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There's this girl that me n my friends can't stand that hang out with us her names Kaytee! Well she was sitting with us at lunch one day, and my friend Lisa came over and sat with me and then left, and Kaytee then said, I was shaking because she was around, there was a rumor that Lisa was a lesbian, but she's my best friend, and I know her more then anyone and she ISN'T! Kaytee is totally against gay people, and all the people of whom I hang out with are don't mind if someone's gay! She assumes from rumors that people are lesbian and homosexual, and then pretends that she's scared of them. Without being totally mean to Kaytee, but getting it across that some people that she thinks aren't gay. What can I tell her?
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well you could start with not everything you hear is tru. especially at school. If Lisa isnt gay then you need to just tell kaytee. prove your point by telling kaytee that lisa has never done anything with a girl and has never had a crush on a girl. that would make her not gay. im assuming she hasnt done any of those things. if lisa is a bit wild and has you can lie this one time. tell her that being afraid of gay people isnt very smart. especailly if youve known them for a long time before they come out. their personalities stay the same and some gays are really cool to be around. theres nothing to be afraid of. and you can tell lisa that i feel for her because the rumor going around that youre gay when youre not sucks. its happened to me. and im not gay by the way.
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Tell her its not a bigg deal! They still have the same personality and it won't change them dramaticaly! When I found out my best friend from 4th grade was gay no one really cared in fact she started a GSA(Gay Straight Alliance) at my school with my help and I found out that a lot of my friends are gay. Tell her that Lisa is not gay and she shouldn't believe everything people tell her.
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Hey, I like russianspys answer!
You could tell her that people are noticing her obsession with people being gay and are starting to think that maybe she's gay.
You could have some of your friends start sitting real close to her...rub her arm and tell her she's really pretty. Scare her off.
Okay, that's probably all mean. Would be fun though. You need to let her know that everyone else you are friends with have no problem with anyone who is gay. If she can't hang out with you without bashing people for something that is none of her business anyway, then maybe she should find new friends. I really don't think being nice about it will get the message across. :)
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You can tell her that she needs to grow up and realize that it doesn't matter if somebody is gay or not, and that even if your friend was a lesbian she would still be your friend. Tell Kaytee that you dislike homophobics and don't want her to hang around with you if she is going to be mean to your friends. Tell her that yes, she is being mean, by acting scared of people who are "gay". I know you don't want to be mean, but you've got to draw a line somewhere. Make sure she knows that you don't like her behavior. I know I would be deeply hurt if someone acted like around me. Tell her that you would like to be her friend, but that she has to learn to be more mature and accepting of other people. =)
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Tell Kaytee that you know Lisa better than anyone, and that she's not a lesbian. Also explain to her that rumors aren't always true and, therefore, shouldn't be taken seriously. If she still believes it, then say "Who would you believe first, me, who's her best friend, or _____ (whoever Kaytee heard the rumor from), who hardly knows Lisa?" It'll be hard for her to argue with that question.
And tell her that homosexuals are people too, and they should be treated equally. Tell her that just because someone is gay/lesbian, that doesn't mean that they should be treated any differently or made fun of because of their sexuality. And just because she thinks that someone is gay, doesn't mean that they are gay.
Kaytee is immature to be "scared" of homosexuals.
I hope I helped and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
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Ok I'm going to tell you the truth..and a straightforward answer..give me a 1..I don't care.
I know it may not be easy..but If it were my problem, I would just probably yell at her and tell her that your closest friend(s) aren't gay! Tell it to her and look her in the eye. She should get it then and will probably back off.
-I tell it like it is..like it or not-
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I'd do more than just telling her the truth about your friend, I'd have a talk with her--first pointing out that your friend is not a lesbian, since you know that she's not, and secondly telling her that you're offended that she's being so narrow minded. You can't change her mind about how she thinks, but you can definitely make her think the way that she acts, and the things that she says through a little more.
If all else fails, and she keeps acting this way, you don't need to be friends with her. Tell her that you'd like to stop hanging out with her--it will hurt her feelings, but she seems to be hurting others more with her immature actions.
I hope I helped a little bit, and good luck talking to her.
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Tell Kaytee to get her facts straight.. its not being mean - its being truthful. before she assumes something about a person actually find out if its true. shes f'in retarded to act diffrent because of rumors. yes, some come out to be true.. but she shouldnt make a big deal about it. if shes homofobic then tell her not to sit near people she thinks are gay.
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tell her you're gay, then you wont have to deal with her anymore.
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