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well lately i keep questioning the relationship between my boyfriend and i. i analyze every little thing he says in letters,emails,on a site we both use,on the phone. i dont do it as often when him and i are together in person. i'm not sure what to make of it. perhaps i'm afraid of things ending and letely paranoid he will find someone else. the thing is he doesn't realize hes too good for me because i am his first girlfriend so i suppose he hasnt seen what exactly the best is yet. (link)
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Don't be so down on yourself. He chose to go out with you because he likes you not someone you consider "better". Enjoy your time with him and do over analyze everything. :)
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ok, this is going to be really embarasing. here i go: school has all sorts of idiots. u can get rid of them by cussing, punching, guestures, tattletalling. there is this one kid who wont stop bothering me. it started when he would stare really hard at me in sex ed. than he started whipping his head to look at me when the teacher talked about kissing and sex. a few weeks ago, he touched my ass, and he tries to everyday in the hallway and health class. if anyone finds out i will be so embaresed. if bf finds out, ill go insane, if he finds out i told on him, im dead. i didnt mind him looking at me that much.....but touching, squeezing, pinching, running hand down my ass is too much. i hate him, and he never even said a word to me. i really need help getting rid of him, please help me! PS: i am 13 f. (link)
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If telling him doesn't get rid of him, tell the teacher. He/she will make him stop. You don't have to put up with inappropriate touching from anyone. :)
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Okay, well I liked this boy who his parents are family friends and my dad and his dad go way back as kids. Well we were over his house one day and we ate there and all and we had a really good time.{it was back when we were in like 4th grade} Later he told his parents that he liked me for more than a friend and I didn't like him for more than a friend. Well, now we are in 6th grade and he still liked me and I started to like him more. He asked me to the first dance and all and then he asked to sit at my friends and I's table and we let him and he asked me out to all different dances at our school so we were kind of "boyfriend and girlfriend." Then I found out there is this other girl who likes him and she hates me because he doesn't like her. She called me names behind my back and stuff and he always said that she was annoying. Then he just stopped sitting with us at lunch for like three weeks. Then I found out he thought we broke up so he asked the other girl out. Now they have been going out for like three weeks. i still like him but he is taken. Should I wait for him to come around or just forget about it?
~Fellow Advincinator
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I think you need to let him know that you thought he was still dating you and see what he has to say. Then if he comes back to you it isn't like your breaking them up or anything since you didn't even know you were broke up. Does that make sense? I hope so! :)
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Hi Karen!
Oh my god I felt soooo crap yesterday! Anyway, I went to go and have a drink with my flatmate in the bar across the road from our flat where he works. It was really busy in ther but he was working!! Eeeek! Anyway, we went up to the bar and he came up and said hi! He then took my hand and went 'I am so sorry I haven't texted you back, I have no credit on my phone and I've been working all day so I haven't had a chance to top the credit up.' I said don't worry and then ordered our drinks. When I went to pay he said don't worry about it so we got them for free. Which was nice.
My flatmate and I sat down and had our drinks. I'm glad I took your advice and told her that I fancied him - I feel much better now! Anyway, she said she reckons that he might fancy me!!! The way he took my hand when he apologised etc.......
So we left after the drinks and at 3 a.m this morning I got a text from him going, 'Hi daisy, how things? I'm out and about tonight I'm guessing ur in bed. Good seeing you, must catch up soon xo' .He was obviously drunk but anyway - don't your true feelings come out when you're drunk? Or maybe tha's just the beer goggles! Anyway, I texted him back saying I was just going to sleep, thank you for the drinks and defs catch up soon xxx' He has never put a xo on the end of his texts before - probably cos he's drunk though. God I really read into things don't I!!!!
So I just sent him a text this morning asking how his hangover was and am waiting for a reply, but anyway, I shall update you as soon as I've heard something! Do you think things are looking up?!!! Thanks Karen! (link)
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I just new there had to be a reason he hadn't texted back!! Yeah! I think things are looking up for a change! If he was drunk at least he was thinking of you right? Not hitting on someone else...I think it looks good. I know when you're waiting around to hear from someone it is SO easy to panic, I'm glad he had a valid reason for not calling sooner. Hope he calls soon. Oh its looking so good, I'm excited for you! keep in touch! :) Karen
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Ive got 2 groups. One of them has the guy that I like ALOT. I want to hang out with that group, but I dont want to diss the other group. And if I tell that group that I want to hang out with that guy, she will think im crazy or something. I dont want to diss that group. How can I tell them I want to hang out with the other group without them feeling ditched?
Thanx so much.
~Ana~ (link)
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It's only natural for girls to start hanging out with their boyfriends when they get one. They usually break off from all groups and just hang out alone most of the time.
I do think it would be nice if you explained it to your other friends so they know you are still their friends. I also think it is a good idea to set aside time to spend with them so you keep your relationships good. :)
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There's this girl that me n my friends can't stand that hang out with us her names Kaytee! Well she was sitting with us at lunch one day, and my friend Lisa came over and sat with me and then left, and Kaytee then said, I was shaking because she was around, there was a rumor that Lisa was a lesbian, but she's my best friend, and I know her more then anyone and she ISN'T! Kaytee is totally against gay people, and all the people of whom I hang out with are don't mind if someone's gay! She assumes from rumors that people are lesbian and homosexual, and then pretends that she's scared of them. Without being totally mean to Kaytee, but getting it across that some people that she thinks aren't gay. What can I tell her? (link)
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Hey, I like russianspys answer!
You could tell her that people are noticing her obsession with people being gay and are starting to think that maybe she's gay.
You could have some of your friends start sitting real close to her...rub her arm and tell her she's really pretty. Scare her off.
Okay, that's probably all mean. Would be fun though. You need to let her know that everyone else you are friends with have no problem with anyone who is gay. If she can't hang out with you without bashing people for something that is none of her business anyway, then maybe she should find new friends. I really don't think being nice about it will get the message across. :)
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My Bride's maids and I bought their dresses today. I fell in love with these dresses right when I saw them. I showed them to my father today and he said that he did not like them at all. I felt horrible once he told me because I like them so much. Now, I don't know whether to keep them or to get ones that my dad also likes. What do y'all think? (link)
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I think that while dad may not like the dresses it is YOUR wedding. You should pick the dresses you like. Your wedding day is all about you! I think your dad will come around to liking them too. Has he said what it is he doesn't like about them? I'm sure his opinion does mean a lot to you but I doubt he will be really upset if you get the ones you like. :)
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ok, im caught between to guys & im currently with one of them. theyre friends-not too close but i feel like im kinda comming between them.
the first guy, my bf...well we have some communication issues. meaning we rarely talk & when we do its not for very long. its our first relationship, were both shy at times & he doesnt get out much (unlike me) he hasnt kissed me ever or gone on a date with me in a long time.
the second guy...i got him together with his ex.(she dumped him b/c she was into girls.) we take martial arts together & were together alot then he said he likes me. we talk online all the time even if he said he likes me b/c honestly, im attracted. i cant really say i am b/c im with his friend. he says a lot of sweet things too and since i have doubts about the 1st guy, i cant help but take it in positavly.
well yesterday he told me he wanted to kiss me after we talked for a really long time. its really weird cuz neither one of us agrees with cheating but for some reason, its almost impossible to avoid.
please help me! i dont wanna do anything stupid! thanks! (link)
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To be brutally honest the only thing missing in the relationship with your boyfriend is the breakup. You don't talk or date...calling him your boyfriend is kinda silly. I think you just need to make the break up official.
Sounds like guy 2 would make a decent boyfriend. You already do things with him that you should be doing with the current bf and aren't (like talking!). I don't think it would be stupid to break up with current guy and date the second guy. Doesn't sound to me as if bf will be terribly upset since he doesn't make much effort in your relationship. :)
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So I went out with some friends and they played spin the bottle and I was dared to kiss this kid. I was so effing afraid to though, Im such a prude. even my best friend (whos a guy) had to kiss this girl and he did and I thought he was the same as me. I really wanted to, but im so afraid somethings going to go wrong. Anyone ever have this problem that could give me some advice? rate you for anything...seriously... (link)
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Those kind of games are fine if you want to play them but if you don't like kissing random guys just for the heck of it then don't. I don't think it makes you a prude...you just like to pick who to kiss yourself! Don't be pressured into doing anything you don't want to do. :)
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I really really like this guy named Mitch and he's just the nicest guy I've ever met before. He used to be friends with my older sister. He's been telling me he likes me, and like on aim always makes those kissing faces. Problem is; he's 21! I'm only 15. I know it's a huge difference and it's illegal. I really don't know where to go from now. I tell him I like him back, but I really want to date him, I'm just really not sure of how to tell him that. Any suggestions?
* if you think me dating a 21 year old is bad, please tell me, i'd like to hear other perspectives, too! thanks. =) (link)
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I think you should just forget about this guy. He needs to be dating someone his own age. Don't even talk to him anymore because you'll only feel worse in the long run. He may be a nice guy and all that, but he has problems if he wants to date a 15 yo. Please take all the advice and find a guy your own age. :)
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Hi Karen!
Well, thank you for all your help with advising me! I really hoped too that by the time I emailed you back there would have been a preoper development... Well, one thing I did do though is tell my flatmate and ask her to get his number for me. She did this and I told her that I quite liked him. I texted him last night. My text went as follows 'Hi will, hope work isn't too stressful! R u out tonight-we should defs meet for a drink before you go back (can't remember when) and don't worry about your hair!!'
Now it's almost 24 HOURS LATER AND HE STILL HASNT TEXTED ME BACK-Agh I think I'm going to go mad soon!!
I find it so difficult anyway to be forward and things so sending that text took so much effort and willpower (as well as a couple of drinks!!) and I haven't got anything back.
I can't believe it. If he was really interested would he not have texted back immediately? I did something really bad today though - I put 141 before dialling his number to check his phone was working but so it didn't show my ID. I called it 3 times-at about 3, 4 and just a minute ago 6.30. The first 2 times it went straight to answer machine and when I tried it again it rang and I put it down straight away!
He obviously has received my text but I don't know what to do. I just feel really let down. The least he could have done is send me a text back to let me know where I stand.
Oh, I forgot to tell you that I saw him in the bar last night though. It was packed and he looked really busy. He stopped to say hi and he was really pissed as his flatmate had dyed his hair and it had gone orange. So he went to the hairdressers and they had tried to dye it back but it went white almost grey. So he had to go and buy some clippers and cut it to a Grade 1. I think he was late for work too which annoyed him more. I was in the bar with a girlfriend and my other friends boyfriend. When the friends bf went to the toilet, Will (the Australian) popped his head round the corner and asked if that was my flatmate and I said no. He went 'oh, ok' and walked off. Was he checking to see if it was a date or not? I kind of thought he was checking him out so that made me summon all my courage to text him!
What do you reckon!
thanks Karen (link)
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sheesh, I'm frustrated too. He sure sounds like he likes you so what is his problem??? I feel like kicking him. LOL! I mean why be curious about the girlfriends guy if he isn't interested? Just doesn't make sense. Is it possible he didn't get the text? I don't have a cell so I don't know that much about them. Is he rushing around trying to fix his hair? Orange?! my word! Could be he doesn't want to go home with weird hair and is desperatley trying to fix it. I know its difficult to get courage to talk to someone like you have been. Really wish you had more time so you didn't have to.
I guess the only options left are to call him again for one more try, or just wait and see if he calls back. Maybe he's having phone problem? Dead battery or something?
I hope he gets off his butt and calls soon. Let me know what happens. He better call!!! :)
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yesturday i was talking to that guy i told you about who likes me but wont ask me out. well yesturday we were on the phone and he asked me out i was so happy. i just wrote to tell you thank you you helped alot. (link)
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Yeah!!! Hope you guys have fun together. He gives you any problems let me know...but I hope he doesn't!! Thanks for letting me know :)
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Hey! I've noticed you've been around here awhile and you give some awesome advice..although I have to ask..I hope it isn't rude or anything..but how are you a young grandma with a kid and grand kids?? loll im just curious.. (link)
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I don't mind the question at all.
I suppose 47 isn't all that young :( BUT, I don't feel that age ya know. I got married at 17..yeah I was pregnant. My son is now 30 and has 5 kids of his own. I have 5 grandkids ages 8 yrs to 11 months. I also have a 27 yo daughter.
The thing is (And you'll understand better one of these days!) that while my kids are getting older in age, I really don't FEEL any diffrent than I did at the age they are now. So, I always tell them that they are the ones getting older, not me! Hence the name...I really wish I hadn't picked it now but it is done. I guess I wanted people to realize that I'm old enough to give experienced advice but, young enough to understand them too. I have been married to the same guy (yes younggrandpa) for 30 years. Have been a pregnant teen, have raised 2 kids, worked in medical field, Drag race my car, listen to rock and roll music etc. Hey, I know shit...lol.
Hope that isn't to much info...feeling talkative :) Ask anything anytime, I don't consider curiosity to be rude :)
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Hey guys,
I have to make a poetry book in English, and I can't think of a good title that I could create for my book. My topic for the poems that I chose to pick was on LOVE. If anyone could help me try to think of a good title that I could use, I'd really appreciate it! I'll rate you a 5 if you try to help me atleast a little! Thank you so much! I have to create 4 of my own poems on love, and I've already made a few of them, so if anyone wants to read them and let me know if their good or not, please let me know. I'd share them with you so I can get your opinion on them! Alright, thank you so much! :-) (link)
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Take a powerful line from one of your poems and use it for your title. :)
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Im a 20yr old female.
Me and my b/f have been going out for 2months and we were really serious. Well he came over every day for the time we were together and we started to fight alot recently. So he didnt know what to do. So he decided we should take a break from each other. That means not seeing me everyday or talking on the phone with me that much. Well we really love each other and we both think we are the one for each other. But the days that im away from him i become so depressed and just cry all day and i cant stop and i feel so sad. He tells me hes sad to and he only wants to do this time apart to work things out cause he really wants to be with me.My question is, how do i stop feeling so sad and how can i make my self not think about it while hes away? how do i make it to where he choose to get back together faster without me asking him to. Is there somthing i can do to get him back faster? (link)
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You can't do much to make him come back faster. To be honest he may not. Most people who are really in love don't need breaks from each other. He may just be stringing you along until he finds someone else. Maybe he isn't, but I don't think he feels as attatched to you as you do to him.
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do i tell the guy i work with that i really like him or do i just keep it to myself? most of the time he acts like he hates me but like today he gave me a hug and i was like "aww" so im so freaking confused right now its not even funny!!! then his friend stated coming up to the movies and talking to him and he would talk to me and he seems really cool. GOSH!!!!! i dont know what to do i really like the guy i work with but then again i like his friend...if someone could give me some advice it would really help me out. thank you!!! (link)
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I think you should just be friendly with them. Get to know them both. When one of them asks you out then you go. If you have a great time you go again if not then you don't. I wouldn't worry about making a decision about which one is best or telling them about it. If you like them they will pick up on it and ask you out if they feel the same. :)
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I have a question.. ok alot of guys always ask if im horny. Like online. If im like never.. i think its like low when they wanna cyber or have phone sex. im just looking for a friendly chat deal.. does that mean im gay?! Just cuz im not horny?! (link)
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No it doesn't mean your gay! Most people want a little more from a relationship than words typed into a machine. Not a real turn on! Don't worry about it. Just tell them cyber sex isn't what your after, if they want to just chat okay...if not then don't be wasting your time. :)
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I met a guy at a club and i went up to him first and danced all nite w/him and he asked for my number first. An hour after the club he called me saying he still wanted to chill with me, but i said im pretty tired for the nite, so he said to call him later on the day. So i called him, and we chilled for a little at the beach. But soon after he had to go and said that he had run arrands with his friends and if me and my friends were still at the beach later on to call him, other wise he can always visit me in LA since he lives in SD and he visits LA ocassionally. Any way almost a week is up and he still hasnt called me but acouple of days ago i text him saying, hello and what he has been up to.. he text me back an hour later saying that sorry for not getting back, hes been busy but he'll call me later. Its been 2-3 days since that text and he still hasnt called back. I called him today but got his voicemail. so what should i expect or do? he isnt interested, just just let it go..?
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I think you should send hima text telling him if he isn't interested to just say so. Find out for sure and get it over with. He could just be a busy guy...maybe TO BUSY? :)
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urgh i hate this! it feels like my jaw is gonna fall out like in the grudge! i can't open my mouth really wide to eat because it feels like theres an extra bone there that isn't allowing me to open my mouth any further, and if i chew it feels like my jaw is like cracking.. like it kinda feels like when you crack your knuckles. anyway this really hurts so does any of you have any advice on how i can deal with this? thanks in advance i really appreciate this
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An oral surgeon can remove your wisdom teeth (the only way). They put you to sleep so it isn't a big deal. They can be murder I feel for you! You may have to wait until they have come through but i'm not sure. Get an appointment and have it checked out. :)
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if a guy is 18...and im 15...doesnt that mean im "underage" for him or something like that? how does all that work? how old do i have to be until im not "underage"? and how am i "underage"? please just tell me how all this works....thanx :o) (link)
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18 is "of age". Yes he can get in trouble for dating you. Statutory rape, contributing to the deliquency of a minor...any number of fun crimes. Not a good idea if you really like the guy because even though MFS is absolutley correct that it is okay if you don't have sex...we all know it can happen before you think about it. If mom and dad don't like it they can cause a problem with it to. Sorry, just my opinion. :)
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