I are talking again about going back out. Our past relationships...were good but then it wasn't. We broke up a couple of times. The thing is, he's a smoker...weed! Awhile ago...he use to do it constantly, then every other day. Then once a week, thne now once a month. I know he's trying, but not hard enough. The other day, I asked him..."What's more important? Your weed..or me?" He replied "Your more important then anything" So I was happy. But still I'm in confusion. We want to go out, but then again, rumors will start up and bets will be place on how long we would last. He's Qb of our Varsity football team(which is huge), and I'm well known for who i hang with, and the sports i played. In other ppls eyes, We look like high school sweethearts. Its just how do i tell him i wnat to be with him, and i like him so much, not the hundred other guys who ask for my number or gives me theres! They don't mean anything to me...just friends. But like what can we do to have a better relationship? how do i know if he's sincere about his feelings for me? How do i know it'll be different? Sorry it's so long, but thanx so much if your able to help me!
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if you really are the most important thing to him, then tell him this. "if you can give up weed for good, then we can give it ONE LAST try" and don't pretend to mean it you have to honestly mean it. because if you don't then he'll keep doing it and you'll be unhappy about your decision
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Well, if he really does like you how much he says and you ask him to quit, he will. Atleast he will try, it could be hard for him. Give him time a support. Who gives a shit what people think of you guys, you have went out before! Good luck!
-Brianna
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Girl, I went out with a pot smoker before. BIG MISTAKE. but, this is a better one. Try going out with him. Ask his friends if he's still smokin weed after like a week. If he's continualy smoking pot, i'm sorry, but u'll have to dump him.
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You can't be for certain that anything will be diffrent. If you want a good relationship you have to have good communication between you. No lies. No nagging. Trust.
You won't know how sincere he is until you try it. What does your intuition tell you?
Giving ultimatums usually do not work in the long run. So, should he decide to continue smoking weed and you don't approve...move on. He probably will not change that. Good luck with your desicion. :)
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you need to talk to this guy, he needs to understand how serious this relationship will be to you, and if he puts one foot out of line you'll chuck him! (it may not be true but he doesn't know that!)you need to set some rules down with him like 'it will be different!', 'you will tell people we are not a bet!'. he may be taken aback... so let him cool and take in these until he has to give an answer! if he agrees then your relationship will be great and you can relax - he clearly loves you! but if he doesn't... he doesn't like you as much as he should! so then you have the choice of whether to keep him or not.... your decision at the end of the day!! Good Luck!!
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He has sincere feelings when he is quitting old habbits to please you. If he's cutting down from everyday, to once a month, that is extreme progress. If you two were boyfriend and girlfriend again, he'd be more likely to stop faster and stay off of them. Flat out tell him how you feel because he might be waiting for you to tell him that you like him. Maybe he's afraid to tell you for the same reason you're afraid to tell him. Tell him that out of all the guys in the school, he's the one you look at differently and have feelings for. To have a better relationship you need to communicate and trust eachother. Be able to trust him whenever he goes out with his friends and tell him <strong>you trust him</strong> that he wont do drugs while he's out. There's no insurance for the future. So there's no garuntee it's going to be different, but you've got to try and make it different. Try and mold this relationship as if it was clay and form it to the type of relationship you think you and him deserve.
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Ignore peoples bets,the talk, everything...just ignore it all. They dont matter ..dont let them get to you.
So hes cutting down which is really good and he sounds sincere..to have a better relationship just tell him that this time we are going to communicate and talk,even if one of us does something bad...let him know that your happy hes cutting down. How do you know it will be different? Well..i wish i had a crystal ball to predict the future but i dont..just have confidence that this time its going to really work.
-melissa-
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well if he really care about you so much he should just quit because this happened to one of my friends he use to do it but then he liked my beat friend and she told him to stop and what it does and hes like i know and everything he even told her im trying my best and a like a few weeks later he stoped for her so if loves you so much he should just quit now!
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