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so i have a friend who liked this guy and one of my other friends ended up dating him but now they broke up and my friend stills like him and she wants to start talking to him again. does this go against a girl code? i dont know what to tell her?
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This seems to be a big question from many young girls. I wonder why? Are the young girls of today making pacts and promises to each other to never consecutively (meaning:following one another) date the same guy? For what reason is there doubt that it could be wrong? The only way to find out if you have enough things in common and have some chemistry with a person id to meet them and date them. Once you get to be older, if you've learned how to spot what you are looking for you won't necessarily have to go through the dating stage to know if a guy is a good prospect for you or not. When we are young, that is our time to learn things about relationships with the opposite sex, dating, sex, what characteristics we like in another person or not. How can you do so if a girlfriend gets upsets and doesnt want you to date a guy she did. It doesnt reflect bad on her or him, they just weren't the best match for each other. If a girlfriend demands that a friend not date her ex boyfriend, then theres something seriously wrong with her and you may want to think twice about limiting the amount of time you spend with someone like that if she won't listen to a friend trying to reason with her. Being open and discussing things helps lots in diffusing awkward situations. Always keep in mind that our bodies mature faster than our brains. Our brains don't catch up until into our twenties. So hormobe driven teens want to date and have sex but don't the brains, logical, thinking coping skills to handle situations maturely.
Your asking for help is a good step. Eventually your mind will have matured to a point where you don't need to reach out for advice cus your brain caught up! :) I have been promoting a very informative you tube site on Sex and dating and more. It's done by a yung gal in her 20's. Lacigreen. I highly advice looking her up. She has 156 video's so far and takes many different subjects and tackles them in 3-4 minutes all with teens in mind but she's getting quite a following of older people too. My own adult sister just learned something from her she did not know about how to cleaning genitals for women. It is not corny and shouldn't be overlooked just because I am an older person suggestinG it. Please give Lacigreen a look. She's on facebook and twitter also. But the videos are whats really important to learn from.
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I didn't know people actually looked at things with the "girl code" and such. But if you're looking at it that way, yes. But it was already broken in the first place.
If both your friends liked one guy and both knew about it but one still dated him, they broke it.
As to what to tell her, you can't make her do anything. I think it depends on where she values her friendship. If the other friend doesn't have a problem with her talking to her ex, then ok. If she doesn't, well that's where she decides if she values the boy or her friend more.
You can't really decide or change what both of them are going to say or do. Just try being supportive and being a good friend.
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i would say the code was broken because two friends like the same dude and one went out with him not they are broken up the other one wants to see what can happens? yeah it goes against the code.
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