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I can't find the perfect boyfriend. I tried sticking to one boy but something messes it up. I just hate walking down the halls in school and see couples around me. I never tried putting myself out there,lol. Is there something wrong with me? I sometimes think I'd be lonley forever. I daydream of me in a steady,smooth relationship. But, I can't find the perfect boyfriend to share my feeling and secrets.
I need someone to help me out on this one!
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No there is nothing wrong with you. You simply haven't found the perfect guy yet. Hes out there waiting and you will come across him when the time is right. :)
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sorry this is so long but please take the time to read it. my best friend...lets call her Alyssa, she has been my best friend for about 2 years. we've had our fights and everything like a normal friendship. right? haha. but the past winter, we didnt hang out at all because her dad started to hate me. so she wasnt allowed to hang out with me. once he found me, my brother, and her walking home from school together and he got so pissed. he was yelling at her so loudly outside, in front of all the neighbors. so we never let him see us hang out together. but hes in the army or something and he leaves home for a long period of time (like a month and a half) and then her mom started hating me for no reason. and so we never were allowed to chill out together. and we live half a block away. BUT now, her mom likes me..and her dad is gone but they dont tell him that alyssa is allowed to come over to my house now. her mom lets alyssa come to my house everyday now! haha. but maybe not everyday. but im wondering..isnt this wrong? i mean, her dad thinks that his daughter is staying home but shes actually haning out with me. is that wrong? alyssa is so cool and i really want to keep being her best friend. (im not a lezbian and im not bi) (link)
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She knows the reason she isn't allowed to hang out with you. Find out what it is and try to correct the problem. Then maybe her dad will let you two hang out together.
No, it isn't really a good thing to sneak around seeing each other. Her mom is kind of sending mixed signals so maybe she isn't against your friendship as her dad is. Maybe she could help her dad to see that it is okay for her to hang out with you. :)
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15/f *Ohhkay, so i have this amazing guy..but we're just reallly good friends."with benifits" I love him and i know he loves me and we've been talking about "doing it" i know we are both ready, and we will def use protection. But my question is..do you think if we actaully do it..we wil end up going out? I mean,I would love to go out with him, and ive always wanted to.
So do you guys think if we do it that theres a possibility that he may like me more than a friend?!
Thanks so much guys/I'll rate HIGH!! ;)
-kristen (link)
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No, I don't think you will end up going out. Have you heard the old saying...why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Same thing. He won't go out with you because he won't need to. He can have you and not worry about buying you dinner and a movie first. Not a good idea...trust me on this one. :)
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The new school year is coming very soon and I'm going into 9th grade (so is my friend)and we recently received our schedules. She really doesn't like school, and she says she has no friends in her classes, and we don't have any classes together except maybe lunch. And she's not looking forward to this year at all 'cause 7th and 8th grade sucked, and I'll agree on that. I just told her to try to look at school with a positive outlook. She won't listen and doesn't believe. I just don't know what to do. I really wish she would just try to enjoy her time even though it's school.
Does anyone know what I can do about her feeling this way? I've tried to help her, I just don't know what to say.
thanks in advance. (link)
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She is probably just having some anxiety about the new year. Going into high school is a pretty big change. I think once school starts and she sees it isn't all that bad she will enjoy it. I don't know if there is anything you can tell her to ease her mind at the moment, might have to just wait it out. For now just be there to listen and offer encouragement. :)
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I've been invited to a party by a girl I don't know that well and I can't decide whether to go. One one hand, I know some people who are going, and it should be fun b/c theres no parents or anything.
On the other hand, she knows some kind of... rough people, and it could turn nasty. She is always going on about how many people they beat up etc. Also she is telling everyone to bring someone, and in our neighbourhood if the local chavs (hooligans, yobs, call them what you want) might well gatecrash and beat people up.
So what do you think? (link)
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I think you should pass. That is just my opinion but who knows what will be going on there. If a fight breaks out and the cops get called everyone there is in trouble. Your parents may not let you go to other parties in the future and that would be no fun at all. Stick to the party's you know to be pretty safe. I know things can happen at any party but the odds are pretty good this one will be trouble. Just isn't worth all the trouble you could get in. :)
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I went to a party thrown by my boyfriend's family and my boyfriend went to bed around 11:30 that night. Well, the rest of us were partying still at 2:30. His friend that I have known since we started dating was hanging out with me rather close. (just like we always do) Well, we ended up making out and had this touchy feely thing going on all night and the next day I told my boyfriend so he would not hear it from someone else. My boyfriend was not mad and just total accepted it. Well since then I am still thinking about what happened and I am looking for to seeing his friend again. But, I am wondering since alcohol was involved..was it just that or could it be more? Should we talk about it? I really love my boyfriend but I really like his friend. Help!! (link)
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I hate to say it but it sounds to me as if your relationship has problems.
Drunk or not you were making out with another guy. Drinking probably helped you along but perhaps you have more than friendly feelings for the friend.
Your boyfriend not being mad or at least concerned could mean he doesn't care as much as he should either.
I think you need to have a long heart to heart talk with the boyfriend and see if it isn't time to take a break from each other. Sorry, hope I am wrong.
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im 19 yrs old, college sophomore, i met my ex "james" when i was a senior in high school. strangley enough my friend "pat" put my pic up on hot or not and "james" saw it and clicked meet me. come to find out he went to my high school and graduated a few years ahead of me. his brother was also one of my high school friends.
he was in the army when i met him, (this was in december of my high school year) he had been over seas for 2 years. we talked online and on the phone to eachother every chance we got and he came down on leave for his brothes grad party which i was invited to because his brother and i were friends.
we started hanging out and eventually dating. i broke up with him before i left for college because i didnt want to worry about having a bf and his school and mine were 2 hours apart. he told me he loved me but i broke up with him reguardless
he now has a gf "kerry". he started dating her 2 months after we broke up. apparently he used to date her before he left for iraq. they have been dating ever since.
well the reason i am writing is because after him and i broke it off we still continuted to talk and even hang out on occasion. he has been cheating on "kerry" with me for the past month and 1/2.
"james" tells me that he is probably going back overseas to fight in october. he told me that i should get over him because he isnt sure when or if he is going to come back. and i deserve a guy who is going to be there for me(he is sched for 2 years over there. i dont know what i should do. i dont know if he is still with "kerry" because he loves her or if its not the right time to break up with her or if he is going to break it off when he goes, if he loves me still i just dont know what to think. i need someone to look at the situation from another stand point and give me some advice, i am at a total loss. (link)
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My main concern with the whole thing is his relationship with Kerry. How sure are you that he hasn't been playing the both of you all along?
There is never a 'good' time to break up with anyone. If you love someone else you just do it plain and simple. The whole, I need to break up with you because I may never come back line has been used for awhile by guys wanting to get a little extra from a girl before they leave.
You do deserve a guy who will be there for you. I honestly don't think it is this one. I could be completely wrong. I am just offering some things for you to consider and think about. I hope they aren't true. I have a feeling you might have been wondering the same things. If in doubt, your instincts are usually pretty accurate. I think a long talk with him is needed, or maybe even a little chat with Kerry. :)
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this guy i have been hanging out with said that he wanted us to be friends nothing more, but maybe in time we could be bf and gf. I was fine with that. i heard later (from a girl that i trust) that he had a girlfriend. I asked him and he denied it. i dont care that he has a gf...its just we have made out and done stuff together...now i feel like a slut. What should i do with this guy? forget about him or still be his "friend." (link)
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You can still be his friend but knock off the making out part of the relationship. Never give a guy benefits until you have been in a committed relationship with him for awhile. It just leads to those bad feelings you've been having...and that's not good. If he has a girlfriend he is a cheater so maybe not the best boyfriend material anyway. :)
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ok this is gonna be kinda long
In the middle of last year my BFF got a boyfriend and i was soo happy for her. But then she stopped hanging out with me. She ate lunch with him,all she talked about was her boyfriend. But then she got new friends and didnt even notice me. At dance she didnt want to talk to me either. So i told her how i felt and she said thats not true!! So then i said i dont want to be friends if u arent going to be a friend. so then her boyfriend said F*** YOU to me online:(
I told my friends and they informed my ex-bff. So she dumped him and her were friends again. The 2days lata she went back out with him. And she started doing the same thing that she did before. On the last day of school she dumped him. We are friends now but all she ever talks about is her ex-bf and she still doesnt talk to me at dance. Ok so here is my question: Should i still be her friend or forget about her?
thanks and advace (link)
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Once a girl gets a boyfriend they are pretty much going to spend every waking hour they can with him. When you get a boyfriend you will do the same. It is natural.
Why she isn't talking to you in dance is something I don't understand. Ask her why but don't get into a shouting match with her about it. I would say you upset her last time and that is why the boyfriend jumped on you online.
I think you stay friends and just understand that your friendship is going to be a lot different when you throw a boyfriend in the mix. :)
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Money problems with the man that I love. He has steep child support that is deducted from his checks weekly. He works as a checker 40 hrs a week. I am supporting him and myself and my three boys. If he gets any money from his checks it is usually between 20 and 80 dollars depending on union dues and such. with what money he gets from his check, he fills up his truck with gas and gives me what is left. I make about 1200 a month, and we live in a small two bedroom duplex. My question is should I tuff it out, and stay with him? I know we will never live in a nice big house, drive nice vehicles, and have stuff. We will always have to scrimp and save. He treats me with respect, and loves me. Or should I move on and hope to find another man that will treat me as good that makes more money? (link)
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If you love him and those things aren't that important to you then tuff it out you guys could look for higher paying jobs. One might not be available right now but, keep a look out. Has his lawyer seen about getting child support reduced? I mean, where is the step children's father (those that money is deducted for)? Things do sometimes change for the better if you stick them out long enough. But, if you don't have the patience....do what you think best. :)
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My dad cheated on my mom with her best friend..my paretns got divorced and my dad got marries to my moms best friend..i hate her for doind that...when i want to go places with my dad and my brother she always comes along..i know they are married but how do i tell her i want to be with my dad and brother..or how do i tell my dad?
*helpless* (link)
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Don't talk to her about this talk to your dad. Your dad is married to her so you have to be civil to her regardless of your feelings. However, I don't think some alone time with your dad and brother is to much to ask. Simply tell him that since you don't get to see him all the time you guys would really like to have some time to have him all to yourself without the new wife. Make sure you don't make it sound as if you can't stand her...you just want some dad time. Even if it is only a few hours during your visit. :)
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Hello, I just wanted to tell you I'd be interested in reading that message you told me about, if you can find it.
I will write a longer reply after lunch, I would do so now, but these mornings at work have been everything but enjoyable, most of the time. I just can't concentrate, so I'll write later, from home.
Again, thanks for your patience. No wonder you guys worked things out O:-) (link)
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Still looking. I am wondering if it wasn't a magazine article but I have yet to find it. But, I keep looking! :)
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Ok.. this has been buggin me alot lately.. I'm 14/f, and I have never had a b/f. I know that my time will conme and everything, and Ijust have to wait. But, what bugs me is that I know I'm not gorgeous, or really skinny or anything, but I see girls who are a heck of alot uglier, and bigger than me who have b/f's, so it just makes me feel like there's something wrong with me, cause they can get b/f's and I can't. So, I know my time will come, but, my main question is how are people gettin b/fs when they are so ugly and fat, and the normal girls dont? I rate 5's!!! Thanks!! (link)
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First off I have to say that just because you may consider someone fat and ugly doesn't mean everybody does. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. They don't get dates because they are good at sexual things either...what rubbish.What you look like doesn't make you normal by any stretch of the imagination. :)
A guy is going to go out with whoever they have something in common with. Whoever they feel comfortable being around. So you have to have a personality. You have to be able to talk about something besides the latest fashions and all the girl stuff.
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Okay well My problem is I like someone that is about 3 yrs older and i dunno what to do about this cuz my b-day is soon so i will be 16 and he is 18 now so this makes me only 15 and i heard it's jailbate, so should i still date him? I really like him a lot and he treats me so good...
~confused lover~ (link)
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Well he probably doesn't want to get in trouble, and you probably don't want him to either. Since I don't know where you are I will send you a link to a chart I found. In a lot of states the age of consent (meaning you're not jailbait) is 16. Heres the link and hope you are in a state that makes it okay! :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm
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i like this guy
names dakoda choate hes 1 grade higher than me
i cant stop thinkin about him
he is so sweet to me
he flirts nonstop
he acts like he likes me
i asked him out
and he said: i really can't right now but i promise you i will get there i just have alot on my mind right now
so ok
i wait............ my friend asks him if he likes me not and he says:
look i like girls my age ok?
does that mean he only dates his age
he doesnt like me, he moved away from me, he just wants to be friends,
i think im gonna cry
what do i do about this?! (link)
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Some guys just hate it when they are asked do you like so and so questions. That's what it sounds like to me. He probably thought he answered your question and didn't like it that your friend then asked again. I would give it more time and if nothing changes in how he treats you...you ask again. Not a friend, you. :)
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uhh.. how do you have an orgasm (link)
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We are unable to answer your question here for legal reasons. I can refer you to this site though. Hope it is helpful to you. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/orgasm_female.htm
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is it true that lice is attracted to clean heads?
thanks (link)
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Yes it is. Here is a link to more info if you want it.
http://www.teengrowth.com/index.cfm?action=info_article&ID_article=1343&category=body&catdesc=Body&subdesc=Lice
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okay so tomorow im going to this girls house, we have liked eachother for 3 yrs and are going out, i am gonna get there at like early in the morning while she is still asleep, i was going to make her breakfast in bed but she doesnt realy eat breakfast cuz she has a weak stomach. I really want to do something sweet so she wakes up to a wonderful surprise and realizes how much i care about her, any great suggestions would be nice...thank you! (link)
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Take her a single red rose. She will love it. :)
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im fourteen and going into the 9th grade. i dont think im ugly, not georgeous or anything, but not ugly. im not fat, but i could tone up a little. for some reason im always feeling insecure though. in school, i dont talk much in class && everyone says im really shy. now once i get to know people they'll tell you im the loudest person they know. i love to talk && gossip. but it takes me awhile to get to know people, i want to know how people act and what they like before i start talking about random things to avoid making them mad if they dont agree with me on something. well anyway, i just moved almost two years ago and i havent quite adjusted yet. ive made new friends but it seems people still see me as the new girl, and me being shy doesnt help at all. once in our developemental guidance class they asked my friend amy who she usually hangs out with, and she said me. than this kid matt says something about how we both never talk, than our friend kristen starts laughing and says we never shut up. i wish i could be more social with people i dont normally hang out with, and that way i could also make more friends. also, everyone thinks im a goody-good. which theres not anything wrong with, but im far from it and i dont want people to look at me like that. how can i learn to be comfortable around everyone? (link)
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I wish I could help but I have the same problem. I don't really want to be more social though so it isn't a problem for me. I have found the following site that may be of some help to you. Let me know if you find it of intrest. :)
http://www.teenadviceonline.org/articles/shyteen.html
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Okay, I'm 14 years old -female- and I need some advice. I got a job at this restuarant for the summer and theres this guy there that I like(16). He's just all over a really cool guy. He's really nice, and has a great personality, plus he's good looking, but I can't tell if he likes me back, and i don't know if I should give him my # or ask him to a movie or somethin. I do have this feeling that he likes me because of a few insidents such as: three days ago he was helpin me out with dishes (cuz it makes it alot easier to have 1 person loading and the other unloading) and I had gotten some tips from the servers(cuz im a hostess)and he said to me,"You have some money stickin out of your back pocket." I was just like "oh" and pushed it in some so it wouldn't fall out and then he said to me," It's Kinda sexy." I was shocked I didn't know what to say. So I picked up one of the buckets to wash it out and then I said," I see where your lookin." and he just laughed a little and said yeah. Plus he askes me about five times a day: Wazzup? or How's it goin? ( since I bus tables a lot and go in and out of the kitchen). I don't know what to do. I've had guys like me but I've never gone out with anyone, and I don't know how to act. Help me please. I need to know what to do, summers almost gone and my job will be over and i won't see him anymore.I need to let him know that i like him. I need help, badly.
Thanks a bunch,
Lioness (link)
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You probably won't know for sure unless he asks you out, OR you just ask him. I think inviting him to a movie or something is a grat idea. I found this quiz you might want to do for fun. Maybe it will help. :)
http://teenadvice.about.com/library/teenquiz/4/blloveherquiz01.htm
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