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I have 4 questions all to do with the same stuff... please answer whichever one/ones you know about. Thanks! And this may be a bit weird and blunt but oh well... stop reading if you dont know.
I'm 23 female and I'm new to anal sex. I really want to do it and my boyfriend is slowly easing me into it so it doesnt hurt. (like with his finger) and when he does that it feels great. It makes the orgasm much more intense and I love it... however I can only handle it so much before it starts to feel like the kinda pressure you get when your gonna poop or fart... and there isnt anything pleasurable about that to me.. I have to make him stop and I HATE doing that. Is that just a normal part of anal sex that I'm gonna have to get used to or is there a way to make it stop? I'm afraid taking his dick will be too much when we get to that point.
Next Question: When he is licking down there... OMG I love it... but I always feel like I'm going to fart. In fact this happens sometimes during sex but mostly just with anal stuff. How can I make sure I dont? Is there a way to get rid of that pressure?
Next question: I heard from someone who doesnt like anal that she doesnt like it because sometimes you have a bowel sitting in your butt that you can touch if you reach in there far enough... How the heck do you avoid this???
Last Question: My butt smells like... well butt. I open my butthole and it smells like butt... I imagine everyone is like this but then why does everyone do anal stuff if it stinks? How can I make sure my butt smells good? Is there a slumber parties thing or something I can buy at an adult store to rub on myself so that it smells good? I know these are weird questions and kinda gross and I'm embarrassed but I really need advice and I'd rather not ask my gynecologist or anyone else I know...
Please no rude comments... just advice. Thank you.
Below are two websites I found that you should look at that will help you with anal sex.
Things to remember about anal sex:
1. Make sure your partner uses a condom.
2. Use plenty of water base lubricant.
3. Never go from the anus to the vagina without first thoroughly washing the mans penis and groin area. Even with using a condom.
Having an empty bowel helps with the pressure and the feeling that you need to move your bowels. While the feeling will always be there if you prepare in advance, like before your date, you should be more comfortable. Preparation could mean giving yourself an enema. Eat a light dinner if your going on a dinner date.
As for the smell; well we all have some odor back there but if you have showered before your date and are clean back there it should not be a problem. From what you have written your boyfriend does not seem to have a problem with any odor you may have so stop worrying.
One other thing; What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Buy a regular sized dildo and or strap on and get your boyfriend to let you fuck his ass. It's not gay for a man to be fucked in the ass by his girlfriend with a dildo and can be quite enjoyable for him if you massage his prostrate gland with the dildo. Like he's doing to you try sticking your finger up his rectum during love making and see what happens.
http://www.yourtango.com/200681/anal-sex-for-beginners.html
http://www.rotten.com/library/sex/anal-sex/
I love to dress up with jhose and panties heels and cute dresses.I don't think I am gay.my girl friend does not object and I will not hide it from her I just feel inadequate and guilty why
I don't have an answer as to why. What you have in cross-dressing is called a fetish and there is nothing wrong with any fetish as long as no one is hurt buy it.
Are you gay because you cross-dress? No you would be gay is you have sex with other men but you don't. You say your girlfriend does not object to your cross-dressing and this is a good thing.
Fetishes are considered a sexual activity; as long as both partners agree to it there is nothing wrong in indulging in your fetish. Even if this was a closeted fetish for you; meaning you indulged yourself by yourself. As long as no one is hurt by what you do who cares, enjoy yourself.
You have a very understanding girlfriend. Some women would not understand the need behind this fetish and the needs are as individual as there are people who indulge in this. Should you want to find people and couples like you and your girlfriend you could try searching the Internet. Start with cross-dressing couples.
I am suffering from bipolar disorder. I cannot concentrate on one thing. Because at one moment i feel that it is a very good thing and i get very much interested and the next minute i get bored from that thing and get least interested in that thing. I want to stop that task at that time and want to do something different. The same thing happens with that task also and evenually i keep bouncing from one task to the other, be it studies or any other thing, any thought. It goes with money, girls, internet, everything. For example, At once i get interested in making money, i make many plans of making money, read as many articles as i can, and am very very interested. Then after few minutes i get bored and come to the conclusion that making money is not a good thing or is a very boring thing. Then i go making girlfriends. Same thing happens with it. Eventually i waste my time doing nothing worthwhile. Please help.
Edited Answer: The fact that it took you almost two months to answer tells me my thoughts to you are probably correct.
I am someone who suffers from chronic depression, which by itself is bad enough. Bipolar disorder, which is a form of depression is even worse. I know someone who is bipolar and have watched her go through treatment, it is not pretty. She has been hospitalized twice and had electroshock therapy. To me bipolar disorder is almost like being schizophrenic with the mood swings from ultra highs to ultra lows.
I'm sorry you found my advice so poor but I stand by what I said; you need to be properly diagnosed. I could be wrong but I think you are more ADHD, possibly complicated by depression. You will never know for sure until you see a doctor and the proper doctor to diagnose you is behavioral psychiatrist.
I agree with bigunored1 as far as thinking you have ADHD and not Bi-Polar Disorder. Bi-Polar Disorder is a manic form of depression where you swing from manic depressed to extremely happy.
To be properly diagnosed for either disorder you should be seeing and treated by a Psychiatrist. Both disorders can be managed with PROPER medications. Even with proper medications continued treat is required.
One of the worst things anyone can do for themselves is to self diagnose an illness or even take advise from people like us as to what illness you may. None of us are doctors, yourself included, and are not trained in the proper procedures to make a diagnoses.
If you are in treatment then you need to speak with your doctor as your medication may need to be adjusted. If you are not seeing a psychiatrist then I urge you to see one as soon as possible.
There is no reason for you to feel as you do; there is help for you whether you are ADHD, Bi-Polar or any other disorder a doctor may find.
Should money or insurance be a problem check with your local and state government departments of health. I do not know of any health department that does not run a free mental health clinic.
19/f i am scared. i am 5"4 and only like 92.5 pounds. i've been put on this medicine called remeron to help me gain weight but like before i keep gaining and losing. i am tired all the time, people use to ask me if i am anorexic, or tell me oh your so skinny. i mean i got made fun of a lot. and i can't believe i am saying this but i think i have started believing what other people say about me being anorexic. i do eat and it's not like i worry about how many calories i put in my body, i don't eat breakfast, but that's because i am always late for school be cause i get up in the morning and go on the computer. things are just getting worse for me. i look disgusting. my arms are like toothpicks, and so are my legs. i eat junk food. i did stop ea ting out for a while because i got sick of it, and plus at the time my mom wasn't working, but then she got her job back and i started into my old unhealthy routine. now i eat out almost everyday. but still no results. what should i do?
If your doctor told you Remeron is to help you gain weight you may want to find a new doctor. I researched Remeron and find it is listed as an Antidepressant medication. Depression can cause or inhibit weight gain or loss of weight. If you control the depression you can gain control of the weight problem.
A family practice doctor is not the best physician to treat depression. Depression is best treated by a team of doctors; they being a psychiatrist who will properly diagnose and prescribe medication and a psychologist for talk therapy to get at the root cause of the depression.
I would also suggest you use a search engine to find a doctor in your area who specializes in weight control. Family practice doctors are great and I love my family practice doctor as she has saved my wife's live twice. But she know her limitations and is quick to send us to specialists. However we have preferred provider insurance instead of HMO insurance which allows her to do this. HMO insurance prefers the family practice doctor too treat their patients. This does not mean you cannot be referred to specialists.
At 92.5# and 5' 4" you are way under weight; you need to see someone who specializes in this area. You could have an over active thyroid, easily fixable. It takes special test and x-rays to make this kind of diagnoses one that a doctor more familiar with this type of problem will know what tests to order.
If you have HMO type insurance then you need to stand up for yourself and demand to be referred to a specialist who can help you. Do the research, find the doctor you want to be referred to then ask your family doctor , who is referred to as the gate keeper, for the referral.
Remember one thing when dealing with insurance companies. You are your own best advocate. If ever you are refused for something by the insurance company tell them your calling the State Insurance Commissioner to appeal. Most of the time they will give in without you having to call. But if they do not, call and file an appeal with the insurance commissioner's office. About 90% of the time the insurance company looses these appeals.
Hi, Im yauna, im a girl and im 15 and my problem is that I dont know if Im straight or bisexual. I cant really talk to anyone I know about because they might judge me or not want to talk to me.I like guys for sure because I have had four boyfriends. The last two relationships didnt go so well. But once in a while i would have these fantasies about being with a girl. I rarely have fantasies about guys but i love them too. But I still have that desire for girls or a girlfriend. So I would like to know am I straight or bisexual?
I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
At your present age I would be hesitant to place a label on your sexuality. At this age both boys and girls are still trying to figure out their sexuality. To label yourself as a Lesbian or even bi-curious would not only be wrong but self defeating at this time. To even put this in the category of a phase that most young people go through would not be right either.
There are a number of reasons for sexual attraction to someone of our own sex at this age. First and foremost is the fact it is safer and easier to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the changing hormones your body is producing. Parents think nothing of two children of the same sex being behind closed doors, sleeping together, even in the same bed, particularly females.
I have known women that have been bi all through college, then gone straight heterosexual afterwards. Reason it was easier and sex was more available if you were bi; it was also safer.
My advice: Don’t put a label on your sexuality at this time. Just enjoy learning about who you are sexually. When you are older if you still want to put a label on your sexuality then do so, but for now just enjoy being you.
Ok so i just cant stop i just cant i like need to like die or something i just dont know what to do and btw im talkin about me masterbating plz help me
I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I believe in telling it like it is. This is why I became an advisor on this site.
Masturbation is natural; something everyone does including parents, grandparents aunts uncles and cousins.
You don't say how old you are or how often you masturbate or if you are a boy or a girl. If you are in your pubescent teen years you will masturbate more than an adult. Boys tend to masturbate more than girls. It natural and it is a safe way to release the pent up sexual energy brought on by the hormonal changes your body is going through. Masturbation also allows you to get in touch with your own body; to let you find out how you like to be touched. Masturbation is also part of foreplay or early sexual play; only we call it fingering and hand jobs.
I've never been one to say how often one masturbates is too much except if it starts to become something that you do to the exclusion of everything else. Each of us has a sexual norm that needs to be satisfied. When you marry you and your partners norms may not be quite in sync so one of you may need to resort to masturbation to settle their total need even with satisfying marital sex.
So as I've said; unless you are masturbating to the exclusion of everything else you are normal. If you feel masturbation is running your life then see a doctor. Do not be embarrassed you won't be the first teenager or the last teenager who the doctor will see who feels as you seem to feel. Otherwise, enjoy yourself and let masturbation allow you to abstain from intercourse until you are old enough to take on the responsibilities that intercourse can bring.
I'm a full time student right now, and I need to find a decent paying job. I've been working since I was 15, so I have plenty to put on a resume. I don't want to compete for minimum wage jobs with every other college student, so I am willing to go through a certification process as long as it doesn't cost a lot. Any ideas on what I can do?
The one job that I can think of that pays well and allows for flexible working hours requires certification. Depending on what state you are in the course time can be anywhere from 80 hours to 120 hours. The good thing is this course may be available during a semester break on a condensed bases.
If you are interested the job I am thinking of is that of an EMT, Emergency Medical Technician. Working for a private Ambulance Service you would for the most part move patients between home and hospitals, hospitals and nursing homes.
Pay for this job runs, again depending on location anywhere from $9.75 to $12.00 + an hour with schedules that are flexible enough to work around your class schedule.
just wodering if this website would call the social if you posted somthing on hear like ' my parents abuse me' thanks xxxxxx
The advisers on this site have no way of knowing who you are or where you are from unless you tell us.
As someone old enough to be your grandfather I will tell you no parent has the right to abuse their children. Some parents think that what they are doing is discipline; but there is a point where discipline becomes abuse. When that point is reached; when the spanking becomes a beating, or a belt is used instead of a hand that is abuse. When marks are left on the child that is abuse. Discipline does not leave marks. There are many other forms of discipline that meet the abuse standard that I need not go into. I think you know if you are being abused or simply disciplined. There is also sexual abuse and mental abuse both of which are not only harmful but illegal as well.
IF you think you are being abused; this is a very serious accusation so be sure, then you need to go to a trusted adult and report the abuse. You can go to a teacher, your school principal, your guidance counselor or any hospital emergency room.
If you live in the U.S. you can dial 911 or go to the nearest Fire Station. Anyone of the people or places I have written about here are legally obligated to take action on your behalf. The Fire Stations are safe havens and the fire fighters their will care for you while the appropriate persons are contact and come to your aid.
iv tried to kill myself loads of times( 12ish) but its always hurt too much. does anyone know a really quick and preferably painless way of killing yourself? or a way to stop being so depressed?
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No one on this site is going to advise you on how to commit suicide. If you are feeling suicidal at this time call 911 NOW or go to the nearest hospital Emergency Room for help.
Suicide is not the answer to your problem(s). If you have not already done so I would like you to call the National Suicide hot line. There number is: 1-800-273-TALK (8255). They operate 24/7 and are totally free and confidential. They have a network of crisis center around the country they can refer you to for help, probably one right in your home town or close to you. The call takers are trained professionals who are volunteers and are there to help you; so please give them a call, they can and will help you through this.
Please call the hot line I recommended above. If you feel like hurting yourself before you can get to someone that can help you please call 911. Tell the call taker how you are feeling, they will send help. The normal response is to send both Fire Rescue and the Police. Do not be afraid, the call taker will most likely want to stay on the phone with you until help arrives. The police are there to protect you and the others not to harm you or arrest you. The fire rescue people are there to take care of you and to take you to the hospital.
If nothing else please remember this: There are people that love you. Your parents love you and three people who have never met you have taken the time to write to you to convince you that hurting yourself is not the answer and ask you to seek help for whatever is causing you to feel this way.
um i was just wondering what a prostituet is cos im aparently one and it doesnt sound very nice.
thanks
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also, am i a prostituet?
Being a prostitute in our society is not very nice. a prostitute is generally considered to be a women, although their are male prostitutes, who provide sex in exchange for money or gifts.
If this description fits what you are doing then you are a prostitute. If it doesn't then whoever is calling you one does not know what they are talking about and you need to straighten them out as this is a label that can do you much harm.
Not only is it wrong to be a prostitute it is illegal in every State except certain portions of Nevada; and then only in legal house of prostitution called Bordellos.
would want to marry?
Title says it, really. Why would God, who knows all about us before He gives us life, let someone who will inevitably, truly, with all their heart want to raise a family be so ugly that no man would want them?
There are ways to enhance ones appearance although I do not believe in altering ones appearance unless medically necessary. There is a saying beauty is only skin deep. This is very true, outer beauty is only skin deep. It is the inner person that is beautiful and from just the little you have written I can tell you are a very beautiful person.
People with outer beauty have no problem finding people to mate with; the problems come up after the lust wears off and they find there is no one behind the outer beauty; or the person behind the outer beauty is so vain that they can't be lived with.
You can enhance what you have through diet, exercise, make up and hair style. Join groups that interest you so that you can meet people with similar interests who can get to know the inner you, the beautiful you.
If you sit at home and allow yourself to get fat you will not find a mate. You will find a mate if you go out in the world and enjoy yourself by finding groups and going to places that interest you. Facial beauty is not the end all of end all's. Keep your body and mind fit and enjoy life and don't be surprised if some hunk doesn't come up and ask you to dance.
I'm 22 years old, but grown for my age.
Iv been living with my wife for 6 years, since i was 16 ( she was 20 at the time ).we have had our problems for a while now. and im sick of it. for the passed 2 years i havent felt the same way about her as i did when i was 16 years old. she was my first girlfriend, well first and last everything. I feel like have haven't fully lived my life. like iv limited my self to one person. hard to explain. It like i grabbed the first book i saw in the store and said * good enough * before looking around. and she was soo much older then me back then, but now that im 22 and shes 26, iv relized that im not having the fun my friends are. Im not going out to the clubs, im not going dancing, bar hopping, ect. i know marrage is a commitment but, if i only live once, im going to make it count . what if there are other girls that can make me happyer? what if there someone eles that shares more hobbys with me? argue less, better sexually. im so lost right now. i just got back from iraq but iv felt this way since befor i left.i feel oblagated to stay because my military insureance covers her medical problems. and with out it she couldnt afford it herself. i donno what to do. do i stay married and unhappy?
As one military man to another let me first thank you for your service.
Yes you did marry young, and yes you have and will miss out on a lot. I commend you for your maturity and thoughtfulness towards your wife while you struggle with this inner turmoil.
You did not say why you married so young. When a person marries as young as you did there are usually underlying reasons. Some of these marriages last a lifetime and some of them do not. Marriage is a 50/50 proposition that has to be worked at all the time. You were too young at the time you married to realize what you might be giving up. You could be suffering what some call the 7 year itch, or buyers remorse. Neither of these terms means you should just throw your marriage away and start over.
The first thing you need to do is sit down with your wife and find out how she feels about the marriage, while telling her how you feel. Next the two of you must decide if your marriage can be saved and if you both want to work to save your marriage. You might be surprised by what your wife has to say and to what ends she may go to save the marriage.
The next thing is to find a marriage counselor.
Because of the stress the wars have placed on families the military has gone to great length to provide marriage counseling assistance. Check with the First Sergeant's office for a referral.
Yes you missed a lot but you also gained a lot from your marriage. Your friends envy what you have while you are envying what they have. Take the time to really look at what you have and if you can save and grow into it so more. Ask for the help that you have available to you. Life these days as a single person is not as much fun as you may think it is. As to hobbies and such, you and your wife can learn to explore things you can both enjoy. That is what marriage is all about.
I've been disabled for the last 6 years due to a work related accident. I've learned to enjoy cooking and baking. We now spend each weekend cooking or baking. The past couple of weekends we have tried our hand at bread making. Next weekend Pasta making. We have had success and we have had some really bad/fun failures. But most of all we have had fun. The point I am trying to make is; that it is possible to find new things/hobbies that both of you can enjoy.
I am suffering from bipolar disorder. I cannot concentrate on one thing. Because at one moment i feel that it is a very good thing and i get very much interested and the next minute i get bored from that thing and get least interested in that thing. I want to stop that task at that time and want to do something different. The same thing happens with that task also and evenually i keep bouncing from one task to the other, be it studies or any other thing, any thought. It goes with money, girls, internet, everything. For example, At once i get interested in making money, i make many plans of making money, read as many articles as i can, and am very very interested. Then after few minutes i get bored and come to the conclusion that making money is not a good thing or is a very boring thing. Then i go making girlfriends. Same thing happens with it. Eventually i waste my time doing nothing worthwhile. Please help.
Edited Answer: I hope the score you gave my answer does not reflect how you will use my advise. From what you wrote you need to see a doctor. Self-diagnose or even asking someone like us for advise on what may be you problem is dangerous. So is shopping for a diagnoses you like.
You need to trust me on this; while both Bi-Polar disorder and ADHD can be controlled with medication, ADHD is easier to live with. I have two friends diagnosed with Bi-Polar disorder. It took a long time to get each of them regulated on medication. During that time they lost everything, their jobs, homes and friends. Bi-Polar disorder scares those who don't understand the disorder and when you need your friends the most is when they abandon you.
So hopefully I am correct in my assumption and you are not Bi-Polar. The only way to know for sure is to see a doctor; so please do what needs to be done to see a doctor. There are free mental health clinics in every community if you need to use them. Check under Health Services in your City, County or State Government listing.
I am not a doctor, none of us on this website are. as such we cannot make a medical diagnoses. What I will say is this; from what you have written it sounds more like you are suffering from ADHD than bi-polar disorder.
Whether I am right or wrong in my thinking you do need to be checked out by a doctor to be properly diagnosed as you are suffering from something. What you are experiencing is not not normal.
Again from what you have written Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder sounds more correct than bi-polar.disorder. Bi-polar disorder is when you have extreme mode swings from ultra highs to extreme depression. This is not what you have written about. You have written about the inability to stay on any one task which more closely fits the ADHD symptoms.
Have mom or dad make an appointment with the family doctor. You need to have a full physical to rule out any organic reason for your symptoms and the doctor can also screen you for bi-polar and HDAD.
HDAD is easier to treat with medication that your family doctor can prescribe or can refer you to another doctor for treatment. Bi-polar disorder is much harder to treat and requires a specialist and therapist as well as medications for treatment.
umm well im 14 and im a 36B or 38B, i think and im so upset. my boobs aren't "perky" :\
i dont know what to do. my mom says "everybody is different" i know its true but it doesnt help me! im not sure if i would call my boobs "saggy" or not but they kind of are :( im not sure if there is anything i can do to help this? or if it's common in most girls? thank you for the answers
Your mother is correct, everyone is different. Muscle toning and a proper fitting bra may help somewhat. You should ask your mother to take you to be properly fitted for a bra. You could call the a Department store near you such as Macy's to find out when their fitter will be available and make an appointment to be properly fitted.
For now exercise and a proper fitting is the most you can do as you are still growing and developing. When you are older , somewhere between 18 or older you can consult a plastic surgeon about a breast lift. This surgery cost in excess of $7,000 to $10,000 at this time, probably more when you reach an age that the plastic surgeons would be willing to do elective surgery for you.
Hey there,
Well this may seem a bit silly, but I was wondering if I could perhaps be bipolar? My friends and family have "jokingly" mentioned that I might be.... Here are some of my "symptoms". I get really happy and excited for no reason and then other times I get into this mood, when I dont want to talk to anyone; I get so irratable and mean to everyone for no reason. I also get depresed randomly for a whole day. Then the next day Im REALLY REALLY happy and excited. This cycle constantly repeats itself. Sometimes I get so excited that I cant even sleep. I just lie awake daydreaming. My friends also pointed out to me that I dont have "controll" over my emotions. I get excited when I should be sad and vice versa.
What do you think?
Trying to self-diagnose or even to have those that are not professionals diagnose a disorder like Bi-Polar disorder is not good. Since you are asking my reaction to what you have written is that you could be a typical teenager struggling with the hormonal changes of puberty.
Be it struggling with the hormonal changes or be it something else it is best to see your family doctor first. There are screening questions that can be asked along with blood work that the doctor can use to make a determination as to what you are experiencing. In either case there is medication that can help. If you are experiencing symptoms of Bi-Polar Disorder or depression you will be or should be referred to another doctor for further testing and treatment.
Your family doctor is the doctor that knows you the best so that is the place to start. Ask you mother to make an appointment with the family doctor and when you are there tell the doctor exactly what is going on and how you feel.
were can i get a decent paying job at the age of 15 i have a three week old baby girl too help support
I'm going to assume you are an unwed mother. If so most states will consider you an emancipated minor; meaning you have many of the privileges of someone 18 years of age or older. Check with you local social services office to see if this is true for your state and what paperwork you need to file so that you have proof of this status. Once you can prove this status it will make things somewhat easier but not a whole lot.
You are going to need at least a High School Diploma if you want any chance at getting a decent job. Her again you need factual information. Some school systems have programs for unwed mothers to get them back in school so that they can finish their primary eduction. Should your local school system not have such a program then start taking the GED course to get your GED Diploma.
Your local office of social service can be a big help to you in navigating the maze of office's and paperwork it will take to get assistance for you and your baby while you finish your education, this would include going on to college. There is no shame in taking assistance while you work to better yourself for a better life. Social services will also see to it that the child's father provides support for the baby as well
You made a mistake, not the baby the baby is a bundle of joy who deserves the best you can provide. The mistake was getting pregnant at such a young age. This mistake does not have to ruin your life, it just means you have to work a little harder to get the opportunities that are out their.
Hopefully both your family and the child's fathers family are being supportive. As for the father he is responsible for the child for the nest 18 years and you owe it to the child to make sure the father lives up to his responsibilities. Social Services can refer you to a Pro Bono Law Clinic who will prepare the proper paperwork to ensure the father continues to support his child.
I know this sounds a little overwhelming, but social services will guide you through all of this. Tomorrow morning call the county office of social service and make an appointment for you and your baby to see them.
Me and my bf broke up because i found out he was using me for my money and 2 days after i told him to come see me and we were sitting in his car outside of my house and when we were done talkin i told him good bye for the last time and he started getn aggressive then he pushed me and the back seat and pinned my hands down and had sex with me. Idk if this is rape or not. Anyways i might be pregnant idk what should i do?
I'm old enough to be your grandfather so I'm going to tell you like it is.
If you did not consent to having sex with him it is RAPE. If you are under 18 and he is over 18 whether you consent or not it is statutory rape as well as a few other felony type crimes.
If you did not consent to having sex with him you should call the police. It does not matter whether you have had sex with him in the past. NO means NO. He forcibly assaulted you by holding and pinning your arms against the seat. That's crime number 1. Then he had sex with you against your will that's crime number 2. By pinning your arms to the seat that could be construed as kidnapping or holding you against your will. This is crime number 3.
This boy is not a good person. Fortunately he did not harm you more that just having sex with you. If you do not report him to the police he will do it again. The next girl he does this too may not be so lucky.
While you do not need your parent permission to report this to the police, you should tell them what happened and ask for their support. Then see a doctor and get checked out and screened for STD's. Yes, I know he was your boyfriend but after what he has done get checked anyway. You did not say how long ago this happened if you see a doctor today you may still be able to take the morning after pills if the rape was within the last 72 hrs.
When you have finished with Police report and the doctor there is one more thing I would like you to do. You need to call the RAINN Hotline. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest National, Network; this hotline is staffed by trained call takers who can help you find people in your town who will help you through this. Their number is 1-800-656-HOPE. Their web address is: http://www.rainn.org/.
Ok so i am 13 female and i am having trouble getting a bf i mean i am pretty or so i have been told i am really curvy and pretty shy when it comes to guys I want to open and be able to feel comfortable around guys again,but not be a slut!Any advice i want to loosen up!
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Let me start by saying I'm old enough to be your grand father and I have been married to the same women for almost 40 years. I believe in calling a spade a spade so you may find what i have written a little shocking coming from someone my age. My wife and I believe that it is best to tell it like it is and this is what I have tried to do for you and what we have done for our child.
At your age you are about 2 years more mature than boys of your same age. Allthe boys think of at this age is having sex, it is how they are wired at this time. They, like you are going through puberty and have all these hormones raging through their bodies. Because of this they confuse lust with love. There are other ways for boys to relieve the sexual tension they are feeling, to do so though makes them feel less than manly especially when they hear their friend bragging about their conquest. About 99% of the bragging is just that bragging about something that is just not true. By bragging about something it makes them look better in the eyes of their friends and in many cases the girl will back them up so that she has a BF.
You should not compromise your principles just to get a BF. The girls that are actually having sex are going to find themselves with out boyfriends later when the boys mature and start looking for long term relationships and future wives. They then start looking at these women as used merchandise, not someone suitable to take home to mom.
There is a boy out there for you, not all the boys are as sex crazed as the ones you have been seeing.
I made a great mistake, I have a Class B Misdemeanor for theft. Back in August 2009 I stole a phone, I was so stupid! In April 2010 I activated it, stealing was stupid, but activating it was even more! In May 2010 I have 2 detectives, show up at my house, well of course I had to give them the phone back, they gave it back to the original owner and he still pressed charges. in June I did jailtime, and in August I had court and was given 8mos probation. This was my firsttime to have something like this ever happen! I dont know what I was thinking or what posessed me to do something so irresponsible. I am 19yrs old and My husband and I had to move due to military reasons, I was a CNA before I left and everything was alright, once I moved off to another state I havent been able to find a job! I have not made any real friends. Im so depressed, the last 2 weeks all I want to do is cry! I feel like I cant get out of this slump! I wanted to go to nursing school, I wanted to help people, but I feel like now Im so useless and I'll never get to become a nurse and help people like I wanted to. Im just so lost and everytime I pray or read the Bible I just find myself the next day back in the same boat I have been trying to get out of.
You may be being a little hard on yourself at this time. Yes having a record is cause for an employer to be cautious in hiring you. If you are sincere and open during the interview this will go a long way in helping to over come a juvenile mistake.
At the moment almost 10% of the population is unemployed. This is based on those people receiving unemployment benefits. The number is higher when you include recent graduates and those that have run out of benefits. Some estimate the number of unemployed to be as high as 20% in certain parts of the country.
What I am trying to say is that finding a job at this time the odds are against you even without the misdemeanor offense on your record. Finding a job at this time is a numbers game. The more resumes you send out, the more contacts you make the greater chances you have at finding employment. Do not limit your search to just one career field, widen your search to positions of interest and ones that you may be just slightly qualified for.
In the mean time instead of sitting home feeling sorry for yourself, go back to school. You want to be a nurse go to nursing school or go to paramedic school. Paramedics like nurses are in great demand. You first become an EMT which takes 3 to 6 mos. depending if you go full time or at night. Then after working as an EMT you can go to Paramedic school. Once you are a Paramedic there are programs that allow you to bridge to the nursing degree you want. All of these positions allow you to do what you say you want which is to help people.Emt's are also in demand.
Each state has different requirements and protocols based on a national standard. Find out what the standards are for your state, take the courses required and start a very rewarding career.
I have always dated men but I have always liked women like boobs and kissing them...I have dreamed of them both. I love guys but I like women..am I bisexual?
Let me start by saying I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I have been married to the same women for almost 40 years. I believe in calling a spade a spade so you may find what I have written a little shocking coming from someone my age. My wife and I believe that it is best to tell it like it is and this is what I have tried to do for you and what we have done for our child.
You did not include your age so I am going to assume you are in your early teens. If I am correct it is a little early to start putting labels on your sexuality.
There is nothing wrong exploring ones sexuality, it is part of puberty. Exploring ones sexuality with a same sex partner is a safe way to find out likes and dislikes about sex. It is also a safe way to explore your own body with the aid of a friend. In a sense you learn about yourself by seeing the effect on your friend or partner.
You have more than enough time to explore and learn before putting labels on things. Labels can come with unfortunate side effects. My advice is to allow yourself time to explore your sexuality, to learn about yourself. Do not let any one rush you into do anything you don't want to do or are not ready for. When you are older; when you are finished with High School then you can decide if you want to put a label on sexuality. Until then just enjoy being you.