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How can I get him back faster?
Im a 20yr old female.
Me and my b/f have been going out for 2months and we were really serious. Well he came over every day for the time we were together and we started to fight alot recently. So he didnt know what to do. So he decided we should take a break from each other. That means not seeing me everyday or talking on the phone with me that much. Well we really love each other and we both think we are the one for each other. But the days that im away from him i become so depressed and just cry all day and i cant stop and i feel so sad. He tells me hes sad to and he only wants to do this time apart to work things out cause he really wants to be with me.My question is, how do i stop feeling so sad and how can i make my self not think about it while hes away? how do i make it to where he choose to get back together faster without me asking him to. Is there somthing i can do to get him back faster?
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Dear Miss Sad,
Relationships are not easy. If they were, everyone would have one. The question you have to ask yourself is that is this guy "the one?" If he is, then realize arguments are going to happen. Don't look at them as a bad thing. Look at them as a way to constantly make your relationship stronger. If you two really love each other and want to be together, then think how fun it is to make up everytime. Think of your arguments as a new way to constantly check on your relationship. People break up for dumb reasons without realizing that as long as the love is there they should not let the little things come between them. Don't be one of those couples.
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ok,be sexy be pretty by fun and hang out with your buddys! it'll make you happy and you can get your mind off him!! When he sees you sexy and fun he'll love you !! Just be fun not boring !! [[trust me i know from experience and he probably still loves you this is a sign to see if you love him more,im not saying to act like you dont care though!!] Act like you care but be fun!!
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You really can't get him back faster but you probably can sort your problems. Hang with friends and spend time with other people so you won't think about him and in a couple of days call him or get together somewhere and talk about the issue. If you start to argue and fight, give it another couple of days before reviewing the issue.
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You can't do much to make him come back faster. To be honest he may not. Most people who are really in love don't need breaks from each other. He may just be stringing you along until he finds someone else. Maybe he isn't, but I don't think he feels as attatched to you as you do to him.
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I know this maybe isn't what your looking for, but time apart is not going to sort your issues. It's just like putting them in a box for a while until you get back together and then all your feelings come flying out of the box more intense than before.
What I think you should do is do as he says to make him happy and give yourself a couple of weeks to cool off. During that time, keep busy and spend as much time as possible with your friends in order to keep your mind off him. Then arrange to meet together and talk about what went wrong in the relationship. Talk calmly and honestly and try to find a way together to solve the problems. If you start to argue, stop and arrange to meet again in a day or two and try again to sort your issues without fighting. Hopefully you'll be able to sort everything out and get back together.
Time apart will not solve this, especially as you love each other so much and time apart is making you so depressed. Good luck honey, I really hope you two are able to work it out and get back together.
Claire xx
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