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Ahh..another love life question...
Trent and I went on one date last year. To the movies. But there was some confusion in our relationship, so we never actually dated, but there was no awkwardness between us because we still felt like there was something there I guess, at least a friendship. This year I've been going out with Rob for 6 months, but recently I've come to the realization that I'm not attracted to him anymore. We never do anything with each other, and last week it was really awkward every time I saw him, and he's just not..interesting to me anymore. And meanwhile....Trent's back. He's in one of my classes this semester and we hang out a lot and have a ton of fun together every time. All of my friends say he never stopped liking me, and secretly I really think I never stopped liking him either. I had feelings for Rob, but they just weren't as strong as I thought they were. Anyway, they're gone now, and I know I'm being a jerk to one of them either way. (Because I KNOW I flirt with Trent all the time) So I think I want to break up with Rob, but I really want to still be friends, and I really love his family. His mom and dad have been every sort of nice to me, and his brother and I have been friends for awhile too. I just don't want to ruin other relationships by the natural deterioration of this one. I also don't want to jump right to Trent, because that would look really shallow, but I have a feeling I would end up telling him how I feel pretty soon after my breakup. I don't know, I guess this sums up to, how do I tell Rob it's over without ruining other relationships? And how do I stop myself from rushing to tell Trent my feelings?
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Just tell Trent like it is. I really like you as a friend but just don't feel deeper feelings. Have a long talk. I don't think it will mess up you're other relationships so long as you aren't nasty about it.
Rob probably won't approach you for a date until you are no longer seeing Trent. I think I would wait for him to approach you. He's probably got a pretty good idea about your feelings anyway.
Think of how it might look to Trent and family if you rushed right out with Rob. If he asks you it will look better. So hold off at least a week!
Good luck :)
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your best bet is to come straight with Rob... tell him your no longer attracted to him but still appreciate his company and want to stay friends! sometimes suggesting you don't want to stay friends makes them want to stay friends with you, so somethinf like '...i understand if you don't want to be friends any more but i would like to stay friends...'
as for Trent, do not, do not jump into anything or tell him how you feel... give at least a week at the very least!! to prevent yourself, keep reminding yourself, 'don't tell him yet!'! or if you find you can't control yourself kiss him as this can be less dramatic and make things less obvious about you liking him while with Rob!! Good Luck!!!!
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Humm... well just tell Rob nicly that you don't want to go out with him but you wouls still like to be friends.
And then tell Trent that you still like him maybe a week later or to make it look less obviouce maybe two weeks.
good luck to ya! and hope i helped :)
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i really think you should talk to rob, and tell him that you think things will be better off if ur friends. Then talk to trent if its true he likes you and you like him then go for it you have to FYH(follow your heart) and if you think that you should go out with him then do it!!
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about rob i think you should let him down easy he
will get over it. belive me the same thing has happend to me twice even i got over it.just ask him to just be friends.
now about trent go 4 it i mean youve known him alot longer right? so ask him are maybe if you show that you like him he might ask you
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