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I was told by a herion addict that if I ever tried herion do not drink whisky as it will cause your respertory system to shut down and you will die. Can anyone tell me if this is true?
See I was in a auto accident and my neck is in really bad shape. My vertebre in pushing into my spinal cord and it has it about 80% cut off. I am in pain every minute of my life. This insurance Co USAA Insurance Co. of the person that hit me will not get me the operation I need to correct the problem. its been over 2 years I have had to deal with this pain. I am thinking about ending my life. I cannot work I have no money I am staying with a friend (thank goodness he has a heart) but his wife does not like me and she could tell me any day to get out. I have no family to turn to. The operation I need cost over 100K thats the doctor part and the hospital. The person that hit me has a 300K policy but they are saying it was a previous injury and are fighting it. We went to a mediation dec 1st and they offered 5 thousand dollars,they said they were not ready and needed another 2-3 weeks to look at the MRI and compair it to a MRI i had done in Florida 3 years prior. My doctor says it is not the same injury. But they want their doctors to look at the MRI's and compair them. I am at the point I am ready to end my life. I hear poeple say its a cowards way out.My ass,it takes a lots of guts to end your life. I am sure God will understand my reason or at least I hope he will. I have a son he is 17 but he very seldom calls me and he didn't even call me to wish me a merry X-mas,I tried calling him but always got his voice mail.I feel he doesn't care about me at all. All I want is to get this operation so I can go on with my life,although I will be in a neck brace for 3 months and have no idea how I will support myself. Here is what my intentions are. I want to drink a good bit of whiskey and do what ever it is to make the herion injectable,a very large dose. Then I want to go into the headquarters of USAA and have the needle stuck in my arm and inject it in their main office. But first I want to contact the news media,date line,60 minutes,nightline,ect and also just before I walk into their office I want to call the local news media and tell them where it will happen and to be there asap to get the story as it happens. I want to expose this insurance company to the public for not fulfilling their financial obligation. If I don't have insurance on my automobile I get a ticket a fine and my drivers lisence is suspended,the ticket will say failure to maintain financial responsibility. But since they are a insurance co they don't have to do what they should have to do and get me the medical attention I deserve. Thank goodness they are located in San Antonio and not New York. I live in texas and I hope I can get a ride to San Antonio. I really hate whats going on in this world anyway. Our government is going to cause this country to go belly up. They protect the insurance companies. Between Insurance Co's, Drug co's, oil co's, and banks this country is going to fall to its knees. I don't want to be here when it happens as it will be very nasty and will set off a chain reaction world wide. I just want to go out peacefully. Does anyone know if whisky and herion will do the trick?????...Maybe just maybe if lots of people called this insurance company and gave them grief they might just do what they should do and get me the help I need to get through this ordeal. I am lost right now any don't know what to do. I just filed for disability but you know the routine they will denie me a few times and maybe in a year or two I might get it. I don't have a year or two. I am starving right this moment and close to being on the streets. I've been there many years ago and its not a nice place to be. I would rather be dead!!!!! (link)
I just want to start by saying your only mistake in this was listening to a heroin addict. Most of them are essentially dead inside from the drug and until rehabilitated can not think for themselves let alone another living, breathing human being. Please think for yourself and always with others in mind. I know right now must be so hard on you emotionally, physically and psychologically. My first word of advice to you will be to seek help for the psychological and emotional side of your situation. I know that there are many free and/or low income clinics all over the U.S. since I too have to utilize their services from time to time. You mentioned that you had a diagnosing physician reviewing your case parallel to the insurance company. He/She may be able to direct you to the appropriate resource or even prescribe some very low cost anti-depressants. I know that the physical pain is the main factor in this equation, however, psychological and physical conditions run hand in hand and both need to be treated equally and in your case aggressively. That being said, there are some "alternate" medicinal use drugs out there which are available to pretty much everyone. I am not condoning the use of illegal drugs, but have seen success with the use of such "herbal" remedies with many severe chronic pain patients in my medical career.
In regards to your lack of money/food/housing during this time of your life, may I suggest your local Red Cross, Salvation Army and food bank. I know it sounds horrible, but people in your type of situation are the reason so many people give to these charities. I for one was a volunteer with red cross and medical reserve corp during the hurricanes. Then just last March I lost my home to an electrical fire. The first ones to pop into my mind for help was the Red Cross and they came through for me by supplying temporary housing and food supply. I too had no family to help me, no friends in a new city and all my money literally burned away that day. I would also like to mention that all of your local charity organizations are happy to work together to assure your housing and dietary needs are met. Unlike the corporate gentleman you are unfortunately battling with, the charity volunteers have a heart and consideration for another humans well being.
I apologize for the length of my response, but your questions have seemed to have invoked a fire inside of me. In regards to your statement of walking into the company with a needle in your arm: I do agree that it would make a bold statement in the press. But wouldn't you rather defy the odds they have placed against you? Maybe you should still contact your news outlets you mentioned but instead of a needle, use a forked tongue! I believe the impact you could make over the period of 30 years of using only your passion for this situation would affect many more than lives than any other method. Never mind the government and it's minuscule control it is the few people like you who fight and overcome against all odds and inspire a nation of people. The people of a nation need leaders within their peers and I think you have been chosen to lead them and set the standard of expectation. Prove to them what the will of one man can do. Nothing will piss off those corporate f*#@s more!

**Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone**


Hello im 19/f and im a healthy weight and height for my age. I want to start eating healthy and stay away from fatty foods. I have problems with buying junk food or microwavable food because its quick and easy. After the holidays im gonna get a membership at the YMCA and start working out.. but i think i need a push on that one too because i hate working out. Everybody has told me bring a friend to help encourage me but all my friends work 40 hours a week and never seem to have time. I also have a problem with when im hungry i stop at McDonald or some other fast food place. Its like this overwhelming need to have it. Almost like its an addiction when i get hungry. How can i stop this? I feel good when im eating junk food but once im full i really regret it and the food makes me sick to my stomach and feel like crap. The thing is when i get hungry i dont care if the food will hurt my stomach, i just want to eat it. Also i say i want to stop drinking soda. I tell myself after this 12 pack im gonna not drink it anymore but i find myself buying more and more. Anyways how can i stop all of this? I want to get healthy and start eating right but its hard. Nothing in the healthy part of the store seems to interest me. I tell myself i wont eat that so why should i buy it. I just need help! Any advice on what i should do? Thanks and i do rate (link)
No matter your weight, you are making a great decision to eat healthy and begin a regular fitness routine. Approx. 1 year ago I weighed in at 309 lbs. I am 5'5" since that time I have lost 120 pounds by implementing consistent changes in my lifestyle. Just like any other vice like alcohol or smoking, it is extremely difficult to stop eating fast food, quick snacks and soda. I work in a restaurant and have a very busy life, so fast food was perfect for a quick meal. Here are a few options and suggestions that might help you. Use snack substitutions like mini carrots (no ranch dip) celery, quakes (mini flavored rice cakes) to name a few. Eating at fast food restaurants can actually provide a well balanced meal when chosen correctly. For example, many places offer veggie burger options, with this, make sure to ask for no dressings. Each bun depending on size can have 200-400 calories. Cut that in half by removing half the bun and tossing it. Also, choosing a skinless chicken breast over any red meat will help you immensely. ABSOLUTELY NO FRIED FOODS! Cut that out now and your heart will thank you later. And remember, smaller portions more often. As far as loving your soda goes..... Substitute this with a green tea, this will still give you some caffeine to help with cravings (beware of ready made store bought) make sure to check the labels. Cutting the soda out of your life will be hard for about 7 days, and then all of a sudden, it will taste awful. One more thing, a significant change in your eating habits will cause a significant increase in your energy and mental clarity, this may help you to get to the gym to start up a routine. I have hundreds of food substitution options if you have any questions. Sorry if this answer was too long or skipped around. Good luck and feel free to ask me anything else you want to know.


Well I'm a 18 year old girl, and for awhile now I've noticed that everytime I see a pregnant woman I get very fascinated with her figure. I'm not really sure what my sexuality is, I can get turned by men and women...even trannies. Just the thought of getting close to someone as a very good friend and then falling in love, I guess is a bit of a turn on too. During my freshman year I was experiencing health issues, that 'caused me to go to night school along with other students such as, pregnant teens. I was so amazed and wanted to rub their bellys at all time...lmao
I became good friends with this one girl who was pregnant, it started off awkwardly since I was so very turned on by her overall physical look. Huge potbelly, and she was very thin and tall...like a lamp....with a basketball glued to it. LOL"
I've always been blunt about things, so naturally I told her she looked beautiful pregnant and I'd pay massive amounts of money just to bathe her and her belly...Yeah, I'm a bit of a creep. But she laughed and said she wasn't a lesbian. Hah, still didn't stop me from telling her how she turned me on, and how I'd um...yeah. Anyways, the year went by and we got very close, she said oddly enough she never saw herself with another woman, she admitted to have fallen for me at some point. I was so amazed...and happy, lmfao (;
We dated for a year, but then she moved :( and since we were both only 15, we couldn't do much about it. These past years, people keep telling me I act like a guy. And women keep falling for me, which is weird...and men keep saying my boyish ways turn them on...I'm not sure what my question is. I sortah lost it...nice, but yeah. What might be the reason for this? Someone told me maybe I had a higher testosterone level than most woman...I'm very girly looking, not butch or lesbian looking at all, haha. I'm always attracted to older looking men, and younger looking girls, not like 12 year olds though. Sheesh, I like a full set of breast, lol.
Anyway, I guess my question is basically.
1. Why am I so attracted to a pregnant woman's body?
and
2.Am I just a freak? (link)
I like the answers before me :) just want to add, that as a member of the GLBT community, there is no need to define your sexuality. Love is love. Period.
Also, it has been said that pregnant women have a certain glow to them. Millions of people of all ages/genders/races etc. are attracted to this radiant glow for many different reasons. So embrace your appreciation for their beauty and share your love. 18+ of course haha.


whats some fun things to do in the house when grounded? (link)
Ok, so this doesn't sound fun but hear me out. I was grounded alot.
Make a list of at least 10 nice things you are going to do for your parents with out them asking while you are grounded. Hang the list up for all to see, the DO IT. It will keep you busy and possibly lessen your sentence this time or next.


I went to the doctor because I got this coldsore this year and it hurt and I thought the doctor might give me some prescription medicine to make it clear up better. When he was talking about the cold sore he said it was a form of herpes. He was going on about how I needed to not touch it or kiss anybody because it can spread to like my other body parts and to other people?

So...cold sores are herpes or do I misunderstand?

Because my mom gets coldsores and she told me it was just a virus.

And I been getting cold sores since I was like 13. And I only have had sex with like 4 guys TOTAL.

Do I have an STD? Like...Do I have herpes? or is my doctor like wrong or something?

Sorry, I'm kind of scared. (link)
Just want to add that about 80% of adults and about 20% of children between the ages of 5 and 18 carry HSV-1 even though they may not get break outs. This is spread very easily, so please do listen to your doctor in concern to the spread of this virus. Remember that when you do have a break out to wash your hands very frequently and treat it as soon as you feel one coming on.


f/16

Writing is my greatest passion, but I just can't think of any inspiration for an original work! I want to get started on a big project and soon, maybe look into the writing world more. Honestly, I never wanted to make a career of it, but it's about the only thing I can do, so are there any tips out there to get out of Writer's Block, maybe get some inspiration back? Any information on publishing and editors would be great too! (link)
Every writer will experience a block repeatedly. All creators do :) and all have different techniques that nudge them along which they learn over time.
Personally, I just start writing about nothing, literally. Anything that comes to mind and that will usually get me moving in the right direction to continue my work. Hope this helps you.


I have lived my life to the point that I cannot take it anymore. I have dug myself into a hole I cannot get out of and the embarassment and humility of explaining it to everyone is not worth it. This is something I cannot get past. I want to know the easiest and quickest way to leave this world. I do not own a gun nor do I have access to any prescription medications. Please, please help me. (link)
I typically do not answer questions of this caliber, however, I am feeling it necessary right now.
As stated in other answers to you, you are NOT alone in your current emotional state. I myself have walked in a similar path as you. When I was 16 and being raised in a small town in Idaho I began to question my sexuality. When classmates and family began to notice a lifestyle change I too felt embarrassed, humiliated and rejected, I did things and said things that should not have been said or done. I pondered ending my life thinking that it would be easier on me and my loved ones. Shortly after these very intense and serious emotions began I learned a few things that I will share with you.
1. If you are strong enough to dig yourself into a hole, you are strong enough to dig steps to get yourself out.
2. You should NEVER worry about what other people think of you in any capacity. Their opinion will not impact your life or matter in a few months.
3. If someone close to you loves you, they will love you no matter what.
4. YOU are what matters the most, above and beyond anything else. A single individuals life and their strength can change to world.
So stand tall, stand strong and be kind. It will feed your soul with power.


Yesterday, my grandmother was cleaning the floor with Clorox. When she was done, she started having trouble breathing because she didn't wear anything to cover her mouth. There was also coughing. However, over night she said that she kind of felt better but she still had coughing and it sounded harsher. I think once when she spit her phlegm was a red color, looking bloody. That's when I went on the computer to do some research and it said death could occur and that's when I started getting extremely worried. I told her to go to the hospital even though it's Thanksgiving but she said that she doesn't need to go because she felt better. Now it's night time and I think she's better, she's not coughing as much but i still wish she had went. So my question is what happens when you breathe in too much of the Clorox? Does it really harm you? Dangerous? Necessary to go to the hospital? (link)
I am concerned about you grandmothers well being and I would suggest calling poison control if you can not get her to go to the hospital. Especially if you noticed her using an ammonia based product (like windex) while she was using the bleach. The mixture of the two can produce corrosive substances in your airways that cause your lungs to fill with fluid. Please call immediately and if you notice any "raspy" or "gurgling" noises when she is breathing call 911.

Here is the number for the National Poison Control Center 1-800-222-1222

This is toll free and the professionals should be able to answer all your questions after they have evaluated the situation.

Best wishes


What are some national or international non-profit organizations that college students can get involved in that helps people in other countries, and gives them the opportunity to travel? (link)
I just want to say, that I think it's great that you are interested in humanity and taking the initiative to begin your impact.

I started out volunteering with the local Red Cross and The Medical Reserve Corp. My first of many deployments was to assist with search and rescue during Hurricane Katrina and subsequently, Hurricane Rita.

***Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone***


I wanted to know if you could do like rhyming quotes for me or something about 2010? Cuz i cant find anywhere on websites ..quotes about 2010... ok well thanx! (link)
Check out rhymezone.com

Maybe this will help you out!


Iam 21 years old and Iam about 5'2 and I weigh 186 pounds and I want to lose about 50 pounds and I want to weigh about 130 pounds which is how much I weighed when I was in highschool I just wnat to know would that be a health amount of weight to lose? How should I go about it? (link)
Yes, 130 would be a healthy weight for a female at your height.

Over the last year I have lost 110 pounds WITHOUT the aide of weight loss drugs, extreme fad diets or extreme exercise. My goal for weight loss was for health reasons and not for aesthetic reasons.

A lot of your success will be dependent on your ability to go through an entire lifestyle change. Here are a few steps that I hope will help you get on your road to success, you have already taken the first step by addressing the issue and reaching out!

2. Go through your cupboards/fridge/pantry etc. and remove all sweets, processed foods and cream based condiments (mayonaise, salad dressings, ice cream to name a few).

3. Replace the foods you crave the most with healthy options. For example, instead of sugar, use natural sweetners like truvia or small amounts of honey. If you want carbs, make sure you have whole wheat bread and pasta. You can even get sprouted breads at your local health food stores in the refrigerated section. One lifestyle I embraced was the Raw Food lifestyle. You do not have to dedicate 100% for this to be successful, however, you can learn many low fat/low cal options to substitute. Remember, soda and all drinks with high fructose corn syrup are totally out! Lots and lots of water and natural fruit or veggie juices. And don't forget portion control.

4. Get up and move!!!! This is so important, you have to take in calories to burn calories and when you exercise 30-60 minutes per day you will burn calories, increase stamina, increase muscle and ultimately feel better overall.

I feel like this answer is getting long and will only get longer much longer if I don't stop now. Please let me know if you have any questions on food replacements, exercise routines (gym or home) etc.


ok like i wanna hold hands and kiss my girlfreind or hug her you know.but im not sure how to make the first move so i could use some advice (link)
Hold out your open hand to her. Don't forget to smile and make eye contact :) If she is ready, she will take your hand.


My house is filled with clutter (hey, I bet part of exercising could be cleaning it!) but even without the clutter it's small.

I don't live in the best area, either, so going for runs, though I love running, wouldn't be the safest bet.

I have no room for a workout machine, or to do exercise videos, barely even to dance to music. Going to a gym where other people can see me seems awkward (I have issues with being stared at, kinda a shybird here.)

BUT, even with all that, I'd really like to get some cardio into my routine. How can I do that with these conditions?

All answers appreciated. :)
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Losing weight and getting fit is not just based solely around activity level. It comes from a complete lifestyle change. My first suggestion to you would be do de-clutter your home. Let go of anything that you haven't used with in the last month or so and you will begin to feel a weight lifted off of you immediately. As far as equipment goes; exercise bands are a great option for muscle toning. I personally use the bar in my closet to hang my bands on. There are many other options as far as bands go including door attachments. In regards to the cardio.... If you have even 2 steps located within or around your house, you should consider utilizing them for a stair stepper type routine. In addition, your basic kitchen chair can be used for abdominal exercises, tricep presses etc. I have personally lost 110 pounds using these and some other home based routines in conjunction with a healthy diet. I hope this information is helpful for you... Best wishes.


Hi, Im yauna, im a girl and im 15 and my problem is that I dont know if Im straight or bisexual. I cant really talk to anyone I know about because they might judge me or not want to talk to me.I like guys for sure because I have had four boyfriends. The last two relationships didnt go so well. But once in a while i would have these fantasies about being with a girl. I rarely have fantasies about guys but i love them too. But I still have that desire for girls or a girlfriend. So I would like to know am I straight or bisexual? (link)
At 15 years old, I had questions concerning my sexuality. I had a boyfriend who treated me like a princess and a very easy life. One problem was that I could not stop thinking about girls.... I found a friend who I was able to talk to and who helped me out. I came to realize that I was able to be attracted to both guys and girls. There is nothing unnatural or bizarre about this. If you are able to find beauty in either sex then you should embrace this and please don't feel pressure to identify yourself as straight, bisexual or gay. Love with your whole heart and love truly. Everything will come together in time.




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