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Is this rape?
Me and my bf broke up because i found out he was using me for my money and 2 days after i told him to come see me and we were sitting in his car outside of my house and when we were done talkin i told him good bye for the last time and he started getn aggressive then he pushed me and the back seat and pinned my hands down and had sex with me. Idk if this is rape or not. Anyways i might be pregnant idk what should i do?
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I'm old enough to be your grandfather so I'm going to tell you like it is.
If you did not consent to having sex with him it is RAPE. If you are under 18 and he is over 18 whether you consent or not it is statutory rape as well as a few other felony type crimes.
If you did not consent to having sex with him you should call the police. It does not matter whether you have had sex with him in the past. NO means NO. He forcibly assaulted you by holding and pinning your arms against the seat. That's crime number 1. Then he had sex with you against your will that's crime number 2. By pinning your arms to the seat that could be construed as kidnapping or holding you against your will. This is crime number 3.
This boy is not a good person. Fortunately he did not harm you more that just having sex with you. If you do not report him to the police he will do it again. The next girl he does this too may not be so lucky.
While you do not need your parent permission to report this to the police, you should tell them what happened and ask for their support. Then see a doctor and get checked out and screened for STD's. Yes, I know he was your boyfriend but after what he has done get checked anyway. You did not say how long ago this happened if you see a doctor today you may still be able to take the morning after pills if the rape was within the last 72 hrs.
When you have finished with Police report and the doctor there is one more thing I would like you to do. You need to call the RAINN Hotline. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest National, Network; this hotline is staffed by trained call takers who can help you find people in your town who will help you through this. Their number is 1-800-656-HOPE. Their web address is: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location).
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Whether you guys are together or not if you didn't want to have sex that is RAPE! And you should tell your parents or notify someone in school about it because whos to say he won't do it again when he gets angry not just to you but to anyone he seriously needs help. If your pregnant then the choice is up to you but don't make the baby pay for his mistakes by getting an abortion if you dont want it put it up for adoption.
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well, did you say no ? did you not want to have sex with him ? did you verbally tell him to get off you ?
if you did, then.. yes. it was rape. if you didnt want to have sex with him and he held you down and forced you to have sex with him then that is definetly rape. and im so sorry for that.
if youre pregnant.. think about your options:
- you can have the baby and keep it.
- you can have the baby and find a family through an adoption agency.
- you can terminate the pregnancy and get an abortion.
you HAVE options, but i suggest that you get a pregnancy test to make sure youre pregnant and then go from there. maybe talk to someone about it. a friend or family member, and definetly tell someone about what happened to you, because what happened to you isnt right. and again, i am so sorry.
if you need anything else feel free to inbox me, good luck; xxo.
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