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20. Mother of a 1 year old baby girl. Daycare provider.
Gender: Female
Location: Rochester,Ny
Occupation: Daycare
Age: 20
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Member Since: November 6, 2010
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Hey 19/f so i hooked up with this guy i went to high school with. and well like maybe 5 months ago i started talking to him because on facebook i kept adding and deleting him because i couldn't decided whether or not to keep him as a friend. well anyways he messaged me and said text me and gave me his number so im so stupid i texted him just to see what he wanted. well anyways he would keep asking me to hangout with him and i know that means hookup because he's asked me. and i kept replying saying no. but i finally quit replying like a few weeks ago he won't stop texting me. yesterday he called me and my dad asked who it was and i knew his number so i said i don't know and my dad said give it to me and i said no its okay. i mean i called at&t and they won't block his number unless i pay $4.99 to block up to 15 numbers, but my dad pays the bill. so i don't what to do. this guy texted me a few days ago, called me yesterday, and he's texted me a bunch of other times the last few weeks. i deleted his texts. it's annoying and i know i shouldn't have given him my number, but still. what should i do? i mean he doesn't call/text me like every second of the day, its just he texts me like every few days or sometimes like once a week and then again the next. so yeah idk what to do! help! (link)
You can text him to leave you alone and if it continues instead of blocking his number you can change it.. I believe it only cost 15 or less.


I want to sale my nook I bought it at the end of may, and I do love it. But I don't use it much and I am getting an ipad. So I won't have much use for it. It has two cases, the pink silcone one and the other gray industrial one.. hate to see it go but I don't use it ever.. also I have the 1 year extended warranty.

How should I go about doing this? (link)
You can go onto craigslist and sell it if you dont know what that is type it on google and then when you get on you have to put in the city and then you can make an account and post it on there.


I am a 43 year old mother of 3. 2 of whom are away in the military and one who is living with my fiancee and I as well as his 3 children. He also has one that is 20 who recently moved in with her mom.

When we first met, his children were running the household..There were bowls of stale milk, dirty dishes and clothes all over the house. There were kids coming and coming as well as boys in the girls rooms.

I have 3 children of my own and I refused to let them live like that..

His oldest hated her mother for leaving them and did nothing but, talk negatively about everyone in the family.

She did alot of things to cause problems in the house.

So, she decided to move in with her mom who signed over her rights as a mother and never paid a dime in child support or show up to any of the childrens functions.

Now the daughter is getting married at her mom's house and I feel that I am put in a very bad situation. I don't want to go. But, if I don't go I feel like it will cause problems with the family and if I do go I feel like I am saying that is okay for the way my fiancee and I have been treated..

I need help because I have lost alot of respect for my fiancee and children when all I wanted to do was make our home a home and have some sort of relationship with everyone..
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Well you can't really do anything about you fiancees children because you have no rights over them and your just the other woman in there eyes so there not going to listen to you so his kids should be none of your concern but your own and him you need to tell your fiancee that you will not have your kids being around such disfunction. If you fiancee loves you enough he will deal with his kids on his own and tell them how it is now that you are in their life.


k;; well me nd this guy have been dating 2 months;; we have only made out but talked about him fingering me; he felt me up nd he played with me down there many times he tried getting farther but i stopped him;; we were at the movies nd he felt me up;; the started ggoin down;; i felt a little uncomfortable then he just started fingering me ;; then i felt good i let him keep doing it;; i finallly stopped him; im 13 am i a slut? (link)
If your only sleeping with him or letting him finger you then no your not a slut..


i have yellow spoting in my panty and wight stuff comeing out so what, should i do (link)
It could be your period or you could have a yeast infection.


Hey. 15/f, It may help if you go to google and search "William Suh Arrest". And read the articles first. But once you read that, read this. Im the victim in the charge, and although its almost two years later...I dont know what to do. I still miss/love him so much. And I know he loves me to. We wrote 2 letters to eachother, and in both he expresses how much he love's and misses me. and how he cant wait to be home.
Its complicated, but although he is 11 years older then me... I love him...How do I get over this so I can finally move on? (link)
I understand that you have feelings for this person. He has gotten other girls like you under his wings and he may not be a bad guy in your eyes but if he can threaten you or your family and other girls and there family then thats not a healthy relationship and you need to seek help from a therapist or a friend and talk it out because this isn't a easy think to get over.


My brother-in-law moved in with us due to a divorce. He never cooked a meal, nor cleaned. He had my mother-in-law come so she could pick up after him and cook his meals. She started resenting the fact that I wasn't doing chores for my brother-in-law. She even demanded dinner when she'd return to the house with my brother-in-law. I told her I wasn't a cook nor a maid; that my priority was my husband, our relationship, our home and work. After she left, my brother-in-law's behavior deteriorated further and I told him to either get it together or to get out. He left. The guest bedroom was a mess and the bathroom was disgusting, feces all over the toilet seat, floor tiles blackened, stained. And although my husband agrees with me on all points, he hasn't stood up for me. His mother keeps calling, requesting this and that from him and she said nothing when told how her son left his filth in our home. Meanwhile my brother-in-law is "instructing" my husband not to release his e-mail address to me the same way his estranged is denied access to his e-mail info. I believe my husband should have told him that I was not interested in his e-mail info and that he should cease any attempts to issue orders with respect to me. So why is my husband being so complacent? Why isn't he setting boundaries and standing up for me, our relationship and our home? (link)
Well I know from my own expierence that he probably doesnt want his relationship with his mother and brother to go to crap he loves them and that his family before he was married to you so he has more of a bond to them sorry to say not saying that he doesnt love you because if he agrees on your points then thats all that should matter I know it sucks because you want him to defend you but put the shoe on the other foot if this was the opposite situation would you do that to your mother and brother or sister??


My girlfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. She's a nice girl but I don't have those feelings of love for her. I've been trying to wait it out, thinking that I'd start to feel the magic sometime, but it ain't happening. She's really into me and I'm just not into her. She's nice and all but that's about it. How can I dump my girlfriend without hurting her? I know I need to let my girlfriend down easy but how? (link)
Breaking up with her is going to hurt regardless of what you do or say.. Just tell her how your truly feel about her don't sugar coat it because if she some how finds out in the end its just gonna hurt more.


My bf was over yesterday night and we dry humped with our clothes on. He was wearing skinny jeans and boxers and i was wearing short shorts with underwear. This only went on for about five minutes. I heard from my friends that sperm can travel through clothes. He told me that he ejaculated in his boxers and i asked him if he had to clean himself and he was like nahh its dry now. so i checked for stains and there were none thank GOD. but to be safe i changed my underwear and shorts. THEN when he left i showered and i scrubbed my vagina. there was a stain in my underwear but i, myself cummed as well. do i have a chance of getting pregnant? that would suck cause i'm 15. anyways i only get my period once a year. i got it for the first time when i was 13 in jan. then i got it again when i was 14 in jan. do you think im infertile? help. easy five points! (link)
First of all The seminal fluid in which the sperm is carried can seep through thin clothing; as any fluid will. However, the sperm cells themselves will be long dead before reaching your skin. Outside the human body the life of a sperm cell is practically zero. The temperature difference, exposure to the air (and pollutants) and exposure to light will kill it quickly. Not to mention the lack of motility the sperm will have while the fluid penetrates the clothing will eliminate any possibility of allowing living sperm to reach your skin or other human tissue.

So I highly doubt a pregnancy.

As for you getting your period only once a year nobodys period is the same but if your concerned of being infetile maybe you should go to the doctor for a blood test.



So this guy wants to finger me and it'd be my first time that someone else has done it to me, and what do i do when he does? (link)
Sit back and relax and enjoy haha no but for real relax dont be so tense or he'll think you dont like it and he'll stop


this is really silly i know but how do you know when you "came" during sex or masturbation? (link)
Believe me you will know its a feeling you will recognize your whole body gets the shakes almost like you can't handle it.


Hey Im not sure what spotting is exactly, but I think that thats what is happening (a bit of period blood but very little and very thin).. I just want to know if you think it is normal for it to happen.. I dont think theres a possibility that im pregnant, its around the time for my period now and I thought I was starting because I had the monthly cramps aswell... are cramps normal with spotting? (link)
Spotting is normal for a period some periods are different it depends on the body.. some people have heavy periods and some period have light periods and some have barely any.. Don't be alarmed about being pregnant because spotting is normal.

As for pregnancy some people do spot and I believe thats when the egg implants so it bleeds a little.

Hope that helps :)


so i wanted a second job to make some extra cash for the holidays. I love eating at applebees resturant and i would like to be a waitress.I just wanted to know how much a server can make in one week. I know it depends on where you live too. I live in New York City and the applebees that i wanted to work in is around times square which is a very busy area however i wanted to work the day time shift.
I would also like to know how much do you have to tip out to the bartender hostess and busser. can anyone help me. (link)
My brother in laws girlfriend works there and she said waitress make about 4.35 an hour plus tips.

As for tipping you tip I believe 10 or 15% of what your meal is.


Me and my bf broke up because i found out he was using me for my money and 2 days after i told him to come see me and we were sitting in his car outside of my house and when we were done talkin i told him good bye for the last time and he started getn aggressive then he pushed me and the back seat and pinned my hands down and had sex with me. Idk if this is rape or not. Anyways i might be pregnant idk what should i do? (link)
Whether you guys are together or not if you didn't want to have sex that is RAPE! And you should tell your parents or notify someone in school about it because whos to say he won't do it again when he gets angry not just to you but to anyone he seriously needs help. If your pregnant then the choice is up to you but don't make the baby pay for his mistakes by getting an abortion if you dont want it put it up for adoption.


Ok, so me and this guy, we'll call him Bob, have become pretty close. He hasn't asked me to officially be his yet, but it's at that point where we might as well be. Well, the other night, I got kinda drunk, and I ended up kissing a long-time friend who's been crushin on me the whole time we've known each other. Actually, it was more like make-out. Afterwards, I felt really guilty, and he reminded me that I am still technically single. When I told my best friend, she yelled at me and told me that I did cheat. Now, I feel kind of guilty and kind of not. I don't wanna tell Bob, but I also don't wanna screw up a potentially really good relationship. Advice on what I should do? (link)
No, You didnt cheat if he didnt have the balls to ask you out then thats his fault. A girl can only wait so long. I imagine how you probably felt but you can't feel bad over something like that if your not even dating each other.


My boyfriend is in the marine corps and is at parris island boot camp right now. His parents refuse to pay for car insurance so he never got his license. When he gets out of boot camp he need to get insurance so he can come visit me in college. I hear that car insurance is like $1000 a month...which will pretty much be his entire pay check... I don't know what we can do about this situation. I'm afraid he'll never be able to visit me unless he takes a plane each time. Any advice?

btw he is 18 (link)
Whoever told you it was 1,000 was dumb as hell my boyfriend pays 65 dollars because hes on his mothers but my dad pays 168 for both his cars. It mainly depends on what kinda car you have because if you have a "race car" then it jacks up the prices or if the car is a certain color that they consider race car colors..and his age is a main factor as well because hes so young it might be a little higher but not by much. Hope that helps :)




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