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I just lost my kindle and I can't find it is there any app or way I could locate it???? (link)
I am not entirely sure...why dont you go to the retailer where you purchased it from they should be of some help.


so my friend of 14 years(she's 22, i'm 19), is trying to have a baby with her fiance, but he isnt able to "make good swimmers"(best way i can think to put it) and so she turns to me and asks for mine, since we've been friends since like, grade school. being a good friend, i think that i'd just donate, BUT here's where my question comes in. she wants to have in naturally, so like intercourse. she's talked it with her fiance and so have i, and he's totally fine with it, but i feel kinda...awkward. should i go through with it? cuz she says i'm her only choice for it (link)
people have different motives. Are you sure they just dont want you for some other purpose if you get what i mean...if she wants a kid she could adopt. There are millions of children who need a parent. Think wisely before you act because this could ruin you.


so you're saying they cant be friends? (link)
Well, it depends. They can still be friends if they want because everyone is different you cants tell what going on from person to person...i just think the line has been crossed. if you can be both mature about it that's cool but if not they can go their separate ways.


so i have a friend who liked this guy and one of my other friends ended up dating him but now they broke up and my friend stills like him and she wants to start talking to him again. does this go against a girl code? i dont know what to tell her?

Help (link)
i would say the code was broken because two friends like the same dude and one went out with him not they are broken up the other one wants to see what can happens? yeah it goes against the code.


For the last few months, I have been reading various articles on etiquettes. Obviously, I have tried to employ them in my life. I have tried to make my family adopt them too. I would like to ask, are those etiquettes to be followed in my own house too. For example, it is mannerless to sit in an awkward position with one leg on the sofa and other one on the floor. But, should I overlook the etiquette at home because I would like to relax. Will I be cheating myself ? (link)
i would say etiquette is not just in public but in doors too.


Hi.
So I used to have a good group of friends. But I don't really fit in with them now. I tried to get rid of them but just became a loner. Now I'm with them again, and they are the same way. They used to always ask me for advice and they still do. But when I am having big problems they just don't care! I'm very shy (I don't talk in a lot of classes), sarcastic, and a bit socially awkward because of my shyness, even though I am very kind. How can I make new friends and actually be happy at school? (link)
Hi there,

Some people grows up while others remain immature for life. I have gone through some thing similar. The people i used to hang around werent nice to begin with but i am the kind of person that doesnt judge a book by its cover..so i gave them a chnce now i have achieved so much academically while they are stuck in a rot. and they only care to wear not nice clothes ( i am being polite here) and i realise well, part of me shouldnt have even hung out with them even though i have achieved alot its like wasting your time hanging around with people who are sarcastic, rude ..the list goes on.

so i would say be yourself, never stop being true to yourself you will have true friends who will appreciate you for you and be there for you in most ways you need and you for them.

Take care.


I have sex a day before my period and i only have my period for one day can i be pregnant
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get a test done.


"hello doctor. my periods started on 1st march to 4th march and i had sex on 8th than after it i had bleeding on 15th march and now its 20th april and without periods is there any chance of pregnancy please help me on this (link)
in medicine its never 100% so the only way to know for certain will be for a test.


I feel like i'm in a prison made of my own limited abilities. I have difficulty remembering anything. I'm a very poor speller and my grammar is shockingly bad. I have extreme difficulty remembering basic mathamatical principals. I am truely inept at everything I do. There are so many things out there to learn and to do. I have recently started to study at a local college but found they had nothing to teach me. The only course that I felt had any merit is their math program which I'm currently enrolled in. The more I am exposed to people the more I realise how far behind I really am. Are there any modes of study that wil increase my memory? What about my spatial reasoning? My ability to work things out in a logical way?

I'm currently taking a basic math course at a local college and I am also slowly increase the quantity of books I'm reading. As well as increasing the quatity of books I'm reading a much more diverse range of books with different subjects and themes etc. What else can I do.

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you aren't alone i have been around people in a similar situation as yours. Since you are good at Maths concentrate on those and in life dont approach concepts or topics on a relevant course as why do i have to memorize this but concentrate on how i can understand and appreciate a topic and when that flows i.e. doing something you enjoy the rest just com into place.



I have never been able to pick up times tables. They vex me to this day. I am left in wonder when ever I encounter someone that can do them forwards and backwards. Starting at any point from 7 x 6 to 9 x 9 without even batting an eyelid.

Having the ability to completly understand and know my times tables would be an enormous milestone in my life.

Thank you for taking the time to read my quiery. (link)
i would say try a set first master it before you move unto the other sets


I've been friends with these two girls for as long as I can remember, but in the past two years, we've drifted apart. We've all changed. All they seem to care about now is conforming. I'm a non-conformist and "proud nerd". In addition, I'm very analytical and philosophical; I don't accept values and morals before questioning them. My friends will accept any values thrown at them that seem "cool". This is what I believe is the cause of our separation; I could be wrong.

Anyway, they've become friends with my 11-year-old sister (henceforth referred to as R), and they're really bad influences on her. Since R has been friends with them, she's started failing all her classes, eating only candy, swearing, and acting really rude, hostile, and arrogant, especially towards my parents and I. (They do all of the aforementioned things. A lot.) My parents are concerned about R. Whenever I'm with the three of them, they either ignore everything I say (even if I try to have a conversation they're interested in) or dismiss my opinions and thoughts as stupid and dorky. They're really, really rude and obnoxious; they're so loud sometimes I feel like my hearing might be getting damaged. Whenever I tell R how I feel, they ask me why they should care about me. When I'm alone with the other girls (I'm going to call them K and A), they're not as rude to me as they are with R, but they're still kind of haughty. I'm tired of them acting like I don't matter.

There's this one guy at school who all the girls crush on. (Isn't there one at every school?) They talk about him 24/7. K practically stalks him. I feel bad for him, but don't know what to do. I feel like I can't tell them what I think.

My friends are still kind of fun sometimes. A few months ago, we went shopping together and had a pretty good time. (I don't hang out with them; I'm a pre-professional violist and practice several hours every day instead.) I have some online friends who I'm really close to and a large number of acquaintances whom I don't know well but like. I kind of still want to be friends with them. What should I do? (link)
I would say stay true to who you are and so should your sister. Advice her the way to go about. you an your sister have to be yourself if anyone tried to be someone they are not its just time wasting and deceiving your self and also some self confidence issues needs to be addressed with your friends.


i love a guy who has a gril and i hve told him how i feel and he hasnt responded on it he still acts as my frnd ,wht should i do (link)
Well, he has a partner and since you've told him and nothing has happened yet. I would suggest you just try and be there as a friend you never know what tomorrow brings.


What is a good answer to put on a application about special study or research work and special skills and activities about myself (link)
it would depend on your career path.


So my dad hates me and he threatened to hit me. Then I ran to my room and slammed the door and he said I'd be in BIG trouble.. What do I do?! I'm scared now. Please help NOW this is an emergency!

P.S. He doesn't take apoligizes. Should I just stay in here for the next 20 years? (link)
i would say you need to talk to someone about this. this is very important no body likes violence and the root of the problem needs to be established.


I am a 16 year old girl. I fell in love with someone I met online!! Lame I know but I honestly do still love him. He has stopped talking to me and blocked me on Facebook. We were "together" for 8 months. Someone please tell me how I can get over this man! I feel like my heart is run over by a semi-truck (link)
Well i would say he probably wasn't the person you thought he was...his account could have been hacked into or anything could have happened...you shouldn't be thinking of why this happens but how.


hi, what does it mean by when a boyfriend of 4 years says, ''go with the guy if you want to?'' he only says that if he finds me looking and when he's drunk. sometimes i don't get it. we love each other and we live together and he's also a single father and in his early 50's. so guys does he want to split up or something? thanks (link)
Both of you being with each other for four years you shouls sort of know each other in some ways. I would say he might be going through some issues that he feels difficult to talk with you about referring to your comment about when he's drunk...i would say that every time he wants drink talk it out communicate, spend time with each other and probably he wouldnt need to drink...the love is there it just needs to be rekindled.


Am 20years old, am form nigeria. How can i stop loving and caring for him without breaking with him (link)
Well, this is a touch cookie... i would suggest you be there for him as a friend not only that because his heart is for someone. You making an investment in this relationship not as friends would end you in heart break and might ruin what you guys have now.



20/f last year I was raped by my ex boyfriend, long story short we drank (he led me to believe he was drinking but in actuality I was the drunk one,) when we went to bed I remember waking up to him doing the act. To this day I have not told anyone except a good friend, and my new current boyfriend (of almost 9 months) at the very beginning of our relationship, but I toned town the story a bit. Nobody actually knows everything that happened, and I can't seem to get over it. I have brought it up once to my boyfriend, and he consoled me (as well as wants to kill my ex) but I feel badly about the topic if it is to come up again, I don't want him to think I still think about my ex. Should I be over it by now? It makes me feel dirty and sick to think about it, I could cry.
Thank you (link)
I am speaking from a personal experience i got raped and i was a virgin in one of the worst ways and today i am very angry but i have found Christ even before this occurred. and its easier for someone to not be in your shoes to try to understand but they really dont. Right now i dont feel compelled to tell anyone but what happened to you encouraged me to reply to you...i still think about it daily like what have i done but in your case look at the positive side, you have a new partner that is consoling you and he is that angry...its a daily process take each day as it comes yes it makes you think what your ex did to you was vile and is vile.

take care


Hey guys.. This is not really my first time here and the question may sound foolish but i kind of need a help in this. First off, i've been friends with an overseas guy since last two years. We're of the same age, but we don't live the same life. To be frank, we haven't even reached the age of 20 yet, and he is a very nice person.. And i don't know why, i've started to like him early of thisyear and for now, i don't even think i'm liking him but instead, loving him. Whenever i think of him, my heart starts blooming and i always hope that he'll constantly be in a fine state.. Although yeah, doesn't mean he's having the same feeling towards me. It doesn't matter if he has a girlfriend already (but one of my other friend told me he's single and that he had a crush on me six months before, but recently i've no idea.), i just feel lucky enough to still be his friend. What can i say guys, he's beyond my league eventhough he says he loves me (as friends i think). It's just that, i can't stand feeling like this anymore, i just want to think of him as a friend. I really want to let him know that i really love him not as a friend but it's impossible. Different cities, different religions and again, different lives. He has tonnes of worldwide buds i think whereas i've a few but i don't care. It kills me inside thinking about him all day when i've other more important things to think of. I want to stop thinking about this. It might even lead to nonsensical heartbreak created by myself. And, I do fill my days with a lot of activities but you know the feeling when the person you care so much about comes to mind. Help. (link)
Hello there,

From what you wrote you seem like a very mature person...i would say take a step at a time


I have my grade eight grad at the end of june and i am gettig a french manocure for that day. I want to have my own long nails when that happens and dont want to use acrilics. My cuticles are always pushed back and i rub oil and nonbiting polish on my nails everyday. What are some home remedies i can make to harden or make my nail growth speed up? I really want nice nails for my graduation! (link)
Hello there,

There are various home natural remedies that you could try....but aren't scientific regulated...

1.EVOO
2.Vegetable oil
3.ACV
4.Silica extract
5. Nettle extract

You could try taking multivitamins you get it doesn't have to be expensive just the ones that contain the right amount of vitamins you need.




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