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I dont know what I am (sexuality wise)
Hi, Im yauna, im a girl and im 15 and my problem is that I dont know if Im straight or bisexual. I cant really talk to anyone I know about because they might judge me or not want to talk to me.I like guys for sure because I have had four boyfriends. The last two relationships didnt go so well. But once in a while i would have these fantasies about being with a girl. I rarely have fantasies about guys but i love them too. But I still have that desire for girls or a girlfriend. So I would like to know am I straight or bisexual?
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
At your present age I would be hesitant to place a label on your sexuality. At this age both boys and girls are still trying to figure out their sexuality. To label yourself as a Lesbian or even bi-curious would not only be wrong but self defeating at this time. To even put this in the category of a phase that most young people go through would not be right either.
There are a number of reasons for sexual attraction to someone of our own sex at this age. First and foremost is the fact it is safer and easier to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the changing hormones your body is producing. Parents think nothing of two children of the same sex being behind closed doors, sleeping together, even in the same bed, particularly females.
I have known women that have been bi all through college, then gone straight heterosexual afterwards. Reason it was easier and sex was more available if you were bi; it was also safer.
My advice: Don’t put a label on your sexuality at this time. Just enjoy learning about who you are sexually. When you are older if you still want to put a label on your sexuality then do so, but for now just enjoy being you.
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At 15 years old, I had questions concerning my sexuality. I had a boyfriend who treated me like a princess and a very easy life. One problem was that I could not stop thinking about girls.... I found a friend who I was able to talk to and who helped me out. I came to realize that I was able to be attracted to both guys and girls. There is nothing unnatural or bizarre about this. If you are able to find beauty in either sex then you should embrace this and please don't feel pressure to identify yourself as straight, bisexual or gay. Love with your whole heart and love truly. Everything will come together in time.
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ok you are only 15 so take it easy. i mean now in days is as if been homosexual or bisexual is the trend, but dont let that confuse you.
give it time and be open minded you are still real young! good luck
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Human sexuality can't be reliably defined by three categories.
Many people have differing degrees of attraction to both sexes. Some people are really turned on by both sexes, some people only by one, some people like one sex alot and the other a little.
They've actually got a scale they rate things on, hold on I'll find a link.
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There you go. The Kinsey scale.
If you're actively fantasizing about girls and feel attracted to them you've probably not strictly straight. There's really no need to form a label for yourself though. You like guys. You're interested in girls. You might be interested enough to date girls at some point, and if you do you'll find out for sure if you like girls too.
At 15, there are far more important things to be worried about. If you meet a girl you like, who likes you back, and you think you want to ask her out, think about moving in that direction. There's no need to hash it out right this second.
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It sounds to me your bicurious which isnt a bad thing.It means your curious about your sex and you want to know what it would be like.Its not a bad thing,and you may come to find that you like both sexes.My advice is go for what you want and never let anyone tell you your not worth it because you are.Wether it be guy or girl you will find someone who understands you.Focuse on school and good grades for now,and a love interest will come to you sooner or later.Thats all one can hope for is someone who understands them and wants to be with them because they know there worth it.Best of luck
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