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Anal Still a Virgin?

Question Posted Saturday January 1 2011, 8:00 pm

So if you had anal sex but not actual sex would that still make you a virgin? Also same question with oral. Thanks!

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Peeps answered Sunday January 2 2011, 10:59 am:
Unfortunately, there is no true medical definition for virginity. This leads people to run with their own ideas. Instead, let's pick up a real dictionary:

As per Webster's Dictionary:


- the quality or state of being virgin


- an absolutely chaste young woman

- a person who has not had sexual intercourse

- a person who is inexperienced in a usually specified sphere of activity


- celibate

- pure in thought and act


- abstention from sexual intercourse

Sexual Intercourse:

- 1: heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis

- 2: intercourse (as anal or oral intercourse) that does not involve penetration of the vagina by the penis

Putting those definitions together to form accurate information:

Virginity refers to a person who has abstained from vaginal, anal, and oral intercourse.

As per some Wikipedia knowledge:

A virgin (or maiden) originally meant a woman who has never had sexual intercourse. Virginity is the state of being a virgin. It is derived from the Latin virgo, which means "sexually inexperienced woman"

Anal sex is sex.

Oral sex is sex.

Having anal sex or oral sex means you're not sexually inexperienced.

While you may be a virgin to the whole penis-in-vagina thing, engaging is anal or oral sex IS engaging in sex. Engaging in sex typically means the loss of virginity and sexual purity.

Otherwise, homosexual males would always be virgins. A homosexual male could have sex with 50 men and still claim virginity then. That doesn't quite make sense, does it?

You can also contract a wide variety of SEXUALLY transmitted diseases by engaging in oral and anal sex. STDs typically occur in non-virgins. How would you explain being a virgin when your doctor found a case of chlamydia in your anus or down you throat on your vocal cords? Your doctor would not consider you to be a virgin, free of STDs, or sexually "pure" if you were to come to him for a check-up and STD screening.

It's like many girls say, "I'm a virgin!" but they've had anal sex, oral sex, and mutual masturbation over 100 times. Do you think that person would be considered clean, holy, pure, or similar to The Virgin Mary?

I don't know about you but I really, truly do not believe Jesus' mother had anal sex but still considered herself to be a virgin.

See what I'm saying?

Virginity = sexual purity

Sexual purity = exactly what it says

Engaging in anal sex and/or oral sex means you are not sexually pure. Not a virgin.

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adviceman49 answered Sunday January 2 2011, 10:14 am:
I would say that in the biblical manner you are still a virgin as no one has had carnal knowledge of you. Morally is a different story and something for you to decide. Oral sex to my mind is a form of masturbation and is not considered to be a loss of ones virginity.

Legal Definition:
carnal knowledge - the act of sexual procreation between a man and a woman; the man's penis is inserted into the woman's vagina and excited until orgasm and ejaculation occur

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xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx answered Saturday January 1 2011, 10:53 pm:
Virginity seems to refer to the tearing of the hymen, but as most studies have found this can occur from something as simple as riding a horse and many girls have torn it without even knowing years before their first sexual experience.

Something like this is really a matter of opinion. Since the vagina is not being penetrated (and thus the hymen not being torn) then theoretically someone can remain a virgin after having anal sex. In another way, it's still sexual penetration even though it isn't in the preffered female organ. I suppose you could ask if someone is still a virgin if they have sex with an inanimate object?

Personally, I don't see why it doesn't classify as sex. So I would say no, you would not remain a virgin after anal sex, even if it isn't the socially accepted ideological idea of a 'first time'.

As with oral, usually that's not considered the loss of virginity. But it's still a matter of opinion. So, what do you think?

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orphans answered Saturday January 1 2011, 9:17 pm:
umm i'm pretty sure that if you've had anal sex you're technically still a virgin. if you have oral sex you are still a virgin. hope i helped!

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