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I am always really, really tired. I mean, I could take a nap at any time of the day and sleep for a couple of hours, easy. I usually sleep anywhere from 9 to 12 hours every single night. I always feel so darn tired and sleepy. Sometimes when I'm up for about 11 or 12 hours I start to feel flat-out exhausted and I haven't even done much at all, you know? When I was little I hardly ever slept, I had insomnia, and I would sleep like 3 or 4 hours at night if i was lucky. I was never tired then. Now I'm 17. What is wrong with me?
I'm not a doctor, none of use on this site are and we cannot make a diagnoses or give medical advise.
From what you have written you sound a lot like my son did at that age. We first thought it was just him being a teenager, but we thought just to be safe we would have him checked by our family doctor. Turned out he had mono. Yup that old kissing disease, but you don't just get it from kissing. Mono is a virus that lots of students get.
I'm not saying you have mono, only a doctor can make that diagnoses. My advise is to check in with the family doctor and find out for sure if you have a bug or if you are just being a typical teenager.
Treated early mono is easy to treat, plenty of bed rest. You will probably be allowed to go to school then home to bed for several weeks. It's a bummer for sure but with a little TLC from mom and some of your favorite foods the time will pass quickly.
What qualities should a Cover Letter have?
The header of your cover letter should have your address, Email address and phone number. I usually center in at the top of the page. If using WP. Use the header area.
It depends what the cover letter is accompanying. In most all cases it should be a business type letter and formatted as such.
If the cover letter is accompanying a resume or job application keep it short and to the point: Attached or enclosed please find my, insert appropriate item,. I look forward o an in person meeting at your convenience. Sincerely.
If you know anything about the company you are applying to you can add in that you have heard wonderful things about them and what they do and how you feel you will be an asset to them. Remember to keep it short. In this case less is more as whoever is reviewing applications will be reviewing many and the less that has to be read the better. The same is true about resume. Short and to the point. You do not need to give a life history just enough to get an interview.
Other cover letters are handled in the same manner. Make your point as fast and with the fewest words as possible. Thank them for taking the time to look at what you have sent. Always say you look forward to hearing from them, meeting them or receiving them. Make sure contact information is available in either your header or after your salutation.
That is about all the information I can give you on this subject.
In my daughter's school there will eventually be a swimming unit in gym class some times in the following semesters and both boys and girls have the class together. Isn' t kind of wrong to force young people to be in bathing suits in front of each other? Even if its one piece? I assumed they would be seperate. Daughter is in 8th grade by the way
That type of thinking is somewhat out dated. After all they are teaching sex education in grades as early as eight grade. I remember having a dance , coed, in gym glas in gym class.
You could remove your daughter from the class but then you open her up to teasing an ridicule. As parents we have the right to raise our children as we see fit. Probles come when we attempt to keep things from them they are the ones that end up getting hurt.
I'm 15 and I'm pregnant. I know it's not ideal. I know it's a bad situation. I'm not happy or proud of what I did. It's something I know I have to deal with though.
I told my mom two days ago that I am pregnant. She was really mad at me and told me that we'd get rid of "it" soon enough then.
I tried to tell her it's not what I want. I want to take responsibility. I know it's a hard road. I don't want to kill my baby or "get rid of it." I want this baby and I want to do my best with him or her.
My mom says I'm being stupid and on Monday she's going to call the clinic to schedule an appointment to have an abortion done.
I get where she's coming from, but it is NOT what I want to do. I want to give birth and raise my kid the best I can. I'm not perfect. Nobody is. I just want to try my best.
They always say it's 'my body and my choice' but I feel like my mom isn't giving me a choice here. It's my mistake and I want to do what I think is best. It's my baby I am carrying. I don't want to have an abortion. What do I do? How can I get help so she doesn't make me get one?
You are too old to have any medical procedure done against your will, this includes an abortion.
If you chose to have the baby you will, in most states, be declared an emancipated minor. Meaning you will be declared of legal age to work without working papers, sign contracts and other things should mom force you out of her home.
The help you need is not help to stop the abortion, that will not happen without your consent. You will need help in caring for and raising your child. In finishing your education, in having the father being financially responsible. The social worker at the clinic can help you with these things.
I been on what I call a diet for the past 8 months. At first everybody was amazed I lost so much weight so fast but now they always tell me I'm TOO thin. I want to be skinnier and I think I still look FAT. I did a BMI calculator and I'm like a number 15 (the thing said 15.1 actually). I don't eat allot. Somebody told me they think I have a eating disorder called anorexia. I looked it up. I might have that. I haven't got my period in a couple months even. I don't want to be sick? So does it go away on its own or do I need to get medicine? Im kind of confused about what to do? I didnt tell my mom because shes already upset Im still dieting and I dont want her to freak out again on me. What do you think I could do to be normal I guess? Thanks you
To answer your question Anorexia does not go away by itself, it requires medical intervention.
I'm not a doctor so I not qualified to make a diagnosis. If I were a doctor there is not enough information here to make a diagnosis. From what you have written and what I know of anorexics I would not call you an anorexic. You do have some of the symptoms but you also realize this is a disease you don't want to deal with and asking for help. A true anorexic would not be writing to us.
My advice is that you see a doctor. It sounds as if you have been on an unsupervised diet, not a good idea. Dieting should always be supervised by your family doctors. So you start by making an appointment to see you family doctor. Tell the doctor of all your concerns, including the ones listed here and make sure to include that your period has stopped.
Let your doctor decide if you are anorexic or not. The doctor will also tell you what your ideal weight should be for you skeletal frame. If your doctor finds you are at your ideal weight or under weight and you still feel you need to lose weight you may be referred to another doctor.
Follow your doctors advice; Anorexia is not a good disease, it can and has killed people as it messes with the bodies electrolytes. If these get out of balance they can cause multiple organ failures which eventually cause death. Make an appointment to see you doctor ASAP and I would also suggest you speak with your mom.
I guilted my girlfriend into a threesome. She told me some months back that she was "slightly" bi-curious. I thought it sounded kind of hott to have a threesome so I really did pressure her to do it with me and this girl she knows (who is openly bisexual). We had the threesome last week, and I did penetrate both my girlfriend and the other girl, but now I feel really bad and guilty. When it was happening, I felt really good though, but now I kind of even feel like I cheated on my girlfriend. My girlfriend doesn't act like anything differently has happened, but inside I feel bad that I pushed her into doing it. I asked her how she felt now that it's happened and she said she feels weird and wants to put it behind her. What can I do to feel less bad, I guess, is what I'm asking? I really liked the threesome and getting to have sex with the other girl but I wish I didn't. I'm torn.
The two hardest words in our language to speak are; "I'm Sorry". But when said with purpose and meaning mean so very much.
What you need to do is to apologize to your girlfriend; to tell her your sorry for pressuring her in to doing something she was no really comfortable doing. You go on to tell her that you will not lie to her and say you didn't like it for you did, but that you have regretted it ever since as you know that was not something she truly wanted to do.
You can back up your words with a small token to show your love. Not knowing your ages I am hard pressed to make a suggestion. One of the least expensive ones I can think of would be to take her to see a chick flick she has been wanting to see.
Sex between two consenting adults is a beautiful thing. The operative word here is consenting. Nothing is off limits between you and your partner provided both of you consent to it and no one is physically harmed by it. Exploring and expanding your sexualities is part of life and can be fun just as long as their is mutual consent.
Tell this to your girlfriend and promise her you will never try to pressure her again and she has every right to tell you and should tell you when something you suggest is uncomfortable to her.
I hate being a girl. ABsolutely despise it. I hate hate getting a period I hate having boobs and I hate having a vagina. I love to wear jeans and a baggy tee and in summer baggy shorts with baggy tee. I feel uncomfortable being a girl. I do love men everything about them. PLease Help me what should I do? By the way sex change is not an option.
Edited Answer: I’m taking the time to edit my answer to you with some trepidation. I say this as I have the feeling that you are at this time confused and mad at the world; this fine you have every right to feel any way you wish as long as you can support those reasons which you have. I am taking this position based on the rating you gave to my answer. I am one of the highest rated advisors, as well as one of the oldest on this website. I chose to answer questions like yours for the same reason I have joined as an advisor: I feel it is important for young people like you to get straight answers to their question. When necessary I will research my answers and pass along the websites found on to the person whose question I am answering.
That being said; as I said in regards to a bra. If you are big breasted it is for your own health that you find a proper sized bra to wear. If you don’t wear a bra you will have health problems later in life related to your breast and breast muscles; no I am not talking specifically about Breast Cancer, the two issues are not as I am told related. You would also fall into the normal range of young teenage girls who don’t like wearying bras. Sorry, but that is a fact of life, most girls do not like going from undershirts to bras and fight their mothers tooth and nail over it.
As far as religion is concerned; you have your faith and I would never take issue with someone over their faith. I can see where you might be conflicted over this; if I am right you may want to think about talking to your minister, pastor or priest. I’m really not sure what position the church has on the issue of sex change. It is always best to check your thoughts with the person that has the best authoritative answer.
I reread you question and my answer. As I said my answer was a shot in the dark as I didn’t know your age. Now that I do know age I will say this and please don’t bite my head off (figuratively speaking), I am trying to inform not instruct. The early teenage years are very confusing for both boys and girls. Besides growing into young adults and still being treated as children, your bodies are changing and you are experiencing things you have never felt before. Some girls look forward to the day when they have breast and get their period, others like you hate it when it happens. Some girls change and accept what has happened and some do not
To my way of thinking it is still too early to finalize just who and what you are. I base this on your statement “I do love men everything about them”. This statement is just enough of a contradiction to tell me you need to be given more time to find out just who you are. You may still change and conform to what society finds acceptable to what a women should be, if you decide not to conform, no big deal. This is your life; once you are of legal age anyone in authority over you who tell you that you must conform; you have every right to tell them what you think of conformists. Of course be prepared to suffer consequences such as job losses.
Until you are of legal age you must expect that you will be pushed to conform, that is just the way life is. There is nothing you can do about your periods, your breasts or your vagina until you are at least 18 and decide if you want to have a sex change. Until then try not to punish everyone around you with how you feel. It is not their fault or yours for how you feel it is just a part of growing up. I’ve been through this before with one of my nieces who felt as you do at your age. She turned out to be a conformist and is being married in April.
It would help to know how old you are, without knowing your age answering your question is hard. As someone old enough to be your grandfather I try by taking a stab at some grandfatherly advice.
For a young girl who has been a tomboy all her life to suddenly have to deal with the differences in the body of a woman this can be very troubling and confusing. This usually begins when puberty begins when your body starts to change and you develop the curves and bust line of a woman. Suddenly your boy friends' start to treat you differently; instead of asking you to play baseball they want to kiss and hug and try and feel you up.
As for your period I have a news flash for you; I have yet to meet a woman who loves her period. Periods are painful, messy and can be embarrassing if you are not prepared for them when they arrive.
Like I said I'm taking a stab in the dark here but if this sounds like you; you're normal. You like boys and you don't want a sex change. Is this something you will grow out of? I really can't say as this is something that is up to you. There is nothing that says you have to conform to what everyone thinks a woman should look like or dress like. You want to wear baggy clothes do it, don't worry what those 2 on "What not to wear" think. The only caution I would give is if you are big busted wear a bra as it is for your own good.
Other than that this is your life, live it as you please. As long as you do not break any legal laws you can break all the laws of convention you wish.
So if you had anal sex but not actual sex would that still make you a virgin? Also same question with oral. Thanks!
I would say that in the biblical manner you are still a virgin as no one has had carnal knowledge of you. Morally is a different story and something for you to decide. Oral sex to my mind is a form of masturbation and is not considered to be a loss of ones virginity.
Legal Definition:
carnal knowledge - the act of sexual procreation between a man and a woman; the man's penis is inserted into the woman's vagina and excited until orgasm and ejaculation occur
My boyfriend lives with his mom in a basement because his dad was really mean to him and so they moved away from him. His dad lives in Florida and they live in virginia. His dad never talks to him like once on the phone every 3 months, and is very mean to him and calls him ugly and that he has no purpose in life and his father said the world would be a better place without him. It's really mean and Im always there for him and this christmas he gave his dad a christmas card. And his dad didn't even give him anything. He emailed the mom and said some really mean things that he was so grateful some other person gave him a christmas card and he didn't even mention my boyfriends card. He made fun of them and it was really mean. I don't remember it because i didn't read it. But the mom told me about it last night. I feel really bad for him. How can I help him and what should I tell my boyfriend? his mom and the man are still not divorced and she's going to divorce him sometime soon. He doesn't have a dad and his dad makes him feel terrible please help him.... :(
Your boyfriend is being mentally abused by his father. Mental abuse is just as bad if not worse than being physically abused since the scars are not obvious to anyone.
There is an organization called RAINN which stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network. The Abuse they deal with I believe is more of the physical type but they are able to help with mental abuse as well. They operate a 24/7 hotline 1-800-656-HOPE as well as an online hotline: http://apps.rainn.org/ohl-bridge/.
Both your boyfriends and his mother can call them for help. They will help them find professionals; Doctors, Lawyers whatever is needed to help them with getting past the abuse and away from the father/husband.
As I said this is a 24/7 operation you can call them no or go online with them.
I've been out as a lesbian for the past 12+ years. I'm 33 and I've dated my share of women. I've had serious relationships and not so serious relationships. I've never dated a man, not even for a short period of time as a teenager, and have never even had a desire to have sex with a man.
I haven't had a relationship since I broke up with my ex-girlfriend in the spring. Not even a one night stand with a woman. I've been happy since then though. Until this guy, this MAN, came along.
I started a new job after the break up and it's something that requires two people to work together often. I work with this guy, Steven, and we've been working together for a few months now. At first, when I very first met him, I thought the feelings I felt were me being envious of him being so incredibly masculine (I've always been kind of butch) because I was so intrigued by it. It was almost fascinating. Now I'm pretty sure it's more than that.
I've come to realize that I actually like him more than just as a person or friend or coworker. He has a wonderful personality and is quite the attractive man. The crush has developed so that I'm now questioning my sexuality after all of this time, and it's really confusing. From time to time I have these dreams of him that are very sexual in nature even. I feel so twisted up. I have these intense feelings for him and I've never felt this way about any woman.
He's a very masculine man, just like I said. I know he's single. I told him when we started working together that I'm a lesbian, and he was perfectly fine with that and hasn't ever said anything to me about it since. Now the problem is that I'd like to date him and see where things go.
I haven't purposely done it but lately I find myself being a little less butch and a little more feminine around him. I'm more concerned with looking "pretty" now. It isn't like me at all, but it's really strange because I feel happy with him being a "manly" man. I think we might actually make a good pair.
Enough of my rambling. Do you think I'm a lesbian or what? I never thought I was straight but this has me questioning everything about me. And should I say something to him? Do I make a move? Do I just go with the flow and hope he catches on that I'm interested? Do I pretend these feelings don't exist?
Things happen that just defy explanation, this may be one of them. Steven may be just attractive enough to you that you are somewhat Bi-Curious when it comes to him. Are you still a Lesbian? I don't think that is a question any of us can answer for you.
I've known and still do know some lesbians. The one question that I've never asked but always wanted to know is how do you know you don't like me, sexually, if you have never tried having sex with one. I'm a firm believer that you must always try something before condemning it.
As to Steven; I would suggest you invite him out for drinks after work or even out for a meal. Steven being single might appreciate a home cooked meal. You might investigate this, if you are a good cook, by bring in some leftovers to share at lunch.
Once you have found away to have a private time with him you need to tell him how you feel. You could start by saying: Steven I know I've told you I am a Lesbian but working with you as closely as we do has awoken feelings in me I have never felt before. If you are willing I would like to explore these feelings and to hope you will introduce me to heterosexual love making. You may have to be that blunt. But you chose the words to use.
The point here is that you will have to make the first move as I don't feel Steven will make a move on you regardless of any signals you may send him. If Steven is open to what you propose and things workout you may want to explore three-ways with another women. I don't know any man who would turn down the opportunity to sleep with two women at one time. But this is for much later in any relationship you two may build and the three-way is for you should you still feel the need for female love.
I have a huge problem. I'm in 10th grade and the school wants me to pick what I want to be when I "grow up" and go to college. What I REALLY want to be is a stay at home mom who raises kids and takes care of a husband. I know most girls don't want that any more and they want to be out there in the workforce but it just isn't what I want for myself.
The school wants me to choose a "real" job though. We have an occupation list we can choose from with some ideas and nothing on there says what I want. I tried to explain that I don't want to go to college and become a brain surgeon. They told me I HAVE to choose something. I think it's GREAT other girls want to do those types of things, spend all of that time in college, and earn great degrees...but that ain't me.
What do I do? I don't plan to go to college for anything other than to take a couple of classes just to have that experience. I figure after I get out of high school I'd work as a cashier or in a daycare or something until I end up getting married and settling down with someone. The school won't listen and tells me it's nonsense.
So, what do I do? I mean, what should I choose, if anything? I feel like I'm backed into a corner here. What ever happened to being able to grow up to be whatever you want to be? I told my mom and my dad and they're both kind of mad that the teachers won't acknowledge what I want to be. Nothing else really interests me as something I want to do for the rest of my life. I just want to get married, have babies, and take care of my husband, children, and home. What do I do?
My how times have changed. When I was your age women's liberation was still in its infancy. Girls were not encouraged as they are today to plan for college. Instead they were given Home Economics' Course and vocational instruction.
As you can tell I'm somewhat older than the other advisers who have answered before me. In fact I am old enough to be your grandfather, so a little grandfatherly advice is in order.
There is nothing wrong with your life plan and my hope for you is that you are able to fulfill your plan and live what has always been the American Dream. But, and there will always be a but someplace, we still have to get you past and to pass this assignment. With in this assignment there are a number of legitimate career paths.
The one that stands out in your plan is raising your children. Raising children equates to childcare worker, preschool teacher or even school teacher grades 1 to 12. All of which are meaningful occupations which you can go to college for, step away from while raising your own children and return to should you need to or wish to at a later date.
I'm sure the occupation of teacher is on the list and preschool teacher should also be there. Choosing one of these two will satisfy the assignment and hopefully help you decide what classes you might take for the time you spend in college. You also mentioned working in daycare until you get married. Why not work as the teacher and earn real money instead of as the aide for what will amount to just over minimum wage.
My objective here was to satisfy the assignment and stay somewhat within the bounds of what you truly want as your life plan. I think I have done that. I also wanted to offer you some insight into what College classes are out there that would also fit your plan.
(female) hey anyone please answer i keep here as soon as this happened i may be over reacting but omg ok so, i got on this website were you can chat with people because i was bored and I said hey and then a warning popped up and it said Warning: we have to warn you from federal law that this person is a registered sex offender! and then he said heyy and i freaked and exit out! I am really scared I hope i am just over reacting and everything is fine but im just scared they can get my information and were i live in stuff please help do u think he could -ThANks
I will add one more thing to what the others have said.
If you can remember the website and if this website is most specifically geared to young people you should notify local law enforcement of what happened.
As a sex offender it most likely a violation of his parole to be lurking on these types of sites. With information such as the web address, date and time law enforcement should be able to go to the site operator and trace back to who this guy really is.
Once they find him they can put him back in jail where he belongs. Talk to your parents and if they agree with me call the your local law enforcement agency and make a report.
I am doing a huge project for my college sociology course and I got stuck with polygamy in the United States. Anyway, I know there are some groups in the U.S. some place that are active in the whole polygamy thing because it's based upon their religion (I think). The problem is that I was told that it was illegal in the U.S. right now. I can't really find much information on WHERE in America polygamy is LEGAL. I tried looking for what states allow polygamists but everything I found says it's illegal in all states. Could someone explain how it's illegal everywhere yet allowed in some place? Or maybe it's a city or something it's allowed in that I'm not finding (and somebody could tell me)?
Polygamy is illegal in all 50 states. There is a difference between something being illegal and if the law is being enforced, which is the direction you might look at for your project.
Utah, which is the home of the Mormon religion, and is the largest practitioner of polygamist, does have laws against it. Most cities and towns in Utah will turn a blind eye toward the practice as long as it is not flaunted. Like many social laws if the practice is not flaunted,no one is being forced against their will and public perception is in favor the law may not be enforced.
Take laws against Sodomy for instance. Sodomy is defined as unnatural sex acts. This would include anal and oral sex. With the exception of cases of incest and rape, when was the last time someone was charged with sodomy. Their hasn't been in recent times because these acts are now acceptable practice by society.
As I said in the beginning the law in all 50 states has statutes against polygamy. Most if not all states will turn a blind eye to it if polygamy is not flaunted at them.
One of the problems I see in the prosecution is the legality of the marriages. Legally they are not married to more than one wife, they are cohabiting. If they actually had married by the lawful standard they would also be committing bigamy which would be easier to prosecute.
I am not a good person. I have made many poor choices and no matter how hard I try, I cannot seem to stop screwing up. I know suicide is selfish, but I just don't want to hurt anyone else. I know that by committing suicide I will hurt many people, especially my daughters, but if I stick around I will hurt them more over the years. I have tried everything and nothing has worked. I know I will go to hell, and I am prepared because I deserve it. I tried to get God to stop me or help me or save me, but He hasn't. He just lets me continue to hurt those I love. I have researched, and thought this through for a very long time, tried to get every help I could. Am I missing something? I don't think there is any other way out. No matter what I do, I will hurt my loved ones. This seems to be my only option, but before I go and do it, I thought I would just ask. Maybe in the depths of this pain, I have missed another choice. Maybe not.
I'm very happy you responded back and that you will seek further counseling. Interview your therapist as you would an employee. Ask if you can call them by their first name. I'm more comfortable with therapist of the opposite sex and some one I can call by their first name. You may have to go through several therapist to find one you relate to, but keep trying until you do.
The fact that you have written us tells me you are not ready to commit suicide yet, you are reaching out for help.
You have told us you are not a good person but not why you feel that way? You tell us you don't want to hurt anyone. How have you hurt people in the past? You realize that your suicide will hurt the people you love, but will it stop the hurt you feel you bring upon them? If so why?
Trying to get help and accepting that help are two different subjects. In psychological terms is called being compliant. Where you compliant with your doctors?
These are the questions I could use the answers too if I am to make any constructive argument to you. Suicide is final, there is no coming back from it. Suicide is also the wrong answer to the wrong question.
You say you have tried every type of help out there. By my own experience I know that when it comes to psychological help having a psychiatrist and therapist you relate well to is the key to success. I went through three therapists and two psychiatrists before I found the ones I was comfortable with; that I could open up to and work successfully with.
If you where not successful in the past I urge you to try again with different doctors. You start by telling them what is bothering you say, much like the letter you wrote us. Then let then lead you back to the root problem. There are two different methods of Psychiatry, you may respond to one method better than the other. Different types of medication will also help but you must remain on them long enough to evaluate them, it generally takes 2 to 3 weeks for these meds to fully kick in.
If you are felling suicidal right now or feel as if you are going to hurt someone pick up the phone and dial 911 or the emergency number for where you are.
I was never suicidal but I was close. There is help out there; all you have to do is ask for it and participate fully when it is given.
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So it's really weird but I would rather just have sex then do foreplay. I feel more comfortable having sex then giving a guy a handjob or blowjob. I've actually never given either because I'm scared I'll be bad but I've had sex before. It's actually pretty weird. I'll let a guy finger me and I don't care but I just can't find myself to let me return the favor to them and would rather just get right into sex. Like from making out to sex. Is this weird? I've only had sex twice with the same person ..but I'm no longer talking to him. Would any guy let this happen or would they be turned off that I wouldn't want to please them before sex?
I don't know what to do!
Every guy is different in what they want to get from sex. Some love foreplay, others would just as soon jump right to intercourse. The biggest problem is finding out what a new lover wants or likes.
One thing I believe is that anyone who is interested in a long term relationship or even marriage will also be willing to teach each other what their likes and dislikes are. One of the greatest things about sex is the exploration of your partner. I know you may find it embarrassing at your age to tell a guy you have little experience at handjobs or blowjobs. If he is any type of man he will find this sweet that you trust in him enough to confide in him enough to ask him to teach you how to please him. He should then ask you what you like and ask you to show how him how you like to be touched and licked. If your more clitoral or vaginal.
There is virtually nothing off limits when it comes to sex between two CONSENTING adults as long as both consent to what ever you are doing. As relationships evolve personal fantasies come out. There is nothing wrong with this and if possible the other party should at least once try and indulge the other.
Example: A friend confided to me that his wife felt what was good for the goose was good for the gander and wanted to use a strap-on on him. He felt that was gay. I told him of my feeling about whatever happened between him and his wife was perfectly okay as long as they both agreed. He then asked me if my wife asked me to let her use a dildo on me would I allow it. My answer was I would.
Another couple the husband wanted to try going to a nudist camp. The wife after having two children didn't think her body would stand up to the other women. She finally agreed to going one time. They are now confirmed nudists.
I tell you all this we are born with out guilt or embarrassment, it is something that is learned. We can overcome this when we need to for our best interest. Sex can be so beautiful and rewarding that we should not allow our guilt or embarrassment stand in the way of receiving pleasure. Like everything else in life sexual pleasure is a learned event. Never be embarrassed to ask a lover how to please them. If it is something you have not done before and willing to try,ask them to show you how.
ALast year I was sexually abused my boyfriend put his hands in my pants and tried to stimulate me even afteyr me telling him no. WE reported him and the whole nine yards, and I did tell my parents. I am 13 by the way. But ever since then I have been masturbating (mostly to gay porno). What do you think this means?
I think this means you have been abused and have not truly come to terms with the abuse. You may think you have not put what happened behind you, even with the help of your parents and law enforcement, but in your subconscious it lives on. Technically you where raped. Rape is when you are forced to perform a sexual act. In this case when your former boyfriend stuck his hands in your pants and fingered you; he performed a sexual act. Whether the police charged him with rape makes no difference. What they charge a person with is based on evidence that they can use to convict.
To really deal with something like this you need the help of professionals trained in this area. I would like you to contact an organization called RAINN. This stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network. They operate a 24/7 Hotline 1-800-656-HOPE. They also have an online hotline at their WEBSITE:
http://apps.rainn.org/ohl-bridge/
RAINN will help you find trained professionals in your home town that will help you deal with what has happened. Rape, abuse and incest are horrible things to have to go through. No one should have to go through something like this and then have to deal with it by themselves. This is RAINN mission, to help you deal with what has happened to you and move forward.
I'm truly sorry this has happened to you. Please contact RAINN as they will help you move forward.
Here's to a better 2011.
I'm 16+ still & normally jack off & cumin. so I need to no what is the disadvantage to my body and the future?
Absolutely nothing, to answer your question.
Masturbation, jacking off, is a very natural act that most everyone does. Including parents, usually during foreplay for sex. Aslo solo masturbation when the need arises and the spouse is not available.
For teenagers masturbation, jacking off, fingering, is the best and safest way to relieve the sexual tension brought on by puberty. I have not read were a guy has ever gotten a girl pregnant by masturbating alone in his bedroom. Oral sex can also be considered a form of masturbation as it is not intercourse.
In conclusion as long as masturbation does not become the center of your life, meaning you do nothing but go to school, come home and masturbate. You have nothing to worry about. You are a normal teenage male.
Mothers in the past would tell there sons that playing with themselves, as it was called, would cause them to go blind, or cause hair to grow in the palm of their hands. As we know this is not true. Mother's will also tell you that playing with yourself is a sin. This too is not true. Most religions, including the Catholic church either approve of masturbation or at the very least condone the practice.
Okay so I haven't seen my father in years. He kicked me out and took me out of his will. I did try talking to him until I asked about my grandfather and he lied and said he was fine. My grandfather had been dead for three years before anyone told me. On top of that, in August I suffered a miscarriage and it still hurts. Now, my father is constantly sending me messages because another family member told him about it. He's calling me fat, ugly, useless, slut, and the one that hurts the most is baby murderer. Any ideas on what I can do about my father since he's being so childish?
It is strange how so many fathers are nothing more than sperm donors. Favor one child over another and expect you to be there when they need you. Yes that will happen when he becomes old and needs someone to care for him.
In my situation I severed all ties with my father about ten years ago. In a letter I reviewed my entire life with him and told him exactly how I felt. What his childishness, insincerity and just plain selfishness has caused me. How he had hurt my wife and children and how I was not going to stand for it any longer. In short I told him where he could go and what he could do to himself.
Did it make me feel any better? Yes, for I also told him I wanted no further contact with him. He was out of my life no matter what.
Now this took place after being in therapy for depression due to chronic pain brought on by an auto accident I had been in. My father and I had been feuding for a time before the accident and he never inquired about me after the accident even though I was almost killed. That was the icing on the cake. If he had that little feelings for me I didn't need him in my life in any manner.
I've told you this for two reasons: First, you are not the first person to have this type of problem. Second, there are times when situations occur that there is nothing you can do to rectify them. You must put them behind you and move on. As an other advisor said you can chose your friends but not your family.
I would suggest you consider the following. Find a psychologist who will help you work through your feelings. I was seeing one and fought with her about going in this direction until she finally got it out of me. When she did it was the best thing that ever happened. With her help I came to terms with everything.
I would also recommend sending your father a letter which at the very least you tell him you wish not to hear form him. That he not call or write. If he does call, hang up. If he writes, send the letters back unopened.
It is hard realizing that a parent is not the typical parent we expect or deserve. In the long run they are the ones who stand to lose as they are the ones that miss seeing grandchildren grow. They are the ones that miss the many milestones that a young family has that others in you family will hopefully share with you. But as we grow our first obligation is to our own family, our children and our spouses.
Because of my father I almost learned that the hard way. Thankfully my wife is a strong women.
What to do with a four year old who wont listen to anything. He screams, talks back, throws temper tantrums, you try and put him in time out and just makes the situation worse. I cant get him to listen to anything I say. If there is something he doesnt want to eat he screams about it. Its like this all the time. He didnt used to be this way. hes even told me husband that he is not his father (step dad). He does what he wants when you ask him to stay out of the fridge or put something back he throws a fit.
I agree for the most part with Ciao77. You should also talk with a child development Pediatrician.
Some children just need a firmer hand then others as they have learned that if the scream long enough they can get their way. I know it is hard put sometimes you just have to let them scream. Your job when this happens is to make sure your son has not hurt himself, cannot hurt himself, then let him scream, walk away from him. He will probably follow you as he wants you to see him screaming. He is trying to get on that last nerve so he gets his way. Put him in his room and tell him he can't come out until he stops screaming. If he leaves his room walk him back and close the door.
My son use to throw temper tantrums, drove my wife up the wall. When I was home an he threw one I would get down to his eye level and throw one with him. Amazingly his tantrum stopped almost immediately. I believe it was because he couldn't figure out why I was screaming right along with him and possibly because neither of us were getting anywhere. Now I started this when he was much younger than your son but it did seem to work about 60% to 70% of the time.
Children, especially infants are smarter than we give them credit for. They learn fast what they can do to get what they want and how they can control their environment. They will always test their limits right up to the time the leave home.
As parents are jobs are to assert our authority as parents along with our love. We must constantly remember and remind our children that we our parents first, their friends second.
I constantly remind my son that I am his father and I am responsible for his well being &to see to it that he grows up to be a responsible member of the community. I am very proud of what and who my son has become. It wasn't easy and age age 4 I could have written the letter you wrote. Today he is a Paramedic/Firefighter with a degree in Emergency Medicine. He has saved many lives but there is one life he saved that I am very proud of. A young girl was clinically dead when he got to her. She is alive today because my son was her paramedic.
I tell you this because it does get better. Do seek the advice of a behavioral pediatrician. Be careful about allowing labels such as HDAD or others. Seek second and even third opinions if you think it necessary to make sure before allowing any type of treatment you are not fully in agreement with.
Hello, I am a 13 year old girl, and i want to lose wieght and just be healthier. Im actually at a good wieght, but I do sports and want to be fit for them. I always go jogging, but lately i haven't been because i don't want to go alone (my sister or brother usually went with me, but they never want to anymore) and i just don't know how to get motivated if the people i trust aren't helping me! So my question is, how do i get motivated to lose wieght and get healthier?
Getting and staying healthy does not equal loosing weight. If you are as you say at a good weight, that being the proper weight for your age and height and have a good body fat ratio, then loosing more weight is not the thing. Continued regular exercise at school will help you stay fit without building more muscle which will actually add weight as muscle weighs more then fat. A proper diet will help you maintain your weight and stay healthy.
As to your question: I would suggest you ask your sports coach or one of the physical education teachers to help you put together an exercise routine you can do at school that will help you maintain a proper weight and body fat content. Or that they can monitor you while you exercise.
Jogging is a very good exercise but it can get lonely and is best done with a friend and for safety as well. If you really like to jog you may find some girls at school how like the safety of the school track for their jogging. You might check into that. You may get to do the exercise you like and make a new friend at the same time.