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Q: So umm. There is this guy that i like and i know he likes me. But everytime I try i cant give him a boner. I have tryed touching him but nothing. Please help.

Girl honestly, you simply need to ask him what he likes. But if you don't want to do that, try rubbing your butt on his dick. That works alot.

Q: 20 female.

So before I started having sex I thought, "I'm not going to be one of those girls that moans ..I just can't see myself doing that."

But then the first time I had sex, I moaned like crazy. It just came naturally like it basically just came out. I wasn't embarrassed at the time because I was so in the moment but now that I think about it, do guys like when you moan? Does it turn them on or do they think it's weird?

Also, what else can you do to a guy while having sex that will really get him going? I know all guys are usually different, but any advice would be appreciated!

GUYS LOVE IT. I can't speak for a lot of men but I can definantly speak for this topic. They love it, it shows them that their doing their job. If you don't moan, their gonna think that you're not liking the sex. Moaning is sexy, and it sometimes even keeps a guy going. Other things is dirty talk, guys like a girl that can talk dirty. It doesn't have to be all difficult, it could be as simple as "you like that?" or "how do you want it?" or "Oo baby harder" "spank me baby" lol it sounds weird on here but when youre in the mood and in the moment, it will sound good to you and him. Rub his hair and nibble on his ear & neck. And another thing guys love is eye contact. Gaze into his eyes while youre riding him, and bite your lips & rub yourself. It shows confidence and sexiness. I hope i helped :)

Q: 20f

I've realized that when I'm hooking up with a guy and I'm on the bottom, I tend to run my fingers lightly down his sides. Does anyone else find themselves doing this? Do the guys usually like it, every guy I've been with doesn't really have a love/hate reaction I guess. I never asked them though.

Also, is it weird to kiss guys from their neck all the way down? I've never tried it, for some reason I can't see guys liking it but I've heard of people doing this all the time. Why do guys love it so much?

Be gentle during 4-play. This makes guys go crazy. When you're touching him be very light with the hands. Run your hands on the back of his neck, nibble on his ear, when youre kissing his neck don't be all rough w/ it, be gentle. Run your hands over his nipples and slightly rub your lips across them too. IF you give head, start from the chest and make your way down, kissing every part possible. To tease him you can even kiss his lower stomach, skip his dick and start kissing his thighs. And while youre doing this talk dirty to him, tell him what you're going to do to him while yall have sex. I'm not saying to be gentle the whole time, because once you have sex it's going to be hard because it will feel so good. Lol, i hope i helped :)

Q: okay. i am 12 years old and i want to wear thongs but im scared to ask my mom. shes cool and will probably say yes but i dont know how to ask her if i can wear them.. do you have any advice?? personal stories would be helpful

btw dont answer if youre gonna yell at me that 12 is "way too young to be wearing sexy butt floss"

Well actually I started wearing them at about 13 because I was finally a big bad teenager, so my mom actually just bought be one randomly. So anyways. I think you should just be straight up with your mom. Tell her why you would want too. I actually told her that it was more comfertable for me, and she believed it. But YA. Just be real with her, because any other wacky excuse is gunna make it look like bs. xoxo :D

Q: OKay so Im 15 and having sex. does this mean Im a outta control teen? And now im pregnant how do I heel this issue? How do I get help? How do I ask for help? Im scared please help.

I lost my virginity at fifteen years old girl, and I felt like I was out of control also, but I wasn't. You're not. You're just curious and trying new things. Now you're pregnant. That is a big issue, did you use protection? This guy that got you pregnant, is he going to stick around? This is something the both of you need to figure out TOGETHER. Call you're doctor to get help and ask him/her what to do, or you can call 'planned parenthood' and they can give you some advice also for your next game plan. OR even if this is last on you're mind, you should talk to your mom/guardian. Think about it like this; do you want to have the baby? give it up for adoption? or abortion? Talking to you're mother or woman guardian would help you so much, even if she is pissed at you, the first thing she is going to want to do is help you and care for what is going on in your life. I hope I really helped girl. And good luck .

Q: when me and my boyfrien fool around sometimes it goes farther and he eats me out adn hes asked me to blow him but i refuse and tell him that i think it is gross, but the truth is i dont know how to give one, ive sucked on condoms before but nothing for real, can someone help me?????

Be honest with him and tell him that you don't know how and you don't want to be bad at it. He will definantly understand that. But just some tips; practice on something that resembles a dick and just practice on that, lol. Sounds corny but that will help you out. OR (if you feel comfortable with this, watch a porno and watch how the girls give head. Thats only if you feel comfortable with that. I hope I helped :)

Q: 19/F

I've had sex 3 times now and the first time, I bled, a lot. But I blew it off as me losing my virginity so it was "normal". The second time, I bled a little bit, but nothing too tragic, so I assumed that meant it was gonna get better as I had sex more often. Well, the third time was a re enactment of the first time. I bled. A lot. What's up with that? Why? Am I gonna have to worry everytime about "Omg, am I gonna bleed this time?" I'm convinced my vagina is defective. lol

You're still new at this girl, you need to be patient, your vagina is still a little tight and everytime you have sex you're stretching it out even more so it's going to bleed. This is completely normal. Now if this lasts for weeks ande weeks, that's when you should worry and call your doctor and get tested for STDs. I hope this helped :)

Q: How can I become pretty? I'm not ugly or anything but I can't seem to really find my own beauty and pop out. If anything, I'm probably thought of as a plain jane. I'm tired of being plain. I want to be PRETTY or BEAUTIFUL.

I try to wear nice clothes that aren't baggy or anything. I have long medium brown hair and brown eyes. I'm 5'3" and 14 years old with light skin color and heart shaped face. I wear make-up pretty often but the makeup doesn't seem to really help me become really pretty or beautiful.

I am really needing some beauty tips, girls. Please?

Hi Girl :) Well please don't take my advice harsh or anything, but the first step of becoming more beautiful is to gain some confidence. To me, just my assumptions it sounds like you don't have a lot of confidence. You have to know you're beautiful inside, to be able to become beautiful on the outside. Makeup isn't for everybody, so if you feel like it makes you feel/look worse then just drop the makeup. To even look more pretty with makeup on, you need to know how to apply makeup the right way. Watch some you-tube videos on how to apply makeup the right way and you can learn how to do so easier. I also have a beauty blog, so you can check me out and learn from me. Drink water, workout, and stay positive. These are great ways to help you feel and look more beautiful.

Q: Hey! I volunteered for a pie in the face thing for my school NHS. People will pay like a few dollars to throw pies at me/other people, and they have a choice between just whipped cream on a plate, or with chocolate sauce added, or finally with cherries added. Haha :D

Which outfit do you think I should wear? I usually dress very fashionable/stylish and I don't want to look like I dressed down in rags for a charity, I think that would look selfish. I want to wear something that looks stylish and will contrast well with the pie. :)

Outfit 1) White hollister shirt/hollister jeans/converse. Outfit 2.) Black cowl neck sweater, with hollister jeans, and heel boots. Outfit 3.) Black cowl neck sweater, with matching skirt, tights, and heel boots. Outfit 4.) Red dress with belt, tights, and red heels

Any advice? Those would all be typical outfits I would wear to school, although outfit 1 is really casual. So which outfit would you most want to throw pie at, lol?

Hey Girl, Its a charity so I don't think you should wear anything too nice because the desserts will ruin your outfits. You can still dress more laid back and still make it look cute. You could wear some sweats with a cute, tight spegetti strap shirt with vans or converse - and style it up with some rings. Or you could wear a long shirt with leggings underneath and flip flops. I prefer you don't wear white because it will show through and the public will see what kind of bra you're wearing, lol. If I had to choose tho I would choose number 1. minus the white shirt, have it be a black shirt instead.

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My name is Soraya, and I have a passion in Health, Beauty and Sex Advice. This is my girl talk column, so ask me anything you would like :) I will be starting a YouTube Channel very soon, so I would love your support on that once it comes. My future career will consist of helping my girls get through the worst and best situations of life, so this is just the beginning of my journey.