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Why do all the sluts get guys??
Ok so i am 13 female and i am having trouble getting a bf i mean i am pretty or so i have been told i am really curvy and pretty shy when it comes to guys I want to open and be able to feel comfortable around guys again,but not be a slut!Any advice i want to loosen up!
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Let me start by saying I'm old enough to be your grand father and I have been married to the same women for almost 40 years. I believe in calling a spade a spade so you may find what i have written a little shocking coming from someone my age. My wife and I believe that it is best to tell it like it is and this is what I have tried to do for you and what we have done for our child.
At your age you are about 2 years more mature than boys of your same age. Allthe boys think of at this age is having sex, it is how they are wired at this time. They, like you are going through puberty and have all these hormones raging through their bodies. Because of this they confuse lust with love. There are other ways for boys to relieve the sexual tension they are feeling, to do so though makes them feel less than manly especially when they hear their friend bragging about their conquest. About 99% of the bragging is just that bragging about something that is just not true. By bragging about something it makes them look better in the eyes of their friends and in many cases the girl will back them up so that she has a BF.
You should not compromise your principles just to get a BF. The girls that are actually having sex are going to find themselves with out boyfriends later when the boys mature and start looking for long term relationships and future wives. They then start looking at these women as used merchandise, not someone suitable to take home to mom.
There is a boy out there for you, not all the boys are as sex crazed as the ones you have been seeing.
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just be your self if a guuy likes you then so be it if not dont let it bother plenty of fish in the sea
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At 13 most guys don't want long-term relationships, they want sex. Therefore if they know a girl is easy, they're gonna try and get with her and maybe be her "boyfriend," if that's what it takes. Don't lower your standards of many 13 year old girls. When guys mature they will respect you more. And for the part about loosening up, just be confident in your own skin and guys will see that. Everything will go from there.
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Honestly hunny it depends on the guy and what he wants in a relationship. If all he is looking for is a sexual relationship he will go after the slut. There will be a guy out there that will see you for you and go after you. Just give it time. Your obviously a pretty girl and your still young. Dont worry about it too much right now. Just be a little more flirty. Joke around, laugh and smile a lot. These are things to catch a guys attention without being slutty.
Hope this helped!(:
if you need anything else feel free to message me personally.
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Hi,
Well, it depends on the guy and want he want at that particular time.From my experience from other people's relationship, if a dude is young he might not want to have a serious relationship. But, want to play the field, becfore having a real serious relationship. I have also noticed that some people who get in a relationship too early, have regrets. Yes, the relationship is great, but would rather the relationsip exist when they are a bit older.
Bye.
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